This is so so so frustrating and SO predictable. I have a friend from childhood that I have not seen in person for over a decade. During that time, our lives have been very different. She had a shotgun wedding before age 20 to a man who every time I saw a picture of him, I thought he had the most punchable face ever. I just disliked him SO much, but I was also sort of jealous of her because he seemed to treat her really well and be proud of her. He lavished her with things and even trips, but I kept feeling suspicious of him. After years and many kids, almost inevitably they got divorced and it turned out he was abusing her all that time. Quelle surprise.

I was really happy for her to be free and hoped she would level up in self confidence and general life stuff, but it was not to be.

Within a year she had met and gotten pregnant to a new man - a newly sober (!!!!!) veteran drug addict. She had a shotgun wedding to him as well. Newly sober people are in a delicate phase and the last thing they should be doing is joining a large family with complicated drama in it. I was very worried for her children, especially, as it's so frequent that pedos go for single mothers.

I have occasionally been checking in on her social media, but we are too distant to really even talk anymore. I thought about reconnecting, but she is still very fundamentalist Christian and it basically gives me hives to try to communicate to people from my old background, so I hoped for the best.

Well, just now I checked and she was tagged in her husband's long sad post about an old friend of his who died and a picture of the tattoo he got to honor this dude. So me being nosy and having some time, I googled the guy's name. IDK why, really... maybe I was wondering if he had also been a victim of wartime PTSD? But no, the FIRST search result was about him being arrested recently for abusing a child. The details were vague, but apparently the baby almost died.

I AM SO ANGRY. My friend's new husband is mourning an absolute monster, someone who totally deserved to die and should have done so years earlier so no child had to suffer at his hands. I don't know exactly what this scrote did and don't want to know, but I have a dreadful feeling that I was right and my friend married a pedophile.

She lives across the country. I feel really helpless and worried for her children. Should I try to get back in touch with her and endure the inevitable MLM pitch? I hardly ever use my social media (post like 4x a year) but maybe I should try to get more active on it so it looks like organic getting back in touch with her... but I still have no idea how I'd intervene on behalf of those kids. She even posts things sometimes like not making your kids hug someone unless they want to, etc., which is great, but IMO she is still incredibly naive and there was no chance to warn her about predator pedos targeting single moms, because she got married to him right after announcing she was seeing him, apparently. I am sad and welcome any input from you ladies, whether advice to calm down it doesn't sound like her kids are in danger, or do something, or just rargh with me.

It just drives me nuts how common this stuff is.