Unusual problem

SmellyJelly22 · 2014-05-20T16:22:51+00:00

Look, there is nothing you can do to prevent them getting attached to you. You can't turn human emotions off.

philosarapter · 2014-05-20T19:46:39+00:00

If you've stated your intentions up front and they still agree to a second date or sex or whatever, it is then on them to handle their own emotions.

recyclablebantha · 2014-05-20T16:09:20+00:00

I don't have any trouble meeting, talking to, or getting dates with girls, however, usually after one date, I can feel a lot of attachment coming from them.

I know I could potentially sleep with them around the second date, but if I do so, they would be full blown in love and clingy.

This is a problem with your screening process, or with your assumptions. Don't know which because you haven't said anything of consequence that demonstrates how you go about any of this.

I'm always up front about my intentions and let them know im not interested in a relationship.

For the sake of argument, how do you broach that subject? And when?

How do I take it back a step so sleeping together doesn't lead to hurting her feelings/heart break.

If you're screening properly, having the Talk with them, and you're not sending mixed signals along the way, you shouldn't be having any problems. (Mixed signals would be engaging in behavior that's reserved for boyfriend/girlfriend-type interactions, like PDAs and cuddling.)

safeforw0rk · 2014-05-20T18:02:40+00:00

setting clear expectations is key to avoiding this.

c00kiecutter · 2014-05-21T00:29:22+00:00

Sleep with the right kind of girls. They will get attached also but slower :)

2014-05-20T20:03:42+00:00

Not unusual at all. I prefered to steer clear if she was in a bad situation overall emotionally. If she's just attached it's fine. If she projects hopes and wishes as a consolation over some other problems, I will refrain from it. Really depends on the situation.

2014-05-20T20:17:37+00:00

Be upfront. I have had similar issues, and from the beginning told them "listen, I'm not looking for anything serious at all". Most girls tell me they're cool with that. Of course, some girls say they're cool with it and then get clingy. At the first sign of clinginess, stop hooking up with them.

Title	Unusual problem
Author	sarcastictone
Upvotes	5
Comments	14
Date	May 20, 2014 3:18 PM UTC (12 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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