After reading [this post from earlier today] (http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/1vuucd/3_toxic_dating_habits_most_guys_think_are_normal/) I feel like I need to say something I've been thinking for a while.

I, personally, have a problem with overthinking the hell out of every situation. I over-analyze girls' texts and think way too hard about how to get from point A to point B. So, one of my New Years resolutions was this: Go out and get experience, more than you read. Sounds simple, but in 2013, although I made tremendous progress, I spent too much time reading article after article. And me reading too much led to me thinking too much. ("OMG what's the right thing to do in this situation?! Better consult seddit...") And then I came to this big realization:

OUR BRAINS ARE NOT WIRED TO TAKE IN THAT MUCH INFORMATION AT ONCE!

It can get addicting, reading so many different articles and taking them to heart. It's like working out: Great for a segment of your day, recommended several times a week, but if you overwork yourself, it becomes counterproductive. You can even hurt yourself.

And this is where pickup advice can have detrimental effects... If guys read too much, they start thinking things like "Damn, I have to do ALL THIS SHIT just to get a girl?" or if they're out in the field and they forget to do something... "FUCK! I forgot to do [what some article said to do]! DAMMIT! What do I do now?" Reading too much gives the impression that there is a laundry list of rules to follow when really they are just guidelines.

Anyway, going back to that article from earlier and the ensuing discussion in the comments, there were plenty of questions like "This article goes against what Article X says! Which is right?" and the answer is there IS NO RIGHT ANSWER. The right answer is what is right for YOU. Everyone has different styles and personalities.

I, personally, do not like texting back and forth too much before a date. I think it kills intrigue and is honestly a little childish. Even in high school I couldn't stand people who were constantly on their phones chatting away with people who weren't present. But if you like it and it works for you, then go ahead. All that matters is the fact that it works for you.

Which brings me to my next point: Experience. It matters. A lot. Much more than knowledge. If you have experience, you won't have to ask as many questions, because you will have figured out your style and what works for you. Experience is how you get better. You won't get better at basketball by watching a bunch of videos and reading up on how to perfect your shot. Sure, maybe a little of that helps. But you get better by getting your ass out onto the court and practicing.

"But TheSicilianDude, I go out pretty often! And I use the tips and advice I read on seddit and [insert book/website/blog here], and it all works great!"

That's awesome, I'm happy for ya. But be honest with me for a second- how much are you reading compared to going out and getting experience? I'm aiming for no more than 1 article/day and no more than 3/week, and every article I do read = AT LEAST 1 hour in the field. This ratio is perfect for me, but do what works best for you.

I see that it's a bit ironic for me to cite a book right now, but Mark Manson said in Models something that really hit home for me: Take 2 guys. One of them reads numerous articles every day, has bought several books on pickup and self-improvement, and goes out when he has time. The other pretty much doesn't read anything, but goes out at least twice a week just to meet girls.

Who has more success? The second guy, by a long shot.

The fact of the matter is you don't really even need to read anything if you are constantly getting experience. Don't get me wrong: I am not against reading up on things you need to improve and refreshing yourself on other things. I do that pretty often. But so many guys out there think that just because they read Models or posted a bunch of upvoted things to Seddit, they've made big progress and should be successful. And that just isn't the case. Success doesn't come until you get your ass out there, apply what you've learned, and make yourself vulnerable.

That nice little space in front of your computer screen is too comfortable. Get out of your comfort zone, because that's the only way you'll really make progress. Next time you find yourself clicking a bunch of links and going to a bunch of websites, stop yourself before you get carried away and tell yourself this.

"I've read enough for today. I can read more tomorrow. Or next week. Or never. I need to get out into the field and get experience, so then I won't even have to read so much and I'll be getting RESULTS."

Less reading. More doing.