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Elaborate? I too always encapsulated Bonds demeanour. As in I clearly know I'm better than you. I clearly know I'm in control. That's why I'm calm and stoic, I don't talk much (mysterious) because everything is going subtly smoothly.
/r/seduction12/08/15 04:29 PM
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That's gold. Basically, to summarise, you socialise with other people, regardless of whether they're cool or not, for yourself. You stay positive and make your own fun (sometimes secretly at their expense). You do this by being yourself; and observing their reactions -- kinda like experimenting in a test tube just to see what's gonna happen. I like this mindset and it's gonna keep me sane. If you're bored, you take charge to change the topic and throw some jokes, help them get on YOUR level.
/r/askTRP10/08/15 05:37 AM
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How do you intend on building social value/circle?
/r/askTRP10/08/15 05:30 AM
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Mind elaborating?i completely agree with you I do admit I'm a bit pretentious, I think I'm better than a lot of people and look down at most people because they lack the discipline to fucking wake up in the mornin, the assertiveness to go after what they want, etc. Part of me feels like I can't learn much from them and that they are a waste of time and space. This is a very toxic mindset but I can't think of any other way to frame this. It's true that most people will settle for a mediocre life …
/r/askTRP10/08/15 05:30 AM
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"Show her the man you are, then she'll know the girl to become". I'm paraphrasing here, but definitely one of my favorite quotes that's been proven true time and time again :) That said, I messed up that relationship, and broke up with her out of my own immaturity. Regardless, lesson learned. Now, I just have higher expectations when it comes to women -- it's almost like I'm expecting this unicorn and won't settle for anything less, when instead it should be something more realistic. Sometimes, …
/r/TheRedPill09/08/15 04:08 PM
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Or he can just walk up and around. Good practice for holding frame and not giving a shit what other people think. Two birds with one stone!
/r/askTRP09/08/15 10:22 AM
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Hmm true that. Not sure if I was lucky or not, but the first girl I've ever dated was very submissive, into BDSM, liked it rough, etc. That said, she had a relatively low sex drive compared to me (which is the reason I broke up with her). Outside of the bedroom though, she too was submissive (albeit clingy), definitely one of the best girls I've dated since TRP. Now, it's almost like I have these high expectations for any girl that comes my way.
/r/TheRedPill09/08/15 05:01 AM
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This applies to guys as well. After I've fucked and dated a HB8, I can't go back to 5s or 6s. My standards have changed.
/r/TheRedPill09/08/15 04:00 AM
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Interesting, as a male, I don't judge like that. Personality plays a part in me choosing who I want to fuck, more so than looks I would say (although looks are still very important) I will fuck a 6 with a fun, flirty, adventurous personality over a 7 with a cardboard personality. The former seems more fun in bed and potentially a Fuckbuddy material.
/r/TheRedPill07/08/15 04:25 PM
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Always lovely when this sub refers to the 48 Laws!
/r/TheRedPill06/08/15 11:18 AM
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A true alpha doesn't need words to affirm that he's the alpha, it's almost be common sense for anyone in his proximity to acknowledge that. That said, everything else you mentioned is admirable. I too look up to him in his achievements, but the fact that he said "I am the alpha" seems incongruent.
/r/TheRedPill06/08/15 11:13 AM
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Sounds interesting. Where can I learn more about him? (Any videos or documentaries you'd recommend)
/r/TheRedPill06/08/15 11:07 AM
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Damn that's nasty. But from her POV it makes sense, she wouldn't wanna waste that precious alpha seed
/r/TheRedPill06/08/15 07:14 AM
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That's very true. Might sound controverusial but the entire purpose of women is to FIND A MAN. We hear it often in culture and its embedded in my Asian traditions. Not only that but they have to deal with slut shaming, dealing with the approaching window, the fact that their SMV is pretty much predetermined (there's not much they can do to change their looks). I'd say we have the better deal
/r/TheRedPill06/08/15 06:31 AM
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I'm surprised Orlando let's Kerr sleep around like that... And with Bieb?! Orlando is certainly no low-SMV dude, why would he let this happen?
/r/TheRedPill05/08/15 07:39 AM
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Well this is interesting Miranda Kerr is a cheeky slut. Somehow this turns me on even more.
/r/TheRedPill05/08/15 07:38 AM
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Could you briefly explain why it's not about equality but superiority? I ask sincerely because where I'm from, it's working quite well as an economic model (promotes employment and economic output). Females don't feel "entitled" but rather just "empowered". They still crave an alpha male to submit to. They still respect men and in turn, they also get respected by men (until they do something that gives them a reason not to). Basically we just treat women like a normal human being. Yes , there ar…
/r/TheRedPill05/08/15 04:39 AM
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Well I just checked the subreddit, i was a bit surprised at first at how this subreddit is allowed to exist, yet somehow TRP gets all the hate. Anyway I still find it amusing, it's the epitome of hypergamy! It's proof that if you work on yourself, it'll pay huge dividends!
/r/TheRedPill05/08/15 12:16 AM
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Source? I must admit I am quite naive in the showbiz
/r/TheRedPill05/08/15 12:08 AM
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For me, I just love them like I would my dog. It amuses me when I throw a ball and she catches it. It amuses me that if a stranger has bacon, she'd ditch me and run straight for it. It amuses me that she licks her own vagina and asshole even though I try to make her stop doing it. It's in their nature and I find this all very amusing. They're programmed like this and they aren't capable to escape it. We can. That's why it's all amusing.
/r/TheRedPill05/08/15 12:07 AM
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The gist I got was that he made to made this video to provide closure for his own fans, so in a way he had to put on his YouTube personality. There is one part where I agree with you -- where he states that they'd still be best friends and all. That's his decision, but I'll never befriend an ex because the moment they're out, they're no longer worth my time/attention.
/r/TheRedPill04/08/15 11:59 PM
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Would still fuck both of them. Taming and dominating a feisty girl in bed, just to make them reveal that they are actually just another girl with her own insecurities putting on an act, is one of my fave pastimes.
/r/TheRedPill04/08/15 11:57 PM
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I wouldn't assume that she sucked some cock to get into Antman (although judging by most of this subreddit who knows how fucked up Hollywood is). I respect your decision to not watch them, but it's quite good if you're looking for a quick laugh.
/r/TheRedPill04/08/15 01:57 PM
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Tears in my eyes. Now fuck her right in the pussy.
/r/TheRedPill04/08/15 01:56 PM
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Same boat here, preaching to the choir buddy. I can't think of my life without a little cockiness and smartassery. It's embedded in my personality so much haha. Like you said, hitting the gym and being more confident simply helped unmask that facade of timid politeness and let my true personality shine! :) I can't imagine life any other way. EDIT Some people might misinterpret this so I'll post a disclaimer. Obviously don't be a disrespectful asshole, and obviously calibrate to the people you in…
/r/TheRedPill04/08/15 01:55 PM
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Thanks for your insight. Yeah I'm not sure what kinda answer I was expecting -- but I agree, it takes calibration to your own personality. For example, I'm a bit opposite from you, I'm usually a sexual/flirty guy and I learned that in some social circles I should take a step back on the innuendos and be less rude, but rather do it with more finesse haha. It's a fun journey and I've certainly made progress. Used to be perceived as the "fat chubby antisocial nerd" in high school, and now I'm in me…
/r/TheRedPill04/08/15 01:10 PM
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Take the "L"? And to be honest, it all ties down to a strong frame. Having a strong frame makes acing shit tests like a knee-jerk reflex.
/r/TheRedPill04/08/15 12:57 PM
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Perhaps I misinterpret your post, OP, in which case you're welcome to correct me. The way I see it, the relevance of this post -- although not explicitly stated -- comes from a situation that is mentioned in one of the links included: the notion that women are perceived as higher value than men, ceteris paribus, simply by having a vagina. This phenomenon is much less evident where I'm from, where traditional culture is still deeply rooted in years of patriarchy. In fact, I don't understand how a…
/r/TheRedPill04/08/15 12:51 PM
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I'm at a point where after consuming a lot of PUA material, practicing it (i.e. putting on a mask), it has now become a part of my identity socially. It's congruent AND it's subconciously strategical. Any resources on how you integrate it into your personality, I feel like that is the final step for me to implement all these tenets of TRP?
/r/TheRedPill04/08/15 11:38 AM
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This also happens, more evidently, on Instagram. I don't need to mention www.tagthesponsor.com, where girls basically give up their bodies in exchange for fulfilling some Sheikh's fucked-up fantasies in Dubai. But it's evident everywhere, such as 19-year-old Yolanda Ventura hooking up with Justin Bieber for fame, etc.
/r/TheRedPill04/08/15 11:29 AM
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Don't force it. Especially don't consume even more TRP at this phase, as it will make you only more paranoid. As soon as you hear the cogs in your brain click, when you realize you accepted it is what it is, everything makes much more sense, and you feel completely relieved. You'll get there, brother.
/r/TheRedPill04/08/15 11:28 AM
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Thanks for sharing. Here's a hug from an internet stranger. I'm sure you're doing better off now.
/r/TheRedPill04/08/15 11:25 AM
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While all that you say is true, instead of putting the focus on "her", I much rather put the focus on "me". Become the best version of yourself, be on top of the food chain, so that when you look down, you have a sea of women to choose from. You'll find one worthy of your time, you might find one that's even your equal (in terms of SMV). You might even start a LTR with her, and she enhances your life in more ways than one. That's cool, take a step back, and allow yourself to enjoy it brah, you e…
/r/TheRedPill04/08/15 11:21 AM
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For me, the biggest thing I learnt from TRP is simply to hold frame. That's pretty much it. Holding frame helps you in pretty much every facet of life. Everything else is secondary in my opinion -- it's just additional knowledge that you should acknowledge at the back of your head. what exactly did you do differently to change the dynamics? Or was it simply a change in your character as you absorbed more TRP info?
/r/TheRedPill04/08/15 10:15 AM
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Not gonna lie, ever since discovering TRP for half a year, I was kinda stuck between two phases: This "anger" phase where I was paranoid and overthink every interaction I have with a female; and this "depressed" phase when I realized that I will never meet that unicorn. Today, when I watched this video, I felt nothing but amusement. Amusement! It's a gentle reminder that "it is what it is", that this is the life we are handed. It's a reassuring confirmation of the agelessness of female hypergamy…
/r/TheRedPill04/08/15 09:31 AM
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Yeah, I read it. Thanks. The article assumes that what I want from a girl is purely sex. Which is not necessarily the case. If what I want is only sex, then yes, that is what I'll do, no commitment just sex (which I'll make it clear to her when the topic arises). I agree with the article that a girl that makes you wait for sex is not only a power play, but never worth the wait. I've experienced this myself. However, what if I'm simply interested in spending time with a girl (and she's made herse…
/r/askTRP01/08/15 04:35 PM
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It's more like I don't really follow. By vetting girls, you me that a girl that doesn't give out her pussy easily is more valued than a slut that give it easily (the latters currency is diluted). Yet at the same time, you expect as a high SMV male that she will give it up easily to you before you commit. You see how I am confused? It's like a paradox. On one hand the ideal is for her to give up her pussy to you. The other is to not give up her oussy easily to others. But how do I tell the differ…
/r/askTRP01/08/15 12:41 PM
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As a 20 year old, do enlighten my naïveté! I can't imagine not settling down already ( or at least have made my decision whether I'll get married or not in this lifetime ) beyond 40.
/r/askTRP01/08/15 08:32 AM
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I don't really follow. I just turned 20, in med school, hit the gym, ladiladila. It won't be until 25 until I graduate, and 28 after i specialise. Being in med school, you bet that I won't have much free time -- the minuscule amount that I have will be spent pursuing other endeavours (gym, socializing, etc). By the time my achievements and career is set in stone (28-30 years old), THAT is when I'm in my peak age. That is my SMV at its peak (career, body, everything will be better/finalized). I s…
/r/askTRP01/08/15 08:30 AM
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Same here! Quite a surprising amount of med students here tbh -- do med students share a lot of traits with TRP men
/r/askTRP01/08/15 07:06 AM
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No. This is not extreme - I have the same outlook lmfao. Would love for you to link me to the post when you make it. Basically it made me antisocial CUZ I was under the illusion that I was extra picky in who I interact with, who was worth my time. It was very pessimistic and I couldn't enjoy the raw moment of socializing because I'd be like "I could be gymming right now" or "I could be studying right now than tolerate this convo". I changed my frame to one where I can learn from anyone, to give …
/r/TheRedPill01/08/15 04:57 AM
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For me, I don't really mind getting to know a girl before sex. Basically, if on the third date and things are going well (I consider her LTR material), and SHE brings up the topic of "what are we?" Or the idea of being in a committed relationship, I'll tell her "I enjoy spending time with you and I'd be open to that idea" and potentially accept it. Obviously my own judgement comes to play -- for girls that I don't connect with, don't really "respect", or that I'm simply not THAT interested in, I…
/r/askTRP01/08/15 02:56 AM
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Fair enough. My first relationship with a girl was commitment before sex. She said she's very adamant about that because she made a mistake in the past. I respected that. Perhaps she was the exception to the rule, but in the end I had all the power, she practically worshipped me -- working logistically to meet me, buying me gifts, cancelling dates just to see me, etc. Is it wrong to respect it when a woman doesn't want to give up sex before commitment? I think it's an admirable quality (frankly …
/r/askTRP01/08/15 12:57 AM
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I guess this brings me to the question of what you define as "friend" VS "acquaintance"? Like you imply, I don't think it's as clear-cut that men are logical robots and women are fluffy emotional beings. I think we all, as humans, fall somewhere in the middle, women just have a genetic predisposition towards the latter and men the former -- and frankly I'm sure some men, on some days, feel more emotional than some females, on other days. What I'm saying is that it's not as rigid as the paradigm …
/r/askTRP31/07/15 11:31 PM
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you can't have both dynamics going on at the same time I suppose you mean you can't be in the friend-box while also conveying sexual interest simultaneously?
/r/askTRP31/07/15 11:27 PM
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you can't have both dynamics going on at the same time I suppose you mean you can't be in the friend-box while also conveying sexual interest simultaneously?
/r/askTRP31/07/15 11:27 PM
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Thanks for the link. I watched the video but I don't see a concrete answer WHY men and women can't just be friends. Women (obviously) think so, but why would men not desire a male/female friendship? I could see multiple benefits why a male would desire a friendship (instead of a relationship or sex) from a female. The female may hook him up with other girls. The female may not be attractive enough for the male to desire anything more than a friend. The female may help enhance his career (build c…
/r/askTRP31/07/15 11:26 PM
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I was never on the other end of the spectrum. Being the beta or trying to win a girls affection was never my style (being affectionate was something I did after ive gotten the girl.) That said, I'm rely interested how you felt when you witnessed how sadistic she was when describing these events to you. I too have experienced a girl confessing to me about her orbiters but all I felt was anger and rage that she'd be using men like that -- and makes me lose respect for her, even though I should sim…
/r/TheRedPill31/07/15 07:44 PM
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You mentioned how you used to look at everything's opportunity cost. Could you elaborate on that? It sounds like a problem I faced since Trp and gaining more self respect for myself and what I spend my time on -- and it has made me more unsociable.
/r/TheRedPill31/07/15 07:28 PM
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I'm in. I love sleep. As a college student in his summer holidays, my sleep schedule is all fucked up from oversleeping. So I'll also be reporting the TIMES I sleep and wake. 31st: 3am to 6:40am (note: resetting to an early wake/sleep schedule)
/r/TheRedPill31/07/15 06:49 PM
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Apologies, but what's "EC" or "Seduction-1"? And what's stopping you, is it a personal moral code? Because logically, my rationale is that if you don't do it, it'll be some other person anyway (not that the opportunity ever presented itself)
/r/seduction28/07/15 09:17 AM
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Reading your OP I would've assumed that you'd advocate being the guy a girl cheats with. Has the situation ever been offered to you, and how did you act?
/r/seduction28/07/15 06:51 AM
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I'm just curious CUZ I haven't done it before, but any insight/precautions on hooking up with girls in relationships?
/r/seduction28/07/15 06:48 AM
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Thanks for the insight. So it really isn't that big of a deal I suppose. Being from a non religious background I really don't quite get it. Like how do people get away with "I'm still religious but I'm not commited to it"..?
/r/seduction28/07/15 06:45 AM
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That's the thing. I usually convey this quite well in a social situation like a gathering or a get together. But if it in a club setting or party then being the calm, stoic, nonchalant guy suddenly becomes a disadvantage.
/r/seduction28/07/15 06:44 AM
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I'm definitely not perceived as beta. But intensity and chill/calmness seem to be against each other, no? Videos of role models would be helpful
/r/seduction28/07/15 06:43 AM
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;)
/r/seduction27/07/15 10:39 AM
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Yeah exactly this. How do you improve/enhance the cool, calm, (boring) vibe? That's me on default. Girls say their impression of me is I'm stoic and nonchalant, very laidback.
/r/seduction27/07/15 10:38 AM
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Alright. I knew in the back of my head it was an excuse to limit my pool of girls. Thanks for clarifying! I just don't wanna be liable or blamed for their "sins" or whatever (clearly I have no idea what I'm talking about in terms of religion).
/r/seduction27/07/15 10:37 AM
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Ahh the poophole loophole. Is that shit forreals?
/r/seduction27/07/15 10:36 AM
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Piggybacking on what you said, for the love of God smile. Or wiggle your fucking eyebrows at the very least. :) Otherwise you're a fucking creep.
/r/seduction27/07/15 08:29 AM
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I usually do this too, although it's natural because I genuinely am not interested in the boyfriend -- I'm interested in HER. Usually I brush the topic aside and don't probe too much, instead i use the topic of her boyfriend to branch off about guys that she likes, what turns her on... Sex.
/r/seduction27/07/15 08:28 AM
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Do it in a smooth way. OPs point is to not give it any acknowledgement. You can do this simply by brushing the topic aside, or showing disinterested body language (look away), or as OP mentions, just saying "sounds like a cool guy". The point is to not feed her attention. Girls crave attention like moths to a flame, the moment you withdraw this, they subconsciously understand not to talk about topics that you don't find interesting (her boyfriend).
/r/seduction27/07/15 08:25 AM
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Same boat here. Awesome word, don't feel bad <3
/r/seduction27/07/15 08:05 AM
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I'm kinda like this on default. Thing is, I'm only 20 -- so this high level of stoicism and calmness doesn't really do me well in social gatherings and parties, whereby having a high energy and fun vibe scores more. Thoughts on this?
/r/seduction27/07/15 08:03 AM
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Yeah. Like I said, I realize it's a Limiting Belief (for me). Which is why I'm hoping some statistics on the likelihood of religious girls going against the Bible and having sex, or perhaps someone from a religious background could offer some insight, so I could dispel this belief. Basically -- is it really that big of a deal? Do most religious people abide to it? Or is it simply something that most people ignore.?
/r/seduction27/07/15 05:03 AM
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I'd say establish clear intent from the beginning. Make sure she knows you're hitting on her and not just asking for directions.
/r/seduction20/07/15 07:02 AM
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I'd say establish clear intent from the beginning. Make sure she knows you're hitting on her and not just asking for directions.
/r/seduction20/07/15 07:02 AM
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I completely disagree. Maybe it's cultural difference, but most definitely every tinder girl you meet already had some history (through tinder). Personally I won't be comfortable with a relationship with them beyond FWBs. And I'll definitely wear a condom to prevent STDs. On the contrary, most girls I meet outside of tinder seem much less experienced and have less of a history. Granted women always lie about their n count but the difference of 10 to something like 2 is huge. Also, it IS a differ…
/r/seduction20/07/15 05:24 AM
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I've skimmed through bits and I don't really get this book. It sounds like it's making seduction overly complicated (while Models makes it quite fundamentally simple)
/r/seduction20/07/15 05:19 AM
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Sounds awesome. I'm already a pretty stoic and carefree guy to be honest, so this book is right up my alley. Could you give a short TL;DR -- especially with what the book says is actually important in life
/r/seduction19/07/15 04:40 PM
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Fair question. I consider it red flag because Tinder is a hook-up app, or at least has the reputation of one. My personal experience backs me up on this: the average girl I met on Tinder has probably met 10+ other guys already. I won't be surprised if she fucked at least 3 of those 10 guys. Personally I consider this a red flag. Given that most of the girls I meet are only 18-21 years old and have already had sex with 5+ guys. Maybe I'm just being a prude but I can't seem to shake off the notion…
/r/seduction19/07/15 04:39 PM
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Fair question. I consider it red flag because Tinder is a hook-up app, or at least has the reputation of one. My personal experience backs me up on this: the average girl I met on Tinder has probably met 10+ other guys already. I won't be surprised if she fucked at least 3 of those 10 guys. Personally I consider this a red flag. Given that most of the girls I meet are only 18-21 years old and have already had sex with 5+ guys. Maybe I'm just being a prude but I can't seem to shake off the notion…
/r/seduction19/07/15 04:37 PM
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I checked that book out but I didn't really like all the categories... I guess I want a book that focuses more inward (on myself) than one outwards (other people).
/r/seduction19/07/15 04:32 PM
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Maybe that's why it resonated so well with me. It's all about being in love with yourself, pursuing the things you want in life (which includes but is not limited to women). It's about being an authentic MAN that knows what he wants and gets what he wants. I never really resonated with a lot of the pickup techniques (e.g. opening, false time constraints, etc etc). But I really resonated with this book and I think it established a strong foundation for me to practice seduction.
/r/seduction19/07/15 08:45 AM
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Meeting a girl on Tinder would be the biggest red flag ever -- how could you date someone from there?! (genuinely interested)
/r/seduction19/07/15 08:42 AM
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What should I do about that?
/r/askTRP03/07/15 06:41 PM
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Thanks. Do you mind giving me a TLDR specifically on how it shows that you can be dominant while also being warmth/loving/caring/respectful?
/r/askTRP03/07/15 06:40 PM
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No I never lash out. I just tell them "alright you made your point, now it's getting annoying" in a calm manner -- like a father to a child. I don't ask dumb questions per se, but I get misinterpreted. I asked them "when is happy hour?" And one of them said "now". So I was like "no I mean WHEN. What time to what time?", but they didn't realise. So I just took my phone out, looked at the time, and answered it for myself.
/r/askTRP01/07/15 05:06 AM
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Why do you say that? Sometimes you just don't connect or cljck with someone because you guys think so unlike.
/r/seduction29/06/15 05:08 AM
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The overlap is this. TRP is very unconventional (most people do not understand/believe/acknowledge it). After absorbing TRP, how do you socialize with people that don't think the same wavelength as us?
/r/TheRedPill28/06/15 09:36 AM
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Yeah, I tried to view them as potential friends and I tried to connect with them -- but they think so unlike me it's hard to connect with them... yknow?
/r/TheRedPill28/06/15 09:35 AM
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Yes, so how do you connect with people like them (sometimes it's necessary/inevitable to in the workplace)? Do you feel alone knowing that so many people are like that and won't ever understand us?
/r/TheRedPill28/06/15 06:55 AM
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Trust me, I read the sidebar already. Based on the knowledge here it'd be to become a MGTOW, but I'm still young and I do desire women, so that's off the books. The comments here aren't really helping. I want to open up and connect with other conventional people, and I'm wondering how you guys do so (considering how TRP is so unconventional of a mindset).
/r/TheRedPill28/06/15 06:28 AM
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Thing is, I have really high standards to begin with. If I adamantly stuck to that rule and never gave anyone a chance, I will have virtually NO friends (although the few that I currently have are very loyal). I want to expand my social circle.
/r/TheRedPill28/06/15 06:27 AM
1

