For real though:

PSYCHOAFGHAN · 2020-04-19T13:49:56+00:00

My ex beat me and his family and friends said it was my fault for going to his house... he's hit me in his car once too. He got arrested the second time and they said it was my fault. Really fucked me up cause I had no support system and actually thought it was my fault and had a concussion. Then said I almost ruined his life. I lost my job after the assault and dropped out of school with a concussion.

He's doing really well and has a career.. it makes me really mad especially when his narrative is I tried ruining it for him. It didn't affect him at all. His parents are part time professors and defended him. He also teaches children hockey and gets to interact with them. It really bothers me that he got the charge dropped. It was very violent the assault and he told me he owned me. I'm getting therapy, but for the longest time, him and everyone in his support system convinced me I deserved it and I enabled him.

supremelyparanoid · 2020-04-19T13:15:41+00:00

bUt mEN hAVe iT hArD iN sOCiEtY

supremelyparanoid · 2020-04-19T14:55:49+00:00

Male lurkers be like: bUt sTeAlInG iS wRoNg bUt bReTt cAvanaUgH waS ALmoST rOBbed

likejackandsally · 2020-04-19T16:19:33+00:00

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Sunanas · 2020-04-19T13:53:54+00:00

It looked like an honest accident on the video, too.

Soulsalts · 2020-04-19T17:28:24+00:00

I once lost a job due to false (statutory) rape allegations.

I was 24, working at a very small and unusual high school. A 17 year old boy decided to tell his friends that he had slept with me. One of them told a school counselor, and me and the 17 year old boy were called to the principal's office.

The boy immediately realized that I was in big trouble, and tried to take back what he had said. He ended up crying when he realized that I was going to lose my job.

I was just amazed. I, like most sane adults, had never even thought of a teenager that way. He was my student, I was responsible for his well-being. I wouldn't have taken advantage of a student in that way even if they would have fired me for not doing it.

Well, I got fired that day. Nobody pressed any charges or anything, but I was pretty sure my life was ruined. That was my first job in my career field, and I had lost it on an accusation statutory rape.

I was devasted, broken-hearted, horribly embarrassed. You know what I wasn't? Mad.

The school was absolutely right to let me go on even the slightest hint of sexual misconduct. Their first job must be to protect their students. It wasn't about me, it was about the safety of the children.

This event in my past is why I have zero sympathy with the "but you'll ruin his life" crowd. They are missing the point in a big way.

ms_monquis · 2020-04-19T16:51:03+00:00

Red herrings. The people up top knew exactly what they were doing.

2020-04-19T16:58:21+00:00

My first rejected me for another (after having sex with me of course)--just gets a silent treatment from me.

I Rejected a guy for another not even kissing this person--the guy uses me for sex as revenge and everyone telling me that it was my fault and that i destroyed him.

Still fucking recovering.....

supremelyparanoid · 2020-04-19T15:16:27+00:00

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For real though:

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Title	For real though:
Author	supremelyparanoid
Upvotes	1149
Comments	29
Date	April 19, 2020 12:37 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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