What’s your go-to move in making first dates less awkward and more fun?

flgeo7 · 2022-04-08T21:17:30+00:00

I’m going to detail my typical first date that I pretty much used on every girl when I was single. Back then I used to love drinking craft beer, particularly from one brewery which was a 5 min drive from my house. I would always set the date to be there for two reasons:

Since I was a regular I got to know the staff, but I also knew the owners who were there pretty often. Because of this, I didn’t mind showing up a little early so I could catch up with the staff, plus it wouldn’t be time wasted if the girl ghosted.
A little bit of alcohol loosens everybody up. A girl is naturally gonna be a little nervous meeting a random guy even if it’s a public place. But if you’re at ease when she arrives she’ll feed off that and hopefully chill out once you two sit and start having a drink together.

I would normally spend about an hour at the brewery. If we hit it off well within that time period I would randomly interject and be like “hey ngl I’m getting kinda bored here. There’s an arcade pretty close to here and they serve beer, too. Show me your air hockey skills…” or something to that effect. The key here is that you’re challenging her. I always challenged them to air hockey. That’s just me but you can fill that in with whatever game you like. And i always said something like “fair warning: I’m extremely competitive, so I’m not losing.” This always gets a good response, I guarantee it. It helps to build a little bit of tension. From there you want to be the one to drive (you shouldn’t be drunk at this point because you’re keeping this “serendipitous” plan in your back pocket, so you’re already setting a limit for yourself), but if she wants to drive her own car there that’s totally ok. Don’t push back cuz it’ll make you seem weird.

Once you get to the arcade it’s time to have some fun. Play whatever game and play fair. Don’t purposely let her win or be a simp about it. Just play the game. Once the game is over, you HAVE to make physical contact. A high five, a hug, ANYTHING. Look her in the eyes and laugh, be a good sport, and move on to some other games. Play games together. Build rapport, show her you’re fun, etc. If she’s giving you good IOIs you can bet on a game. “Winner gets a kiss” was always good. If they agree, you got it in the bag bro.

I realize not everyone has a brewery and an arcade in close proximity to each other, but the principle still stands. First date should be somewhere chill where you two can talk and get to know each other, and a potential nearby venue for a venue change to make the date a little more dynamic and fun.

This worked for me so many times. Something about that venue change really improves the mood. It’s like it makes you seem cool, like you know all the fun spots around town and you’re a fun, spontaneous guy who can keep her entertained, etc.

newlife909 · 2022-04-08T19:54:56+00:00

Alcohol

Extra-Boysenberry · 2022-04-09T00:07:06+00:00

I ask to eat her asshole within the first 5 minutes of the date.

MountainGoatSC · 2022-04-08T22:19:30+00:00

Do something a little more active. Staring at each other over coffee like an interview is inevitably a bit awkward. If you're walking around a farmer's market or something like that you have stuff to vibe off of and random distractions to comment on/drive the conversation beyond the interview-type questions.

lobluesiren · 2022-04-08T23:04:47+00:00

Amusement parks are a perfect first date spot because there's lots of people around (less pressure on you, helps her feel safer) and so many flashy attractions pulling your attention every which way. Enjoying fast rides together will also paint the whole date day with that fun, heart-pounding feeling.

Movies are a classic for a reason, too. You have something else to focus on the entire time (and plenty to discuss afterward), but it's dark and there's a thread of tension constantly pulling between you throughout the whole film (or there should be, if there's chemistry).

Or something a little more creative that's geared towards your/their particular interests! I love reading, so I might suggest taking a date to a bookstore and then we go our separate ways and pick out new books for each other. This could be heartwarming or lead to a lot of laughs.

Commercial_Habit_923 · 2022-04-09T03:21:29+00:00

Usually I’m just myself and it works out. Silence can be comfortable and not awkward

Londonaxis · 2022-04-09T16:38:03+00:00

Having FUN. Not the boring cinema, dinner or walk date. How boring is that. No thanks.

Title	What’s your go-to move in making first dates less awkward and more fun?
Author	griftertm
Upvotes	9
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Date	April 8, 2022 6:02 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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