The mid 20s are a golden age. its when a man is at its prime. It's when Newton and Einstein discovered shit. It's when genguis Khan conquered. Hustle on, brother!
/r/TheRedPill24/06/15 01:32 PM
1

What program do ou recommend? Diet wise and gym wise
/r/TheRedPill24/06/15 01:05 PM
1

Yeah, I ordered a lacrosse ball online. Waiting for it.
/r/TheRedPill24/06/15 03:59 AM
1

Any links to a PPLx2 program? I'm still a novice lifter (according to strstd), so do you think working 6 times a week would be overkill? I don't really take Spanish seriously, for me it's just to pass time and to learn a new language. Getting through med school will always be #1 for me. The waiter/bartender idea is great, but I think I might do retail to socialize specifically with people my age. Thanks for the suggestion. I'll keep some of the "time-wasting activities". It's already pretty mini…
/r/TheRedPill24/06/15 03:54 AM
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I tried "relaxing" and watching some TV shows and shit, I just can't. I get bored and agitated, and after a long while, I get depressed.
/r/TheRedPill24/06/15 03:45 AM
2

Good call. I'm pretty sure less than 0.1% of my class is doing this. They better watch out.
/r/TheRedPill24/06/15 03:44 AM
1

I can do graphic design already (I love it as a child). I'm using codecademy right now to learn coding, what do you think of that?
/r/TheRedPill24/06/15 03:42 AM
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Yeah those sound really intense and fun!
/r/TheRedPill23/06/15 03:39 PM
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Haha, thanks I really appreciate it! It's quite rare in this world, and even rarer at my age (I get lonely sometimes since my friends think otherwise -- this community of self-improvement makes me feel less alone)!
/r/TheRedPill23/06/15 03:38 PM
1

Thought there's only 48 laws?
/r/TheRedPill23/06/15 03:37 PM
1

Yep, been in this situation many times, sorta know the drill by now haha. :) One thing at a time.
/r/TheRedPill23/06/15 03:36 PM
3

Thanks, that's a great breakdown. Something extreme, something creative, something useful, something informative!
/r/TheRedPill23/06/15 03:13 PM
1

Like what? I have an entire of summer holidays and nothing to do. I have a few social gatherings 2-3 times a week but other than that -- I have the whole summer to dedicate to myself. No idea what to do with it to maximize productivity. After a while of monk mode, instant gratifying hobbies no longer please me (only watch like 1 TV show now, gaming doesn't satisfy me anymore.)
/r/TheRedPill23/06/15 11:50 AM
2

Wait -- being a cocksucker?!
/r/TheRedPill21/06/15 04:46 AM
3

I think you hit to core what my problem is. I can't seem to enjoy the right now because in the back of my mind I'm like -- I could be doing this and that to improve my life in the future. I live in the future. I live in my goals. Not the present. But what's the solution to this. I started meditation but anything else would be good.
/r/askTRP21/06/15 02:25 AM
1

We have very similar missions. I too am a creator at heart, ever since I was a child. I made videos, I made animations, I made sculptures. When I grew up, I made video games, I made websites, etc. I too am in the medical field. I love science, I love learning how the human body is just a series of systems and machines, and how they all come together to work. I intend to become an ophthalmologist after I get out of med school (I'm 19 right now). Just wondering, what do you do in your spare time? …
/r/TheRedPill20/06/15 03:02 PM
2

There's no point trying to deny or to "fix" this. The best thing we can do is accept it. For example, at the gym, I'm never sure whether I'm too paranoid/overanalytical with regards to my form. If I'm too analytical then I will be hesitant to add weight and to push myself hard enough. If I "relax" and take a step back then I could injure myself. You never know where you fall on the spectrum (whether you're too hard or too loose on yourself). It comes in waves. I've learnt to accept it and move o…
/r/seduction20/06/15 10:29 AM
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look for what you want in a woman and do NOT compromise. I have extremely high standards when it comes to women. So much to the point where her painting her nails could be seen as indesirable. I think I should realize the reality that 95% of the girls my age will probably have a few red flags (it's inevitable), and how much I am willing to tolerate. I'm only nineteen so most of the girls my age are immature, lack self-control and self-discipline, etc. I know I will never find the perfect HB10 vi…
/r/askTRP19/06/15 03:42 PM
1

How's that a red-flag (because of lack of self-discipline)? If that's considered a red flag then pretty much all TRPers could do is date unicorns and fuck the rest.
/r/askTRP19/06/15 03:40 PM
1

Yeah, and also continuing like this isn't gonna help my psyche anyway (imagine being rejected sex multiple times whenever you initiate, does hurt you ego a bit). I feel much more like a man and much more free now that we've ended things, and I am free to pursue whatever I want.
/r/askTRP19/06/15 09:04 AM
1

Yeah she's definitely very negative and depressed. I'm usually the one that makes her happy, and her friends.
/r/askTRP19/06/15 09:01 AM
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Yeah she's definitely very negative and depressed. I'm usually the one that makes her happy, and her friends.
/r/askTRP19/06/15 09:01 AM
1

Sounds awesome. You say she has very little red flags -- what are the red flags that you know of and tolerate? (I don't know how much is very little, and knowing yours would be a good benchmark).
/r/askTRP19/06/15 09:00 AM
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Beter yet, don't settle at all or until you are at least 40 or something. My milestone is age 30. But yes. I gave her the ultimatum and she decided she wants a boyfriend not a guy that fucks other girls (she didn't understand how I could love her if I am fucking other girls and got a bit pissed). I did this over text as well, bad idea but whatever. I feel much better now. At least it's now over and I can pursue my own things. I feel much more of a man now that I asserted what I want.
/r/askTRP19/06/15 08:56 AM
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She actually was on her period lol. But still, I expected a blowjob. Whatever, it feels much more liberating when I asserted my sexual needs. She either agrees to be open (I get pussy), or end it (I get pussy). Either way I win and feel like a man again. Being rejected sex from a girl does hurt my ego a bit -- not gonna lie. But I'm glad this is over so I can find someone that will be able to comply.
/r/askTRP19/06/15 08:52 AM
1

I ended it with her today. Gave her an ultimatum (open relationship or end). She chose end. Either way I feel much better and free.
/r/askTRP19/06/15 07:43 AM
1

I was not* getting the sex. Because it was too unstable.
/r/askTRP19/06/15 01:37 AM
1

I thought it'd be easier and more efficient to sit her down and talk to her, than to find a new plate. Abundance mentality and all that, sure, but in reality it takes a while to find a girl, set up a new date, charm her, and fuck her.
/r/askTRP19/06/15 12:44 AM
1

I acknowledge that, but it sounds like a threat.
/r/askTRP18/06/15 05:29 PM
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Do you think that's asking too much though? We in TRP already admitted that there is no unicorn that has the perfect libido, perfect looks, wife-material, low n-count, etc etc. It's inevitable that we have to compromise. Aside from lack of sex, everything else she does is on point (and is why I give her a chance).
/r/askTRP18/06/15 05:28 PM
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For me, there's a few paradigms that conflict in my head. ON one end, you should always be escalating/closing. You should always be dominant. You should always pursue. As an alpha male you are inherently sexual and touchy and flirty. This is what turns her on. My dominance. On the other hand, I should withdraw this (??). I should suppress my sexual needs. I should be less sexual and stop initiating sex. Will this not turn her off? I'm just a bit confused. Hope you can clear it up.
/r/askTRP18/06/15 05:26 PM
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Okay. Is putting this much pressure on the girl for sex healthy for a relationship? If the tables were turned, I wouldn't want sex from someone that pressures me. I'm just trying to understand. If I have cramps when having sex, again, I won't want it.
/r/askTRP18/06/15 05:23 PM
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Another tactic is to keep her around and just sleep with other people covertly. I intend to do this. I need to improve my daygame (it's the limiting factor for me when it comes to pulling girls)
/r/askTRP18/06/15 05:21 PM
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if sex seems like a chore for her she's using you for something else How much truth is in this statement? Is it not possible that she's actually tired? But okay, since this is the consensus of this subreddit I'll accept it. if the girl is into you she'll fuck you wherever How do you keep giving her the tingles even after years of relationship? I mean, the opposite is true for us men (once I fuck a girl, she kinda drops from an HB7 to an HB5) cuz you've "attained" her
/r/askTRP18/06/15 05:21 PM
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If a woman really sees you as AF she will want to drop her panties and get it on with you. Even in a 5-month relationship? I don't blame her if she's getting bored or losing her tingles, because frankly I also see her as less attractive than when we first dated (i.e. boring and getting used to it). I feel like it's inevitable. Yeah. I intend to fuck other girls too, I'm setting some leads but a few have fallen short -- so I'll do some daygame in the next week.
/r/askTRP18/06/15 05:18 PM
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I'm always willing to lose her though... Especially if I don't get what I want from her (sex aand investment)
/r/askTRP18/06/15 01:06 PM
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Also, in this day and age, is it really possible to find a game with zero red flags? I feel like it'll be a futile search and a male abstraction to find that unicorn that has zero red flags, has high libido, and treats you with complete love, loyalty and respect. There's never gonna be a perfect girl anyway... Obviously I'll keep looking but until I secure a better girl I'll keep this one around. Girls do this anyway with orbiters.
/r/askTRP18/06/15 01:05 PM
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Idk, frankly I'm bored too (from lack of sex) My efforts are better spent on other girls and improving my game and SMV
/r/askTRP18/06/15 01:03 PM
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I'm willing to give her up if I'm not getting sex at least once a week. She's useless to me otherwise. She's not much trouble to maintain in the first place, and the benefits outweigh the costs, but either way I rather not be exclusive so I can get my needs met elsewhere.
/r/askTRP18/06/15 12:49 PM
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Yeah. I'll just put her on the side for a while (tbh I didn't give much effort in the first place). I'll focus more of my SMV and hitting up new plates. Also working on my day game.
/r/askTRP18/06/15 12:48 PM
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Thanks. Okay, yea I realise those are red flags. There are a few that you didn't mention either that I've noticed (her friends are sluts). Is 4 guys (including me) at 18 (turning 19) really that high? I thought it's normal for girls to lose virginity at an early age. There's nothing I can do about it tho. Except increase my SMV and find new plates -- both of which I'm already doing. Knowing that and keeping in action makes me sleep at night.
/r/askTRP18/06/15 12:47 PM
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Why do you say that? I'm not really orbiting her or doing favors for her or paying for her...? I don't even give her much attention
/r/askTRP18/06/15 12:42 PM
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What are some signs that she's cheating that I've mentioned? I don't want to make any firm decisions until I have solid proof. Yeah, I intend to hook up with potential plates, but I have nothing solid/firm yet, just a few "first dates" in the next few weeks.
/r/askTRP18/06/15 12:05 PM
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Thanks.
/r/askTRP18/06/15 12:04 PM
1

This sounds a bit threatening. She's gonna be like "Fine... I'll suck your dick geez". But that's not what I really want. I want her to genuinely enjoy sex with me, and having this conversation with her kinda makes it seem like an obligation and pressure her... thus making sex less enjoyable for both of us.
/r/askTRP18/06/15 12:04 PM
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This sounds a bit threatening. She's gonna be like "Fine... I'll suck your dick geez". But that's not what I really want. I want her to genuinely enjoy sex with me, and having this conversation with her kinda makes it seem like an obligation and pressure her... thus making sex less enjoyable for both of us.
/r/askTRP18/06/15 12:03 PM
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This sounds a bit threatening. She's gonna be like "Fine... I'll suck your dick geez". But that's not what I really want. I want her to genuinely enjoy sex with me, and having this conversation with her kinda makes it seem like an obligation and pressure her... thus making sex less enjoyable for both of us.
/r/askTRP18/06/15 12:03 PM
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Yeah I have. I'm getting a dorm next year so that will be pleasant. I intend to have this talk with her although in a less blunt manner. What are the repercussions to this. She can either start fucking you more or fuck off. How do you say this? I don't want her having sex with me if she's not enjoying it or gonna complain about it. That's a huge turnoff.
/r/askTRP18/06/15 11:58 AM
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What do you mean boot her? I'm assuming terminate her. I don't see a point in doing that. If I boot her = guaranteed she's gone forever. No chances given. If I don't = perhaps she really was tired and will put out next time. regardless, she still invests in me for free (or minimal investment on my part). Strategically, booting her would be a dumb move. I have nothing to lose anyway, at least in the meantime. Regardless, I'm already seeking other plates and increasing my SMV, so my journey contin…
/r/askTRP18/06/15 11:51 AM
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I won't be able to tell if she's cheating or not. Frankly, the idea of that has made me paranoid one month ago. Now I just accept that, yes, it's a possibility, and since there's nothing I can change about that -- and perhaps I never know if she is or if she is not -- there's no point entertaining that thought. For now, I can only focus on myself (i.e. find more plates and continue to improve SMV, which I already am doing). Also, again, I don't invest in her much. So keeping her around in the me…
/r/askTRP18/06/15 11:48 AM
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I already used dread game on her multiple times in the past to the point where it doesn't work as effectively anymore. I'll subtly ignore her for a few days. To me, if she doesn't put out, she's not worth much to me (I'm not that attached to her in the first place).
/r/askTRP18/06/15 11:42 AM
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Why do you say she might be playing me? I hardly invest my resources on her so at the end of the day, I'm not really losing anything. This is honestly making me paranoid, and I'm not sure how much is me overthinking/overanalyzing. I've already overreacted once when it turns out that it wasn't that big of a deal. There's nothing I can do regardless, except continue to improve my SMV and seek other plates (which I am doing).
/r/askTRP18/06/15 11:38 AM
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No, I'm nineteen!
/r/askTRP18/06/15 11:37 AM
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There are no petty reasons not to have sex - both of you being tired, her having bad day at work, not feeling like it - that's irrelevant. Maybe I'm inexperienced, but why is this true? If I were a girl, and I'm tired as fuck, I would naturally not want to give a blowjob (it's a lot of work). Even as a guy, when I'm stressed with exams, I wouldn't wanna waste time fucking. I initiate all the time. I usually start with kissing, making out, being really forward/aggressive (pining her to the wall/s…
/r/askTRP18/06/15 11:36 AM
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Independence is a valued trait (anywhere). I'm an independent person. But the fact that I'm living with my parents is socially-acceptable and considered normal here. Again, in my country it's impossible to find a secluded place to bang. It's one of the most population-dense countries in the world (also explains why the housing prices are so high). Another question would be that if you have way higher SMV, dread doesn't work, she doesn't put out, she's stopped investing, she isn't emotional with …
/r/askTRP18/06/15 11:27 AM
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What should I do instead?
/r/askTRP18/06/15 11:17 AM
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Alright. I'll secure a prospect first before I make this Nuclear move.
/r/askTRP18/06/15 10:22 AM
1

