Why do I struggle with getting sexual attraction from women? I always suck with opening and knowing what to say to keep them interested and get them sexually attracted. Is there any advice or examples anyone could give me?

PussyLiquor01 · 2016-12-13T04:41:06+00:00

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Bongoringo144 · 2016-12-13T05:04:20+00:00

All you need to do is work on yourself. It sounds like a shit piece of advice, or vague so let me explain.

People like people who are confident and interesting, this applies to attraction and seduction. You can fake it, or you can be it. How do you be it? Search for things that interest you, don't be afraid to try something new, do archery, who gives a shit. Do something that you find interesting. Work on your career, school, hobbies, fitness, make those your focus. Worry about girls after you have built yourself into someone you respect. If you fake it, it will come crashing down. Don't build a house of cards, build a goddamn statue.

PussyLiquor01 · 2016-12-13T05:13:05+00:00

Maybe I should just say fuck it and just start drinking all the time with friends and just accept that I'm bad with women.

Ironchar · 2016-12-13T09:33:25+00:00

Read no more mr.nice guy

Sounds like deep seeded issues for fear of abandonment etc

t1mman · 2016-12-13T18:42:43+00:00

Do you have a hard time starting conversation or just maintaining them and integer some sort of sexual content?

Starting conversation: I use the “location/occasion approach”, How do you know this place? What kind of drink/meal you like here? Are you here with friends? Having fun right now? Etc. Anything that brings you to the “here and now” state. You could extent to whatever she is wearing, plant a little emotions along the way to get things going.

Maintaining conversation: The key here is to LISTEN and go with what she gives you. Someone that tells you she is there with friends for a birthday, you have the friend approach, she knows them from where, how hold is her friend getting, ask her if it’s her first time here, etc., etc. Unless you ask closed questions and that she gives Yes/no answer, you have a multiple of subject you can go from. But you need to listen to what she says instead of “waiting for your turn to talk”.

As for the sexual attraction, you can do it in many ways, insert innuendos, use non-verbal attraction, use keno escalation, etc. as long as you build rapport along the way, it should flow natural and you should get closer together as the tension built.

PussyLiquor01 · 2016-12-13T04:58:51+00:00

I just feel like I struggle with making her laugh or turning the conversation sexual. It's not a confidence problem because I have confidence. I just feel like I simply don't know what to say to them. I sometimes think I'm too nice or too kind and they get turned off by it idk. I just hate not being able to keep them interested in me, when I'll see other guys getting women in their lives.

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