It took me awhile to see through the misandrist dogwhistle of ''toxic masculinity'' and when they're moaning and bitching about toxic masculinity, they don't mean exaggerated portrayals of traditionally human masculine traits, what they're really getting at is insulting men's social behavior and implying we do not know how to make proper bonds and connections, that we are basically always roughhousing eachother

Similiar to how depending on the context, black-on-black crime is used either as a racist dogwhistle to dismiss black's people's needs or some do use it out of concern in a purely humanitarian context, I feel the same is also used by feminists as a 'gotcha' card to when it comes to engaging with men's needs and concerns

Yes, we men are very blunt and physical sometimes with eachother, that I understand. As men, we had a very evolutionary need for this, predating back to the tribal-hunter gatherer days, any men who were from an outside tribe would have been very good at social masking, that social masking made waves for good predatory hyper-vigilance, so as a result men evolved to keep eachother in check and deter and filter and test eachother's mannerisms and codes of conduct withtin a given group setting, the man or group of men within a given tribe would do this to protect the women and children from not only rival tribes, but also existential threats such as wildlife or extreme weather conditions.

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I think a lot of feminists fail to see the bigger picture of this in a broader context

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However what irks me is how widly ignored female-on-female bullying and violence is ignored, at most given workplaces most women feel unsafe and uncomfortable around other women moreso than men. What I think feminism did is weaponize the women are wonderful effect and used it as means of phycological engineering so that the people en masse would never feel any sort of immanent danger or uncomfortability around women. But people still see on average men as more hostile, agressive, barkish, predatory and combative. Yes, you have a right to feel such way, given that men on average do posses bigger muscular systems, skeletal structures, have 10x the muscle mass of women, we have higher sex drives and whatnot, so I understand why most people, including other men, can feel a bit of unease around men as a whole, however this can be very dangerous because people who are very good at using social masking and camouflaging can make for very sneaky domestic abusers, verbal bullies and conflict instigators, we need to train people to keep their guard up more around people of both genders equally. Trust me I been victimized by women as much as I been by other men and we need to stop being blindly trusting of women, just because they're more subtle does not we should have some sort of blind faith, however is deeply engrained into people's heads subconsciously because of the media's sensationalism of male criminality, but I think we finally progressed to a point where female criminality is being called out just as much as its male counterpart hopefully.