Yeah I'm finding the balance now. I think another reason there's less sex is because it's getting boring now. The relationship is at a standstill (not really progressing).
/r/askTRP18/06/15 10:21 AM
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You both living with your parents probably doesn't help. I don't think anyone who still needs their parents gives that manly man vibe. I'm nineteen, and where I'm from (Asia) it's common to live with parents until mid-twenties. So I don't think that's too against me. You only lose frame when you let her call the shots I don't understand this point. How am I supposed to "call the shots" when it comes to sex? If she doesn't feel like it, there's nothing I can do -- "desire is non-negotiable". Reas…
/r/askTRP18/06/15 10:20 AM
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What I usually do is persist for 1-2 more times. When I get rejected again that's what I do. I say "okay" and walk away emotionlessly, but then she thinks I'm "mad". I just shrug it off and say "nah" and focus on something else like my phone. However, in the past month, this has happened at least 50% of the time I initiate sex. It's getting a bit frustrating, especially since I don't know how to solve it. I don't even enjoy spending time with her that much anymore because it feels like she's jus…
/r/askTRP18/06/15 10:03 AM
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That's the thing. I don't think the problem stems from me. I've read Sex God Method, so using his paradigm we can analyze this objectively: Dominance - I'm definitely dominant in the relationship. She seems me as an authority (sometimes a bit too much of an authority), I'm aggressive when it comes to touching, I spank her occasionally and I grope her tits, even in public. In terms of "touching her" and showing her physical affection, I do that quite often to the point where she might even take i…
/r/askTRP18/06/15 09:54 AM
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Okay, so what should I do? I have sexual needs. Yes. How do I make it clear that I want more sex, without sounding like a butthurt bitch and threatening her -- but actually making her crave and want it more?
/r/askTRP18/06/15 09:08 AM
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Okay, so what should I do? I have sexual needs. Yes. How do I make it clear that I want more sex, without sounding like a butthurt bitch and threatening her -- but actually making her crave and want it more?
/r/askTRP18/06/15 09:08 AM
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Sure, but I'm not sure how to frame it so it doesn't sound like a threat because I couldn't get enough sex from her. I can already forsee her overreacting "so you only want me for sex", feeling pressured from sex, and hence is even more discouraged from sex (and views it as an undesirable thing). I don't want her attitude to suck my dick be like "Fine goddamnit I'll do it", that'll just turn me off. In the meantime I'm seeking out other prospects.
/r/askTRP18/06/15 09:07 AM
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Yeah she is, under my request. She said she got hornier for the first few weeks on the pill.
/r/askTRP18/06/15 08:05 AM
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Okay. I'll do that. Problem is that recently -- a few months ago -- I overdreaded her to the point where she thinks I was cheating on her. The relationship was very unstable at that point, and I was getting the sex. So, after discovering this problem I decided to offer more value and provide some security and affection, to make the relationship a bit more stable. And now you're telling me to go back to my old ways.
/r/askTRP18/06/15 08:04 AM
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How do I do this without coming off as butthurt or threatening her, while also serious enough so that she doesn't think I'm joking or being cocky ?
/r/askTRP18/06/15 08:02 AM
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Essentially yeah. I always make sure she's investing more though (she pays more money, logistically cancels shit, cooks/cleans for me). I don't even pay for meals. The only value I offer essentially is sex, validation, and my presence. In return, I get her working for me non-sexually. But still for some reason she rejects sex from me. I basically makeout with her whenever I get the chance or whenever we're alone, maybe I'm giving out my sex too easily?
/r/askTRP18/06/15 07:44 AM
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I do, but whenever I ignore her after she rejects sex it just feels like I'm a butthurt bitch.
/r/askTRP18/06/15 07:27 AM
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Yeah. She often gives valid reasons so I give her the benefit of a doubt (hungover, tired, lack of sleep, period...), and she makes up for it with other favors like buying me shit and cooking me lunch... plus I don't pay for her or invest much in her in the first place. How should I go about this? I'm gonna look for other prospect plates in the meantime.
/r/askTRP18/06/15 07:27 AM
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For me, it's also impatience (i.e. inability to tolerate). I subconciously look down on people that don't have their shit together and have no intention of improving themselves. I realize nobody has their shit COMPLETELY together, but I think everyone, at least in their youth (i.e. my age) should have goals or a purpose or even some basic hobbies. When they don't, it's really difficult and virtually impossible for me to connect with them. I try my best to be interested in what they say, because …
/r/TheRedPill17/06/15 12:03 PM
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It's amazing how well it works when you really stop trying so hard and just say whatever you want to. This advice won't work for me. Whenever I say whatever first comes in my head I sound like a condescending asshole and make some uncallibrated, offensive joke. I like your ashtray example. I would not do something like that (because I'm inherently selfish and I don't even smoke), but it's something I should start thinking of doing for the sake of just doing it. I think the distinction is (1) you…
/r/TheRedPill17/06/15 10:49 AM
1

I don't really follow. What do you mean olive branch or tit for tat strategy? (Not from the States so didn't really get that reference)
/r/TheRedPill17/06/15 10:45 AM
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Don't do things for people because you think it will make them like you, do things because you think it is the correct thing to do. I like this mindset and can see myself adopting it. Do what you perceive is right, so regardless of the outcome/reaction, you will still be happy with the fact that you did it. I believe you should treat people with respect and kindness until they prove they are otherwise undeserving I do this, but because of my high expectations, the moment the conversation gets bo…
/r/TheRedPill17/06/15 09:14 AM
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I'm wondering if this is a good idea, but setting my bio like "If you're just gonna use me for sex, swipe left" would be hilarious on my end cuz of flipping the script. At the same time it gives the girl plausible deniability ("so he's actually a genuine guy that doesn't want sex") and lowers their resistance and anti-slut defence.
/r/TheRedPill17/06/15 09:09 AM
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I think the reason I was like this was because she sent me a nude picture. I already categorised her as a easy slut and hence didn't really treat it as a date, didn't bother charming her or doing boyfriend-like things for her, etc.
/r/TheRedPill17/06/15 05:12 AM
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I think the reason I was like this was because she sent me a nude picture. I already categorised her as a easy slut and hence didn't really treat it as a date, didn't bother charming her or doing boyfriend-like things for her, etc.
/r/TheRedPill17/06/15 05:10 AM
1

I live with parents so unfortunately this is not possible...
/r/TheRedPill17/06/15 05:05 AM
1

Ah... I thought the on the moon joke was quite funny to me -- I just said whatever came up in my mind
/r/TheRedPill17/06/15 05:03 AM
1

What should I have done instead. I don't have an apartment (I'm 19) so it's impossible any other way. I think the reason I was like this was because she sent me a nude picture. I already categorised her as a easy slut and hence didn't really treat it as a date, didn't bother charming her or doing boyfriend-like things for her, etc.
/r/TheRedPill17/06/15 05:00 AM
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Yeah, whatever. At the end of the day these are just internet points. The comments and advice I'm getting here is more valuable and is the main reason I made this post (to open up discussion on what I can improve on). And I got what I wanted. Thanks though!
/r/seduction16/06/15 09:46 AM
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Yeah. I should do more of that. I think I'm naturally a closed-off, dark triad alpha type. So when I take some of the advice on not be too needy and be more aloof, it kinda backfires.
/r/seduction15/06/15 05:00 PM
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Yeah, now I know. I should build comfort and treat her more like a girlfriend (regardless of my intentions). From the frame of a man to a woman rather than going overboarding being like a father to a daughter (I read too much RedPill -- that actually comes afterwards in LTRs)
/r/seduction15/06/15 04:58 PM
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Probably gonna regret this but I have nothing to lose. I sent her a short apology text that I was a bit of an asshole tonight. Said if she wants to meet, let me know. Otherwise, that's cool too. Hopefully the betaness in this text will offset my douchebaggery.
/r/seduction15/06/15 04:00 PM
1

I guess I didn't expect that. She also conversed in a really calm and monotonous way so it was hard for me to gauge interest. I guess I should've rewarded her for small things like merely asking me a question to encourage her investment. I remember my first date with my ex, she didn't ask me anything, it was mostly her doing the talking. I guess I got used to that. Yes I need to open up and show some vulnerability. I'm a very secretive person but I guess I should just give an honest answer 75% o…
/r/seduction15/06/15 04:00 PM
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Ah, yes... I think I should've done more of that. My whole frame was "what can you do for me, prove yourself to me". When it should be "what can I do to make things fun for both of us"
/r/seduction15/06/15 03:41 PM
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I assumed she did it with every guy on Tinder, hence I just labelled her as a potential fuck buddy to begin with -- instead of a potential girlfriend. I think I see what I did wrong. I thought I could just half-ass this date because I didn't see her as a potential girlfriend candidate, but rather just a fuckbuddy. And in doing so, I failed to establish comfort/rapport. Normally on dates I'll put on the boyfriend-charm and be extra sweet and not sexual. This time, I just didn't bother and just ga…
/r/seduction15/06/15 03:39 PM
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How did I go overboard? It wasn't my intention to be a douchebag. I genuinely tried to make conversation and I showed interest in her. Her eyes lit up when we started talking about her pet Bearded Dragon -- I guess I should've allowed her to talk more about that (what it eats, when I can see it, what it's like, etc). I misinterpreted some of her signs as IODs and I guess I took those as a shit test (e.g. getting her phone out). She also sent me scandalous pics which made me think that I didn't n…
/r/seduction15/06/15 03:36 PM
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That makes a lot of sense. I did genuinely become interested and pull her, asked her more about herself, actually tried to know her. But the answers she gave me were quite half-assed, and she answered in a very tired, monotonous manner.
/r/seduction15/06/15 03:33 PM
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I don't know, I feel like I didn't do anything wrong and I left the interaction on my own terms. If I were to persist I'd almost seem a bit needy, and I don't think I did anything "creepy" per se. But yes, I guess in some ways I was pushy and uncallibrated. To me, I wanted to protect my secrets (by not answering her questions and opening up), while at the same time asserting my boundaries.
/r/seduction15/06/15 03:32 PM
1

Okay, fair enough. Note to self open up a bit more and give her a chance to know you better
/r/seduction15/06/15 03:30 PM
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I'm not saying EVERYTHING is. I do answer some of her questions truthfully (75% of them). I think I'm giving the impression in this post that all I did was joke around and deflect everything, when no, those were just the highlights. Usually on dates, when I say "on the moon", the girl finds it funny and builds upon that, and it becomes an inside joke. I've had girls say "let's go on a picnic on the moon!" or "I'd love to visit, where's the spaceship?", etc. That's why I used that line. Having an…
/r/seduction15/06/15 03:29 PM
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I read Models three times already. I'm really confused, still, to what I did wrong. I should've opened up and shown more "vulnerability", I suppose. I guess I didn't in this case because I already labelled her as a slut (from sending me nude ass pics and saying "she's easy") so I automatically thought that she wouldn't be girlfriend-material. I also didn't comfortable telling her where I live or how many girls on Tinder I met. I genuinely didn't want to tell her. What should I do instead, next t…
/r/seduction15/06/15 03:27 PM
0

So what should I have done instead?
/r/seduction15/06/15 03:25 PM
1

Specifically which points? I'd appreciate a break down so I know what to work on.
/r/seduction15/06/15 03:24 PM
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I just turned 20 (literally a few weeks ago), so I apologize if I accidentally write 19 (getting used to the big two-zero haha). I guess I put too much emphasis on holding frame, yes. I don't think I was an asshole about it though? If so, where and how can I fix that? Perhaps if you explained how I could still lead the interaction like a man, while also compromising for the girl? The two seems a bit mutually exclusive in my head.
/r/seduction15/06/15 03:23 PM
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Thanks for the tip. I'll consider it, but I really don't feel the need to do so... consider the fact that I'm only 20. It's something I want to actively avoid, and I don't want to be there when she smokes either -- instant turnoff. Fair enough. I learnt my lesson. I do wish to give and take, and I gave her a chance in the end to ask me something personal, but she said "she's not interested anymore"... I just didn't feel comfortable to tell her where i live or how many Tinder girls I met, you see…
/r/seduction15/06/15 02:59 PM
1

I'm confused. She actually sent me a picture of her ass. And many other provocative pictures on snapchat... I assumed she wanted a fuckbuddy from the get-go, so I played my cards like that (instead of focusing on building comfort)
/r/seduction15/06/15 02:56 PM
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Hence I'm asking this subreddit. I feel like I did nothing wrong, so I wrote this report to confirm if this is the case. Almost for reassurance if you will.
/r/seduction15/06/15 02:55 PM
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I don't mind if she wanted to know me a bit more -- frankly I wanted to know a bit more about her too! (I feel weird fucking a stranger). Lesson learned. I need to open up a bit more. But sometimes I don't feel comfortable telling a stranger where I live or how many girls I've dated on Tinder... I just don't feel comfortable saying that. How do I successfully build comfort with a girl, while still being able to keep my secrets?
/r/seduction15/06/15 02:54 PM
0

We didn't have a room booked...
/r/seduction15/06/15 02:53 PM
-1

I was doing the "say whatever comes on your mind" trick that SimplePickup recommended, so I just thought of the most ridiculous response... Did it backfire that badly?
/r/seduction15/06/15 02:50 PM
-8

I said that in a playful manner, I practically winked at her with a sly smirk when I said that. It shows dominance (my ex loved it), and it passes her shit test, so I thought that was a pretty good response. What should I have done differently?
/r/seduction15/06/15 02:18 PM
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How so? And how does one determine whether it's necessary or not? I don't think I negged her too much (I rarely neg girls unless they shit test me), but just asserted my boundaries really strictly and didn't compromise or open up about myself.
/r/seduction15/06/15 02:03 PM
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No offense taken, but I'd appreciate if you could explain in detail why I give off the impression that I'm a douche-canoe? Living in the present is something I'm continuously improving on, and, I felt I was doing a pretty good job at being present on this date. I wasn't anxious, I wasn't living in the future (planning ahead), I was just really present and focused on (i) my own emotions/reactions and (ii) her personality/backstory. Also, I actually listened to what she said conversation-wise. I r…
/r/seduction15/06/15 02:02 PM
1

That's awesome. So whats your roster like: do you have a girl every day of the week?
/r/seduction15/06/15 05:01 AM
1

I too ride on that feeling. Thanks for this post, it's always great to see someone going through the same transformation as me! Might I ask, how old are you and where do you practice daygame? It's quite hard finding a high-volume environment for my friends and I to practice where I live.
/r/seduction15/06/15 03:06 AM
4

I love that but unfortunately it is not in my local (Asian) culture to appreciate it. What works best is cocky exaggeration bullshitt type humor. But I'm stoic so I one ways the two have a hard time blending well (currently finding the perfect balance)
/r/TheRedPill13/06/15 12:57 AM
1

Yeah. I already have one or two people that I absolutely trust (and to a certain extent the Internet cuz of anonymity). But when I can't trust girls, I get too paranoid to have a relationship with them cuz they may cheat on me anytime etc etc
/r/askTRP11/06/15 06:23 AM
1

I know myself well enough to tell that I am not insecure with my own self (I know what I am capable of doing and I work everyday to reach my potential). I'm a natural leader and I have never been associated with "insecure" or "needy" in my life, but rather "dominant" and "confident/cocky" by my peers. You have one thing right though. I am insecure in that I don't trust people easily. This makes it so I don't open up to other people, that I won't trust my close friend even to just go on my phone,…
/r/askTRP11/06/15 04:45 AM
1

I found one, but in reading TRP I fucked that relationship up out of paranoia and overreaction. But I've learnt my lesson. Thing is, I don't trust a lot of people easily, and as a countermeasure I shut people out. I want to give more people a chance but I'm not sure how to open myself up while also bearing the risk of being hurt/vulnerable (I will re-read Models' chapter on vulnerability, but I think mine stems from an even deeper level). I want to spread affection/love but at the same time I do…
/r/askTRP11/06/15 04:45 AM
1

Already read those books. I don't think I'm necessarily insecure with my own self (I know what I am capable of doing and I work everyday to reach my potential). But rather, I am insecure in that I don't trust people easily. This makes it so I don't open up to other people, that I won't trust my close friend even to just go on my phone, etc. This basically makes it so that there's less of a leeway for things I tolerate because, as you said, I get defensive -- and this stems from a lack of trust o…
/r/askTRP11/06/15 04:43 AM
1

So basically, lower your expectations, and let whatever happen happen as long as you stay grounded and congruent with your own identity. The dog analogy works really well. Yes, I do love my dog still even when she shits on my bed (I get angry and punish her but in the end I love her).
/r/askTRP11/06/15 04:38 AM
1

Nah perhaps you missed the context, but I was always aloof int eh relationship. She needed more security but instead I just ignored her calls like 3 days in a row even when she was completely blindly in love with me (I was busy). So when I showed more emotion (in an outcome independent way) she sorta bought that and wanted the relationship again. Which I denied.
/r/askTRP10/06/15 01:31 AM
1

The problem was that my SMV was too high and I was always aloof from her. She put me in auto rejection and suppressed her feeling in fear of getting hurt That's why I offered a little emotion.
/r/askTRP10/06/15 12:46 AM
1

Right, so what's the appeal of LTRs if the affection just dwindles down.
/r/askTRP09/06/15 04:06 PM
1

Yes. I realize I'll be giving up frame to her, but the reason I failed this was because of "autorejection". She would invest 70% into the relationship whereas I only invest 30% (I didn't even pay for her meals and mostly used her for sex). I showed a fellow TRP friend my chat conversation and this was his diagnosis. If this was a Captain/First Mate relationship, I'd be like 80% and she's 20%. I could provide some more context if you wish. Perhaps letting her feel like she's a bit more in control…
/r/askTRP09/06/15 03:22 PM
1

Yes. I realize I'll be giving up frame to her, but the reason I failed this was because of "autorejection". She would invest 70% into the relationship whereas I only invest 30% (I didn't even pay for her meals and mostly used her for sex). I showed a fellow TRP friend my chat conversation and this was his diagnosis. If this was a Captain/First Mate relationship, I'd be like 80% and she's 20%. I could provide some more context if you wish. Perhaps letting her feel like she's a bit more in control…
/r/askTRP09/06/15 03:22 PM
1

Tell me more. I'm assuming you're talking about Tinder
/r/TheRedPill09/06/15 10:55 AM
2

What about an alpha in an Asian country? Is there still an appeal.
/r/TheRedPill09/06/15 03:28 AM
6

Awesome tip. What other tricks do you have under your sleeve?
/r/TheRedPill09/06/15 01:54 AM
10

Know what's interesting? I was on my friends Tinder. He was beta and was asking her hobbies, and found out she was into dancing. So I typed "how about a lap dance ;)" for him, and she never responded. I'm wondering if being too sexually aggressive doesnt work in Asia, or if it's because of that sudden change in beta talk to alpha talk that made her stop responding.
/r/TheRedPill09/06/15 01:47 AM
1

I know this, yes, so how should I play the game even though the rules are different?
/r/seduction09/06/15 01:38 AM
1

