Loose Pussy Problem

RecoveringBPAddict · 2017-02-24T14:51:48+00:00

When you're not overweight, prediabetic, with high cholesterol, and consistently going to the gym to get ripped, then you can complain about a loose pussy.

In the meantime, focus on your mission. Put less of an emphasis on sex, and put more effort into creating intimacy with your wife. Live in the moment (breathe through her or some shit like Way of the Superior Man says). You can't change your pussy, but you can change your mindset and your expectations on what the"perfect" sexual experience feels like.

RBuddDwyer · 2017-02-24T16:45:41+00:00

She likes them now, specifically vibes. When she uses them, she is tight and it’s great. When she doesn't she's loose and I don't feel much at all.

That's a big sign right there.

Granted, she pushed out 4 kids so things are stretched out.

The vagina is just a muscle. She can exercise it and get it as tight as she wants. Number of children have no bearing on tightness.

It hit me last week that sex is 80% me where I do almost all the work. It was like a ton of bricks on my head that I was working to get here only to find a loose pussy and 20% participation.

Welcome to reality. Men are the active sex, women are the passive, receptive sex. Women are designed to be passive for sex. Shit, it's even inherent in the physiology itself. You have to penetrate her. She receives your cock in her pussy. That dynamic plays out on every single level. Men lead, women follow. That applies to everything, especially sex.

Now that I am actually writing this out, a huge covert contract to self-improve to get sex is screaming at me from my computer screen. Ugh. If I were around dread level 5-6, I have no doubt she would be doing what it takes to keep the pussy tight to drain my balls. I am at a 3-4 right now.

Well there you go, you figured it out yourself. It's always about you. She reacts to you in every way: sex, life, work, family, everything. Women have been said to be like water, they take the form of whatever container you pour them into. Guess what, you are the container. This is clear evidence that you have got a lot of work to do. Dread isn't going to be the one thing that fixes this, either. Dread is the result of your improvement, it's evidence of your increasing attractiveness. Dread is not a tool in and of itself. You don't dread your wife, your wife feels dread as a result of your increasing SMV relative to her.

Also, it looks like you are still in her frame, reacting to her giving better sex to the dildo. You even say it yourself here:

If I were around dread level 5-6, I have no doubt she would be doing what it takes to keep the pussy tight to drain my balls.

You are wanting to get to levels 5-6 so that she will give you better sex. Stop doing things just to get her to change. That's letting her set the frame, and you will never get the life you want that way. You improve yourself for yourself and for no one else. Not the marriage, not her, not so she will fuck you. You improve you because you are the only person that matters.

UEMcGill · 2017-02-28T15:45:02+00:00

I love it. This thread has been cross-posted and the bluepill literally and figuratively has their panties in a wad over it. It's silly what aggravates them.

And now to set this answer straight, BEHOLD THE POWER OF PUSSY!

resolutions316 · 2017-02-24T14:49:32+00:00

I don't have an answer for you, but good on you for recognizing your CC mid-post.

Kegels and such are of course out there for your wife, but that won't fix the motivation issue.

Coniferous_88 · 2017-02-24T15:04:15+00:00

I think most guys in their journey experience a certain 'lag time' where they have improved to the point where IOIs from other women are becoming more frequent and yet the wife/LTR hasn't quite caught up. This is a difficult time because your hard work is beginning to pay off, but not with the wife...yet.

It seems to be a familiar pattern: guy discovers RP because of dead bedroom or shitty wife, guy swallows the pill and improves, sex frequency goes up but its still vanilla starfish duty sex, guy gets frustrated because younger-hotter-tighter from the office is relentlessly hitting on him while the wife remains her shitty old self.

The answer remains the same- increase dread, realize abundance mentality, make yourself your mental point of origin, have a mission, and remember that you decide how long to wait for her to catch up/catch on that your SMV has exceeded hers and you are the prize that she better step up to keep.

Once you're at dread level 5 or 6, you should begin actively leading the sexual dynamic...tell her what you want, tease/deprive, go caveman if you aren't getting her best effort, etc. TFA wrote a blog post about creating your slut, read it here: https://thefamilyalpha.com/2015/12/30/creating-your-slut/

RecoveringBPAddict · 2017-02-24T16:40:27+00:00

You sound like a kid who didn't get what he wants, so he's taking his toys and going home...

RecoveringBPAddict · 2017-02-24T16:19:40+00:00

Is she overweight? Does she exercise? Does she do Kegels? Having kids doesn't necessarily distend the vagina unless she's out of shape.

2017-02-24T23:43:38+00:00

Fuck her in the ass.

screechhater · 2017-02-25T02:35:33+00:00

Put in the work........ trust me, she will follow and do what it takes to keep you

She will fix her loose pussy, mine is working on it currently

Title	Loose Pussy Problem
Author	RecoveringBPAddict
Upvotes	5
Comments	25
Date	February 24, 2017 2:45 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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