Poor woman.

Loiacono3137 · 2019-10-23T23:46:08+00:00

Total coward

_HEDONISM_BOT · 2019-10-23T22:24:04+00:00

HOLY Hell. I've always suspected that some men never really give a shit about their SO/Wife/Spouse. I suspect that a lot of men secretly look for "better" or in this guy's case, "true love", on the side, in secret, while they have a main woman/main SO/main Spouse. They keep the main woman monogamous / committed to him, while they secretly shop around for a better deal.

I suspect that when these men fail to find something better, they are "loyal" or 'monogamous', and if they do, then r/survivinginfidelity happens, or r/adultery happens. It can take YEARS to find a suitable woman who will agree to date... and I feel like this is the only thing keeping a LOT of men "loyal". That no other woman is texting them back. I think some men are never monogamous to begin with. Some men, I believe, are ALWAYS on the lookout for something better, in secret, while they hold their current SO romantically hostage, waiting for the day his "upgrade" responds.

This is partly reflected in the projected "AWALT" attitude that many men in incel subreddits espouse, because they feel like women are doing the same thing men are (always looking for something better, always open to cheating, and therefore all men are like that). I really have read enough relationship, breakup, and advice request posts to have a strong, nagging suspicion that this is how a lot of men function.

2019-10-23T23:58:15+00:00

This is honestly why I'm volcel and will probably end up with a woman if I ever want to get married. Imagine wasting your youth on this shit.

I guarantee the only reason why he isn't "in love" with her is because she isn't his ideal type physically and he thinks he can find someone hotter.

I hate to say it but it's true. Men don't fall in love with personality, they fall in love with looks. You aren't "the one" unless you're at least 5 years younger and a few points out of his league looks wise.

AverageToHot · 2019-10-23T21:22:37+00:00

This is what women get for asking men out. Never worth it.

halyc0nAK · 2019-10-25T06:46:34+00:00

I low key think that was written by my husband and I know that everyone has those feelings when they’re on reddit but it’s strong in me

_HEDONISM_BOT · 2019-10-23T22:20:27+00:00

Here's a copy of the post, in case it gets deleted:

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r/TrueOffMyChest•Posted byu/tac1122113 10 hours ago

I have never loved my wife

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I’ve been married for two years and have been with my wife for 6. I’ve never loved her. We started dating in high school when she asked me out with a group of her friends. She was fun to be around, but I could always take it or leave it when it came to being around her. We kept dating, but the whole time, I always said I needed to break up with her before it was too late. I never had the heart to break up with her because I knew she loved me. Well, after several years, I was under so much pressure from others to propose. I thought that maybe if we were married, I would learn to love her. Didn’t work. I like her, I guess, but to be honest, most nights I hope that when I get home, she’s not there. Not because I want her dead or something, but because if she was just gone, maybe I could really find love. I know that I’m definitely the bad guy and I honestly hate myself for this.

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2019-10-25T07:44:42+00:00

This grosses me out. I met a guy similar to this. He waited until we were halfway through our first (and last) dinner date to tell me that he actually had a girlfriend, after apparently having lied to me about being "single". "I'm just not sure it's good enough", he said, referring to their relationship. Did he really think I was gonna be cool with that?

The OP sounds like such a... I don't know what. "...because if she was just gone, maybe I could really find love." Gross.

Title	Poor woman.
Author	chokeychokey
Upvotes	0
Comments	16
Date	October 23, 2019 8:51 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/dm5jp8/poor_woman/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/poor-woman.689663 https://theredarchive.com/post/689663

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