I'm Asian.
/r/seduction07/06/15 02:07 AM
1

Hong Kong
/r/seduction06/06/15 03:11 PM
4

If a chick isn't adult enough to be able to deal with being uncomfortable, get rid of her. As a nineteen year old guy dating mostly younger women, this is simply something I have to deal with in the near future. Girls usually get really uncomfortable if I don't text her everyday, if I don't hang out or fuck her every week, etc. She feels like I don't exist and that I could just disappear any moment. Comforting her doesn't really work, and it takes quite a lot of effort to get her back in the moo…
/r/TheRedPill06/06/15 05:06 AM
1

What do you do after the opener though. It's easy to get a number but how do you express sexual interest without shocking her.
/r/seduction06/06/15 05:00 AM
1

I think I'm better at day game than night game (although I am far from perfect in both). I don't understand the appeal of night game, although it's something I'm actively working on. I value having a nice deep conversation, and generally pull off the mysterious/bad-boy persona quite well. In a nightclub though this is harder to convey because everything is so superficial and it's all about the vibe/fun. Bantering/conversations are also hard to pull off in the nightclub.
/r/seduction06/06/15 05:00 AM
2

Quite a lot here in Asia!
/r/askTRP06/06/15 03:14 AM
2

I had a plate that did that for me for an hour. Lol. She was so attracted to me back then, but then shit crumbled. Nothing lasts forever
/r/askTRP06/06/15 03:13 AM
1

I don't get law 31. Can you explain
/r/askTRP06/06/15 12:40 AM
1

Very true. I took another approach this time and just had a proper conversation with her. Said I miss doing "coupley-things" with her. I guess she needed some comfort cuz I had too much dread for her beforehand.
/r/askTRP05/06/15 03:28 PM
1

I think you might be onto something. Would appreciate if you can elaborate on You need to base your desire for her on your own actions. It's quite an abstract concept for me to grasp, perhaps a few examples could help. Sometimes I just don't feel in the mood, and expect her to do the work (i.e. entertain me) or something. Also, thanks for the final reminder. Yes I'm young as fuck (I'm 19), plenty of women to fuck and this is merely one.
/r/askTRP05/06/15 03:27 PM
3

Yeah I think I worked things out with her today. I basically said "I miss the coupley-things that we do like baking together". At some point I noticed that she tried to control the frame by saying something stupid like "don't call me woman. treat me with respect", which I responded with "I'll call you whatever I want woman. you're my woman", after which she was like "mmm I like that". That complete 180˚ lmfao. In the future mirror interest and disinterest. If she's giving you all kinds of intere…
/r/askTRP05/06/15 03:22 PM
1

Where should I look. It's quite hard but I'll put in the work.
/r/askTRP05/06/15 01:52 PM
1

Yeah. That's the rational thing to do. I had a talk with her (was wondering if this was the right decision in hindsight): Her: "I've been tired recently. Don't really feel it" (she had exams/essays, though at the same time she has time for her "friends") Me: "Honestly, I don't feel it either" Her: "Is this the part where you suggest a break up" Me: "The way I see it, if this was a plant, it stopped growing a month ago" Her: "It's because we both stop trying" Me: "Yeah" Her: "I don't want to give…
/r/askTRP05/06/15 11:34 AM
1

That's a good answer, but what should I do instead. If he's dominating the entire convo it'd be pretty loser of me to just sit there and watch it happen, myself doing nothing...
/r/TheRedPill04/06/15 11:28 AM
1

If it's at a party and the other men there have tight game, how do you proceed? It's hard talking to a group of girls or just one girl when they're constantly distracted by a guy that's more talkative or has stronger game than you, for instance
/r/TheRedPill04/06/15 01:12 AM
1

Thanks. If the sex is starfishy and I'm not into it, how do I stop. Do I just pack my things and leave (her place)? Or should I just put my clothes back on and do something else? She would inevitably ask what's wrong, how do I respond to that?
/r/askTRP03/06/15 10:39 PM
1

What if I'm just not feeling it on that day?
/r/askTRP03/06/15 01:05 AM
1

I'm confused. I don't see the difference?
/r/askTRP03/06/15 01:04 AM
1

She's low libido I think. But okay. It's my duty to fulfill her sexual needs, I get that, even though she's the gatekeeper of sex. But on the other hand, what if I'm not getting my needs fulfilled (like commitment needs), even though I'm the gatekeeper of commitment.
/r/askTRP02/06/15 08:00 AM
2

I don't pay for anything though, haha. So fuck a girl, even when you're not feeling it, because it's your duty?
/r/askTRP02/06/15 07:38 AM
2

Yeah. That was overthinking on my part. Lesson learned. What if I genuinely didn't feel like having sex or doing anything? But just wanted to chill at her place
/r/askTRP02/06/15 05:39 AM
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I think it's to train her to want it and work for it. Clearly I did it wrong today. I was trying to withhold touching and sex from her and only use it to reward her if she does something I like. Cuz j feel like I'm always the one doing all the work when it comes to initiating sex in the relationship, and I heard that it's much better to make her work for it. Sex is a prize and I reward it. In the end I didn't.
/r/askTRP02/06/15 04:30 AM
1

Haha thanks. But it's true. I've sorta fallen into the trap/cycle of slacking off for a few days. Was I happy? No. Did I need it? No. Did I deserve it? No. Have I accomplished anything? Not particularly. It just felt empty. Almost like I spent four days dreaming (I was after all taking a bunch of naps and eating a lot and watching movies and videos). I was vicariously experiencing the drama/struggles/passions of game characters, movie characters, and TV dramas and porn. And those feelings don't …
/r/TheRedPill01/06/15 03:42 PM
1

Doesn't plastic surgery cost just as much? Anyway the main point is that you should focus on the things you CAN change instead of those you can't.
/r/askTRP01/06/15 03:25 AM
0

To be fair, you can take HGH to grow taller too.
/r/askTRP01/06/15 03:10 AM
3

Well, I don't think 25% is a lot. It works for me. And I'm still making consistent progress in all areas of my life everyday. I'll heed your advice though, as I slacked off quite a lot since summer holidays has started and it made me realise that entertainment (TV shows) just aren't as gratifying as they used to be pre-TRP haha. It sounds almost fucked up but I'd rather be studying or pursuing my goals than vicariously watch other people pursue theirs.
/r/TheRedPill01/06/15 03:07 AM
2

Amen to that. Thanks for making this post! :)
/r/askTRP01/06/15 03:02 AM
2

While I agree, I also think there's a point where every man should be able to suppress some of their emotions. Emotions are fine, it's what makes us human, but if you're investing more than the girl there's a problem. Always adhere to the 2/3 rule. My concern is if someone new followed, or rather misinterpreted, your advice without grasping the full picture of TRP, he may just do things just because he FEELS like it, just because he WANTS to.
/r/askTRP31/05/15 04:14 PM
1

Yeah, I agree with you, it all has to begin with a strong foundation of the thoughts you cultivate. Because your thoughts lead to decisions, your decisions to actions, and your actions lead to results! I think what sometimes is left unanswered is how much do you relax, and what do you do in your "relax time". For me, I'm a nineteen year old student and I'd say that whenever school is on, 75% of my time awake is spent on something productive (gym, studying, reading on pickup, socializing and putt…
/r/TheRedPill31/05/15 03:46 PM
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While your advice may apply to some people, it probably won't to some. For example, a true beta will probably be like "but I want to tell her how much I love/care for her! I want to hangout with her every moment of my life, so maybe I should just TELL HER and DO IT!". That would be disastrous now wouldn't it.
/r/askTRP31/05/15 03:43 PM
1

Is there a reason you say this? That proficiency in day game transcends over to nightgame or online/tinder game? Also, any starter links/resources you'd recommend. I've been roaming around /r/seduction but some TRPers here think it isn't that useful. I'm wondering what other sources would be worth checking out!
/r/askTRP31/05/15 03:41 PM
1

i thought Monk Mode was a time where in solitude, you focus on your goals. If improving your game is one of your goals, then yeah, "sex and partying" would be fair game, no?
/r/askTRP31/05/15 03:11 PM
1

Indeed. I've kinda learnt to enjoy the grind. Whenever I don't, I fall into a cycle of laziness and become depressed. In what ways do you actively improve/raise your SMV? Aside from the obvious (lifting, style/fashion, etc)
/r/TheRedPill31/05/15 02:59 PM
2

Apologies, but what's p2p? I'm tried googling it but I don't think the results were relevant.
/r/TheRedPill31/05/15 02:57 PM
2

Thing is, a tragedy that most men fall into this category of being too selective have no concept of how the sexual market works. You raise an interesting idea how this is relatively recent, and I concur. Being one of the highly selective ones (and I still am, if not more so), I recognize that a big reason contemporary males are selective is because of porn. Porn gives you more choice. You get sexual relief without a lot of consequences. The benefits (instant gratification) outweighs the costs (j…
/r/TheRedPill31/05/15 02:55 PM
0

Yeah, indeed! Any solutions to this? I'm also not good at talking about myself because every time I talk about a story it sounds like a humblebrag. Seriously. All my stories are about me hustling for an achievement, having sex with a hot girl in somewhere frisky, reaching a goal, how happy I was when I climbed over an obstacle, how hard it was for me to get over someone's death, etc. They all sound like humblebrags which is why I try not talk about myself too much -- my friends usually resent me…
/r/TheRedPill31/05/15 11:15 AM
1

Do update us on how it goes. I think sometimes I make this mistake as well. Basically I just get lazy and selfish and cbf to please the girl... which sets me up for failure in the long run.
/r/seduction31/05/15 06:52 AM
9

I've been reading a bit about game and while I think my Inner Game is solid, my Outer Game needs work. I know I'm an interesting person (at least compared to most of the plebs in my university that only study, have little to no social life, and don't hit the gym, play a sport, and spend most of the time gaming). But I have trouble showing it. It's like having a really good product but a shitty marketing campaign. I don't mean this to be a brag in any way, but I do want to know if other people ha…
/r/TheRedPill31/05/15 06:44 AM
1

Yeah I do this, but at the same time I just get bored and can't really get INTO the conversation. I guess I'm quite easily distracted. I'm the type of person that can't really read a book page to page, but rather skip to the important bits. How do I let go of this mentality and TAKE MY TIME? and be PATIENT? and be focused on the PRESENT?
/r/askTRP31/05/15 06:39 AM
1

How do I do this?
/r/askTRP31/05/15 02:43 AM
1

You misinterpret me. I ask because, I'm not sure. Perhaps this is a more appropriate question: I see no difference from sigma VS MGTOW. Are they essentially the same thing?
/r/askTRP30/05/15 04:38 PM
1

Thanks. This makes so much sense. I should come from the mindset of a giver, a god almost, that radiates value instead of keeping all the high-value to myself. That's how I see it at least, to have an aura of positivity, happiness, and fun radiating out of you. Because I think my "Outer Game" is the one that needs the most work, I'm adopting the following mindset: (i) Act and become genuinely interested/fascinated/focused by the other person, like a child to a story/fairytale (ii) Offer value to…
/r/askTRP30/05/15 03:11 PM
1

it does. Thanks for the breakdown!
/r/askTRP30/05/15 03:06 PM
1

Thanks. This is some practical advice instead of the other hate comments that I'm getting (that aren't even solving/helping the problem). I guess it helps that you've been through this as well -- I didn't realize how "exclusive" this problem was (frankly I thought everyone has it). Most peoples conversations are pretty fucking uninteresting. You don't have to try and be interesting to the average social schmuck. Just need to give them value in social situations. Any practical solutions to do thi…
/r/askTRP30/05/15 02:36 PM
1

Jesus Christ, I'm not. I'm making this post to seek a solution -- I want to talk to more people, but it's almost like I don't give them a chance because after a five minute small talk I get bored. Capice?
/r/askTRP30/05/15 02:35 PM
1

How do I do this? I value my time and my commitment -- it is how I get shit done. How do I become more lenient without becoming a pushover? How do I give more people a chance?
/r/askTRP30/05/15 02:30 PM
1

Yeah, like I said, I acknowledge it is a useful skill, hence I made this post to seek ways in which I can improve on this. Any solutions?
/r/askTRP30/05/15 02:30 PM
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I'm not insecure -- I know I could strike up a conversation and have the social skills to talk to people I'm genuinely interested in. Like you said, I realise I won't get far in life like this -- hence I'm seeking advice. Basically I have the mindset that most people are uninteresting and not worth my time (which to a certain extent is true). If I'm genuinely interested in someone he/she has my complete foxus and i could develop an actual convo -- other times I'm just bored and think "fuck, I ra…
/r/askTRP30/05/15 08:27 AM
0

Yeah but I'm talking about in situations where you'd ideally want people to like/respect you (workplace). Basically you're forced to work with these fuckers, so you might as well be foeced to fsocialise with them
/r/askTRP30/05/15 08:08 AM
4

Fuck me but I hold the same opinion. My logic is that if pedophiles (preference for younger children) is "mental illness", so should lesbian (preference for same sex).
/r/askTRP30/05/15 07:27 AM
1

I'm confused. I always interpreted AWALT as how all women are genetically programmed to respond to certain stimuli a certain way. Such as hypergamy, submission To alpha dick, etc etc.
/r/askTRP30/05/15 07:05 AM
2

Offered sex?! Story time please. Being from Asia sometimes I'm so surprised by how nonchalant and casual sex is in other countRies.
/r/askTRP30/05/15 06:50 AM
1

Also, I've tried A&A on my girl but during serious talks it rarely works. She'll keep whining and say "I'm serious" or "have a little respect".
/r/askTRP30/05/15 06:33 AM
1

So if she's being passive aggressive, or just whining (not being TOO disrespectful), I should just A&A and take it lightly. I find it difficult choosing which to use in terms of arguments. For instance, under what circumstances should I A&A, under what circumsnces should I comfort/gentle with her, under what corcumstances should I just ignore and dread her?
/r/askTRP30/05/15 06:29 AM
1

For the worst case scenario, sometimes a girl would be interested but wouldn't kiss you because her friends are around and such (PDA fear).
/r/seduction30/05/15 03:35 AM
11

I'm turned on by this. I'm nineteen and you make me want to get married -- uh oh. Jokes aside, could you describe your SO to us, and your relationship dynamic with him?
/r/TheRedPill30/05/15 03:29 AM
1

YOU CAN DO THAT?! I thought you'd at least have to go to the clinic and look at the patients face to face (at least here in Asia), and in some cases do surgery
/r/askTRP30/05/15 12:29 AM
9

That's good. As a very stoic and emotionless person, a girl gets so excited when she sees that side of me. She feels special.
/r/seduction29/05/15 02:09 PM
1

Yeah that's great. I'm good at writing but coming up with long drawn-out sentences and creating colorful imagery on-the-spot is something I definitely lack practice on (my responses are usually short and to-the-point).
/r/askTRP29/05/15 10:02 AM
1

OP is asking for advice on how to deal with this girl though, where I think seddit could be relevant. Furthermore, being able to game woman is one of the tenets of a RP male. I acknowledge the difference you described, though I still think OP should check out seddit -- as it will aid him on his journey to become a better man.
/r/askTRP29/05/15 09:59 AM
1

It's an uphill battle to try and make her responsible with rational discourse, she is not a man. Whenever she throws a drama and all my take-it-easy solutions don't work (listen to her, comfort her, A&A, etc), this is when I give her a "lecture". Basically I breakdown into short bullet points what specifically in her behavior I disapprove/disagree with (e.g. it's not cool when you compare me with the [beta] guys your friends are dating. Unlike them, my time does not come cheap), and then follow …
/r/askTRP29/05/15 09:57 AM
1

Why a Devil's plaything though? As a workaholic myself (I fall into a cycle of clinical depression if I'm not working for more than a couple of days), I kinda like this quote!
/r/askTRP29/05/15 09:43 AM
1

Ah, I think this is what's happening with my girl. For the past two months she's been making drama everytime I don't give her as much commitment as she wants (frankly no time because of exams). I argued with her in some cases (frankly it was a waste of time to do so when she's clouded by her emotions), but always held frame. She always apologizes afterwards (although in some cases she has that childish "I did nothing wrong" tone). But recently it's gotten better and she's been more understanding…
/r/askTRP29/05/15 09:42 AM
2

I'm quite confused and would love an explanation. My girl usually throws drama at me (usually becAuse I'm busy and don't respond to her texts, and we don't get to meet as often as she wants, and because she misses me all the time and doesn't get enough attention). I usually respond to this by telling her to talk and I'll listen, comforting her, then if she continues will tell her straight up "you don't talk to me like that" and explain to her that she's overthinking and I won't tolerate her bs. …
/r/askTRP29/05/15 03:53 AM
1

I don't understand the "Idle hands are a Devils plaything" quote, mind explaining? I too find it difficult to give off a fun and dominant vibe at parties. I don't like talking over people and in Loud environments. I'm more of a sit down and have a convo kinda guy.
/r/askTRP29/05/15 03:49 AM
1

How long does it take to get jacked. I've been at it for eighteen months and I've went from fat to fit. Now I wanna look like motherucking Thor but my lifts are stalling.
/r/askTRP29/05/15 03:45 AM
1

What about in the long term. My girl always throws fits every week when I don't respond to her calls/texts, or if I don't ask her out on a date because I'm busy. A&A works but after a four month relationship the same tactics get boring.
/r/askTRP29/05/15 03:44 AM
1

Why derm
/r/askTRP29/05/15 03:42 AM
1

I think most responses her are taking it too seriously. She's clearly reading and flirting. I'll say "cuz I'm the most awesome guy you're ever gonna meet". Cocky and funny.
/r/askTRP29/05/15 03:39 AM
1

I interpret this as "do it for the sake of doing it". For practice, to integrate it into your personality. Outcome independent. This is good because I too find it hard to tap into my sexual side when I simply don't find the girl attractive. Instead I should do it from the mindset of "I'm a sexual guy, it's my personality, deal with it".
/r/askTRP29/05/15 03:37 AM
2

Adhere to the 2/3 rule. For me, it's mostly 3/7. I rarely call or text her, unless it's logistics, or she's being flirty and I'm rewarding her. You should spend less time on your phone and more time in the real world -- lifting weights, studying, approaching/escalating with REAL girls.
/r/askTRP29/05/15 03:32 AM
1

Any reason?
/r/askTRP29/05/15 03:26 AM
1

That's genius. Simple but so applicable and versatile! Do that with full eye contact and I'm already getting a hardon. Any more gold you got hidden there, brother?
/r/askTRP29/05/15 01:56 AM
2

Plausible deniability man. A girl doesn't want to negotiate sex. It just "sort of happens". You're responsible for making that magic happen! READ THE SIDEBAR AND r/SEDUCTION IM SERIOUS.
/r/askTRP29/05/15 01:41 AM
3

Soon hitting five months. It's bumpy. The root problem is that I'm busy and selfish (which is true), and she doesn't get enough time and commitment from me. Whenever she doesn't meet me for like three day she would lash out at me, ignore me, be passive aggressive, or whine to get my attention. I still keep her because she's close to a fucking unicorn. I swear she works 70% of the time in the relarionship when all I do is provide my humor, validation and charisma ( I rarely even pay for her)
/r/askTRP27/05/15 07:06 AM
3

