Will paying for sex resolve my issue with escalation?

hunterpua · 2019-04-22T17:46:17+00:00

I believe there is more value in paying for sex to improve your sex skills.

But when it comes to awkwardness around getting physical with a girl, the thing is, the usual social norms are not in play when you're with a prostitute.

When you pay for sex, its guaranteed. You know you're entitled to it so of course you have every right to get physical and of course there is no reason why the girl will object to it.

In other scenarios where you aren't paying for sex girls can object and girls are not obligated to have sex with you no matter what.

I say do it.

Pay for sex.

But while you're doing that pay very close attention to whether you feel the same awkwardness with her as you'd feel in your everyday life interacting with women who aren't prostitutes.

There may be a different kind of awkwardness you feel with her because some people can get awkward on their first time paying for sex even if they've already had sex with other girls quite a lot of times.

What you're looking for is whether the awkwardness feels the same.

If it doesn't feel the same then that experience will at least show you what sex is like.

But it might not remove so much of the awkwardness around girls you see in your everyday life.

Something that gets you touching girls in a scenario where they're not required to fuck you might be more helpful.

Something like a dance class.

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That said, if you want to maximize your experience with a girl in the sex business, be honest about being a virgin.

Don't do that only when you're already in a room alone with the girl.

Do that when you're still trying to choose which girl to go for so that whoever is in charge can recommend a girl/girls who are particularly good for your situation.

Its actually quite a common scenario in the sex business, so if you let everyone know from the get-go then you'll definitely be paired with a girl who knows exactly what to do to give you the best experience.

When you're with that girl, make sure to ask as many questions as you need.

You're not trying to impress this girl.

You're already holding up your end of the bargain by paying her.

And before you did so, you made it clear that you wanted a girl to help you lose your virginity.

So she'll know what she's signing up for when she agrees to fuck you.

And knowing you're a virgin, she wouldn't expect you to impress her anyway.

Something like that would be so much better than saying you're just there to fuck because there are a lot of guys who have had sex many times already yet still don't know their way around a woman's body.

Better to get the education from a professional who knows way more about sex than a typical girl so that every succeeding time after that you will just keep getting better and better at sex.

And being good at sex will definitely help your confidence with women in general.

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I_do_it4sloots · 2019-04-23T00:12:52+00:00

I had like 500 escorts, it helps make you more comfortable in bedroom but the short answer to your question is no

Because what you need to escalate with civilians is rather the courage of getting possibly rejected or shamed. With escorts you don't get that because you paid, your subconscious nice guy is happy because he had a transaction and is not taking resources arrogantly risking getting shunned

And the only thing that makes that courage is your self-esteem and self-worth, and obviously healthy social skills and empathy and understanding that your verbal/physical flirting is being accepted and still having the balls to dare more

WIA20XX · 2019-04-23T11:46:51+00:00

If you think that will help you, but the problem with hookers is that guys that pay for it, have a compelling reason to never deal with a regular chick ever again.

Why go through all the bullshit, when he can get a much prettier girl and a much better time for a small fee?

You don't have to approach, work out, pay attention to her feelings, no need for personal development... just pay some money for a good time.

BigJohnnyCockRamPHD · 2019-04-22T18:01:23+00:00

No. Never pay for sex either

mike_ardiente · 2019-04-22T17:08:05+00:00

I think i see your point but in the end its not ideal in the sense its not the same scenario, you are not gonna pay irl girls to flirt and escalate with them, so if thats something you think you need improvement on i would focus more on practicing those scenarios rather than paying for a scenario where the the girl is going to respond 100% bcuz im paying her... if you mean just the physical act well yes i can see it being helpful, you could also watch porn or movies to see how the guys make foreplay or escalate, but again i think just going to a more natural set ups would be better, i think there is a book somewhere called the escalation ladder look it up

Harshijn1 · 2019-04-22T17:09:14+00:00

How old are you!? If you are under 30, you can try to go out and meet women. It's not as easy as paying but it's worth the hard work. You will grow as a person. Having said all of this, it doesn't even matter if you are 40. Don't have this belief that you missed out on "experience".

Scum-Mo · 2019-04-22T17:53:02+00:00

it might if you think youll enjoy it and get onto a roll but it might not. Ive been in long term relationships but i still cant escalate to save my life

Title	Will paying for sex resolve my issue with escalation?
Author	tr4guy
Upvotes	2
Comments	20
Date	April 22, 2019 4:48 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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