I posted here once a while back about my wife and her recurring relapses (was addicted to heroin, got prescribed opiates and has been abusing/stealing/buying them)

She’s relapsed 4x that I know of since April of 2024. She went through rehab and I supported her as I’m a recovering alcoholic myself (sober 13 years)

Cut to this past Friday as I’m heading to the airport for a 3 week work trip. I travel a lot for my job and anxiety and panic attacks have become normal for me, especially on long overseas jobs. I keep my Xanax locked in a small lockbox that I keep in my truck hidden but change the location of it frequently as she likes to tear through all of my belongings either looking for pills or some damning evidence that I’m a cheating POS ( I’ve never been unfaithful but she has a lot of unprocessed PTSD around past relationships where there was infidelity and abuse)

I grab my pills to throw them in my suitcase and see there are some that don’t look quite like Xanax. Turns out she stole over 40 of them and replaced them with her blood pressure meds that are similar shape and color, but I’m not stupid.

I haven’t spoken to her since I left the house. I don’t know what to say from 5,000 miles away that’s not going to light a hornets nest and am especially concerned that she’s in our home ( which I pay for)

This was the last straw for me, I know I cannot continue to be a part of her unhealthy and self destructive behavior as the past few years of her instability have had a serious negative impact on my mental and physical health.

The house is in both of our names. She works but doesn’t even make enough money to provide for herself, I on the other hand make good money and am financially supporting us. We don’t have kids, just a few cats and a dog that were both attached too. I don’t want to get attorneys involved and hope we can go through mediation. I think she needs more intensive inpatient rehab and sober living after.

I’m excited and terrified at the same time. I can see the freedom from this on the other side but I know there will be pain getting there. Mostly I just needed to get these emotions out of my head and am hoping someone here has been through a similar situation. My DMs are open. Thanks for listening