I chose myself over him

lunacmoonc · 2020-05-06T16:37:02+00:00

Listen here now. You can find someone who will love you wholeheartedly and treat you with kindness and respect. It’s a matter of looking at it like this-what can HE bring to the table? Noone needs men. Seriously. All women of all ages I spoke to and who opened up to me said that. You yourself, right now, are enough. Noone can take that away from you. Not a fuckboy who texts you ‘u up’ at 1am or a handsome athlete you fell for. I advise you to work on your self esteem first, find your strengths AND your weaknesses, accept them and work on you. Preoccupy yourself with new hobbies and hang out with (female) friends. Don’t let most of your day go by by thinking of scenarios in your head that will never happen and/or caused by your anxiety about the future.

fiercefinance · 2020-05-06T21:25:03+00:00

Honestly you need to practise being alone. Get comfortable with the discomfort. It took me years to work out I kept fuckboys around because I didn't want to feel alone. But pushing through that, I realised I am totally fine on my own, now that it has become normal. I have beautiful friends and family and that's enough. If a HVM comes along it's a bonus.

pinkiepinker · 2020-05-06T16:59:56+00:00

You did the right move by choosing yourself.

You can always find someone who will love and value you. But at this time you must take the time to love and value yourself.

The fear of missing out is understandable. But you would be doing that relationship an injustice if you aren’t truly ready to take the plunge.

You will need to always put yourself first in any upcoming relationship. You are already starting off on the right foot.

I’m excited for you!

detectivejuicee · 2020-05-06T22:44:32+00:00

Whenever you’re anxious about a decision/action asks yourself if you acted out of love or out of fear. Looks like you acted out of love (for yourself) and keep talking to him ignoring the red flags would be acting out of fear (of the future). You did the right thing.

ayhtdws1989 · 2020-05-07T05:28:47+00:00

first off, u did the right thing. you have been using fds and that is something to be proud of. how to be okay with being alone -

learn to love yourself-know that no one else can love you as much as u do . and when u start to give urself the validation,attention and love u expected from others. u will see that boys weren't that imp anyway.
socialise- this will help u make more long lasting connections. u will have friends u can count on and who will be way more emotionally available then some guy.
find a purpose- this is a long time goal . everyone shd have a long time goal ,something you can work on . for eg, u wanting to start a buisness, or a charitable organisation etc.
read fds recc books- these books were godsend. i cant recc them enough . if u haven't already read them , i would suggest u do that .
find hobbies-it could be anything from painting,singing,dancing to cooking. have a hobby which u can do when u r bored.
spend time wid ur family- spend more time wid ur family. they are one the ppl who only want the best for u. i wasn't very close to my parents in my teen years. now that ive grown out of it. i see that my family is what i adore and cherish. i love my mom to pieces and my grandmom makes the best food. also all my ccousins are adorable. if u cant see ur family, call them or facetime

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