Do enlighten me. How often does she throw you fits and shit
/r/askTRP27/05/15 07:04 AM
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My girlfriend and I started off like this. But now she keeps starting drama because I don't text her enough or date her enough, since I spend a lot of time with my friends, at the gym, or studying.
/r/TheRedPill27/05/15 04:09 AM
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Is there a right time to use comfort game? Sometimes I don't know when. Whenever she says she misses me and loves me and is scared of losing me, that part should be obvious (use comfort). But what if she's whining and being passive aggressive about not meeting me often enough, that I don't respond to her texts. E.g. "Fine. Be that way" or "im just a normal girl who wants to spend time with my boyfriend? Is that so much to ask for?!" This usually happens through texts by the way. I'm not sure wha…
/r/askTRP25/05/15 05:22 AM
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Yeah. That's what I thought too. It's hard to find things that are worth my time (I'm very MGTOW in that regard), and I think that stems from ME, not necessarily other people. Thanks. I'll work on opening up.
/r/askTRP25/05/15 12:18 AM
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Yeah. That's something I struggled with too. I guess I'm still young, but one of the goals I want in life is to be popular with people. I find that I don't necessarily have to fake interest, but rather exaggerate my interest to overcompensate for my stoicism... it helps make me a more lively and fun person to talk to rather than being a stoic oak all the time. And I find that when I actually do this, I do genuinely become more interested (at least in that moment). I think I read somewhere in 48 …
/r/askTRP24/05/15 05:30 PM
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I think in this case I am too alpha. And I think in my life in general I am too alpha. I've been told that I am out of most girls' league, that I'm unapproachable and intimidating, that I'm selfish and keep to myself. I think I see better results if I go the other route with the mentality of "giving more people a chance, pretend to be SO FUCKING INTERESTED in their petty lives, let more people into my life", etc. instead of what I usually do which is ignore people that don't benefit me, be very …
/r/askTRP24/05/15 05:18 PM
2

I think so, yes. This is exacerbated when I dread-gamed her into thinking I am desired by a lot of women in my school, and told her I was staying over at a female friend's place to study in the afternoon. (this was my mistake). But good idea. Let her talk about it to show ou care.
/r/askTRP24/05/15 05:01 PM
3

In that case I should be doing everything right. What I do basically is be completely emotionless whenever SHE'S exhibiting negative emotions (i.e. anger, frustration, jealousy, "not in the mood to talk"). I reply matter-of-fact and nonchalant and say "okay, talk to you another time". And whenever she's positive (i.e. "I miss you" "I love you" "Let's hangout") I reciprocate 2 out of 3 times. I feel like she fears losing me too much -- SO much to the point that she gets jealous, overly sensitive …
/r/askTRP24/05/15 04:51 PM
2

What should young guys in their early 20s or high school do in the meantime? I'm 19, and for me, I think focusing on being the most awesome man (lifting, dressing well, academics/career, etc) is #1. Girls and LTRs should be seen as a hobby/side dish. The moment it stops enhancing your life (costs > benefit) you ditch it and move on.
/r/askTRP24/05/15 04:46 PM
5

"Look at what she does, not what she says". Yeah, I know. Sometimes it's hard to look at it objectively with emotion out of the picture. She does many non-sexual things for me, she spends more money on me than me on her (I rarely treat her to meals). In terms of the amount of tangible resources we put on the table, I'd say she commits at least 70%, whereas I only commit my time and attention. Hell, she even works logistically to meet me (travels all the way and cancels plans). I think it's clear…
/r/askTRP24/05/15 04:36 PM
1

I mean clubbing in general. So basically all I have to do is approach a girl, kino a bit, and say let's go outside. Mostly physical and body language, minimal talking/conversing? Hell, I don't even need to tell funny jokes or charm them with my wit? Is it really that easy (I guess I'll find out).
/r/TheRedPill22/05/15 07:47 AM
1

This is good, but what if it's in the nightclub or party setting for a college student. Everytime I go out expecting to have an intellectual conversation at a fucking party is unrealistic. In these parties, the energy you emanate is more important. So what do you talk abouy
/r/TheRedPill22/05/15 06:04 AM
2

Ooh, please tell me more. Robert Greene's Mastery and 48 Laws is currently on my list. I'll check that book out if its' something that resonates with what I want to achieve! Thanks!
/r/askTRP21/05/15 11:29 AM
2

Maybe I'm just a workaholic, but I find that I have to be doing something productive all the time or I feel guilty/stressed. I actually ENJOY hitting the gym and studying, fucking my plates, etc. Sure, I enjoy video games once in a while, but after each gaming session I realize I feel empty and unfulfilled. It doesn't satisfy or gratify me as much as being productive does. I buy into the idea of opportunity cost a lot. Why fucking play candy crush when you could be reading a book or something th…
/r/askTRP21/05/15 11:27 AM
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The thing is, how can it be this easy? And if it's this easy, why the fuck are there mindless trouts in my class that have zero drive/ambition to do anything. Why is it that there are guys that treat themselves with games and junk food and have no will to change that -- why do they treat themselves like that?!! I really don't get it. I used to be depressed (clinically) but now I just don't understand how people could live that way in the first place. It's so fucking sad and pathetic. It's becaus…
/r/askTRP21/05/15 11:24 AM
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Piggybacking on what he said, REMEMBER THAT THERE IS ONLY ONE OF YOU. You are fucking unique. Seriously. I want you to look at your own hands, move them around, holy shit right?! Holy fucking shit. Your mind DID that, and your mind is capable of doing whatever the fuck you want (within reason). You are fucking unique. There will never be the same molecular composition identical to you. Literally never (to do so, time must be infinite). Nobody is like you. You are a fucking special snowflake desp…
/r/seduction21/05/15 11:18 AM
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I have a texting policy that I refined for myself and my women. They may not be pleased 100% of the time but in the end the only person you can satisfy is yourself, and I think it is the most efficient way. Your texts must fulfill one of the following criteria (i) logistics (ii) flirty/fun. Absolutely no conversations, always eject after 15 minutes of continuous texting. Keep texting short and minimal. And finally, text whenever you want -- don't play stupid games like wait for 1 hour to text, b…
/r/seduction21/05/15 11:13 AM
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That's insane. I guess I'm really blessed to be from a first world country and a pretty middle class family. I can pursue whatever goals I want and have the resources to do so, I just need to put in the time energy and focus. Sometimes I feel like procrastinating and making excuses is something that's a luxury I can't afford.
/r/askTRP21/05/15 05:25 AM
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I understand that, so basically, with regards to "charm", the correct strategy would be to enjoy it and to take advantage of it, but to only commit as much as you want to (for me, that means no marriage or LTR)? Thanks. I could understand how some guys may fall in the trap of overcomitting and how this advice would be more applicable to them.
/r/TheRedPill20/05/15 06:13 AM
2

I still don't quite grasp the concept and specifically how it applies to my daily life. My understanding of charm is that it's a good thing. It's a trait that your "unicorn" should have. It's a trait that makes a girl LTR-worthy and stands out from your other plates. It's a trait that proves that the girl cares about you on a deeper and insightful level that she purchases/crafts gifts that are specific to you (e.g. A plate made me a dreamcatcher when I moved to another apartment as a housewarmin…
/r/TheRedPill20/05/15 02:06 AM
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What ecaclty is charm, and what indicators or examples are there.
/r/TheRedPill20/05/15 12:10 AM
1

Yeah I intend to do that Her background which I have no reason to doubt is that she's been with four guys, fucked two of them and another one (not boyfriend). Last time we had sex I negged that after four months she still can't get me to cum (probably not a good idea to discourage sex). She was cocky and said that the problem isn't her because she made every other guy cum, etc etc. She also expects me to initiate everytime and think she's entitled to my attention (which I rarely give). I also to…
/r/askTRP17/05/15 11:02 AM
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For me, being fun is the thing I need to work on most. My inner game is relatively solid (IDGAF in general), but because IDGAF about anything I don't find a lot of people interesting. How should I be fun, while also talking less
/r/askTRP17/05/15 07:02 AM
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In that case should I ever reject sex from a woman? What if I'm tired and am not turned on enough? I intend to do it in a teasing kinda way, almost as if I'm playing hard to get. I want to get her to qualify herself and invest more in the sex instead of me doing all the initiation all the time (granted she gave an hour blowjob and I didn't cum so she does work -- when she's in the mood)
/r/askTRP17/05/15 06:40 AM
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I've done most of that but I guess after four months she gets used to it? I'll heighten it up a bit tho, there are some that I haven't tried.
/r/askTRP15/05/15 06:32 PM
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I said something along the lines of this -- "I came here, I thought we'd be having fun, but it seems like you're too tired today so I'll leave and maybe come back another time". But yeah, she still didn't tie sex together. lol.
/r/askTRP15/05/15 06:08 PM
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Yeah. I know that's the point. I love teasing girls. I get a huge rush when they're blushing and playing with their hair -- and I stare at her with a knowing look that I'm making a flood between her legs. It's one of the feelings I live for. Anyway, SGM is definitely something I'll read. Hair trick -- yeah it happens. I did it in the beginning but slowly she kept saying yellow (safeword), and every time, after sex, she would make a note about how much hair I tore off her head and landed on the b…
/r/askTRP15/05/15 06:07 PM
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I've actually done this before and it kinda worked. I told her, well I came to your house expecting to have fun, but 'm leaving in twenty minutes if all were doing is talking". I proceeded to tickle her then this lead to fingering her and fucking (even though ten minutes ago she said were not having sex). Sucks that her place is the only place we get to fuck. Kinda lose some frame because of that
/r/askTRP15/05/15 11:48 AM
1

What if she just says " not todAy I'm not in the mood"
/r/askTRP15/05/15 07:05 AM
1

What if she gives you drama and says shit like "wow so you're only using me for sex?". I can imagine this happening if I were to act all butthurt if she didn't suck my dick and left her house without saying another word. It seems beta?
/r/askTRP15/05/15 07:04 AM
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Well, I'm not there yet, but I'm omw (med school, hitting the gym, approaching girls to improve game). That's all I can do in the meantime and it's fun and rewarding! As for jealously, yeah she's definitely jealous. I say I hangout with a female friend and she gets jealous. She either cries and worries, or she lashes out at me. The former I'll comfort and reassure her, the latter I'll soft dread her and potentially ignore her. I think I'm handling it quite well though I have much to learn. I've …
/r/askTRP15/05/15 04:49 AM
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Still confused. Maybe you can correct my way of thinking, cuz to me, this is what I see: A girl buys me free shit, is clingy and wants more of my attention, tries always to win my commitment by coming all the way logistically to meet me, cooking for me, 95% she's the one that texts me first (everyday) and asks when I'm free to hangout next. I see these as indicators of interest and wanting to win my commitment and attention. But she refuses sex and blowjob from me when she's not in the mood/tire…
/r/askTRP15/05/15 02:20 AM
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It seems like I'm doing all the work then... While she can just lay there and get fucked. How do I make her work for it
/r/askTRP15/05/15 12:48 AM
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How do I make her understand this? Should I just say "if we're not having sex, that's fine, I won't be coming to your house again"
/r/askTRP15/05/15 12:46 AM
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Okay I got it. I've read the four pillars of SGM before and have integrated it to the bedroom. Made her cum (but because of my ejaculation problem, I didn't). The hair pulling thing is something I did, but she told me she has fragile hair and everytime I do it she says "ouch, yellow!" (Safeword for hurting). Are there other ways I can tease the shit out of her without resistance? You're right, she is not sexually attracted to me enough. It's confusing to me because 70-80% of the time she'd be ea…
/r/askTRP15/05/15 12:43 AM
1

I see what you mean. I just don't understand why she would do all these random favors for me if she didn't find me sexually attractive? If you explain that it'd make more sense because I feel like I'm getting mixed signals (she wants my commitment and works hard for it, sometimes she's eager to fuck, other times she's cold and distant and tired)
/r/askTRP15/05/15 12:33 AM
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Yeah I'm pretty sure I'm not a beta provided here. Rest assured. I don't pay for dates, I barely reply to her texts unless I'm horny and want her to do me a favor, or to schedule a meet up. If anything, she's the one investing in the relationship while I just use her for sex and favors. Which is why when she rejects sex it almost feels like I'm wasting my time going to her place (cuz we do nothing else)
/r/askTRP14/05/15 04:12 PM
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Ok. I understand. The dominating things (being dominant even outside the bedroom) is something I'm already doing. I will cut the pity sex beta shit immediately -- I noticed it felt off as well and I've learnt from my mistake. One thing though, you mention teasing her to the point where she begs me to be fucked. How do I do this? Currently I just escalate after making out, touching her boobs, etc. im the one initiating. how do I escalate while at the same time NOT be the one initiating, it doesn'…
/r/askTRP14/05/15 04:08 PM
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Should I tell her straight up that "if you want my exclusive commitment, then it's the least expectation for you to put out" or something like that? Like I said, I don't want her to feel pressured sucking me off (would much rather she was enthusiastic about it). Power should be subtle, and not overbearing.
/r/askTRP14/05/15 03:58 PM
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She bitches about it every time I soft next her (which I often do simply because I'm busy and she's clingy) Like I said its a logistical problem. I'm pretty sure I'd fuck her every time we hung out if we could. How do you suggest I fix the logistical problem? It's harder fucking in public
/r/askTRP14/05/15 03:56 PM
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Not a lot. Of the four months we've dated, less than ten times. This is mainly a logistical issue (we both live with our parents, her house is the only place we get to fuck). So perhaps this is a more relevant statistic: success rate is 80% whenever we are alone and I escalate. She's receptive to my other sexual advances -- I play with her boobs in public (she tells me to stop but I just tickle her). Perhaps this is not an issue and I'm overthinking this, but it does suck a bit when I'm giving m…
/r/askTRP14/05/15 01:04 PM
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Definitely lowers my frame. Also lowers my success rate with women (I know some girls that were eager to fuck on the first date, only problem is my inability to find a place). I'll admit it's quite frustrating. In a way, I'm forced to have to commit to the girl first (frame loss), go on multiple dates with her (thank god I never pay for them), before I get invited to her place to fuck. Pretty much means she is the gatekeeper of sex. Logistically it is very unfavorable but I applied for a dorm ne…
/r/askTRP14/05/15 12:53 PM
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/r/askTRP14/05/15 12:42 PM
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Ideally, yes. That would allow me to control the frame SO MUCH BETTER (i.e. she's working logistically to come meet me in the first place). Problem is I live with my parents.
/r/askTRP14/05/15 12:35 PM
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Yeah I see where you're coming from. Problem is I'm in a relationship with this girl. If I were to say this, that would mean I'm threatening to cheat on her or break up with her every single time we don't have sex. That seems like an overexaggeration and seems butthurt when her reason was "not in the mood" or "another time". Am I just making excuses for her or should I really be that unforgiving and demanding? I just don't see how this is the best way to go about it. Let's say I make and carry t…
/r/askTRP14/05/15 12:35 PM
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Thanks. You say she's not sexually attracted to me. This may be true in the short-term, but in the grand scheme of things, she does many non-sexual favors for me (bakes cookies, buys me expensive gifts, and works logistically to meet me) to win my commitment. So I know that she is attracted to me on some level, just not at the moment. And we both know better that women are impulsive creatures, which leads me to my question: How do I get her to be sexually attracted to me, especially in the short…
/r/askTRP14/05/15 12:29 PM
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Since I have established this upfront, and maintained this attitude throughout the relationship, she will never be too tired or not in the mood. How do I establish this. I've told her once before that "if you don't empty my balls I'll find someone who does", but I find that being direct and upfront about this is ineffective -- it has to be subtle. I think exactly like you do, but if I were to say that, it would be counterproductive (i.e. it'd lead to her whining and thinking I'm using her for se…
/r/askTRP14/05/15 12:17 PM
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Love your comments, would really want it if you check out my post. I dislike being rejected for sex and I think it has to do with the way I'm conditioning my girlfriend and the way I go about it. http://www.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/35xp32/conditioning_a_girlfriend_to_crave_and_initiate/
/r/askTRP14/05/15 12:04 PM
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I do this, but sometimes I get rejected because she is "not in the mood" or "too tired". Sometimes this is true, but how do I go about doing this afterwards? Do I keep escalating and push through? Or do I nonchalantly go away and withdraw my attention to her. This is talking about LTRs and a girl I've fucked multiple times.
/r/askTRP14/05/15 11:59 AM
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What footwork? And what if she's tired/not in the mood?
/r/askTRP14/05/15 11:57 AM
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Thats not the problem. I can't actually ejaculate.
/r/askTRP14/05/15 11:45 AM
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Same question, would love to hear
/r/TheRedPill13/05/15 11:23 PM
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Gotcha. In other words, if she's disrespecting me I soft dread her. If she's whining and complaining, I'll let her, agree and amplify and comfort her.
/r/TheRedPill13/05/15 08:04 AM
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Sounds like a simple but fulfilling life, and I don't mean that in a bad way at all. I suppose you've settled down in terms of lifestyle (I'm guessing you're anywhere from late 20s to 30s), with your career sorted and all that. I find that most people have a ton of distractions in their lives (instant gratification) and never see their goals or dreams fulfilled, they're the ones that go on social media stalking girls instead of actually interacting with them. And to rectify that from my own life…
/r/TheRedPill12/05/15 05:06 PM
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How would one go about adding this stimuli? I would try this experiment with my girl but I would need to really simplify how to go about this. The simpler a conditioning, the more effective.
/r/TheRedPill12/05/15 04:48 PM
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How do you manage to slay pussy regularly yet live a proper life? I mean, what's your daily life like? I can't imagine how time consuming it must be to manage all your plates (and I mean even with the most minimal commitment), while also being at work, hitting the gym, and having other hobbies and time for friends, etc. As always, your FRs never fail to impress and inspire me. Relatively new here and relatively young (I'm 19), but have much to learn.
/r/TheRedPill12/05/15 03:07 PM
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On the same boat. I find it hard to connect with a lot of people because of this. I work on my game and I can enjoy bantering and talking about superficial shit but after a while it gets boring.
/r/TheRedPill12/05/15 03:02 PM
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Fair enough. I do this too, but sometimes I will add a few female friends for logistical reason (i.e. we've known each other for a year, might as well). Worth mentioning that my Facebook profile is pretty much dead. I intend to update it with better photos (to help with Tinder and sarging purposes). I feel like in the real world, if I make a good impression on a girl and she has a modicum of interest in me, she'll stalk me on Facebook. And when she does and my profile is un-updated, I feel like …
/r/TheRedPill12/05/15 08:59 AM
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Ah, in that case I don't trust anyone. I have a very Machiavellianist view of the world so honestly I don't trust anyone completely haha.
/r/askTRP12/05/15 08:53 AM
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Thanks. I'll do this for 10 days no matter what, then see where I go from there. Also, is sex allowed during NoFap?
/r/askTRP12/05/15 08:53 AM
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Multiple positions. I usually do doggy but she doesn't know how to bend over (she tries to but she says "it doesn't feel comfortable for her"), I still insist. I jerk off once a day, now just once every 3-4 days. I'm gonna stop jacking off for 10 days and have sex again, see what happens. I touch myself through my pants if I ever get too horny and scratch my balls, but no jerk.
/r/askTRP12/05/15 08:48 AM
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Yeah I'll commit to ten days then see what happens
/r/askTRP11/05/15 11:01 PM
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Why was it happening for you?
/r/askTRP11/05/15 11:00 PM
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I'll do it for ten days.
/r/askTRP11/05/15 10:59 PM
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Well I get hard just fine, and never from guys.
/r/askTRP11/05/15 10:59 PM
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No
/r/askTRP11/05/15 10:58 PM
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Yeah. She is clearly in the wrong and she admits she fucked up by overreacting and breaking up with me, now she wants me back. I admit I could've done things better (given more attention), but it wasn't inherently WRONG or disrespectful as I had my reasons. I want to give her another chance but idk how to do it in a lighthearted, IDGAF way while at the same time Asserting that this is unacceptable Behaviour and she can't use breaking up as a means to get my attention.
/r/askTRP11/05/15 06:53 AM
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I have the same friend in my social group. He's understanding and is genuinely happy to see me succeed. I have strong inner game, he has strong outer game, we help each other out like Yin and Yang. He is a genuine bro and is happy whenever he sees me succeed. One point at a party when I was picking up two girls, he told his female friends some thing like "see that guy? He's my homie!" Increasing my social proof. I help him too with inner game stuff like maintaining frame. Other than girls and re…
/r/askTRP11/05/15 06:50 AM
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Reading your comment history, your advice is top notch. I'm confused though how to do this, this is not really my style. Surely there are other ways to illicit these "beta emotions" to her and comfort her that you may elaborate kn? I find in most of my relarionships I'm the sweet charming confident guy to begin with. Once I pulled the girl and gave her rough sex I pull back a bit and become more stoic and serious. At this point the girl usually feels like she works so hard to get my affection bu…
/r/askTRP11/05/15 06:35 AM
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Well if your name is correct, aside from TRP and age we have another thing in common -- med school! Would love to know how you're doing pulling plates. It's quite difficult (but not impossible) to pull plates here in Asia because sex is taboo and sex is shamed (for both girls and guys). Logistically it's also difficult cuz most people my age live with parents
/r/askTRP11/05/15 06:26 AM
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It's sad but the reality is there's always more girls. Oneitis is a bummer but it's a reminder that there will be other women just as good If not better that you haven't experienced yet. I mostly see women as a means to an end. As long as she satisfies my needs and is worthy of me, I will allow her into my life and let her feed into my masculine energy. the moment she no longer does I will move on, with minimal emotional withdrawal.
/r/askTRP11/05/15 06:22 AM
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Perhaps it's not an LTR, but more of a girlfriend thing. I don't expect to have a future with her or get married (fuck no), I just enjoy her company in the mean time. I'm in med school and she's a liberal arts student. So she has a shit ton of free time and I don't. She spends most of her free time thinking about me (evident in the gifts she buys me, the food she cooks for me, her eagerness to come all the way over to my place, etc). If she ever drags me down, it's only because I let her (which …
/r/askTRP11/05/15 06:19 AM
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I respect the effort she put into me and want to give her a second chance. Like you said, I should've rewarded or reciprocated her (2/3 rule). I didn't do anything wrong though, I was busy after all. She on the other hand broke up with me during exam season, and lashed out at me making a scene in public multiple times prior. She has many admirable qualities but at the same time, that does not excuse her behaviour.
/r/askTRP11/05/15 06:16 AM
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How exactly? She wants a second chance. How do I go about it if I were to give it to her? I do treat her like a child
/r/askTRP11/05/15 06:14 AM
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How do I make it my frame then? She's submissive and eager to please to begin with (she sacrifices all her commitments just to come out to meet me), but she's getting a bit more hesitant in the past month cuz I forgot to reward her. I think there's potential for her to be my main plate, which Is why I intend to forgive her (because AWALT, they'll throw tantrums to get your attention)
/r/askTRP11/05/15 06:13 AM
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Do elaborate. I assumed that in Asia most people are more conservative when it comes to sex. I can't imagine a lot of AF Chinese men for instance, and sex is generally quite taboo. I wished there was also a guide on TRP in how to get a girl to cheat on her boyfriends
/r/askTRP11/05/15 06:11 AM
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Ah understandable. But would you not say that breaking up with me before an exam was a huge breach of respect?! What would you say is more severe than that (other than cheating), and would require you to PUNISH as you said. Maybe it's my anger talking, but I was a bit pissed and affected when she had the indecency to break up with me a few days before my exams. And now she "wants be back". I don't want to feel like a used toy, but at the same time, I think she deserves a second chance. I just wa…
/r/askTRP10/05/15 11:31 PM
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I'm just nineteen. Lol.
/r/askTRP10/05/15 10:40 PM
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Thanks this is solid. Problem is, wouldn't I have given her what she wanted then? She broke up with me, essentially as a shit test, to see if I'll chase after her. I didn't. If I talked like that to her, wouldn't she feel like it's ok to dump me again if she were to ever want a whiff of my masculinity, if she wanted daddy's attention?! I'm quite confused. I don't understand why I would reward her with validation "i like you" and "good girl" when I thought she should be punished??
/r/askTRP10/05/15 10:39 PM
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How do I do so from a position of authority. On one hand she needs to know this behaviour is not tolerable, and she has disrespected me a great deal by breaking up with me during finals. On the other I should be nknchalant and pretend it didn't affect me? edit: why do you say she's a rp female. She's very submissive and tries hard to be the best girlfriend, but I always attributed that to because I'm awesome and all women would jump at the chance to please me haha.
/r/askTRP10/05/15 10:37 PM
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Problem is it was exam season. I didn't have the time for her, and she could at least be a bit more understanding. I do intend to step it up once they're over. I think it's just unreasonable to not give me my time and space when I have finals, and to break up with me during then.
/r/askTRP10/05/15 10:32 PM
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That's why I'm giving her a second chance. I don't think what she did was reasonable. she did disrespect me. It was exam season, and she broke up with me a few days before my exams, she knew how much they meant to me. Logistically I was unable to meet or text her because I was so busy, she could be more understanding. She would also throw these emotional tantrums every now and then saying "why don't you give me a hug" etc etc.
/r/askTRP10/05/15 10:28 PM
1

