Why does not caring/ghosting work so well?

DB_on_reddit · 2021-03-06T01:28:00+00:00

Because people “want what they can’t have” and “scarcity creates value”.

It’s a supply and demand thing. I’ve (46M) experienced this many times in my life. It’s human nature. Always has been. Always will be.

Therocksays2020 · 2021-03-05T19:35:29+00:00

Consider the term absence makes the heart grow fonder.

Attraction grows when there is an aura of mystery. A woman wonders what are you up to? Are you talking to someone else?

They get curious which is the key to seduction. They want to know what your deal is.

Purple_Conference_75 · 2021-03-06T04:01:02+00:00

After having a stroke,epilepsy along with minor case of anxiety sometimes makes it hard for me. Im not ghosting Its sometimes hard to think what to say.

sadnessismybff · 2021-03-06T07:05:43+00:00

This won't always work with girls who are super secure and have other options available. I believe I'm pretty self-sufficient as a woman and I could like someone who has the same texting style as you mentioned but I won't go after someone who's inconsistent, doesn't try to keep the conversation going. Maybe if you have nothing to say, that's not the best sign anyway. I've never ran out of things to say to my SO while we had just started going out. There's always something. I understand the 'busy' part( I'm a pretty busy person too, academics, work and what not), but just a text after work about how her day was shows you're interested in keeping the conversation going . The talks don't always have to be amazing and deep. A peek into their daily lives gives you more insight into the person than you'd think. Long story short: Everyday conversation should be fun(or nice) if you're thinking of dating the person long-term.

nyccowgirl · 2021-03-06T16:56:59+00:00

I wouldn't say it works well per se but you will attract a specific type with anxious attachment style. Other types including secure attachment style would have moved on and assume you're playing games or unavailable. That's also why anxious attachment and avoidant attachment styles attract each other but are toxic to each other as they bring out each other's fears and reinforce them.

chloeouellette · 2021-03-06T00:21:01+00:00

As a secure woman, I will not entertain men that do not respect me enough to set up regular dates. Doesn’t have to be constant texting, but as long as you make it a point to see me on a regular basis. So, you may be targeting individuals of lower quality with this strategy. If you are just looking for sex, then yes it works on women with anxious attachment styles.

Attari000 · 2021-03-05T22:25:42+00:00

Second guess, activates insecurities/ anxiety which is thrilling, they then look to get validated with the sex. That's why if they know your interested most likely, they won't be. Unless you have something big to bring to the party, but even then maybe not. Don't expect more, they're primal beings. Don't think it can't be true. Don't think they can't really be like that, they are.

In any case settle down it's better.

Attari000 · 2021-03-06T06:04:14+00:00

Because women like real men and that's what real men do. Also don't think you'll come out better in the lust game.

2021-03-06T18:09:22+00:00

Because most women, even average looking ones, get blasted with at least occasionally with unwanted attention from thristy guys. So it's hard for them to get excited about even more attention. Also, too much attention puts pressure on women to reciprocate, and they haaate that.

If you're aloof, but friendly, you're signaling that you're not thirsty, but you also don't hate them. You're also taking pressure off of girls to be responsible for your feelings. This allows girls who are naturally attracted to you to become even more attracted. It generates an anxiety in them that compels them to close the gap, to get close enough to see how you really feel about them.

Dwaynedibley24601 · 2021-03-06T16:14:23+00:00

Women are biologically programmed to compete for mates... Your indifference triggers this... Biologically they assume the lack of contact means you have selected another mate they go onto crisis mode... And do whatever they have to do to tegain alpha status. They cant help it... Thats why the best way to sleep with a woman is to introduce competition ..every time.

quirkypinkllama · 2021-03-06T02:45:28+00:00

Well some of the best things to do is to ask what she's been up to and build conversation off that. Or to share what you did and to ask what she's been up to. Use that as a springboard for conversation. Or ask if there's anything coming up that's exciting.

Clarywest02 · 2021-03-06T16:02:59+00:00

I just need someone that will love me, care for me and always gives me his attention 😞😞😞

MO_drps_knwldg · 2021-03-06T23:24:51+00:00

People want things that are scarce.

snstory · 2021-03-08T10:09:18+00:00

THE UNIVERSAL AND MOST POWERFUL FORCE THAT CONNECTS AND EMPOWERS EVERY HUMAN PSYCHE IS RELEVANCY

WHEN OUR FOCUS OR AIMED OBJECTIVE IS THWARTED IGNORED OR FLATLY DISMISSED - WE ARE MADE TO FEEL IRRELEVANT

SADLY, THE MOST TRAUMATIC AND DEVASTATING LOSSES TO PERSEVERE THROUGH IN LIFE IS THE TEMPORARY SENSE OF REJECTION FROM AN ESPECIALLY DESIRABLE SOURCE; LOVE CAN CAUSE INSULT TO OUR CORE RELEVANCE WHEN OUR AFFECTIONS ARE RESPONDED TO WITH A LACK OF MUTUAL INTEREST OR SIMILAR RELEVANCE BY A SOURCE SHOWN A COUNTERED DEGREE OF SIGNIFICANCE.

Title	Why does not caring/ghosting work so well?
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Date	March 5, 2021 7:25 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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