Given the fact that I live in a small town all my life (except when I was at university), I decided to share my experience about small town game. I originally wanted to name this submission “Some tips for small town game”, but I got a great inspiration and the text became much longer than I expected. Small town game is very different from the big city game. While in the big city you can bang Tinder sluts who don't know where you work and don't know any of your friends/family members, that's something impossible in the small town. I must note that I don't live in the US, so some aspects may be different in the US. Anyway, let's get started...

I) You

Social proof is everything. You're starting to build your social proof in high school, and you keep building it all your life. Social proof is crucial if you want any kind of success with women. If you live in a small town and no one knows that you even exist, then you're screwed. If you did not have many friends in high school, and those that you had are no longer in the town, then it's a very very difficult situation. Cliques are formed during high school, and it is difficult later in life to become part of the old, already established cliques. For example, my dad hangs out with the same people for almost 40 years. Unfortunately, in a small town you do not have a big choice of people with whom you can socialize with, so you will have to compromise and hang out with people that you'd most likely ignore if you were in a big city. In a small town, everything is better than having no friends at all. If you don't have any friends, you'll have no one to invite you to social gatherings, parties, celebrations, basketball matches etc. and you'll have no opportunity to meet new women. You must always be visible and accessible, and for that you need friends.

So much depends on reputation – guard it with your life. This is a quote from the book “48 Laws of Power”, and it is strictly applied when you're in a small town. There's very little room for error here, be very careful what you do and what you say. People have very good memory and something that you've done long time ago can haunt you for the rest of your life. Never let your guard down and don't let a stupid mistake destroy your reputation. A man could build a thousand bridges and suck one cock. He will be know as a cock sucker, not a bridge builder.

White collar job is an enormous advantage. It's no secret that girls aren't really going crazy on janitors. If you're a doctor, judge or lawyer in a small town, you're already at top 5 – 10% of all men. Literally everyone in the town will know who you are (due to the fact that you come into contact with so many people, and they will talk about you), and everyone will try to befriend you – as long as you're not an asshole and have good ethics. You'll be able to become a part of many cliques, and therefore it will give you access to a much bigger pool of women. Women will already know who you are, so it will be super easy to game them (money/looks/status = pre-selection). Sure, some men will hate you for being better than them, some will hang out with you just because they need something from you, or will probably need something from you in the future. And a lot of women (especially wall approaching) will see you as a Beta Bux potential and try to lock you down. That's why you must hold your frame all the time don't let anyone take advantage of you, men or women. Also, with great power comes great responsibility. If you do something stupid, it will have a much greater impact on your reputation.

Being an athlete is an advantage, too. If you're young, you should definitely consider this. It will significantly boost your social proof, as athletes were always wanted by girls, and they always will be. Girls will come to watch your games and cheer for your team. You'll soon become well known among them, and it will create a nice pre-selection. Local TV might interview you, so that's additional boost for your social proof. Of course, as you get older and find a full time job, you most likely won't have time to play sports competitively.

Presence on social media is important. You don't have to be a Facebook celebrity, but presence on social media is very important. First of all, you need to be informed about events that are happening in your town. Secondly, if you have a good social proof, women will want to contact you. Therefore, make sure you have publicly visible information about your location, so it's enough for them to type your first name in the search bar in order to find you.

Don't gossip. Whether it's about men or women, gossiping can only do harm and nothing else. A guy from my neighborhood went on a date with a nurse. The date didn't go well, he got angry afterwards and started telling his buddies how he pumped and dumped her. She found out about these stories, and then she published a disclaimer on her Facebook, where she wrote what exactly happened, linked his profile and advice other girls to stay away from “that creep with vivid imagination”. She has a few thousand friends, and her submission received a lot of support from them. Lesson is – don't gossip unless you want to flush your reputation down the toilet.

Being a bachelor becomes increasingly difficult every year. Your friends will start getting married and they will eventually become focused only on their wives and kids. Your family will start to worry about you and they will start pressuring you to get married. Whether you like it or not, people will start gossiping about you. It's just unavoidable. There's no easy solution for this, except searching for like-minded men, and hope that your family will eventually give up and realize that you don't want to settle. You can't cut contact with your family, since you keep bumping into them every day.

II) Girls

There's a very small pool of girls in a small town. Most of the girls are leaving the small town once they finish high school, and move to big cities. Big cities are extremely attractive for girls. Living a life in a big city as a young, attractive girl is just too easy. First of all, big cities offer a lot of high SMV men – doctors, engineers, rich bankers. Secondly, they offer anonymity. Girls are free to have sex with as many men they want, and nobody will every know it. No slut shaming, no gossiping. Beside that, big cities offer universities, job opportunities, shopping malls, nightclubs, easily available drugs and what not. Also big cities approve more liberal behavior, like tattoos, piercing and homosexuality. Small towns offer none of these. Therefore, your options in a small town will be very limited, as there aren't many young girls. Work on your SMV if you want to stay competitive.

If she's still in the town, there's a good reason for it. In the era of feminism and unchecked hypergamy, no girl genuinely wants to spend her youth in a small town. There are a few reasons why the girl is still in town. Some girls simply don't have enough money to go to college. On the other hand, there are many post-wall women who return to the small town after 12 years of trying to lock down a doctor, engineer or rich banker in the big city. So now they don't have any other option except to start searching for their small town Beta male. One of your buddies will most likely marry a girl like this.

