Interesting Article - "I Think About John Mayer's 'Daughters' a Lot"

dingdingdingdongbing · 2021-04-07T17:02:54+00:00

I recently saw a post about applying FDS to ALL men in our lives, not just prospective/existing partners. This article spoke to me on that topic.

Excerpts:

But despite being lauded as a 21st-century troubadour, Mayer does not, in fact, have a way with words. In an archived interview that I was able to convert to an mp3 thanks to the Wayback Machine, Mayer described the inspiration behind the song: “You start to realize that a girl’s first relationship with a guy is her father,” he begins, already nailing it. “And like any first relationship with a guy, if it goes badly, you have a lot of catch-up work you have to help this girl go through. And a lot of my friends and I have talked about it, in terms of men being fixer-uppers for people. It’s like we should just cut that out from the very beginning so when we meet girls, we can go straight to living with them and not have to set them up. There shouldn’t be any assembly required with that stuff, but there is.” I shudder to imagine which members of the Pussy Posse are represented by the word friends here.

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There’s an ancient male proverb that gets thrown around a lot, most often on political pulpits and in celebrity mea culpas. It begins, “As the father of daughters,” after which point all daughters everywhere completely disregard what follows. I have still never heard what happens after Ted Cruz–ass politicians utter “As the father of daughters,” because by that point, I know in my heart that I’ve already heard enough. Not being able to escape the song “Daughters” from the year 2004 onward has told me everything I need to know about what musty men think about daughters: that they are either lovers or mothers. That their fathers are the guide and the weight of their worlds. And that’s all, folks.

One of the greatest mistakes of the year 2005 was awarding Mayer a Song of the Year Grammy for “Daughters,” even if Hoobastank’s “The Reason” was also a contender. Times were certainly different then. Daughters perhaps felt less empowered. Fathers were perhaps more emboldened. Mayers were given carte blanche to sing freely about whatever thought popped into their heads. “Now I’m starting to see, maybe it’s got nothing to do with me,” Mayer sings on “Daughters,” to which I’d retort — babe, it’s got a lot to do with you.

In his Grammy acceptance speech, Mayer momentarily seemed to understand what he’d done by writing “Daughters.” “I want to thank a bunch of people who told me this song was good for people to hear,” he said, “even though I said it probably wasn’t.” After this uncharacteristic moment of clarity, he dedicated the Grammy to his recently passed grandmother, who had “an awesome daughter — named my mom.”

Kimpractical · 2021-04-07T17:40:11+00:00

Holy shit I forgot about this song. This society is a misogynist dumpster fire for letting this song be a thing 😂😂

52490 · 2021-04-07T19:21:14+00:00

Ugh I always hated this song and this helped me realize why.

Side note I know people think he’s hot, but he looks like a creepy serial killer to me. It’s the eyes or something.

razseh · 2021-04-07T17:34:17+00:00

This song used to play at an old job I had. The lyrics were so nauseating. I’m glad I’m not the only one that loathes it.

Weremaid · 2021-04-07T21:37:11+00:00

Having never actually seen the movie Get Hard — a 2015 comedy starring Will Ferrell and Kevin Hart wherein Hart “prepares” Ferrell for prison — my instinctive review is “Hmm, sounds bad.”

Maybe a hot take, but Hart is an absolute NVM and I’ve never found his stand up to be remotely funny, plus his movie characters are the exact same, “angry short guy.” Also, Ferrel is an asshole, I met him at a PR thing he did for Anchorman 2, and he made it blatantly obvious that he didn’t want to be there and that none of us (my ex was a big fan) were worth his time. He arrived an hour late and left in 10 minutes. Meanwhile his costar was polite and graciously covered for him before and after.

Inthefullspectrum · 2021-04-08T00:34:31+00:00

When you have so little personality that collecting watches is a thing. I could not read further.

afterglow88 · 2021-04-08T15:22:43+00:00

Omg. I have never actually thought about the meaning of the lyrics.. I liked the melody, his voice, and I hate to admit but only got as far as thinking “aww he’s telling dads not to mess up their daughters”.

Oh god ... what a piece of shit

Title	Interesting Article - "I Think About John Mayer's 'Daughters' a Lot"
Author	dingdingdingdongbing
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Date	April 7, 2021 4:59 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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