As I’ve practiced being more assertive I’ve learned that 99% of people will back down if you match their aggression or direct their same energy back at them. They don’t want the trouble.

But what about when it’s that 1%? Had a some girl bring her 6’4” giant of a tinder date to our party and he showed up drunk off his ass and amped up on coke. Immediately he started pissing everyone off, hitting on people’s girlfriends, messing with the music, and in general being annoying and socially clueless. I matched his energy but he didn’t care, if anything he only turned up the dial.

Nobody checked him because he was aggressive and huge, we all just waited for him to leave which he eventually did.

I know the basics of how to fight because I’ve done some training pre-Covid, but in that training I also learned how much size matters in a fight. Hate to say it, but I didn’t check him and I really regret it after the fact.

Any tips for checking someone who you know his aggressive, ready to rumble, and could possibly fuck you up?

What should I have done?