Do I count as an exredpill?

Inareskai · 2020-02-28T13:22:33+00:00

Since you don't see proof of redpill/MGTOW in your own social circles, I suspect you are friends with some feminists who are less intense than the online ones who, for some inexplicable reason, feel like hating men is helpful.

Are you seeing a therapist? I think that would be very useful for you in terms of managing your anxious thoughts.

The very vague answer is - humans have different strengths and weaknesses. The fact you're a woman does not make you inferior to a man. There are always going to be people (men and women) who are better or worse than you are at things, that's just a fact of life. Find your own skills and work on them. Your value is not dependent on if someone, regardless of their gender, is better than you at something.

nbaoceiv · 2020-02-28T14:49:12+00:00

No see a therapist. Im a young woman and was raised in a very religious and conservative country and on top of that spent a lot of time on incel forums and image boards. Neither is good for your growth and mental health. I was a pick me and thought feminists were wrong because that's what I was taught to believe too

AnotherWildling · 2020-02-28T16:35:46+00:00

I am so sorry to hear about your anxieties. First of all let me tell you about myself as a young lady. I was quite anti woman, was only friends with guys and thought feminists were men hating and ugly and that they just didn’t get enough attention from men. I had no idea what feminism stood for and all the while I was letting myself be harassed, abused and taken advantage of, which totally destroyed my self image and made me depressed and suicidal. Now, before you think I became a so called man hater, that is not what happened. What happened was I learned about feminism and got a framework with which I could analyse why I had been so anti woman (just as you write in your post women are valued less than men) and why I was constantly victimised.

Here is the definition of feminism:

“Feminism is a range of social movements, political movements, and ideologies that aim to define, establish, and achieve the political, economic, personal, and social equality of the sexes.[a][2][3][4][5] Feminism incorporates the position that societies prioritize the male point of view, and that women are treated unfairly within those societies.[6] Efforts to change that include fighting gender stereotypes and seeking to establish educational and professional opportunities for women that are equal to those for men.”

No man hating. And at no time in my life, even after my feminist awakening have I hated men. I love men, am happily married to one, have a son and an elderly father I take care of. Moreover I’ve never looked at an individual and thought he was inferior because of his penis ;) . And same for all of my feminist friends. Head over to r/TwoXChromosomes and talk to women over there, maybe it could help detoxing from MGTOW and discover that most feminists aren’t female versions of incels:)

I hope you find what you are looking for!!!

Rad1Red · 2020-02-28T17:21:49+00:00

Hm, you could count as one. Welcome anyway. :)

I hope you'll find the support you need here (as well as through therapy).

FYI, I am a feminist. :) And I very much like men. You just have to hang around enough good ones for enough time. They're people.

Don't let those Terper idiots bring you down again. They are either misguided drifters or just trash people. They may be aggressive, but if you come to think about it their logic is flawed and their opinion doesn't really matter.

SherbertBacon · 2020-02-28T22:42:28+00:00

But I don't feel supported by the feminist communities. Pretty much all of them stand by 'men are trash' and to be extremely cautious of them.

I think your best bet is to familiarize yourself with more feminist movements. "Men are trash" is (well it's a tiny bit of a caricature, but that's besides the point) more a statement a radical feminist would make—and I don't think all rad fems have to commit to it either. I have a lot of solidarity with the rad fem movement, but for personal reasons I feel more aligned with liberal feminism (minus their pro sex work stance). You might want to take a look at intersectionalist feminism, etc.

And not to throw my own gender under the bus, but women have pretty good reason to be cautious. That doesn't mean you must be a pessimist, but if I had daughters I'd tell them to be cautious when dating all the time.

JustAnotherTroll2 · 2020-02-29T01:26:28+00:00

Others have said this, but it can't be overstated: SEE A THERAPIST! If your anxiety is causing you problems like that, go do something about it.

Being female does not make you inferior to anyone. The people who want you to believe that it does are the ones who want to keep you down. I can think of no better way to stick it to them than to live confidently and successfully despite them.

Baghdadincoming · 2020-02-29T00:09:22+00:00

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bonslytoss · 2020-02-28T19:18:03+00:00

I think both feminists and red pillers are wrong, so I don't consider myself to be either. It sounds like you are in this basket yourself.

I would encourage you to join r/PurplePillDebate. Pills are viewed more as a spectrum over there and it's the best place I can think for you to find like-minded individuals.

Sparkeliez · 2020-02-29T20:47:54+00:00

It doesn't have to be a miserable world view for you. We will never be as strong as men because it just isn't physically possible. There's nothing wrong with that. We can have great strength in other ways like resistance to pain and ability to withstand captivity for longer periods. In the end it doesn't matter. Each sex has its strengths and weaknesses.

I won't say the anxiety is necessarily a bad thing. You have to learn to always be on guard of yourself. You just have to learn to steer the anxiety into more of a "How can I make myself better" improvement plan without getting trapped in the "I'll never be good enough" mindset.

The first step in changing a situation is first being aware of it. As women we have to understand there actually is a potential for some really erratic and dysfunctional behavior this way we can be aware of it, watch out for it, and then work on preventing it when we feel it may be coming on.

2020-02-28T14:57:05+00:00

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Title	Do I count as an exredpill?
Author	Baghdadincoming
Upvotes	22
Comments	25
Date	February 28, 2020 9:19 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/ExRedPill
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