Value Statements vs. Qualifying?

ADumbMonkee · 2012-06-18T10:48:36+00:00

Very good question, I'm intrigued also. My understanding though is that a value statement is made in an we're-already-friends manner; you have no need to impress your current friends so there is no need to impress them. Assume they already know who you are, i.e.

"I go to the gym twice a week right, and when I was there last week..."

versus

"When I was at the gym last week..."

Both mean that you look after your body, one is telling, the other is implying. One is needy and validation seeking (qualifying), the other just a subtle DHV before a story (value statement). A lot of this depends on how you frame it; remember, you give zero fucks.

kingcal · 2012-06-18T09:56:51+00:00

As far as I know, a value statement is something that you offer up on your own that demonstrates that you've got something unique, interesting, etc... going on in your life. Kind of like name-dropping. "Oh yeah, I was at this club when Usher walked in," yadda yadda yadda, it paints you as someone who goes out and does fun stuff.

Qualifying is when a girl asks you a question that requires you to show how you may be better than someone else.

MARSpu · 2012-06-18T21:29:35+00:00

Qualification is a phase that comes after attraction. The reason for this is simply because if you show too much interest in someone too early, you'll probably come off as needy or someone who's looking for friends or more. This is why displaying attractive attributes about yourself should come before qualifying.

Value statements are statements that show you have value. For example, I love my life. That shows you're very secure with yourself in many ways. I play a lot of sports would be another good example; it shows you're physically active. These all show that you value yourself and what you do, and it demonstrates that values to people around you through statements.

Value statements can generally be tossed around whenever but it's good to show yourself as an attractive individual before you start taking interest in another. As explained above, backwards may make you come off as needy.

Sveske · 2012-06-18T11:37:24+00:00

Value statements i believe are the same as DHV-spiking, "my ex, who was a model, bla bla". Qualifying is about being picky, showing the girls that you don't just make out with anyone. Never heard of qualifying statements i always thought it was questions or a statement followed by a question. "Shit, i want to go to China so bad before WW3 breaks out.. Do you like travelling/adventure/seeing new places?"

Rule of thumb is: "Don't try to impress people, just be impressive".

Title	Value Statements vs. Qualifying?
Author	Trial_basis
Upvotes	9
Comments	10
Date	June 18, 2012 8:56 AM UTC (14 years ago)
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