Hello, first post under this account, glad to find a place that is situated in between the frothing anger of /r/MensRights and the calmer but too-beholden-to-intersectional-feminist-dogma /r/MensLib . Experience tells me that most of these online spaces tend to "degenerate" to one extreme or the other with time, so I'm a bit wary and skeptical.

This is a phenomenon that I've only noticed the last few years, moreso after the election of Donald Trump, but I already noticed a change in online discourse since around 2014 or so, and it got me wondering.

I'm from a small Western European country, but most of my online activities have been oriented towards the Anglo-American world. I was a teenager in the 2000s and I remember the "Jesusland" vs. "United States of Canada" memes from the 2004 election (Bush vs. Kerry). From what I remember, the online spaces I frequented as a teen were progressive in the sense of rejecting the use of religious dogma to organize society, accepting gay marriage and pro-choice/abortion as something self-evidently okay ("your body, your choice"), open to discussing sexuality and stripping away taboos, favorable to the legalization or decriminalization of soft drugs and treating drug addiction as a health problem instead of as a criminal activity. I remember having my mind changed on quite a few subjects as a teen (I used to have my reservations about gay people adopting children (mostly out of a worry about the kids being bullied, although I later realized that's more of a problem with society than it is with gay people) and my only stance on drugs was "they're bad mmmkay").

I also remember these mostly progressive online spaces as being very friendly to edgy humor appealing to teenagers (and retrospectively, perhaps moreso teenage boys on average) such as South Park etc. Conservatives/tradcons in particular were painted as stuck-up old fogeys, fossilized dinosaurs offended by anything that slightly deviated from their sensibilities and out to force their repressive ways on the rest of society - but everyone else was made fun of too. All in all, it felt fun and liberating to be part of some new progressive current.

I can't remember when the change started happening, but these online spaces seemed to grow increasingly polarized from some point. I think it was around 2014 that I started to notice terms like "male privilege", "cultural appropriation" (and so on and so forth) gaining traction and being a bit bemused by the fervor with which some people railed against some seemingly innocuous stuff as being "a symptom of the white cis-heteropatriarchy".

Of course, the other side of the spectrum was also starting to get more noticeable. I didn't really bother with looking into "Gamergate" too much despite finding many critiques of sexy video game characters as inherently objectifying disturbingly puritanical and demonizing - but seen from afar, the levels of harassment and vitriol that it spawned seemed to indicate that something rotten was brewing, or that the backlash was hijacked by groups who had a more nefarious and far-reaching agenda than just "ethics in game journalism" and restoring video game boobies to their full glory. You also had the internet New Atheists essentially split into Atheism+ (atheism + the typical intersectional agenda) and "Skeptics" who morphed into anti-SJW/alt-lite/alt-right youtube personalities like Sargon, leaving not much middle ground or room for dissidence

Fast forward to 2019 and things just seem... bad right now. I notice that in my home country of Belgium, a lot of young male teens seem to be drawn to online alt-lite or alt-right culture, professing sympathy for our far-right party Vlaams Belang which uses a very simplistic strategy of blaming all of society's ills on migrants and "open borders", some of whose politicians seem to feel emboldened now to profess their anti-homosexuality and anti-abortion stances which were previously obscured.

While the kind of progressivism that I grew up with might be labelled as "brogressivism" by present-day internet intersectional feminists, the "soyboy cuck degenerate" type of discourse seems like several leaps backwards. One can raise the question to what extent alienation by current-day progressive discourse plays a part in that. It might be just personal bias speaking, but the overall discourse on progressive news outlets such as The Guardian in the last few years has seemed to paint a one-sided picture of "men need to be better" and "women need to be lifted up" - so while young girls seem to be latching on to feminism as something that gives them a purpose, an identity and a struggle, if you're struggling as young man despite your male privilege, in essence you're branded a loser or "part of the problem". This compounded by a strange new puritanism that even goes to far as to trying to justify the taking down of a Pre-Raphaelite painting because "the painting clearly invites the viewer to enjoy the nymphs’ naked breasts".. Luckily, they very occasionally feature a dissenting left-wing voice

I'm starting to ramble now, but what I'm trying to get at it is - what is your take on this shift in discourse? The last few years saw the rise of two broad ideological groupings/subcultures/extremes each with their own lingo, concepts (male entitlement...) and set of insults (incel vs. soyboy). A lot of left-wing articles document the rise of the "alt-right" (sometimes lumping in together a lot of stuff) through 4chan, youtube and the like, and I'm very skeptical about Jordan Peterson-style rants about "Cultural Marxism" that also seem to lump in very disparate phenomena in one convenient term. But I do wonder how this set of concepts gained so much traction in such a brief span of time that we now have the American Psychological Association embracing the concept "toxic masculinity" (now rendered under the name "traditional masculinity") in its official guides and more notably, explicitly mentioning the word "patriarchy" in it.

So, thoughts?