dumped for a far less attractive guy

CainPrice · 2019-08-28T20:38:37+00:00

The longer you're with a girl, the less remarkable you seem. Sometimes another guy doesn't have anything on you, except that he's not you. He's something new.

Some other guy made her feel something. You're not new any more, so she hasn't felt that new feeling with you for a long time. She's a woman, so the second she feels something for someone else, the light switch flips and she declares that not only is your relationship wrong today, but it's been wrong for the past 3 years and was full of problems.

Once a woman feels something for another guy, the switch flips. Even if she doesn't end up with the other guy, her subconscious decides she's settling. Those feelings she had eat and eat at her, and everything you do suddenly becomes annoying when yesterday she found it charming. Even if she doesn't get with the other guy, she'll still destroy things with her boyfriend.

This is nothing special. It was your turn. Now your turn is over. Time for another woman.

MightisRight19 · 2019-08-28T19:48:10+00:00

Some type of hypergamous reason obviously. Maybe he’s more alpha than you. Maybe his dick is bigger, maybe he’s better in bed. Trying to find a reason serves you ZERO purpose or benefits. You are looking for a reason to put yourself down. Just know that you are (or should be) high value and it’s her dumb mistake to let a man like you go. Fuck her. Abundance mentality. Good luck to the fat bald dude. Move on

spider_1337 · 2019-08-28T23:30:46+00:00

lol join the club. The guy i got replaced w doesn't even live in the same state!

RedPill-BlackLotus · 2019-08-28T19:36:52+00:00

Maybe he has a massive cock?

Who cares, she fixed your mistake of living with a woman that's not your wife.

Go live your life. Why is a stupid question.

Sickem_roy · 2019-08-28T20:01:45+00:00

Who cares...she’s dumb...move on

aWorldBornDead · 2019-08-28T21:06:25+00:00

It's nothing to be concerned about. Who cares if shes with an ugly guy. Just go get a hotter (even better younger) girl and make sure she sees it you together either in rl or social media.

INNASKILLZ2K18 · 2019-08-29T00:10:43+00:00

Man. Some 'stuff' will come up for you. The why's, the 'was I not good enough's'.

Maybe you see her choice, so you're personalizing it as something's wrong with you.

Weigh up where that thinking is taking you? How is your self-esteem?

You could look at this is just a really weird, retarded move on her part, and you're free. You lift, eat well, have cash.

Don't personalize HER choices. That will compound in you not approaching new girls, because you'll and it about you.

Dude, I approach a lot. I get knocked back, I get numbers, I get girls open me. I get some show zero interest.

People do their own shit, have their own 'shit'.

Stay on the offensive. It probably has ZERO to do with you

[deleted] · 2019-08-28T20:44:35+00:00

Girls do weird shit sometimes.

No use trying to figure it out.

On to the next one.

Compeliminator · 2019-08-28T23:49:23+00:00

thanks for the responses. most of the time you know the answers but when it happens to you it clouds your judgement and it helps to have other guys remind you

Compeliminator · 2019-08-28T20:33:17+00:00

I'll tell my confidence has taken a hit. plus im depressed as fuck right now..my only answer was "you had 2 years to fix this and I'm done". that doesnt explain moving in with a guy youve known for a month.

[deleted] · 2019-08-29T03:04:37+00:00

He gave her the feels man. The feels.

Lysanthir · 2019-08-29T08:34:23+00:00

You broke Iron Rule of Tomassi #4

"NEVER under any circumstance live with a woman you aren’t married to or are not planning to marry in within 6 months."

That bald fatty ain't gon' stick either chief.

Recalibrate, cure to a woman is more women. Re-read sidebar.

Onidramon · 2019-08-29T15:47:22+00:00

I like how everybody here is presuming that there must be a cut and dry hypergamous reason she did it instead of considering the fact that sometimes girls just do dumb shit. Girls leave full-on alphas for bluepill betas all the time. He literally doesn't have to be better physically or frame wise, she can just be a weird covert crazy bitch with insecurity issues or going through a mental break. Don't look for reason in a place where reason has no authority

SpinPlates · 2019-08-28T22:51:32+00:00

As the top comment there there is a hypergamous reason for this.

Most likely he has MORE money or is willing to give her a bigger allowance...or, he might have a health issue and she's about to marry him and get put on his Will.

showerdudes9 · 2019-08-29T05:23:57+00:00

He has an inner frame and confidence that you are nowhere near of having > Physical attraction

AlanTheGr8 · 2019-08-29T00:25:44+00:00

All he did was lick his own eyebrows and you were toast

Lateralanouncer · 2019-08-29T00:51:22+00:00

If i had to guess you have some alpha traits that deminished in her eyes.

She lived with you and you became to familiar to her. Basically you lost your alpha position and she branch swung.

Based on your emotional post and commitments. Maybe you showed to much emotion. Did you argue with her like an emotional man. Did you express yourself to her. Pillow talk all of above. Who knows and who cares. So long as you enjoyed your turn. time to upgrade.

Compeliminator · 2019-08-29T01:38:25+00:00

i left her alone to much. I was focused on my mission so to speak. I went out if town to race and work in my shop. allways asked her to go but she didn't want to. I also work over night so didnt sleep together. she started going out alone and there you have it. I could have spent more time with her but I had shit to do. I tried when i was there. thanks for all the really good responses

Compeliminator · 2019-08-29T02:27:17+00:00

I guess if I wanted to completely waste time i could simply ask why she did.

Throw83736282 · 2019-08-29T02:34:50+00:00

Gym/muscles =/= success with Women. Otherwise humans would've all been bred like cows (Like the huge muscular Cows). We'd all have gorillas or chimpanzee sizes muscles.

BurnoTaurus · 2019-08-29T09:49:59+00:00

If she dumped you for him, then he isnt less attractive. But lets see you guys try to wrap your heads around non phallic sexuality

felix04490 · 2019-08-29T13:52:08+00:00

You broke iron rule 4

360_no_scope_upvote · 2019-08-29T17:38:53+00:00

Never stop achieving your mile stones. You're not remarkable she can't brag about you to Friends

Imaginary_Historian · 2019-08-29T19:06:35+00:00

Exact thing happened to me. Don't try to analyze it. They let their emotions control them, and to them "how she feels" is "truth" no matter how stupid or illogical her actions are to anyone else.

RedGreenPill · 2019-08-28T20:41:59+00:00

This post is showing insecurity in spite of your age and achievements, and maybe she picked up on that. But as u/RedPill-BlackLotus said, it’s better that you don’t live with a woman that you haven’t married. Refocus on your mission and inner game. Meditate. Your turn is over. Plenty of women out there.

Here’s to new beginnings.

RP_COGuy · 2019-08-28T20:04:45+00:00

He's probably more alpha than you. There's more to alpha and SMV than looks.

Title	dumped for a far less attractive guy
Author	Compeliminator
Upvotes	45
Comments	56
Date	August 28, 2019 7:34 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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