Was on a video call with a group of friends earlier (including this one girl who I have made out with a few times). I’m working out during the call, so I’ve muted my mic and am not on camera. Inevitably, the group decides I’m masturbating. Despite the fact that it’s a joke, and I try to agree and amplify, it goes much further than I’m comfortable with. The group start joking about what kind of geeky porn I watch and how quick I finish, with the girl I’m into being the most brutal of all. It gets to the point where she’s is doing an impression of my supposed sexual groans. I tried not to let it get to me, and I don’t think it showed how upset I was, but I don’t want to go through that again.

How can I handle this type of situation in future and maintain the respect of my peers? How can I make it clear that this is crossing a line, without appearing bitter and insecure?

Also, as regards the girl, she’s very keen to be brutal in her jokes towards me in particular. However, when we’re 1on1, she’ll tone it down. How best to regain her respect?