Last December, I was invited to a Christmas party, and there I met a woman with whom I had an immediate connection. A few minutes in, I found out she was married. The little I know about her marriage is that they both went to NY, and after a little over a year, she returned to Mexico while he stayed there, so now they have a long-distance marriage.

The party ended, and obviously, I was dying to ask her out, get her number, or Instagram, but I didn’t do anything... I held myself back and just moved on with my life.

A week ago, she wrote to me (she got my number from an old chat where we were both in) and showed me a bicycle she bought, then asked if we were going to ride and get ice cream. I went out with her, and we had an amazing time. There was no physical contact, but I did notice several signs of attraction.

Honestly, I’m really attracted to this woman, and I don’t feel that bad because her husband doesn’t even live in the same country. If he truly loved her, he wouldn’t leave her alone. So I ask you, what should I do to start an affair with her? I consider myself very skilled at dating and hooking up with single women, but with a woman in this situation, what should the dynamic be?