previous post was http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/2i9f1s/fr_day_9/

After last night, I can honestly say, "I have no clue what I'm doing, I fucking suck, and I have a lot to learn." Despite that I K-closed and got a number.

Last night, I decided to go into NYC and bar hop. After friday night, and going home feeling all lonely and shit, feeling pathetic and all that shit that my state-reactive memory was feeding me. I often compare it to learning to ride a bike.

I couldn't just quit, give up, and live alone or settle down for someone I don't want.

So I went back out there!

I noticed that when I went out to the city last night, just like when I go on vacation, I had left my past behind... I felt like, no one here fucking knows me! I can begin from whereever I want! I arrived to the bar Pianos in the Village.

It was me and 2 of my friends from college that I recently reconnected with.

We went upstairs and there was some band playing.

I start approaching women.

I approach a set of two... Worst gaming ever haha

I touched the one on the left and put my hand on her upper back.

"Hey, my name is Alex. I saw you from across the bar, and you seemed really cool, and I had to approach you. I think you're really cute."

She nodded and said thanks in like a "thanks for validating me" sorta way. I could feel that I already gave away my power or something.

"I have a boyfriend."

"Oh really? That's great! I have a girlfriend!"

I held a stare at this point, and just kinda rolled with it, just for experimentation. I didn't flinch... She started to laugh with her girlfriend like, "Oh my god, this guy really doesn't give a shit."

I stayed in there for a lil while bullshittin... I had nothing to say again, because I actually was phased by her boyfriend thing... I actually believed her despite the line I threw back... I guess I'm gullible and I actually think girls are telling me the truth when I'm seeing everywhere that they're all a buncha fuckin liars haha.

I left shortly after. My friends gave me a high 5. I got closer to the dance floor and start bustin a move, not too hardcore, but just a little above the rooms energy.

I saw a cute blond next to me and kept dancing, while trying to send some value over. She looked over and reacted immediately, mirroring my energy. I grabbed her hand, spun her around, and boom, now we're dancing. She's pulling me in close, really grabbing onto my hand. I feel like, "it's on"... We continue dancing, I'm trying to escalate kino here...

She asks me who I know in the band... I first answer, "No one."

I ask her, "Who do you know around here?"

"The drummer is my boyfriend!"

"Oh wow! That's awesome!"

She kept dancing with me and grabbing me. I kissed her on the cheek... It was still on.

She asked me again for some reason.

"Who do you know in the band."

"I don't know the band. I know everyone else! I know everyone!" while pointing all around the bar in big hand motions.

She laughed, and we kept going at it. I got bored with her for some reason, and kinda pushed back. I saw her 5 minutes later making out with the drummer haha. I keep dancing at like a energy of 7/10. 10 being in a rave, 0 being chillin in a weed circle. Me and some chick make eye contact. I throw value to her and we start dancing near each other. Her friends join in. I bounce around the bar, just tryin to make friends and build social proof. I didn't do this for too long. Next time I should really go hardcore on that.

We go downstairs and are about to bounce to the next bar. I've approached so far about 7 sets.

As we are about to reach the door i see this really cute blond HB8-9. She had a really cute smile.

We made eye contact, I kept my smile and kept looking. I say in my head, "What are you waiting for!? Jump! Take Action! Do Something!"

I "grabbed the manual", and said, "Ello ello!"

She responded back. "Ello ello!"

"Ello luv!"

"Ello!"

"Oh you're such a saucy little sexy scoundrel with flowing blond hair! i love it!" (in my exaggerated Australian Accent)

She tried immitating me and saying what I said.

"Saucy saucy scoundrel! Saucy! So Saucy!"

"I'm Alex." (in my normal voice)

"I'm Melanie."

She gave me her hand at breast height, almost expecting me to kiss it. I've had this experience before many times...

One time when I approached a group of 3, they ALL raised their fucking hands to my mouth, expecting me to grab it and kiss it. I did it to the first one, but then the idea of kissing all these women's hands kinda grossed me out... I don't know what they fuckin touched! haha. But then again, if I went with it, I may have pulled off a foursome... Fml...

I kissed her hand and said, "Well it's a pleasure to meet you."

And the flirting had begun. I realize now that flirting is practically talking about nothing and just laughing and playing.

She asked me where I was from. I started answering in this interview style... I quickly realized that. However, my Approach Anxiety had vanished when I already realized that she's smiling and having a good time with me. She's not gonna bite, I'm not gonna die. And I started to flow... I started looking for things to tease her about.

I asked, "Where are you from?"

"Histonia!"

"Histonia? Does that mean you're very historical? Wow, you must be pretty old. You look fucking hot for a grandma. You look amazing for your historical age. I never met a historical historian. That's pretty hysterical."

She laughed during this entire time. I was just self-amusing here... Or in other words, flirting, or in other words "talking about nothing" while making myself laugh, playing with her and teasing her.

"Histonia"

"Are you here with your friends?"

She pointed to her friends and said, "Yes. These are my friends."

When she said, "my friends", I looked into her eye almost to study her or really observe how she's answering, like reading body language or something... It felt like she was trying to say, "No boyfriend."

I stayed with it. I greeted her friends, threw some value. "Ello guys! I love your shirt! I love the color!" I asked for their names, where they were from, teased them playfully with their answers, gave them validation with "that's awesome! i love you guys!"

I went back to the girl. This time putting my hand on her upper back. It was a bit late for kino and I felt tense about it. I did my best not to flinch.

