Maybe this is a question for the remarried men here, but anyone is free to chime in.

It seems like a lot of us have dealt with an ex who has a Cluster B Personality Disorder (NPD, BPD, APD, HPD).

My wife has Histrionic Personality Disorder and Narcissistic Personality Disorder as well I believe based on a psych eval she took.

Some things I think I can deal with as I’ve improved my boundaries, communication, etc.

But it’s soo draining, and I’m not sure I see the same level of self work being reciprocated.

I also understand that marriage is inherently hard work and people evolve at different times.

For those that remarried in a healthy relationship (or anyone with an informed perspective), how do you compare your current marital struggles to those w your ex?

Have you been able to define what’s normal vs. toxic? Or do you feel like you have the same challenges?