So I(35M) have been back in Montreal for a year and I told myself I will get some action. I have had girlfriends in the past and some situationships in the past few years, but nothing since I came back and I have had a lot of dry periods. Being on this sub, you've guessed, I am no Casanova...
I do horribly with dating apps and even when they work (foreign countries), I don't like them. So I have to meet women IRL.
I have a pretty big social circle and meet lots of women through mostly salsa dancing. I also see interest in the eyes of many, though mostly when we dance (attraction seems to die down when we talk, but not all the time).
I therefore challenged myself to get good at game and approach women in various different environments. July is when I got a sense of urgency and I set myself the goal of going on at least a date before the end of the month.
I started the month strong. Approached many woman, some pretty boldly! I didn't get much rejected and got a good winner effect. First half of the month I was on fire, getting numbers(6) from pretty and younger women that seemed also my vibe (I don't go for anyone).
At first when the texts were not really leading anywhere, I didn't mind. I had, for maybe the first time of my life, a real abundance mentality. Though at one point it started to bring me down...
Yeah I hate to admit it, but I lost part of my motivation and part of my confidence. I also feel like it's too much work... I go out to dance, I play music, that's authentic. But talking? I sometimes feel like I am not on the same wavelength as most people. Trying to be is exhausting and being myself doesn't lead anywhere but rarely (if the sky wants so). I don't lack social skills or calibration, I am just something else... But I still want to fuck!
If you ever were in a similar boat, I would like to hear from you
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