You call her for the first time but she doesn't pick up...what's your next step?

takfam · 2011-02-09T20:42:13+00:00

Give it a few days. Call again. Leave a voicemail. Go about your day with more interesting things than sitting around waiting for a phone call. If she doesn't call back, oh well. Done, done, and on to the next one.

One of the things I took from Wygant is momentum. You get the number, you text when you get home, or later in the evening. Makes one harder to forget and makes calling them back much easier. How long are you waiting? If you're still doing the stupid "wait 3 days so you don't seem needy" thing, knock it off. 3 days later, they don't even remember you. They've probably been asked for their number 10 times since then.

StarkNYC · 2011-02-10T05:34:05+00:00

Good question! Logistics are such a big part of game. At the same time, I am not sure how much you should care (easier said than done, I know!).

To be concrete, I will double-call (call-back immediately). Surprisingly, I've had girls pick up after the second call and things have gone smoothly (if she asks about it, say you thought your phone messed up). If she still doesn't pick up, I leave a quick voicemail: "Hey... It's stark... give me a call when you get a chance. My number is xxx-xxx-xxxx". You can also try to engage her via text (there's loads of material out there, but I really liked Race De Priest's b4utxther).

In general, if a girl wants to meet up with you, she won't make it too difficult (now, this is not necessarily true - I believe you can win her over with tight follow up game... but I think that usually happens when in person interaction wasn't super tight). Otherwise, you may be fighting an up-hill battle that is more effort than it's worth.

If she doesn't get back or return your call, go find more girls! Abundance mentality ftw.

DrMunkee007 · 2011-02-09T19:50:16+00:00

There is not much you can do - Just don't start calling them everyday.

Talking on the phone with people you have just met can get odd, anyways. May I suggest shooting them a text asking to meet up for coffee if you really want to talk to them? I find that face to face conversations are easier to keep going than over the phone.

trialsin · 2011-02-09T19:57:10+00:00

I've been searching everywhere, but what about leaving a voicemail? What are good techniques for leaving DHV voicemails? I have always felt weird leaving voicemail, but if I dont she wont know who just called, given I got her number, and she dosent know mine.

I got a number a couple [2] days ago, and plan on calling in a few hours, and am planning for a message if she dosent answer. I hate to wing voicemail, since I tend to pause frequently as my mind processes.

Title	You call her for the first time but she doesn't pick up...what's your next step?
Author	deadly_paradox
Upvotes	7
Comments	10
Date	February 9, 2011 7:43 PM UTC (15 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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