I don't think "no fault" is the problem, per se, rather it's that many of the judicial and cultural norms and expectations around divorce are leftover from the "at fault" era.
If your spouse was "at fault" in some way, it made sense for the courts to award you more than your fair share of the marital assets to compensate for the wrongs done to you. It's the same as if you were in a business partnership that was dissolved due to malfeasance of the other partner: you can justify deviation from best-practices by claiming recovery of damages or disproportionate assignment of liability.
But that's not the case in a "no fault" settlements.
Because their primary childhood role model for conflict resolution and emotional regulation was an irresponsible and selfish single mother.
Because during the period of their lives when they had the neural plasticity to lay down healthy coping mechanisms, they were instead heavily drugged into compliance and are now permanently emotionally disabled.
Because constantly telling someone they're angry prompts them to examine their lives and discover they have legitimate grievances.
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I don't think "no fault" is the problem, per se, rather it's that many of the judicial and cultural norms and expectations around divorce are leftover from the "at fault" era.
If your spouse was "at fault" in some way, it made sense for the courts to award you more than your fair share of the marital assets to compensate for the wrongs done to you. It's the same as if you were in a business partnership that was dissolved due to malfeasance of the other partner: you can justify deviation from best-practices by claiming recovery of damages or disproportionate assignment of liability.
But that's not the case in a "no fault" settlements.
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Because their primary childhood role model for conflict resolution and emotional regulation was an irresponsible and selfish single mother.
Because during the period of their lives when they had the neural plasticity to lay down healthy coping mechanisms, they were instead heavily drugged into compliance and are now permanently emotionally disabled.
Because constantly telling someone they're angry prompts them to examine their lives and discover they have legitimate grievances.
All of the above.
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