Ah gotcha. Let her bring it up and just act casual other times right? I didn't go radio silence since the break up. She apologized through text and wants a second chance, I told her (seriously) I'll have to hear it in person. Then we flirted back and forth through text when she wished me good luck and how she was gonna make it up for me by cooking for me etc.
/r/TheRedPill10/05/15 03:49 PM
1

What is it that you need, or think that I should need? genuinely interested to hear. I'm fine right now because the relationship is as low commitment as it can be. Best bang for the buck basically (I do nothing -- and I mean nothing cuz even when we argue I don't respond lol, in return I get free sex gifts favors etc).
/r/TheRedPill10/05/15 03:43 PM
1

Fair enough. I don't think it's time wasted, necessarily. I don't do much relationship maintenance (other than reply to her text and maybe meet for a quick lunch), but she's a useful tool when shopping, upgrading my fashion, etc efc
/r/askTRP10/05/15 03:40 PM
1

Chill it. I was being sarcastic too.
/r/TheRedPill10/05/15 03:38 PM
-1

Fuck yes and get vanilla sex and no blowjobs cuz it's too slutty for the rest of my life while she fucks Chad . Yeah no thanks. I am the thundercock.
/r/TheRedPill10/05/15 03:32 PM
1

Thanks this is the reply I was looking for. The way I see it is I have two options: Fatherly: Be strict, firm, serious. Demand that she knows what she fucked up, that it's not cool to do that when I'm having exams, and that I won't tolerate this. DGAF: Be nonchalant, playful and be sarcastic. Act like it didn't affect me at all, that it wasn't a big deal (even though it is?) Fuck around and when she asks for a second chance I'll say "baby I'll see, give me time". I'm quite confused. How do I ass…
/r/TheRedPill10/05/15 03:29 PM
0

But AWALT. All girls will throw drama (it's in their nature). I don't see avoiding the problem will solve it in the long term. I'm pretty stoic and don't invest much in the relationship I'd say (IDGAF if she cheats on me honestly as long as my needs are satisfied). So I'm not THAT moved emotionally. It's just disrespectful to break up with someone in a sensitive time like exams and that was a breach of respect.
/r/TheRedPill10/05/15 03:20 PM
1

If she did it again, I'll just ignore and walk away. I admit I may have oneitis for this one, so I will scout some plates on the side.
/r/askTRP10/05/15 03:10 PM
1

good call. I intend to keep her for now because she's fun, convenient and she deserves to be (she works hard for me, treats me like a king, and I enjoy it). I'll scout for new plates on the side in the meantime, though.
/r/askTRP10/05/15 03:08 PM
2

But AWALT. Even with another girl she too would throw tantrums to get my attention. I thought I passed this shit test by not chasing, I remained stoic and ignored her when she broke up with me.
/r/TheRedPill10/05/15 03:05 PM
0

That's what I intend to do. So I still have a girl to fuck if I ever "fall back".
/r/TheRedPill10/05/15 03:03 PM
2

I'm already focusing on myself. She is merely there to enhance my life (sexual release, buys me free shit, does me favors, etc). I still flirt with other girls because it's who I am, if anything i say she enhances my life and I just take her and the relationship casual and easy (when she's working to get me to commit more) EDIT: also worth mentioning that I'm not in America, I'm in Asia. So sex is not only tabboo, but it's unconventional to have sex before a relationship. It's even more unconven…
/r/askTRP10/05/15 03:02 PM
1

Good to see someone of the same age here. Do you mind elaborating? I'm relatively new to TRP so any insight would be appreciated!
/r/askTRP10/05/15 03:00 PM
1

Yeah. That's a good and optimistic way to put it. But still. In this case, would you say I passed her shit test (not chasing her when she broke up)? Regardless, I can't let her get off Scott-free or think that it's okay to break up with me again whenever she wants a whiff of my manhood.
/r/TheRedPill10/05/15 02:58 PM
1

Technically I consider my "girlfriends" somewhere between plates and LTRs. I'm too young for LTRs but it's a bit more of a commitment than a plate.
/r/askTRP10/05/15 02:57 PM
1

I really don't follow comfort tests. Could you give me some practical examples and how to respond to them?
/r/TheRedPill09/05/15 03:57 AM
1

I did all those things and feel like I'm that lively child I was 10 years ago... before the Internet, technology or social media even had this big of a role in our daily lives. It genuinely is how you live. It's how you were designed to live from a biological standpoint -- not through the technology we're so accustomed to.
/r/TheRedPill09/05/15 03:51 AM
1

That was me two years ago. It's really tough getting someone out of that "hole" of instant gratification. Seriously, it's REALLY tough -- it's much like teaching the blind how to see. Anybody who has been there will be able to relate. But we all have to make that first step. Hitting the gym for the first time. Approaching a girl for the first time. But once you do, when you look back at how much you've grown as a person just from restraining from being on the computer all the time, you'll realiz…
/r/TheRedPill09/05/15 03:48 AM
1

Skirt chasing -- how is that a bad thing? That's still working towards self-improvement, assuming being a charismatic person is one of your goals.
/r/TheRedPill09/05/15 03:41 AM
2

What do you mean his philosophy, would love to read it too!
/r/TheRedPill09/05/15 03:37 AM
9

Fuck. This was a good read. Thanks OP. To expand, a Red Piller's only source of dopamine should be from earned gratification. That is, headfucking a girl because you picked her up and she has earned your manjuice, deadlifting three plates after months of grinding, acing a test after months of studying -- these should be a RPers only source of dopamine, to be rewarded only after hard work and discipline. This is how nature was intended. This is how years of evolutionary has brought us. This is ho…
/r/TheRedPill09/05/15 03:27 AM
0

For me this is spot on. I kinda keep really stern and shit, always on the look out for shit tests, always asserting my frame, that my relationships almost seen too serious and not fun. I need to be more fun, to bring that side of me out, and only unleash stoicism when my frame is strongly challenged. I'd say 80/20 of fun/stoicism when it comes to relationships.
/r/TheRedPill09/05/15 02:40 AM
1

I still don't really get the idea of comfort tests, and when they should be used
/r/TheRedPill08/05/15 11:54 PM
2

It always feels unnatural when I do that, like I'm doing FOR her.
/r/TheRedPill08/05/15 05:58 PM
1

I'm already in med school. Yeah she's volatile, but most girls my age are like that unfortunately.
/r/TheRedPill08/05/15 03:49 PM
1

I also love creating things, even as a child. I'm also in the medical school! Any study tips to survive for a kenisthenic and visual learner much like yourself?
/r/TheRedPill08/05/15 01:20 PM
1

I don't think I have it necessarily "luckier" than any of you, but I never started off beta. I grew up quite spoiled, and had always had a strong sense of direction in life. This allows me to make decisions that have a certain framework and actions that have a purpose. That and I had a sister younger than me that I disciplined even until today. But when I was younger, I was abusive, selfish, and very one track minded. I was the bully of the year in my primary school (I'd make fun of classmates),…
/r/TheRedPill08/05/15 01:09 PM
2

On day six. Going strong. Getting easier cuz I can't even get hard from exam stress lol.
/r/askTRP08/05/15 05:06 AM
1

Ugh. Ye I always tend to forget this when arguments happen. Next time I'll just stare down at her and ask if she's done. I usually pull my phone out cuz shes wasting my time.
/r/askTRP07/05/15 11:57 PM
1

More to do with her emotions getting out of control. Yeah. She'll be weary from now on if I decide to give her a chance.
/r/askTRP07/05/15 11:55 PM
1

Definitely. How do I go about this? I expect her to figure this out herself... That said, I didn't and won't let her ruin my academic progress. Thankfully I have the mental discipline to actually work instead of thinking about her.
/r/askTRP07/05/15 04:27 PM
1

For me, keeping frame comes natural when I'm serious. And I'm serious when I have shit to do and am stressed in a sense. I find that I need to go the other extreme. Take her less seriously, just around and fuck around, and to just have fun with women.
/r/askTRP07/05/15 04:15 PM
1

For me I just bask in the glory that I do have a huge penis. Might be false but who really cares about size? Act like you have a huge penis and enjoy her attempts to satiate her ego!
/r/TheRedPill07/05/15 04:09 PM
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That's a bit of a dick move threatening her. I think that's unacceptable without her consent, am I the only one?
/r/TheRedPill07/05/15 04:07 PM
3

Telling her she's back in the game wouldn't be necessary in my opinion, although I'm very new to this so others may confirm. reason: she hasn't earned anything yet. She fucked up, she apologized, but that's not enough until she shows through her actions. Until she amends her sins and makes up for it, she hasn't earned her place yet.
/r/askTRP07/05/15 03:56 PM
1

Unfortunately I live with my parents and the only place I can fuck is at hers. I plan to just invite myself over and tell her to cook for me, and let her know a day before I go.
/r/askTRP07/05/15 03:52 PM
2

I'll ignore her for now, mostly because I like the way things are right now (leaving her hanging with the ball in my court) and it allows me to focus on my studies better instead of always having an unfinished convo with her.
/r/askTRP07/05/15 03:51 PM
1

I want to know this too, especially with LTRs This is the main reason she broke up with me. I ignore her texts for a few days sometimes, and I reschedule dates and cancel on some because I'm pretty busy (I'm working on this, because I do want to be a more reliable and organised man). I'm also too alpha in terms of setting my boundaries and taking everything very seriously. I read somewhere to treat women as children -- easy when we're having fun but I forget when it comes to arguments. My first …
/r/askTRP07/05/15 03:48 PM
3

Sucks that I live with my parents. Pretty sure she'd drop everything to suck me off if I didn't. The only place we can fuck is her place. It does seem a bit beta that I have to go all the way to her place to get my dick wet, but unfortunately there's no other way. I just plan to invite myself over and tell her to cook something for me to remind her who's in charge. She hasn't seen me for a week she'll probably make sure she's on her best behaviour. But that's enough mental masturbation, guess we…
/r/askTRP07/05/15 03:27 PM
0

Doubtful. We're from an Asian conservative society and I don't think she's gotten over me yet. But yeah I've considered that and I'm willing to take the gamble by ignoring her for a week. Frankly I got over her faster than I imagined (one day), and am enjoying myself in the meantime (with studying lol).
/r/askTRP07/05/15 03:26 PM
2

Yeah I'll definitely make her work. Any suggestions on reasonable amends, and any ways to subtly encourage her to do so without just demanding? I feel like a true man wouldn't need to demand this, the girl will immediately bend over and be rammed to make up for her misconduct. Also keep in mind she's only eighteen (I'm nineteen). She's bought and made me gifts and shit before, so I'm expecting something to that level or greater. I'm also not sure how to go about asking for favors. I don't really…
/r/askTRP07/05/15 03:25 PM
1

I'm sure she's calmed down now. She even admits, rereading our convo last night, that she went out of hand. She apologiZes and says she won't do it again (although I've heard that too many times) I intend to get back together with her, I'm just ignoring her for three reasons. 1. Exams are important. 2. She needs to be punished and understand the severity of her disrespect (especially since I've given her many chances and 3. Build attraction from being away. I'm taking the gamble that she fucks a…
/r/askTRP07/05/15 03:21 PM
3

Still on the lookout for my second plate haha. Also, I can't cum during sex, so I wanna fix that first.
/r/askTRP07/05/15 03:18 PM
1

How should I do that? Guilt is not holding me back (I think it's fair for me To expect sex as the bare minimum and to expect her to work harder if she wants my commitment again), I just don't know the best way to go about it.
/r/askTRP07/05/15 03:16 PM
2

Clear case of oneitis. Got over her today. She might come up in my thoughts again, it's inevitable, but that too will fade away in time.
/r/askTRP07/05/15 03:14 PM
1

Thanks. Yeah that's some solid advice I have trouble relaxing (sometimes). I always think, for instance, when I'm with a plate or friend, that I'd rather be doing something else (hitting the gym, studying, etc)... How shall I fix this? I don't think it's a bad thing to be driven, but at the same time I want to be able to focus on the moment.
/r/TheRedPill05/05/15 03:32 AM
1

Damn seven is quite a lot to handle. How old are you and where do you shop for these ladies?
/r/TheRedPill05/05/15 03:29 AM
1

People think I'm really stoic, and I am on the outside -- not a lot of things interest me so I usually don't care when ppl gossip or talk about meaningless shit, but once they talk about something I'm passionate about I'm all in. I consider myself quite stoic too, I only encounter this problem with deadlines when time is pushing against me. It's improved significantly since two years ago and I make a conscious effort to be emotionless when shit needs to get done!
/r/TheRedPill05/05/15 03:27 AM
1

Would you say that you only use these girls for mutual sex and fun, and zero commitments?
/r/TheRedPill04/05/15 01:25 PM
1

I'm horrible with plans. My goals are always too ambitious and overly realistic. I also find setting time goals and following them hard, when it's easier to focus and have a sense of purpose with task-goals.
/r/TheRedPill04/05/15 12:28 PM
1

I guess. Whatever. I try to limit my texts short and I didn't really reply anymore since then. Soft nexted her. I could fuck her tomorrow but I'm too busy preparing for finals
/r/askTRP04/05/15 11:50 AM
2

Haha awesome to find someone in med too! With regards to holding off, don't fall into the trap of using your title as an excuse to hold off self improvement! Would love some study methods and daily scheduling time management advice from a senior. I myself am struggling with second year >_<
/r/TheRedPill04/05/15 11:48 AM
1

