I've been wanting to write this for a while but never got around to it but saw the post about how making more friends especially with girls helps guys get more girls. I'm not writing this to counter that post in fact I wholly agree with it, but I just wanted to give a different perspective as well.

In college I started out as relatively shy, no experience with girls but I made it my goal to become more social with girls. I joined a fraternity and started making so many friends and meeting even more girls. But at some point I started neglecting hanging out with my guy friends and trying to get more girls. I started only going out with the purpose of getting with girls. I spent the whole night looking for girls to talk to, I even only starting following girls on instagram, and it worked out somewhat I made tons of girl friends, but the problem was I realized I wasn't getting laid nearly as much and I wasn't having fun. So I started to think what I was doing when I got the most girls vs what I was doing what I wasn't. I also started looking at the guys who got the most girls. One thing I noticed is they were friends with everyone. There wasn't a party where we walked into were they didn't know a least a couple people. But they were especially cool with all the guys and were able to make more friends easily. Having girl friends does have its perks, but girls also love to see you have guy friends it means that there is something about you that attracts other people, and shows people of your own gender look up to you or respect you. It's a pretty big red flag if you don't have too many guy friends. Also with girls and having too many girl friends is girls get jealous of other girls and may cockblock you especially if you get around. However they can also be great wing women if they're trustworthy. But if you have enough guy friends they usually have other girl friends you can meet. In the end you also have to think about who can introduce you to the most people. Who are the ones throwing these parties, it's the guys and they're inviting their friends which means they can introduce you and an introduction from a trusted friend is so much more powerful than a cold approach. Who are these guys inviting? Well probably people that they know will be fun.

But how do I learn to talk to girls? Well you should talk to girls exactly how you talk to your guy friends, some might say this is weird but talking to a girl should be no different they are literally human beings, tease her like you joke with your boys. I'm sure people are gonna ask how you flirt, well if you've ever been gay with the boys on xbox before or something well its just like that. lol. Most guys are already good at making the most normal of sentences into something sexual, use that with girls. This may be hard at first but if you're having fun you'll care a lot less about what some girl thinks which I'll elaborate on in the next section.

On another note is having fun, if you're spending the whole time at a party trying to get laid and talk to every girl thats lame. For one other girls are gonna notice, two they'll smell your desperation, three you won't learn anything. A big point in seduction and dating that I think this sub neglects is that having fun is the absolute key to getting women. People make it out like talking to girls is a discipline you study in school. You should enjoy talking to girls and getting to know someone. Girls really do just wanna have fun. If you're having a great time with your boys and then go talk to a girl you think is cute I guarantee it will go much better and odds are she may have already noticed you. Have you ever seen a girl go for a loner brooding in the corner of a bar, well maybe on tv but not in real life. The ones surrounded by friends dancing their ass off like they don't care, even if they're the worst dancer are the ones winning. I've not only gotten the most girls while having more fun but I've also had multiple girls approach me which is a great feeling. People will want to join in on your fun and guess what even if you don't get the girl you still had fun.

At the end of the day it the guys who would rather hang out with their boys and bro nights over going out to get girls, that ironically get the most girls.

Edit: Thanks For Gold!!