What problems are common with higher levels of dating success?

RussianMishka · 2014-02-19T20:44:54+00:00

Crazy girls. Sometimes girls can be very good at hiding serious emotional issues, drug habits, or the fact that they just went off their meds. They can make a mess for you on the short run.

ItsNotAScam · 2014-02-19T20:06:41+00:00

Remembering everyone's names, especially for women you slept with like 3 times 6 months ago when they text you out of the blue.

I lost my phone once but the kept the same number and I was SCREWED.

Having active sexual relationships with 12-15 women at a time and remembering what precisely gets everyone off in bed is also very challenging, but possible. Sometimes you can't remember consciously and can just rely on muscle memory.

Atti1a · 2014-02-20T01:22:54+00:00

If you read Neil Strauss' book, The Game, he alludes very much to this. Now, I am not going to claim to be as successful as Style, but ive had significant success and I can agree with him to a certain degree.

When you've gotten really good at this, the entire process turns very mechanical. All you think about is opening sets, getting numbers, different openers, sex, etc, and eventually you lose sight of what is really the goal. The goal, for me at least, was to feel more confident around women and be able to hang out with them often and have a good time. You become oblivious to the pleasure that being in the company of women can bring you and think only about what the next step in the process is.

Once I realized that I had fallen into this trap, I really wanted to get out. My solution to this problem was to not make sex the goal each night, but rather to have a good time with some cool girls. If I made sure that they had fun with me, then they would be more likely to want to hang out again. That way, when my goal was to have fun, I had many more "successful" nights. On the other hand, if your goal is sex and you dont get to have sex, then this night is, by definition, a failure.

Acquire these skills so that you have the confidence to be around women and have a genuinely good time with them, the sex will follow

IntensePancakes · 2014-02-20T02:03:57+00:00

For me it's been dealing with the inevitability of hurting some girls emotionally. Sometimes its nice and easy and you both know what the other person wants, but other times they may want something more or feel stronger about you than you do them, and it's fucking hard to crush them when the time comes. I always try to follow the principle of leave girls better than you found them, but sometimes it doesn't work, and that's the hardest thing about being successful with dating.

SheepKing · 2014-02-20T13:20:13+00:00

I have trouble getting sex without making her cry, most of the time i'm seen as a potential boyfriend rather then a fuck friend. This is always what i've tryed to achive, and it work pretty well for me. Things is, i'm out of a relationship, and getting a girlfriend is not what i want right now.

I try talking more often about sex, and saying that i like being single, this start working, but i still get into a "relationship" wich is not what i want.

Title	What problems are common with higher levels of dating success?
Author	WhatIWannaSay
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Date	February 19, 2014 7:50 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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