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Most people here have a general concept of what an abundance mentality is, but I don’t think most understand exactly what it means to actually adopt an abundance mentality. I see so many guys in AskTRP post an issue where this one idea could easily solve their problem. Here’s a few details that I’ve put together in order to hopefully help some of you; 1) get a better idea of the concept, 2) be able attain it, and 3) be able to maintain/cultivate it.

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First off, let me state how vast of a subject this is. There’s plenty we could cover on abundance mentality, but this is just a simplified version of what helped me actually understand it, which you can apply to general social interactions/situations and your interactions/situations with women. I can’t express how important I believe it is for you to apply this concept to your life. It ties together with many of the other concepts that we discuss here and could be referred to as the solution to most of the problems many experience. It will help make things easier and more enjoyable.

One main point I want to make is that I didn’t really get what an abundance mentality was until I actually felt it. And it was an amazing feeling. One day, a girl I asked out, backed out on the date. Said she was sick or something. And you know what? For the first time, I truly didn’t give a fuck. I had two more dates the next two nights with two gorgeous girls and now, I could do whatever the hell I wanted to that night. I also had the numbers of other girls that I was planning on asking out, on top of the girls I was already plating. I realized I had options. I also realized the many other great things I had going on in my life, in general, which made the feeling even better. All of the work I had put in was paying off. It was then that I really felt what an abundance mentality was and I wanted to do whatever it took to get more of it. So without further ado…

OUTCOME INDEPENDENCE

What does it mean? It means no matter what happens, you’re good. You don’t have any emotional investment in the situation. You are not reactive.

You can’t control what happens to you, but you can control how you react to what happens to you. One of the main things I try to explain to people when they want to initiate any conversation is to focus on what you can bring to the interaction rather than what you can get out of it. You can’t control what you get out of it. You have no idea what’s going to develop. So try to focus on giving value to the interaction. Value is your time, your attention, your genuine interest, etc. If it’s not appreciated (and it might not be), move along. Not everyone is going to be receptive. But it doesn’t matter. NEXT. You’re good. When you don’t let it bother you, you’re holding frame (which is easier to do with an abundance mentality). Remember: You are responsible for your own happiness. If your emotional output is reliant on the situations that develop in your life, you will not be a happy person.

Once you realize this, it will become easier to approach and/or polarize.

GET RID OF YOUR EXPECTATIONS

The key here is to not expect anything. Get rid of your expectations (of other people) and assumptions. You don’t know jack shit until you go find out and experience it for yourself. Remember, it’s a numbers game. Some will. Some won’t. Who cares? NEXT. Your job is to put in the numbers and let them sort themselves out. Expectations can set you up for disappointment. They can also entice you to put certain women on a pedestal and to become needy. Assumptions can stop you from approaching or asking a girl out. ”She probably has a boyfriend.” or ”She’s probably not my type.” Whatever it is, you do not know. Go find out! If you were right, GREAT! NEXT.

”You miss 100 percent of the shots you never take.” –Wayne Gretzky

THERE’S PLENTY TO GO AROUND

I see so many guys ask about how to handle a certain situation with this one girl. And some of the questions are justified. But the majority of them are not and are met with: ”You aren’t talking to/dating/sleeping with enough girls.” And they won’t understand the simplicity of that answer until they actually implement the advice and know what it feels like. I see so many guys putting up with absolute, unnecessary bullshit when it’s obvious they need to NEXT the girl. A scarcity mindset makes it hard to do so because of the uncertainty (a feminine trait) of the future.

There’s plenty of women out there. Just because you “got” one doesn’t mean you can’t get another one. Do not become complacent. When you do get a girl who is receptive to you, don’t stop. Nothing is guaranteed. She’s not that special and you’ll see that once you start getting more women in your life (or you might find out otherwise if things develop). Until she’s asking you about commitment (if that’s what you’re going for), you should keep going.

But even if you do decide to give her your commitment, never stop approaching women. I believe Patrice O’Neal, who supposedly had a beautiful girlfriend, explained it the best when he said something along the lines of: ”She has to smell it on you.” She needs to sense that you’re still desired by other women (dread). You also need to know that you can have another woman at the drop of a hat if you wanted to, which she can also sense. We all know how badly the game is rigged against us. She can’t help that there is always the potential of her getting approached by other men. If you stop approaching women, you’ll lose it and it’s not easy to just jump right back in the game after you’ve been out of it for so long. So, don’t stop approaching. It doesn’t have to be blatant and it doesn’t mean you have to pursue any further, but I’m sure you can figure out that much.

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You’ll know when you have an abundance mentality from the uplifting feeling it gives you. Every action that attracts women (aloofness, not being needy, confidence, holding frame, dread, etc.) can be attained much easier with an abundance mentality. It’s not something that is easily attainable, but if you keep moving forward and keep working, the momentum will build and it will become more noticeable. It’s a lifestyle and it’s developed through your habits.

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  1. Abundance mentality is gained through your actions.
  2. It naturally has a positive effect on the application of all other concepts of TRP.
  3. Don’t rely on anything/anyone other than yourself for your happiness.
  4. Do not become complacent. Ever.

Edit: minor punctuation mistake