I am really going through it

RichardCleveland · 2023-04-24T17:02:14+00:00

I completely know how you feel. I came across a few mementos this past weekend myself. Including a "key" to her heart that she gave me 20 years ago. I still have to clean out and pack up my house, and very worried about what I will come across. It's like she fucking died, but I guess in way she did. I ended up in my basement crying for an hour.

Stay strong friend, and just remember MANY of us here are in the same stage, going through the same emotions.

Artistic-Trifle-555 · 2023-04-24T19:58:15+00:00

My low point came when I was cleaning out her things and found the boxed wedding dress from 12 years earlier with all the memories, promises, etc. Left it out on driveway for donations pickup. Felt like a funeral for sure.

Ptsdveterannavy · 2023-04-24T21:33:44+00:00

You have to understand that we've all been through simliar experiences yet, the one constant that's always been the common denominator is the wife. They know what they're doing and know that the only ones to do it to is the good guys which is why they married us. It's tough, heart wrenching, but in order to keep yourself from getting screwed(as alot of us may have been because of being the good guy) focus(which is hard) on who you were before the yrs you've given her and fight back to a level of decency to what you deserve. You're now in what I call "The Mourning" this is the phase that will screw you, your (Our wives at this point have been moved on) shake out of the past and yrs of time together and go to War to protect your interest and kids.

73mpestMusB · 2023-04-24T15:11:47+00:00

I’m sorry you’re going through this man. Stay strong. Think positive. Don’t get too far into that slump. It’s ok to feel you’re feelings though. Feel them, get them out, move on. That cycle will most likely happen several times. I am over a year into this and I still have those slumps. Remember, therapy, gym, eat right, no alcohol. I know it’s cliché advice, but it’s recommended so much for a reason. Reach out if you ever need someone to talk to. We’re here for you.

rhett342 · 2023-04-24T21:32:00+00:00

Sorry you're going through all this. We know how hard it is.

EnvironmentalAd3558 · 2023-04-25T00:24:56+00:00

I know how you feel. Mine happened after 20 years of marriage and 3 kids.

You are just learning how she feels but she probably has been planning this for a long time, possibly years.

Get and read No More Mr Nice Guy.

HauteDish · 2023-04-25T01:45:59+00:00

I just looked at your original post, and we're in very similar situations. It sucks, like really fucking sucks. But even after only a few days, I'm not in the dark place that I was. So I can say with confidence that it gets better.

greenelephant379 · 2023-04-25T04:21:10+00:00

Gosh, I feel for you my brother. We’re all going through the most here, please know that you’re not alone. Everyday gets a little better, sometimes it’s two steps forward and one step back. I’m here if you need someone to talk to. Much love

Title	I am really going through it
Author	GetUpAndJump
Upvotes	10
Comments	13
Date	April 24, 2023 2:58 PM UTC (3 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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