Why is this loneliness a good thing. Sometimes I love felling lonely (more time to work on myself), but extended periods, like in preparation for exams, theres this side of me that almost makes me beg for attention (I suppress that side of me but sometimes it slips and I get needy, I'd call my fiends to see how they're doing cuz I guess I miss them)
/r/TheRedPill04/05/15 11:45 AM
1

I'm very ambitious. I have friends for each goal I have and I surround myself with them and look to them for advice (gym, PUA, med, etc) I haven't found someone that shares the same worldview as I do (except for one close friend), and I don't suppose 90% of the world thinks like we do, or are as self-critical and self-aware as I consider myself. But that's okay. I accepted that. It's just hard to find someone to connect to... I really relate to the Dark Triad thing. I trust nobody and I find it …
/r/TheRedPill04/05/15 11:43 AM
1

That's very high standards. It's good that you can pull chicks that satisfy all your requirements. I set my bar more reasonably because 1. Most girls my age (19) are unfamiliar with how "adult dating" works, 2. I treat them less seriously knowing I will never take a LTR seriously and 3. I get to fuck a larger pool of chicks. To each their own, though.
/r/TheRedPill04/05/15 11:40 AM
1

How do you suggest to do this I've been studying everyday at least three to four hours since two months ago (for finals). I'd like to keep this momentum going and even heighten it a bit.
/r/TheRedPill04/05/15 11:38 AM
1

Perhaps I miswrote, no, I'm not stressed over missing out of television, after two months of conditioning myself to not watch them they don't matter as much to me anymore. You're right in that I haven't earned anything yet. I consider myself a stoic in that I am able to appreciate my current situation and live life by the moment -- but whenever I am pressured to do something (i.e. a time-sensitive task like an exam that could potentially change my life one way or another), I'd get stressed if I'…
/r/TheRedPill04/05/15 02:42 AM
1

That's true. Sometimes I just get this rush of a mix of obsession, anger, inadequate, and pure determination. I'm not sure if it's a bad thing actually. Maybe the key is to label it as a good thing and let it naturally flow in me through my actions/work, instead of resisting it!
/r/TheRedPill04/05/15 02:36 AM
1

Does pushing yourself to work make you feel miserable. I find myself asking things like "what's the point if pouring myself in work makes me more miserable in the end", especially when you don't see results. I realize it's a mindset problem, and try to see things positively, but sometimes you just lose discipline.
/r/TheRedPill04/05/15 02:22 AM
1

I'm nineteen too, really helps put things in perspective when you realise how young you are and how many girls you'll fuck in your lifetime. Would love some solid advice from someone more experienced!
/r/TheRedPill03/05/15 11:19 PM
5

You said it yourself. You hate prudes. If she's not giving you what you want move on. Simple.
/r/askTRP03/05/15 10:50 PM
2

Already did. Will only use her for sex and other favors now.
/r/askTRP03/05/15 10:49 PM
1

Never been single even one day? How did that work, don't you need a break, or do you always have backups and shit.
/r/askTRP03/05/15 03:26 PM
2

You raise an interesting question cuz I don't feel alone when I say i search for an ideal partner that can understand and support my life goals. I have one close friend who does this, and my beloved sister, they're the two closest people I can say that pushes me to do my best. I do think it's important to find the people that boost you up and associate yourself with them.
/r/askTRP03/05/15 03:22 PM
4

Even if she does, always keep it less than 2/3.
/r/askTRP03/05/15 03:19 PM
7

You can't negotiate sex. Tell her to meet you or come over to the sex location. Escalate and take it from there. If she resists again then she's 1. not turned on enough by you (you should work on escalating) 2. Not comfortable enough (make sure you're somewhere private and discrete). You can turn the most cultured and traditional innocent girls to the biggest sluts once you're in control of these two factors. Let me know how it goes brother!
/r/askTRP03/05/15 03:18 PM
3

Indeed so. Doesn't matter tho I decided recently texting less is the best decision I made to save time and avoid arguments. I'm not going back haha and will keep this protocol with all people from now on. Lesson learned.
/r/askTRP03/05/15 03:16 PM
1

Perhaps you're right and that'd be the right call. But if you're wrong then this would be a huge overreaction. I'm not really that insecure with the relationship. She may have cheated she may have not, as long as I get sex for minimal commitment and drama (which is the way things are now) I'd say she's worth keeping. I have no obligation or attachment to her.
/r/askTRP03/05/15 03:14 PM
1

Meh, something I'll have to tolerate. I'm nineteen so the immaturity of some girls in my age range is expected, can't have everything now can I?
/r/askTRP03/05/15 03:12 PM
2

Alright. I'll do nofap as long as I can. In the meantime, I'll wait two weeks before having sex with my plate.
/r/TheRedPill03/05/15 03:11 PM
2

Easier said than done but I'm too young to be dealing with a fucking desensitised penis. How long would you said I should go nofap for? And sex is allowed I presume (after two weeks of desensitisation)
/r/TheRedPill03/05/15 09:43 AM
1

Fair enough. It was still indeed a relationship but the only thing I contributed/spent was like one or two meals, and my time/commitment and my sex. She did shit tons of things and worked for me logistically and everything else (she paid for shit ton of gifts). I'm too young for "LTRs" so she's pretty much as far as I'd go with a girl (low commitment on my part, but still having her work for me). She knows this (I told her), but that doesn't stop her from working for me because she thinks she ca…
/r/askTRP03/05/15 09:42 AM
1

She said I sound mad when I have her really short responses to texts today (was simply busy, didn't really care if she cheats on me or not cuz I always treated her as a plate) She asked if I was mad because of yesterday. I Didn't answer her directly but basically replied with "you have friends that cheat and a guy that told you to cheat. You don't make the best life decisions do you?"
/r/askTRP03/05/15 09:38 AM
40

Don't do anything. She'll find you again. This time YOU make damn sure she "feels like it" If she doesn't then she's not worth your time.
/r/askTRP03/05/15 09:31 AM
0

What's ho facts
/r/askTRP02/05/15 11:19 PM
1

I've came to accept that a small dose of procrastination (1-2hours a day) is essential to keep your sanity in check. It's inevitable. I used to beat myself up over it (anger phase) and tried to force myself to be perfect but it wasn't possible and had a diminishing returns. I've accepted it now. That said, I'll make time for dating, but probably just two or three hours over the weekend.
/r/askTRP02/05/15 11:18 PM
0

When I masturbate I do it dry and fast. That fine?
/r/TheRedPill02/05/15 11:16 PM
0

I didn't say that. If she's a plate I don't see the problem. I still get laid and I can find new pussy
/r/askTRP02/05/15 11:14 PM
0

Cuz girls are crazy. I thought this either really happened, or she's trying to get me jealous. I only see those two outcomes. She makes a lot of effort for me so it'd be asinine of me to cut things off with her, but I definitely demoted her to a plate.
/r/askTRP02/05/15 11:13 PM
1

Why
/r/askTRP02/05/15 11:10 PM
0

That's not possible cuz it was only through the phone, and he's all the way across the world
/r/askTRP02/05/15 11:10 PM
1

Ah. That makes sense. Yeah I'll fuck other girls as soon as I'm done with finals.
/r/askTRP02/05/15 11:09 PM
1

That's a possibility. She's already a plate. I'll make my own decisions but I'll give her the benefit of a doubt. It doesn't matter because I still get what I want (sex) with minimal commitment.
/r/askTRP02/05/15 11:08 PM
1

I'll have no way of knowing whether she does or does not though. Or does that not matter
/r/askTRP02/05/15 11:07 PM
2

I'm nineteen, got my first plate three months ago. And within these three months having sex, I never came, not once. In fact, sex feels almost painful for my penis, it gets sore the next day, and it doesn't even feel that good. I only get off and enjoy it for the power of dominating the slut in the bedroom but it doesn't feel good to me -- not once have I came. Perhaps masturbation is the issue (I masturbate once or more a day with my non-dominant hand). I don't watch porn, but I usually finish …
/r/TheRedPill02/05/15 01:05 PM
-1

Not sure how you can be so certain. Even if she did, my plan is still gonna be the same. I intend to just use her for sex anyway (demoted), no breakups or anything. She tries hard to win my commitment with gifts and favors, so this may be her attempt to make me jealous and get me into her frame (which I passed).
/r/askTRP02/05/15 12:52 PM
2

Not sure how you can be so certain. I don't really take her seriously in the first place, so as long as I get what I want (sex, validation, and her doing me favors), I'll string her along with minimal commitment.
/r/askTRP02/05/15 12:50 PM
1

I could replace her, and she knows this. She's probably a 5-6 in the SMV, and I'm much higher than her. Not sure what you mean by lazy, but for the past month I kinda applied unintentional dread to her -- talked to her way less, much less investment, because my focus was and is on exams.
/r/askTRP02/05/15 12:50 PM
1

How do you think she lost respect for me? I don't see it. If I buy into her story, her friend told her to cheat on me. She says no and it makes her ache, and she thought I deserved to know so she told me. If anything I see that as a high form of respect (if she's telling the truth), and if not then she's trying to make me jealous, which didn't work.
/r/askTRP02/05/15 12:49 PM
0

Done that already, especially after she tried to "break up" with me then immediately regretted it. That said, she does a lot of sweet non-sexual favors to get me to commit. Hell she spent three fucking hours making a dreamcatcher for me, and she bakes me cookies and always comes over (1 hour away from her house) to meet me. She even buys me gifts. She says things like I love you and I miss you and I've rarely even reciprocated lol. Most of this subreddit might be to apply "next" but honestly she…
/r/askTRP02/05/15 12:47 PM
1

I've done this with a girl, she qualified herself by trying to tell me how many guys he's been with (to get me to talk about how many girls I've been with). Responded with "... but I don't have any interest in your story" with a smirk on my face. She kept qualifying herself later on. Would fuck her but never dip your pen in company ink... sigh
/r/seduction01/05/15 12:13 PM
1

Treating women like dogs is one of the best mindsets I have. Obviously they deserve a bit more respect (although like all, respect has to be earned), but essentially it's the same conditioning. Reward for good behavior, dread for lack thereof. Either way, I'm a very busy guy. And when I don't give attention to my girls, much like my dog, they would soon become accustomed to it. In the end, the dog gets desensitized by my lack of attention and would find more pleasure hanging out with another own…
/r/askTRP01/05/15 12:08 PM
1

I disagree. I made the same mistake when I was in the anger phase of TRP. I realised I was overreacting in the end and it became a mess. Here's what I suggest you to do. It's been a month, OP, if you still think it's a bad idea being with her, cut things off. But make sure it's not an emotional decision. To do this, I reclmmend having a few plates as backup before you break things off.
/r/askTRP01/05/15 03:35 AM
1

For me, I don't think the two are mutually exclusive. You can still be a MGTOW (you put your goals in life before anything else), but still get laid etc and have the capacity to game women
/r/askTRP01/05/15 03:20 AM
1

It's hard to find those girls in Asia, and especially so when most of the people in my school are Christians and believe in finding the right guy to settle down with, sex after marriage; that whole deal.
/r/askTRP01/05/15 03:16 AM
1

Is there any such thing as demanding too much sex? I'm a horny guy and honestly I'd fuck her 80% of the time we meet up if the logistics allow. I'm guessing I'll just make the move on her and fuck her regardless, unless she says no and offers a valid reason ( not in the mood, on her period, etc ).
/r/askTRP29/04/15 11:04 AM
1

Thanks for your reply. There is a phenomenon in TRP of over correction. I really relate to this. A month ago I overreacted to something that was rather a minor issue, which honestly stemmed from the insecurities I had about women/relationships after reading TRP (I may be in the Anger phase). My frame slipped a bit because of that, and she lost respect for me momentarily -- but nothing a good and rough fuck session didn't earn back. LTR is indeed the ultimate test of frame. I feel like I'm learni…
/r/askTRP27/04/15 02:36 PM
2

