The sex gap

Biological beginnings

The biological drive for sex emanates from our need to reproduce. This is true regardless of your conscious intentions. You may want kids, not want kids, not care to have kids, it doesn’t change anything. The underlying reason behind everything sexual is our biological need to reproduce.

Gestation is extremely costly for a woman in every which way. Ejaculation costs almost nothing to a man. Therefore, the woman must be extremely picky in choosing the right man, whereas the man needs to gain access to as many women as he can for the highest chances of successful reproduction.

Furthermore, a woman only ovulates once a month. A man can ejaculate multiple times a day.

Because of all these factors – for human reproduction to succeed – men need to have a crazy high sex drive and the ability to be up and ready at a moment’s notice. Women OTOH, only need to have sex during ovulation. From the standpoint of the biological need to reproduce, there’s no reason for a woman to ever get horny outside of ovulation.

The marriage trade-off

Men and women play different roles in reproduction. The role of the human female is to carry, birth and raise the babies. The role of the human male is to facilitate this process through protection and provision that ensures the survival of the mother and baby.

Women are shorter, weaker, slower and not as smart as men. Add pregnancy, childbirth and child rearing to the mix and they’re even more vulnerable than before. The overwhelming majority of women cannot survive without men. Women need men. Men OTOH, can survive just fine without women. Men need women for love, sex and reproduction.

Marriage is a trade-off. The woman offers to the man, exclusive access to her sexuality and baby making capabilities, in exchange for his protection and provision for her and the children. This trade-off is the core foundation of marriage. Everything else is feel good dressing.

Male authority is necessary for this arrangement to work because responsibility without authority is slavery and authority without responsibility is tyranny. If he’s responsible for her, he ought to have authority over her. This is why men traditionally had authority over their wives and children. Because they bore full responsibility for them. Whether you think this was good or bad is irrelevant, this is the reason things were the way they were.

The sex gap

In addition to their biological drive to mate during ovulation, women can also be driven to mate as a way of gaining access to a man. Because his sex drive is so much greater than hers and because sex is the main reason he has any association with her altogether – she can use his sex drive to get him to do her bidding. To have him by the balls.

Whether or not she’s conscious of this, whether or not she’s malicious in doing this, the fact remains that 1. She doesn’t need sex nearly as often as you do and 2. She will use this sex gap to keep you lusting after her so she can gain access to your protection and provision.

This too was part of the marriage trade-off. By gaining his commitment to support her for life, she was obligated to fulfill his sexual needs for life. Failure to do so was grounds for divorce.

Modern day marriage

In modern marriage, all forms of male authority have been demonized as oppression and are penalized as domestic abuse. All forms of male responsibility remain or are increased. This is done with the full backing of society and the government.

In terms of sex this means: she has full authority to deny you sex for any or no reason, for any length of time and even forever. You OTOH, are still fully obligated to sacrifice everything to protect her from harm and provide her with the lifestyle she’s accustomed to…

Whether you like it or not, this is the actual state of marriage everywhere in the western world. Even if she agrees to be a traditional, submissive wife who will have sex with you every day etc – she can always change her mind and there’s nothing you can do about it.

In short: modern marriage is a terrible deal for men. You have all the traditional husbandly responsibilities, with none of the authority. You have no right to anything, not even to sex – the core foundation of the marriage trade-off!

What’s a man to do?

As with any other form of loss, men go through the five stages of grief.

First comes denial. A man will get married despite the sky-high divorce rate, despite the misery of his friends, despite all the evidence. He’s either in denial altogether or in denial that it might happen to him. He’s convinced that she will have daily sex with him forever and ever, amen.

Then comes anger. After hearing “I’m not in the mooooooooooood” a thousand times, he gets angry. He may argue with his wife or he may be upset with himself for failing to find “the right one”.

Next comes bargaining. Either with himself or with her. Either overtly or covertly. Either through underhanded manipulation or through becoming a PUA who games his very own wife…

Whether it works or not, depression comes next. If he fails to successfully bargain for sex, he’ll feel depressed in his loneliness and sexual frustration. If he does succeed in getting her horny, he’ll eventually become depressed from having to put in so much extra effort just for her to want him.

Eventually he just won’t care anymore. He will reach acceptance of the fact that women need, but don’t want men. That no woman will ever desire daily sex forever because it isn’t in their biology to be that way. That modern marriage is a shit deal.

Conclusion

Modern marriage is a terrible deal for men. Eventually, after going through the five stages of grief, men come to realize that the juice just isn’t worth the squeeze.

Ladies, you did this to yourselves. You selfishly took and took and continue to take. As men get put through the sexless wringer of modern marriage, more and more become disinterested in your used up, disease ridden pussy. Enjoy your cats, boxed wine and dildos.

Cheers!