Went out again tonight to practise and have fun. I started in a fairly low state since I'd been indoors all day (nothing is open on good friday). I'd done some reflecting after last week and decided I was just going to work on opening and light banter so that I wouldn't struggle so much with approaching.

Got to the club and the first thing I did was find a couple of guys to anchor to. I find that having a small convo with some guys usually works as a warmup for talking and usually I like to find some with moustaches so I can tell them they look great. I've never failed to make them smile and start a convo with that line and it's pretty easy to start vibing after that.

After a few minutes I saw a woman in an outfit with butterfly wings. she was definitely too old for me, but I went up and said her outfit looked cool (because it did) and we had a short talk about a rock concert that just happened that she was at. The whole interaction lasted about two minutes, but I was able to say hi, offer her a genuine compliment and then transition into a conversation with a bit of back and forth.

I left after that, but I was definitely feeling up after that, which helped me roll into the next one. There was a pole on the dance floor, and I said hi to one of the girls who had just come off it. I opened by commenting that she didn't look like she thought highly of it, and asking if it was bad quality. (I was pretty sure she'd done pole dancing before, so I figured the subject would be a nice bridge). turns out I was right, and we chatted for a bit until she had to leave. No escalation here, but that wasn't what I was working on tonight anyway.

I went back to the anchors to dance for a bit, then a pair of girls started dancing near me. I don't usually open on pairs of girls, especially ones that were dancing that close (It was like they were actually dancing together together), but I figured what the hell, may as well try. One of them was very receptive and we danced together for a bit. I did my best to include them both in the conversation so the friend wasn't being left out, but I definitely didn't do a good enough job because she pretty much whisked her friend away after ten minutes. I was a bit disappointed since at that point, I'd actually tried to escalate and we'd been grinding a bit and kissing, but what can you do.

I went and found a guy standing by himself and started chatting to him. He was there with his friend and she was dancing. She came over and I had some basic conversation but she wasn't into me, so we did some dancing and vibing (I gotta enjoy myself whether or not there's a woman with me)

After a little while, I just said hi to a guy and we got to talking. He was there with his friend and his wife, and I get talking to the friend. She was definitely a 'yes girl' and it was really easy to escalate. I said hi, talked about her drink, then offered a hand and spun her. From there it was pretty much on for the rest of the night, everything short of making out until the club closed. She mentioned she'd be going home and I asked if she wanted someone to go with her. I know the words were kind of cringe, but I'm pretty sure my delivery was decent enough. Unfortunately though, she told me outright that she wasn't a hookup girl, even if she enjoyed the night out with me. I was a bit disappointed, but I also had a good time, even if it didn't end in her bed.

So we exchanged social media, I gave her a kiss on the cheek and went home.

TLDR, went out and had a blast, even if the results weren't exactly what I was after. I also got to practise opening and escalating, two things I need to work on.

Thank you to everyone who commented on my last post, I'm super grateful for the advice and support. It's good to have people who get it and the people here were definitely a huge help in convincing me to get off my ass and actually go out which I've come to really enjoy, success or not