Has ghosting ever worked for you?

BusterVadge · 2017-10-21T11:52:05+00:00

Ghosting always works. It means cutting off all contact forever. The only way to fuck that up is to contact her again.

Pluglord · 2017-10-21T12:04:31+00:00

Ghosting is not supposed to "turn around a situation". You're ghosting her because you have better things to do than be one of her orbiters. Once you ghost it's on to the next. If she reaches out, great, if not, who gives a fuck.

TrenGod37 · 2017-10-21T13:11:37+00:00

If by works you mean causes her to come crawling back.. for me it always did. The only thing is the point of ghosting is to cut all contact. For good. So it shouldn’t matter. But sometimes you want to plate your ex. It’s not recommended but hey if you want to go for that. By all means be my guest

walawalawa · 2017-10-21T18:55:05+00:00

Ghosting means never seeing them again.

Sounds like you're talking about "Soft-nexting".

What's your goal? If you're doing it to get back at them, you're coming off as butthurt and insecure.

There are whole sections of blogs devoted to soft-nexting, start with Black Dragon's guide to soft-nexting.

MattyAnon · 2017-10-21T20:59:32+00:00

Ghosting isn't designed to "turn things around", it's designed to get rid of her.

You're talking about a soft next. And yes, being a master of the soft next is fundamental to keeping women around on your terms.

But generally speaking if it's not going well with a girl, ignoring her won't make her do a 180 and want to fuck you, she'll just be glad not to have to talk to you.

I'm almost doing all the initiation to meet,date,fuck. Can it turn around a situation or its kinda late?

Ideally you set the "you have to work for it" frame at the start. Next time you'll get better at it.

This girl - you need to train her. Ignoring her won't work, she'll just assume you've gone off her.

What you do instead is TEASE. Set up a date, then cancel. Say you'll call, then don't, then do. The idea is that if she doesn't start to do more work, she gets dicked around. You ignore her some of the time. And yes, you have to bait her into talking to you so you can ignore her.

I can assure you this works, but as always: get more options too, until you stop giving a fuck about this one.

Meanwhile: if you're doing all the work, make sure you get all the benefit. You may have to initiate, but you can tell her to drive over. Negotiate.... and by negotiate I mean you say "Drive over", she says "No, you have to drive over", and you then say "Ok, we'll meet up another day.... <subject change>"

Shaurya_Official · 2017-10-21T19:29:40+00:00

Read the side bar. Soft nexting always works for me.Even if it doesn't, no bitch is worth the time and effort. You do your thing.

JoePersonman · 2017-10-21T12:00:55+00:00

Yes, it has. I was really into a woman back in the day - tried again and again to connect, same social circle, she KNEW I was down. After literally years of pining, I finally got the balls to say "hey - me and you. I'm a good man and I've come a long way." Shut down. So I pulled away. Nothing. Ghosted. One month later, she showed up at my regular haunt with a goddamn mix tape. Mind you, I really had changed my life around for the better.... Gotta put the work in.

max_peenor · 2017-10-21T14:44:02+00:00

Can it turn around a situation

Turn around to what? You are sticking your dick in her. What problem are you trying to solve?

Peter_B_Long · 2017-10-21T16:15:31+00:00

It's not bad to be doing the initiation and getting a fuck out of it. Do you know how attracted a girl has to be to you for her to initiate sex as a plate? Do not expect it and just accept the leader position.

Also, when a girl starts initiating texting / meet ups, it's not always going to be about sex. If anything, it's just a shit test to see if you'll come with her when she invites you shopping/ her little brothers birthday party / dinner (we all know this is a no no)

But to answer your question, what you want is a soft next. No contact for about a week. You want her to miss you, you want her to dread losing you forever. And if she doesn't contact you, you have the option to hard next. But keep in mind that hard next is blocking her number and deleting her from existence. Even if she messages you months from now with a nude and says she needs you inside of her NOW, you still ignore. Unless you're feeling horny cause fuck you, this is TRP.

Aarxnw · 2017-10-21T13:54:26+00:00

It won't work for you. Not to be rude, but if you're initiating, she most likely doesn't see you as high value. Ghosting only 'works' (works is an inaccurate term because the point of ghosting is to NOT speak to the girl again, it's not really a power move) if you're high value. That is what makes a girl come crawling back, the thought of missing out on a high value male.

Title	Has ghosting ever worked for you?
Author	Philippe93
Upvotes	4
Comments	31
Date	October 21, 2017 11:47 AM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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