Welp I did it, now what?

Philgob · 2018-05-13T01:35:43+00:00

Go fast.. Take action, don't be scared and be the leader.. That's my only advice. If you stay too conservative and safe she will lose interest (from my experience)

HindranceWasTaken · 2018-05-13T03:53:09+00:00

If this is your first, id say lock it down for a few months and fuck a LOT. It's very hard to practice fucking when you're trying to sleep with multiple women. But with a partner you can fuck 2-3 times per day.

If you like her, dont over think it to much, just escalate. Go from kissing to touching to stripping and beyond.

mushi5838 · 2018-05-13T03:50:17+00:00

you are already too attached if you're asking... its you're first one, there's going to be a lot more, just keep it fun, nothing~~~~ serious, tell as little as necessary, hold the frame, keep up the game and mystery

recyclablebanthas · 2018-05-13T06:35:45+00:00

1

.... finally kissed a girl, pretty happy about it. We've been on 2 dates already and she's made it pretty clear shes into me...

Sounds nice!

Don't stress this idea that you're on some sort of timer here and she'll "lose interest" if you don't do xyz right or fast enough.

This is the sort of thing that our fearful internal voices often tell us. And the ironic thing is that following that voice, often leads to her losing interest.

2

Here's the issue, ive never made it this far before and don't really know what to do.

It's helpful to have your dates planned with some sort of option for physical escalation that could comfortably go all the way to sex.

So involving your place or hers in the plan for the date, is a good idea.

Making dinner together.
Movie.
Etc.

3

How fast/slow should I go?

We can't answer this for you. We aren't her.

The truth here is that you can only really know how fast or slow to go, by paying attention to her.

If you've already kissed her, the you've gotten through the early stages of physical escalation that are honestly the most difficult.

Basically at this point, you just set the stage by making sure you end up in a place that sex can happen, and then when you kiss, pay attention.

The heat will ramp up and you just go with it. She may signal to slow down. Just back off if so, maintain whatever level you're at, then try to raise the level later.

Showing passion with some restraint can also encourage her to be the one raising the level.

4

We text/snap but I don't know at what pace I should be going at.

I'd encourage you to reserve texting and snapping for a few times a day and get your business done the rest of the time.

You shouldn't be setting aside life to text anyone all the time.

5

I'm not really sure what I want from this girl, im just having fun at the moment.... Im worried im gonna get too attached to her.

You need to figure this out NOW. If you only want casual, the time to do that is soon. Like hours after the first time you have sex.

Otherwise, the typical progression will lead to a relationship.

How much about me do I want to tell her?

I mean, don't lie to her. But normal conversation will turn up what it turns up. You're kind of worrying yourself for nothing here.

LargeSharkPotato · 2018-05-13T07:28:59+00:00

How fast/slow depends on the girl and your comfortability. You've been on 2 dates, I'm assuming they were both public, my advice is of you'd like to move forward have the 3rd date be private. Invite her over, chill and maybe just watch a movie, or just do this after the 3rd date.

When it comes to texting/snapping just talk to her, if she likes you she will reply. If she replies you're set. Just don't say stupid shit.

I've fucked chicks without having a single date, when it comes to "escalating" things you've gone on 2 dates, if she says yes to date 3 she likes you. Feel free to tell her as much as you want, personally I wouldn't want to be too personal with someone I've just met.

2 pro tips. It's your first girl, explore your options, have sex, it's fun. When I'm the moment my go to play is grabbing the girl hand and putting it over my dick, if she moves her arm away she doesn't want it, if she squeezes you're most likely wanted. Good luck internet stranger.

zero-987656789 · 2018-05-13T12:52:29+00:00

'.. And we're most likely going to fuck.' Way to go man, I like your style 😆. And good luck with the girl. I hope you get everything sorted out and everything plays as you want it to.

burgerberger · 2018-05-13T14:46:23+00:00

Congrats man. I was on the same boat less than a year ago. In addition to the generally appliable advice that has already been given on this thread i would like to say that: don't sweat it, she likes you already.

jewfro667 · 2018-05-13T15:00:13+00:00

Like others have said, there really isn’t such a thing as too fast or too slow because each person is different. Just keep doing what you’re doing. My only piece of advice is to not overwhelm her with texts or needy shit. Try to stay busy instead of always talking to her. It’s different once you’re in a relationship obviously but in early stages limit it a bit.

lollygagging_reddit · 2018-05-13T05:15:24+00:00

Your first kiss, and you're talking about fucking? The fuck is wrong with you. Consider this a trial. Don't take it fast, you'll crash and burn since it seems like you have no idea what you're doing. Continue the snap/talk shit, be a little flirtatious but not "hey so do you wanna fuck?" Don't give that vibe off, it's off-putting and you'll probably be back asking what you did wrong. You've already made excellent steps in having some dates, so continue having dates. Keep them light, keep them common. Make yourself a presence in that girls life. Come on too strong and you'll just be another fuck boy, and she'll know if your pushing it.

Currently it's all in your head, and this sub won't help. Now it's up to you. Continue the dates, but escalate the dates, not your physical or emotional interaction with her. Continue being yourself during these dates. You'll learn along the way and you'll pick up on some of her cues. Just smile and look in her eyes man. You got this.

Edit: I think Phil and plow are silly in saying to go fast, considering that you've said that you haven't been this far, I don't believe "going fast" is good advice when you don't actually know how to do that just yet. Mushi said something worth reading. Like I've said, this is a trail, take it slowly.

Edit 2: hindrance is apparently all about fucking (and I've come to understand that this sub seems to be all about that, but apparently people don't read into context...) And there's nothing wrong with that, except he brings up multiple partners, which hardly (actually doesn't even relate) relates to your predicament. Although insane with whatever hindrance mentioned, they did say something I would advise, to "lock it down" for some months.

jamminjeremy · 2018-05-13T14:49:34+00:00

Keep in mind you are getting a very narrow perspective here. I would recommend cross posting this to /R/sex. They would offer you a wider sample of answers

Title	Welp I did it, now what?
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Date	May 13, 2018 12:57 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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