Once again, thanks for your insightful reply. Would really love to have a deeper conversation with you sometime in the future if we bump pathes again on this subreddit haha! Just reading your few pointers, I could already recall some reference experiences of this happening to me: A funny one is that my first casual "gift" to her was a tea bag because she introduced me to Chai Tea. A fucking tea bag. You know what she did with it? She waited for a whole week before drinking it saying it's "too pr…
/r/askTRP27/04/15 02:27 PM
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Well, with all due respect, I still don't buy that. Perhaps you could explain why to help me better understand. Her power play was "breaking up" with me. She initially wanted to do it through text. I replied "[Platename], let's meet up now. Ditch meeting your friends, I think we should talk". When we met up, yes, I indeed apologized, but it was in a very emotionless way. I told her "This is what I did. I admit that it was wrong, but here's my reason for doing so. I apologize." She asked what I w…
/r/askTRP26/04/15 01:58 PM
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Yes! That's the response I was looking for. But I'm a busy guy, and I realized that ever since I stopped having CONVERSATIONS through text, we have way less arguments, I waste way less time (and get to focus on self-improvement and shit), and our relationship is just much happier this way. Now, I use the protocol: "I do what I want. I'll find her when I want to (i.e. bored, horny, lonely), and just leave her be the rest of the time. I'll just do what I want and she'll have to get used to it. Mos…
/r/askTRP26/04/15 01:51 PM
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I'd say act like you did before the break up for a while. Yeah that's what I did! I made sure to frame it so that even though we're back, I'm not gonna be the guy that "tries to win her back" or "make up for what I did". Fuck that shit. I made a mistake, and I apologized and take responsibility for that, yes. But I moved past that and won't discuss it ever again. I'm the one giving her a second chance, and if she wants me to take her seriously she will have to earn it again. Thing is, you have t…
/r/askTRP26/04/15 01:47 PM
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Wow, very insightful comment. I have much to learn. Avoid anything where you're saying "I'll do better, I will put you first more, I'm sorry". Don't rush to save her from discomfort or girly anxieties (wondering where you are, where you stand, what the fuck's on your mind etc.), they're both part of what makes her love you. That's solid and practical advice. But I was wondering how the "show both AF/BB traits in a LTR" comes to play in this. I never really understood how to show both. I'm only A…
/r/askTRP26/04/15 01:40 PM
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Frankly, I was just having a moodswing at that time. I overreacted that night and said that to her. It's the first time I've said anything pessimistic. Also, I took this whole relationship way too seriously. I'm a perfectionist, and she's not perfect, and because of this I just couldn't enjoy myself with her (or anyone else for that matter). I realized, after this, that I was overreacting, that I should frame it to something positive -- I have a free hole to stick my dick into, a girl that worsh…
/r/askTRP26/04/15 01:37 PM
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Well, we're back together now and she admits that she was on her period and was overthinking. Either way, thanks for your reply. I do see the value in your ideas. I don't understand what you mean by this: You were fine, if not even stronger than before in her eyes. It's important to spoon feed her opportunities to test you, so that you can capitalize on said opportunities to pass the tests and demonstrate to her that you're the fucking man. However, as soon as she started trying to test you to s…
/r/askTRP26/04/15 01:30 PM
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I do that. I feel like she's not feeling secure, though, especially when it comes to my lack of texting/calling (I usually focus on one thing at a time. When I'm with the girl I give her my full focus. When I'm working on something, at the gym, I give THAT my full focus).
/r/TheRedPill26/04/15 01:29 PM
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I have a question, a perhaps this is more geared towards the younger demographic (I'm merely 19). I'm a busy guy, if I'm not on my phone, I'm usually studying, with friends/family, at the gym, reading a book, or my favorite -- taking a nap. I try to steer clear away from my phone and texting because I want to live my life. Being "off the grid" gives me a peace of mind much akin to my early childhood, when I would just be free to do whatever I want and being present in the moment. Because of this…
/r/TheRedPill26/04/15 02:02 AM
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I see where you're coming from, if it works for you then great! Occasionally, a girl would get really drawn into me and would want to hangout with me ALL the time, spamming me with texts such as "I miss you" etc etc. One time, I got a bit too frustrated (as I was amidst my preparation for the finals), overreacted, and punished her a bit too hard. I realized that it's much better to punish in extreme circumstances where she went out of line intentionally (i.e. cheating, harassing you in front of …
/r/askTRP26/04/15 01:39 AM
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I don't understand the point of the harassment. It's an unnecessary neg. if your schedule really was that busy you wouldn't have to keep mentioning it, and you wouldn't LET her have the power to ruin your schedule. You doing so is a choice and you should take responsibility, otherwise she'd have power over you.
/r/askTRP24/04/15 10:19 PM
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Thanks a lot. Yeah I understand the principles but I find it hard putting it in practice, I suppose it's not really in my nature to act like a beta. I'm good at acting charming and sweet and cute/puppy love, but I can never act beta because it's just never worth the trouble. Example: Girl whines that she doesn't get to see me enough because I have finals, or that I'm going to a female friend's dorm to study. I don't think I'm doing anything wrong, so I always tell her straight up that she's over…
/r/TheRedPill24/04/15 01:27 PM
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Yeah, I agree with all your advice, but when you're approaching a deadline sometimes some of this is hard to accept and swallow... Optimism is always great and arguably essential, but sometimes reality (read: time) just hits you hard y'know.
/r/askTRP24/04/15 11:02 AM
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I remember that and am painfully aware of that. I don't let it affect me though. I'm an oak tree and she's unstable like the winds. Any examples of comfort tests. I specifically want to know how to (i) identify them and (ii) how to pass them. This is important in LTRs as I find myself never being able to give the security to the girl -- some girls are like "you always call me at the right time just when I was about to give up", and things like "I know you're really busy but I wish you can spend …
/r/TheRedPill24/04/15 11:02 AM
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Yeah, one of the best things I've learnt in adulthood -- you make your own happiness. :) That said, don't be a cunt.
/r/askTRP24/04/15 11:00 AM
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That's great. Yeah I let go of a few things just to put my mind on my finals (skipped gym sessions the whole month, I feel justified). It'll take a few days, perhaps a week, to get my arsenal of habits all built up again (waking up no snooze, gym, diet, etc etc). But it will happen.
/r/askTRP22/04/15 03:39 PM
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Interesting. I do not depend my happiness on women (I make my own), but having a woman enhances my life and happiness. I have no shame in admitting that I use women for mutual pleasure. You seem to lead a fulfilling life, would be great if you could give me some insight! Are you on monk mode, or just a MGTOW?
/r/askTRP22/04/15 03:35 PM
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Peking confused me for a bit. But yeah, I do this all the time. Unfortunately over here in Asia it's sexually oppressed, people put on creep alert really easily. Even if it's effective, they shame any sexual activity (creep, slut, etc). Nobody appreciates my sexual innuendos. But fuck them, I still make them cuz they're golden.
/r/askTRP22/04/15 03:34 PM
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That's very good, problem is I rarely follow my plan to the T. I always slack a bit. I think discipline has to do with it, but also the fact that I push myself too hard in advance (in my plans).
/r/askTRP22/04/15 03:32 PM
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Not really being worry about alpha, but just MGTOW goals. Yeah I took a break yesterday and today I feel much recharged. Unfortunately it's a bit tough especially when deadlines are approaching -- it's hard to strike a balance and I don't think I ever will haha.
/r/askTRP22/04/15 03:31 PM
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I never really understood what's a comfort test? Mind giving me a TLDR. I'm guessing it's just to be sympathetic when her emotions/concerns are reasonable
/r/TheRedPill22/04/15 03:30 PM
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Would it ever be a bad idea to be TOO indifferent? Or is stoicism always good.
/r/TheRedPill21/04/15 01:15 PM
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Loving these. As absurd as possible seems to be right up my alley. I like your second one because there's a sexual vibe to it. Sometimes I go overtly sexual and get shamed for being a pervert (I'm from Asia).
/r/askTRP21/04/15 11:52 AM
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This is great. I should try this next time a girl attempts to break up with me over something stupid, instead of going after her (yes, sounds like common sense but sometimes I "react").
/r/TheRedPill21/04/15 11:51 AM
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There has to be a balance then. Perhaps plate spinning would be good for you -- low maintenance while fulfilling your sexual needs.
/r/askTRP21/04/15 10:21 AM
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Makes a lot of sense. Though personally I feel better fapping than not. I get so horny I can't focus on studies
/r/askTRP21/04/15 09:48 AM
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For me, I believe the right answer is to find a balance. Would love to hear your side of the discussion. I think it's important to always have a woman in my life tbh, but that just fits my lifestyle.
/r/askTRP21/04/15 09:47 AM
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Sounds horrible. Wanna talk about it? Your tragedy might help brothers here avoid your circumstances.
/r/askTRP21/04/15 09:46 AM
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It's a bit of both. In one way, it makes me more of a charismatic person and improves my social charm and sexual side (WAY more easier to talk to girls when you already have a girlfriend). On the other hand maintenance of a girl can deter away from gymming, studying, etc. I enjoy my life so I can complain, I just have to work on being a work hard play hard person. To give it my all when I'm by myself, and to learn to enjoy and relax when I'm pursuing women. Balance and focus is important (for me…
/r/askTRP21/04/15 09:45 AM
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Would appreciate if you could shed light on how slurry western girls could actually be. I imagined that they'd still be ashamed or hide their slutty behaviour to prevent the label -- no? I'm not from there. You say girls will find the best BB. is this necessarily true though? As a TRP male, how do I fit in the picture? I'd say and could tell that most girls find me dominant and assertive, is this playing against me? How should my sexual strategy be different. I'll never be a BB to submit to soci…
/r/askTRP21/04/15 09:42 AM
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In that case, what would be an ideal strategy of a TRP male when the playing field emphasises on strong cultural/conservative long term values such as Asia.
/r/askTRP21/04/15 09:39 AM
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Indeed it is. But even if it's so, I assume that it's still on their biological programming to aim for getting a AF/BB (an AF that commits to them, but also exhibits BB traits like a good career and shit to appease her friends/family)?
/r/askTRP21/04/15 09:37 AM
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Ah yes. Thanks a lot, that's a really specific answer. I do find myself using a lot of practical TRP LTR advice (dread, comfort, maintenance) as well as self-improvement (lift, game, etc), but much less on the social implications and the divorce/marriage side of things.
/r/askTRP20/04/15 03:04 AM
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Those responses are so lame they're actually funny.
/r/askTRP20/04/15 03:00 AM
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Don't worry, they do it all the time. Take it as a good sign that she's the one who initiated. Respond with a joke and don't take her too seriously, schedule a date and interact with her in-person.
/r/askTRP20/04/15 03:00 AM
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I chuckled. Both at this whole situation and at your response. That said, great post OP.
/r/TheRedPill20/04/15 02:54 AM
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Lovely FR! Gratz on all your progress. I can make tingles now. I can see that in girls now. What a powerful feeling when you know you're giving tingles to a girl, just by standing near her. She swallows every word you say and you can see through that bambi eyes that she could swallow much more. This is great, but sooner or later you get used to this. Sex, like you said, is really not that big of a deal. You no longer seek the validation of females externally, but rather your own validation throu…
/r/TheRedPill20/04/15 02:40 AM
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people are rooted in selfishness. It's simply what allowed us to get where we are now I believe this too, would love it if you could expand on this a little! I have this limiting belief that sometimes I'm too selfish (I care more about my time and goals over spending it with other people, which is true). I kinda don't want to be seen that way, and personally I don't see myself that way -- I also do many favors for other people out of respect and care, but they never appreciate them. A lot of my …
/r/TheRedPill20/04/15 02:26 AM
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Fair enough. Especially since I'm young at the tender age of nineteen, I don't see myself committing fully. I'll commit to her a bit to balance things out, I do enjoy her company. I only meet her if it benefits me or if I have nothing to lose (i.e. if I'm out shopping and need a companion for advice, or if I could fuck her).
/r/askTRP19/04/15 01:00 PM
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Fair enough. I realize I can only control myself, but I think there's still a way to condition plates to behave a certain way (i.e. reward for good behavior and punish for bad) so they don't get out of line. Isn't that what dread game and comfort is used for?
/r/askTRP19/04/15 11:35 AM
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Personally, I think AWALT. It's really inevitable, and to be honest, I've kinda grown to have this amusement for the shit test they throw at me -- I get a kick in myself every time I pass them and see them react to my unreactiveness. They say things like "How can you be so cold-hearted", and "I'm your girlfriend! Give me a hug! Buy me flowers! Do this and that to show your affection for me!". I just stare them down for 5 seconds and calmly say "Stop acting like a child and I might just take you …
/r/askTRP19/04/15 09:53 AM
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Ahh.. right haha. Not sure, I guess I could've demanded an apology but I didn't really see the need (and it seems a bit needy). I instead rewarded her submitting into my frame (that she was being a whiny bitch) with affection and a kiss.
/r/askTRP19/04/15 09:02 AM
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Thanks for your thorough reply! Your responses are good, I could see myself using them. Thanks.
/r/askTRP19/04/15 08:21 AM
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She didn't really "make it up to me", other than she just got happier and was in a more flirtatious, touchy and receptive mood. Should I have expected/demanded something? I feel like, damn, this woman has finally calmed her shit down, I don't want to start any additional drama.
/r/askTRP19/04/15 08:16 AM
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Thanks for the reassurance. Everybody will be frustrated to a certain extent when someone paints your image in a way that is not congruent with the way you view yourself. I think this is one of the limiting beliefs I have: I don't want to be an asshole. And a part of me hates it when her friends perceive me as someone who I'm not (especially since they haven't met me yet). I decide to tackle this belief by treating this relationship lightly (after all, I'm still 19 years young) -- as long as I g…
/r/askTRP19/04/15 07:41 AM
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When she is behaving well, treat her well. Make her laugh, keep things fun and light. When she is not behaving well, turn ice cold but always let her know what she has to do to get back on your good side. Mind elaborating? How do I let her know what she has to do to get back to my good side? For example, if she's whining about how I'm 3-4 minutes late to the date, when I already explained why, what should I do. Yeah, I think I did pretty well. The reason I'm reflecting on this because I want to …
/r/askTRP19/04/15 07:37 AM
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Well played.
/r/askTRP19/04/15 07:34 AM
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I think I did pretty well, but this was only because I'm in a good mood! I think a part of me holding back is sometimes I feel like I'm treating her an asshole (when in actuality, I don't think I am, I give her a chance to speak, I just dont submit to her frame). It's a limiting belief I hope I could get over, as it gives me a bit of guilt, especially when she whines to her friends that I'm being an asshole, and her friends all agree (because duh). Suggestions? What do you mean by turn your back…
/r/askTRP19/04/15 04:59 AM
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That's exactly what I get called out for. Everytime she tries to argue on the phone and waste like 8 hours of my life again, I hang up before it happens. She gets even more pissed off that I hangup etc etc. It's gotten to the point that I'm numb and idc anymore. My time is valuable.
/r/TheRedPill18/04/15 11:54 PM
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Interesting. Mind elaborating on this?
/r/TheRedPill18/04/15 11:52 PM
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Why would you contact her 3 to 7 days like nothing happened. Pretty sure when you say something the first thing out of her mouth was like "WHY HAVE YOU IGNORED ME FOR 3-7 DAYS"
/r/TheRedPill18/04/15 11:52 PM
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Fair enough. I guess what I'm trying to ask is: previously, she would do everything to please me (including not painting her nails). After the breakup/argument, she's starting to stand her own ground instead of putting me first and pleasing me. I guess my question is, while it's no big deal, what does this mean. I'm pretty sure this is a shit test (she's doing something deliberately to please me, and she's no longer doing it).
/r/askTRP18/04/15 11:46 PM
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I agree with your no negativity mindset. But how do you I still dread or amused mastery all the time. I'll try this out and report back, but in theory, how would this work. (Examples would be great) Usually, I just avoid the situation when the girl is being negative or whining. I'll just hangup the call and say I don't have time for this shit. If she's making a scene outdoors and arguing, I might try to comfort her (provide some BB traits since its a LTR), but if she keeps flipping shit out I'll…
/r/askTRP18/04/15 04:14 PM
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I'm not sure how. Basically it's not just the nails I'm affected by, but the idea that she's trying to assert herself and her power to piss me off. She used to submit to me and always cleansed her nails to please me. She worshipped me. After our fight she now doesn't care as much... I guess that kinda hit my ego a bit, and makes me reconsider whether I wanna be in a relationship with someone that no longer is under my power. Hope this makes sense. On the surface it's a simple act but in time, sh…
/r/askTRP18/04/15 04:06 PM
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Wait. Isn't fighting/arguing inevitable in relationships? How would a TRP male treat these fights then
/r/askTRP18/04/15 04:04 PM
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And remember you are young...you will get a lot of pussy in your lifetime eventually when you move out and have your own place. That's why its important to work on yourself so you can achieve that independence sooner. I love this advice! Really puts things in perspective -- strips down any pussy put on the pedestal. With regards to fucking everywhere, it's hard to find a place as densely populated as where I'm from (Hong Kong). Sneaking into her bedroom is also difficult cuz we live in apartment…
/r/askTRP18/04/15 12:56 PM
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What should I do instead? Is plate spinning a better idea? Thing is I'm from an Asian country and most girls and people here are conservative
/r/askTRP18/04/15 12:52 PM
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How do I assert my expectations then. Asking for sex is a beta move, taking it seems more plausible -- but again, the problem with logistics where were hardly ever alone
/r/askTRP17/04/15 11:33 PM
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Yeah. Thanks so much for the reminder, I forgot how young I am and how much I have ahead of me to even think about anything serious! Who am I to kid? I'm still a fucking teenager! Unftunately most of the girls in my area don't think this way, so I don't have a lot of targets (I'm from an Asian country). Everyone's thinking of finding the one and settling down, despite the fact that they are virgins lol. WRT the sex, what if it's a logistical problem. It's hard to fuck, even if she wants it, cuz …
/r/askTRP17/04/15 11:31 PM
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Can you elaborate on the hard no and the continue kino bit? How do you draw the line? I agree with everything else. Solid points!
/r/askTRP17/04/15 11:28 PM
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Though this changes in an LTR right? Where she earns and works for your affection
/r/seduction17/04/15 05:08 AM
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I see. Dread should be more subtle. Like "I'm going over to her place", if she asks, I say "to study".
/r/askTRP17/04/15 04:57 AM
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Lesson learned. Yes. Examples?
/r/askTRP17/04/15 01:59 AM
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That's very true. Any examples would be great
/r/askTRP17/04/15 01:59 AM
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Indeed, that was a dick move. Will not do it again. Lesson learned.
/r/askTRP17/04/15 01:59 AM
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This is golden advice. Acknowledge your wrongdoings, but don't give any reason (qualifying yourself).
/r/askTRP17/04/15 01:58 AM
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You essentially reversed the order and made it appear to your LTR that your plan is to fuck other women, thus removing your commitment to her. This usually ends up in her sucking another dude's dick or just leaving you entirely. What do you mean by this? I told her that my friend and I had sex before we started the relationship, because I wanted to be honest.
/r/askTRP17/04/15 01:57 AM
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it's YOU that has to step up and do the work to salvage this relationship. In a sense I feel that's true. However, she's still doing favors for me and coming all the way over to my house to meet up -- whereas I don't do the same for her. I indeed fucked up. What should I do now? I intend to just instill dread and ignore her for 1-2 days. If she breaks up with me then the relationship was never meant to last, but at the very least I get my dignity back.
/r/askTRP17/04/15 01:56 AM
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Ah. So I overdid it. Next time be more subtle and vague. Got it. What if she asks questions though?
/r/askTRP16/04/15 12:52 PM
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My LTR is like this. She worships me from the ground up. Pays for a lot of things, sex on command, etc etc. But I kinda got so used to it, I would overreact in situations and demand her to be perfect -- when I should've just been happy. For instance, a few nights ago she was whining how I wasn't giving her enough attention, I kinda said "we should take a break so I can focus on my studies". She misinterpreted that as a breakup, it backfired, and I sorta had to console her, apologize, and althoug…
/r/TheRedPill16/04/15 12:44 PM
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This is very important. I overreacted when she rejected sex from me twice (one time because she wasn't comfortable in public, the other because she didn't sleep the other night). I overreacted by dreading her and threatening to break up -- this backfired in the end, and I had to apologize for what I did (I do believe I was wrong), and hence lost a bit of power/respect in the relationship.
/r/TheRedPill16/04/15 12:40 PM
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What should I do instead then. Just made things really technical/clinical and explain everything with zero emotion?
/r/askTRP15/04/15 10:49 PM
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In that case, yes, in the past I punished behavior that I simply did not like. Things like texting me too much in a day, rejecting me public sex because it made her uncomfortable, etc. Punishing these, in hindsight, seem immature. But whenever she's whining for not receiving enough attention from me, I do give her the cold shoulder and it works effectively to instill dread.
/r/askTRP15/04/15 06:52 AM
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Okay, you have a fair point. The reason it became counterproductive, in the past, from experience, is that I would find the most trivial things unattractive -- when a simple agree & amplify would've diffused the situation and passed the shit test easier (e.g. being called an "asshole" playfully, being rejected sex because she wasn't 'in the mood' like not having enough sleep, or just being overtalkative). Dreadding in these situations would be an overreaction. So in a sense, I over-dreaded and d…
/r/askTRP15/04/15 06:49 AM
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I do agree, it's affecting my progress and focus and it won't happen again. Thanks for the reminder. But in the past, I did tell her "I'm a busy man, let's save the talk for when we meet up". Which she respected. I could also see why she reacted the way she did. I told her "I was taking a break from the relationship for 7 days", and she assumed I was breaking up with her, so she wanted to do it first to avoid getting hurt.
/r/askTRP14/04/15 09:59 PM
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Not sure what this means. Elaborate, please? EDIT: Sure, she is definitely a waste of time. I assumed it was normal for girls to always want attention and to text a lot to guys, though, and I don't think she should be punished for showing affection for me.
/r/askTRP14/04/15 09:55 PM
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What if it's your fault? I admit last week I was acting like a douchebag (I've been ignoring her calls -- she sent me at least 20) and texts for like 2 days to focus on my studies. After I told her I want to take "a break of one week" from the relationship to work on myself, she spent the whole night sending me texts and shit (that I ignored because I was sleeping), until finally she broke down and said "I have no other choice, I want to break up". I do genuinely believe that I made a mistake he…
/r/askTRP14/04/15 09:48 PM
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Another thing: remove what she wants until you get what you want. You don't get bjs? She doesn't get your attention, time, and love. How do you make it clear why you're dreading her though? Sometimes in the LTR, for example, the girl might reject sex with me because "she's not in the mood". And that's fine because at times its true (after I've made her cry). But other times, when I punish her, she doesn't even know what she did wrong. I've done this multiple times and it confused the girl and sh…
/r/askTRP14/04/15 09:33 PM
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It's true. I wouldn't have realized I'd spend 8 hours. In the beginning it was only a lunch and I expected nothing more than that. But she kept hamstering that there was a problem in the relationship -- when one was resolved there would be another problem I need to solve. How would you have approached this situation. In hindsight, next time I would just be like "okay, I only have time today to deal with one problem, bye". We're back together again, so I see no point in using dread. But I will wo…
/r/askTRP14/04/15 09:29 PM
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LTR
/r/askTRP14/04/15 09:26 PM
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they actually are not. Perhaps it's because I'm not from America, I'm from Asia, and there's a strong emphasis on women to be domestic and loyal (based on parenting). Most of them are equipped with wife-skills like baking and cleaning, as well as having a good education. I think it's also why there's a stronger focus on LTRs here, and commitment before sex.
/r/askTRP13/04/15 11:04 AM
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What I do for my plates: sex, my presence and awesomeness, occasional attention (sweet messages), flirting/validation, low amount of commitment, Time and attention, reassurance/advice. What they do for me: bake cookies, cook, buy me thoughtful gifts, attention, sex, massages, favors/errands, introduce me to more girls, make me arts and crafts. Id say I'm getting the better end
/r/TheRedPill13/04/15 07:21 AM
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I think Red Pill is best exemplified in modern American culture. It shows how girls, when left to their own devices, will simply act based on their primal urges and instincts. I'm not from America, so I simply use RedPill as a means for self-improvement, and use Dread Game sparingly on my plates. Thankfully I'm from an Asian country where there are still values such as being loyal and not-being-a-used-up-slut, and the majority of girls here are rather conservative.
/r/TheRedPill13/04/15 02:21 AM
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You chose MGTOW instead of the "Red Pill Alpha" path. That's fine!
/r/TheRedPill13/04/15 01:24 AM
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MY STORY TOO. My grandfather died early so my father never really had a father figure, guesS that passed down. I realised I didn't want to be my father. Something he agrees with. That's when I realised its not his fault, but it WILL be mine if I don't make attempts to man up.
/r/askTRP11/04/15 05:28 AM
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Cuz I'm awesome. Seriously. Everyday I wake up wanting to build upon my life. Everyday I'm learning. Everyday I'm making my life more awesome. "life" itself is a work in progress, and I love it!
/r/askTRP11/04/15 05:23 AM
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Problem is idk if she cheats or not. She might be doing it behind my back. That said I have nothing to lose. I'm not beta and I don't guy her shit or invest too much on her
/r/askTRP09/04/15 11:51 PM
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I do believe I'm misinterpreting parts of TRP, and if you can pinpoint which parts that'd be great. Thanks for the advice. I do think that she is converted, though. The girl basically worships me and never argues with me, she's willing to do anything pretty much for the relationship -- which is completely different from me, because I will not compromise my life/boundaries for the relationship and could easily drop her. She's earned my commitment, sure. And I reward her with good sex and my prese…
/r/askTRP09/04/15 03:27 PM
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Yeah apparently. Apparently she "is bad at telling if a guy is interested in her or not". Whatever. I don't really buy her bullshit. But at the same time I'm not surprised because where I'm from, Tinder is actually used to meet new people and chat with them through the messenger (i.e. a lot of my friends in LTRs allow their SOs to use it because of this). Either way I'm proceeding with caution.
/r/askTRP09/04/15 03:23 PM
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Yeah I realize it's a red flag, hence I'm proceeding with caution. I spent the past day overthinking this and I realized -- it's something I can't change, that's her history, she could do whatever the fuck she wants. and I can do whatever the fuck I want. As of now she contributes enough to be worth my time (she's low maintenance and does favors for me all the time), so I'll keep her. But I'll still be on top of my game and pursue other candidates. You're going to have to adjust this attitude be…
/r/askTRP09/04/15 03:21 PM
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