Girls always move in herds, never alone. You're never going to see a girl doing things by herself, like walking her dog, jogging, swimming, riding a bicycle or any other activity, including shopping, drinking coffee in a cafe... If none of her friends are available, she'll just stay at home and browse social media. There's a huge social stigma around girls that hang out alone in a small town, and they quickly become the subject of much local gossip. That's why they refrain from doing stuff alone. I keep seeing girls who are 21 or 22 (and even older) walking in the park with their mothers during a sunny day, because they don't want to spend a nice day indoors.

Most girls live with their parents. Since economy in small towns is shit, she won't be making enough money to live on her own. Also jobs in a small town aren't steady, a lot of them are seasonal, so living with parents makes sense. Don't be surprised if a girl well into her 20s is still living with mom and dad. Also, they will know every single detail about you.

There are no unicorns. Women are women, and AWALT still applies. Just because women in a small town don't suck and fuck around indiscriminately, that doesn't they wouldn't like it. Yes, they cheat and yes they branch swing. They are just doing it more professionally and are better at covering their tracks. They don't shit where they eat, because they don't want to ruin their reputation. While you're on your business trip, she won't fuck your neighbor or her boss, but a guy from another town or city nearby. And eventually she'll branch swing. And you will wonder WTF happened. That's just how it is. Small town girl is cunning like a fox, don't get fooled by thinking she's some kind of unicorn. There are no unicorns.

III) Game

DO NOT COLD APPROACH. Unless you want to permanently ruin your reputation, you don't want to hit on random women. Never. Ever. Just don't do it. You'll keep bumping into these women at least several times per month until the end of your life, and you don't want them to label you as a creep and gossip about you. Don't shit where you eat. It's better to be invisible than to be a creep.

Never message random girls on Facebook. Especially younger ones. Just like cold approaching, this can destroy your reputation, and unlike cold approaching, it leaves a permanent trace that can never be challenged. If the girl is a bitch, there's a huge chance she'll share the chat log with her girlfriends, or even post it on her wall (timeline) in order to ridicule you and present you as a creep. If you're messaging a girl, make sure you're acquainted with her first.

Forget about Tinder and other dating sites/apps. They simply don't work, and will never work in a small town. First reason is that there simply aren't enough girls. Second reason is that there's a huge social stigma around online dating in a small town. Most girls are afraid that someone who knows them will see them, and that they'll be perceived as easy or slutty. Thus they refrain from online dating.

Bars/pubs/clubs are not places designed to meet girls. They are designed for already established cliques to hang out, and they go there in order to be seen and to take photos for Instagram. Everyone knows everyone there, since exactly the same people go to exactly the same places for years. You won't meet a girl or a new friend there, so don't bother trying. When you see a group of girls in a bar, be sure that at least 80% of the guys already know them. They are there to get attention, not to be approached.

Having multiple women at the same time is not possible. You will only be able to be with one girl at the time. There's no way you can have two or more girls at the time and that they don't know about each other. Girls in small towns will always push for commitment, and therefore sex outside of a monogamous committed relationship is impossible. No girl wants to be labeled as a town's bicycle – they're guarding their reputation just as you do. If you want some quick sex, the easiest way to get it is to go to the nearest city and bang a hooker.

Age difference matters. If you're 35 and you're dating a 18 year old girl, do not expect social approval. Huge age differences can endanger your reputation, as people will label you as an “old pervert” or a “pedo”. Not to mention that you can end up in trouble with her dad. Seriously. Even though she's technically an adult, her parents will consider her as a kid as long as she's living under their roof. If you're dating a much younger girl in a small town, make sure her parents are okay with that. Otherwise, it's not worth it. You don't want people to gossip about you. Just move along.

Your only way to meet women in a small town is through social circles. There is unfortunately no other way. Cold approaching, warm approaching, Tinder – leave that to big cities. I'm going to give you an example how things work in a small town. Me and my friend went to a concert, and while we were there, we bumped into his former elementary school classmate who was with his two girlfriends – one was his former high school classmate and the other one was her friend. After the concert ended, we went to the pub where I got better acquainted with those two girls. That's how you meet girls in a small town. Everything revolves around cliques and social circles, and if you're a lone wolf, you won't have any success.

IV) Conclusion

Small town game is very different from the big city game. Social proof and pre-selection are essential for your success, your reputation must always be untainted, everything you say or do can haunt you for a very long time. Even though gossiping is the main hobby of many, refrain from doing it. You will not have a large selection of girls, and the competition is fierce. Having a white collar job or being an athlete can boost your social proof, but if you don't posses enough Alpha traits, you'll be friendzoned and eventually Beta Bux'd. Spinning plates is not possible, you'll have to stick to fully committed LTRs and make your relationship official. Her parents will know everything about that relationship and every single detail about you. Huge age differences are frowned upon and can affect your reputation. Being a bachelor becomes increasingly difficult as you get older, due to pressure from your friends and family.

All in all, my advice is to move to the big city as fast as possible. Small towns that exist now are just a faded memory of what they've been during the good old Marriage 1.0 days - before feminism and unchecked hypergamy took over. Those days are long gone and will most likely never return. Big cities will become bigger, small towns will become smaller. That's reality. Everything that was built for centuries, and what your ancestors fought for will disappear in a few decades. Anyway, if you can't move out, well, just stick to my instructions and try to make the best of your life. Enjoy the decline, and of course, don't get married.