Buyers remorse after a kiss

MattPruga · 2025-01-24T06:25:59+00:00

Would be interesting to hear what your date looks like in a few words. Do you kiss her after the date? I've had this happen when I was younger, but whenever it did happen I was doing a few things wrong:

I opened up too much emotionally, that can be too much for women on the first date.

I was too nice to her, not standing on my own feet.

Right now the way I would approach the date with a mindset of not really caring about her (or acting that way), be more vulgar, constantly joking, don't be serious 75% of the same, show you have abundance and options. After this I have more success, by that I mean that she doesn't know how much you really like her and wants another date. Women love wondering why they don't have you drooling over her like the rest.

Also about the kiss, I suggest you kiss in the middle of the date, pick a moment when stuff is going well, you are both high energy, sexy talk was involved perhaps, when there is more kino, just in general when the tension is higher. If you wait till the end everything feels rushed and she knows it's about to happen and becomes nervous.

Dizzy-Bench2784 · 2025-01-24T06:28:25+00:00

Follow up msg after the date likely too keen

PeterLamb87 · 2025-01-24T06:38:14+00:00

If a girl lets you kiss it means you are doing something right, but sometimes one can try to kiss and get rejected or make the girl uncomfortable by being perceived as pushy, creepy, or whatever, kino is good to pave the way for an organic sexy kiss. But even if a kiss is rejected or not welcomed, it is not necessarily a reason for failure, if the girls like you, they will let it slide, if they don't maybe the date is not going as peachy as you thought.

Another possibility is that she wanted you to escalate more and you didn't take notice.

Wing_Inevitable · 2025-01-24T06:51:56+00:00

Buyers remorse after a kiss

That concept is stupid.

Hi,

🖐️

Sometimes I have what it seems to be a perfect date, then I go for a kiss, I get the kiss, and the day after the girl is cold and unresponsive and she says some excuse not to see me again.

2 things:

The one you do get :

You don’t make her wet before the kiss - which leads to her thinking that there is no “spark” or “connection” between you two.

And the one that is girl specific:

Some girls will think you are a pussy IF you didn’t have sex with her in the same night you kissed.

I never encountered resistance regarding the kiss, and I always get the kiss quite easily the girl usually seems quote happy about it

A quote “If she has no objections to you doing it, you should have done it sooner”

Happy as in she smiles or happy as in she can’t stop doing it and wants more. (The first one is you waited to long as per the quote. The second one is her being wet)

What I am thinking is:

Don’t think .

maybe it is a bad timing for the kiss.

That is kinda true - as you are both picking a time when she isn’t wet and are waiting way too long for it.

Maybe it is too soon and the girl is not enough comfortable with me, and I rushed it (but when is too soon?)

A) too soon doesn’t exist

10 min is good enough as a time frame.

B) she does it sooooooo - NO. She is tooo comfortable.

or maybe I fell short on kino before (I am not a very touchy person in general).

Probably. Since she isn’t wet.

Also, is there a way to “fix” a situation like this?

A) Sexual tension - it requires no kino.

B) Become more touchy

C) go for it sooner.

Preferably all 3 at once but you do you

Freezing?

No idea what that is

Waiting a month?

Mehhh - it is supper low probability.

Still probably try - i just doubt it will work

Next?

The correct choice.

CNC_Addict · 2025-01-24T07:50:57+00:00

They want more and you stop at just a kiss. They think you think they aren't attractive

norwegiandoggo · 2025-01-24T09:10:12+00:00

When you go for the kiss: how do you do it?
Do you end the kiss quickly? Before her?
Do you take her home to have sex after kissing or not?

Maybe you just don't know how to kiss well. Does the buyers remorse happen right after the kiss or later - when you try to get the second date?

If it happens right after the kiss - the kiss was bad.

If it happens later - the reason is likely that you didn't escalate to sex.

therealwoujo · 2025-01-24T06:45:06+00:00

You are pushing too hard and coming off as needy and desperate. Girls are feeling pressured by you. Also there is no mystery or challenge. You are making it clear you like them and want to fuck. Don't go for a kiss until the 2nd or 3rd date.

Title	Buyers remorse after a kiss
Author	Rr331_w
Upvotes	3
Comments	28
Date	January 24, 2025 6:15 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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