When I fall in love, I fall hard, and fast

devbev · 2019-10-18T23:04:17+00:00

You’re definitely going to need practice being involved with someone while working with those natural things that are coming up.

First thing first, as counterintuitive as it may sound, is acceptance.

Feeling negative about this thing you are dealing with is only hurting you, because you can’t change it that way.

You will overcome this as soon as you are able to accept the facts, deep down -

that, not forever, but for now, you “fall in love, hard, and fast.”

and get over your own judgement about that.

What you’re dealing with:

It sounds like you might have some attachment tendencies, which is totally natural, normal, and even common.

It’ll just take some inner-work to sort them out.

You could also have a not being busy enough problem, which could translate to one or more of the following diagnoses:

Not spending enough time on self development / exploration Not talking to / spending enough time with other women (always more than just one would be helpful for you, unless you’re in a relationship) Not working / being productive enough

So, look at each within yourself, and without judgement, consider which could be true.

Based on what you said, #2 is probably true -

When you “fall fast” for one girl you probably stop wanting to hang out with other girls much, right?

Going against what you want in those instances is just what the doctor prescribed.

It will probably feel wrong or uncomfortable, but any personal growth will be.

Cartmanhartman · 2019-10-19T00:54:16+00:00

The falling in love super fast imo is more of a desperate thing. It could be conscious or unconscious, but I’m pretty sure it’s a desperate plea for a relationship/sex.

I used to have the same thing happen to me. But when I really sat down to think about it, I realized it’s just that I was so starved of positive attention or feeling like I had a chance, when someone actually showed it, my hormones fucking skyrocketed. But when I started to gain a more positive self image, and more people showed the same things, the falling really fast thing went away.

I believe biologically it’s your bodies way of saying “I wanna mate” and when you don’t have it for so long your body and hormones will basically throw everything away for a mate. When you gain more experience and learn you have chances with a lot of people, I feel like it’ll go away.

dhiggzzz · 2019-10-18T22:39:10+00:00

simple: talk to more girls

JustAFlyingP0tato · 2019-10-18T23:16:46+00:00

You described my situation better than I could. I'm sorry that's happening to you I know how it is but I'm glad I'm not the only one at least hah. It's happening to me right now usually when I wanna talk to someone no matter what gender I'll go up to them and talk I always find something to say but right now there's a girl I like and I don't even know how to apporach her, what to say or anything. It makes it even harder that she's always with her two friends, one kiinda knows me the other one doesn't but I deadass don't know what to do. Hope you find a solution to this soon bro.

WIA20XX · 2019-10-19T01:00:40+00:00

Inner game/self esteem issue.

Get over that by getting better at approaching and getting consistent reactions. The more success you get, the less it counts

Dtyrrell88 · 2019-10-19T08:50:49+00:00

It’s called NRE. New relationship ecstasy, everyone can get it, but it makes you feel like you get a free pass to be needy, which you don’t, keep yourself in check. Read the below, has good advice.

https://blackdragonblog.com/2015/07/23/how-to-deal-with-new-relationship-energy-nre/

Title	When I fall in love, I fall hard, and fast
Author	Fried-Chicken-Man
Upvotes	22
Comments	9
Date	October 18, 2019 9:26 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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