She didn't push or shrub me off.

We kept talking about nothing, and I kept just having fun off her words.

"So you're from Histonia, do you speak Histonian?"

"Yes!"

"Oh. Well I'm Russian. Maybe I'll understand some Histonian."

"They're nothing alike."

"Try me."

She said something in Histonia.

"Nope, I have absolutely no idea what you said. Would you like to hear some Russian?"

"Sure!"

I spoke some Russian to her, I've done this in the past. They love it!

"And what does that mean?"

"It means, 'I was walking with my friends, when I saw you, and I thought you were very beautiful and I had to just come over and talk to you.'"

She smiled. We were very close at this point! Like face to face, like as if over time I had been moving my body closer to her as we flirted.

I felt like I could've kissed her the entire time! But we were in front of her friends and I couldn't just do that to her. It wouldn't be smooth.

So instead, I just stare at her, and let the tension build. Her smile grows and grows. Finally I decide to drop the bomp.

"I so just want to kiss you, you are so cute."

She laughs in a flattered way. She finally puts her hand on my chest, and pushes gently. But lets me continue talking to her. She would even occasionally drop her hand to let me move in closer.

I'm trying to not think about magic bullets because when I think about like "what phase do I take her into next" I just blank out because I start trying to analyze what phase I'm in now, and I'm not living in the fucking moment... I'm thinking like, "okay, now if I want to get her, I gotta start qualifying her." So I start getting in my head and trying to qualify her.

She then said, "Ok, well you were leaving the bar with your friends. So go. Leave."

"My friends? They can do whatever they want."

"Yea, but you were going."

"And now I'm staying."

She laughed. I said.

"Baby, I can stand wherever I want. Don't push me! Why should I leave the bar? I can go wherever I want to go! You leave the bar! Go, go on! Get out of here!"

She laughed. I felt like I needed to pull her in here.

"Oh ok, cmon. Come here. What am I gonna do with you!"

I put my arm around her neck and started to playfully gently give her nookies and rub her head.

She continued laughing.

We went at this back and forth thing for a while where she would push, I would push and turn the table from her serious push to my playful push, and then I pulled her in again through validation and playfulness.

Then I decided to push her again!

"Oh god, you're such a dork!"

She made a pouty face.

"But that's okay, because I love dorks! I am a dork! I'm a crazy fucking nerd! Like I'm crazy in a super awesome motherfucker kinda way, and I'm also a big nerd."

She laughed. I kept getting in closer. She started pushing me again.

"What I'm not cool? Cause I think I'm a pretty fuckin cool guy."

"No, no. I definitely think you're a cool guy, I just think you're the kinda guy that's cool like that with everyone."

"So you think I'm just gonna have my way with you and forget who you are?"

She nodded.

"Well, you're right! I am that guy! Sorta. "

She laughed again.

I couldn't figure out how to escalate from there, and she kept teasing me about bouncing to the next bar. I realized that if I listened to her that in some way I'm validating her by letting her win by doing what she says... Looking back, "if she liked me", and wanted to challenge me in hopes of seeing a Man out of me by not just listening to someone, that I could've maybe f-closed on her...

So I just said, "Okay, well, I'm gonna get out of here."

She said okay. She went in to kiss me on the lips. I'm stupid and didn't think she would, so it became shit intense cheek kiss. In my head, after seeing this, I'm like, "Wait a minute! she would've kissed me on the lips? Fuck this shit!" So I moved my face in a way to get to her lips, and she did the same. We're making out. Here I am making out with the hottest chick of my life. Fuck yeaaaaah! I loved her smile.

I should've pushed earlier, instead of holding on... I always do that to the hottest girls.

She was so cute and sweet. I love her, I think I'm gonna go out and find her and marry her....... No I'm just kidding about the last bit hahaha. After we make out, she starts pushing me away again, I question it.

"Girl, why the fuck are you pushing me away!? You like me! Quit playing games girl! I'm not here to play bullshit games!"

I lifted her up, and she started laughing again.

I put her down, she went back into her pushing/pulling grab thing... It's almost like she was pushing me, to get me to push back or pull in... in other words to see how I react... I wasn't even that close sometimes...

"Alright, I know how I can prove to you that I'm not just that guy who meets you and forgets you."

"How?"

"Give me your number, and I'll text you."

She nodds in a very like "Yes this is extremely normal behavior" She gives me her number.

She asks where I'm going. i said we'll be bar hopping... I don't know the area that well... If I did, I could've bounced her! Omg! DAyum... I ask where she's going. She also gives me an ambiguous answer. I bet if I was more on my game about my environment, i would've easily gotten her! I got friends to like me. I was ON!

She tells me she'll text me and tell me where they'll be later.

I left the bar and texted her soon after.

"Hey hystorical dork. Hope you have a luvely night!"... This is also really early in the night. Like at 10:49 pm... No response for a while.

At 11:17pm I sent her a picture some photographer took of me and some rave buddies at webster hall with me in the middle lookin mad awesome!... with "Hmu l8r :P" attached to it.

No response still...

Me and my friends are outside the bar. I approached some more people on the street, nothing went anywhere, I just wanted to raise my approach number. They tell me they want to go home already because they gotta be up early on Sunday... Whatever. They part from me and I continue trying to do game. I'm having trouble breaking Approach Anxiety now that I loss some social proof on the street.

I went to some other nearby bars, and they all had lower energy and less people.

I approached some more women. First set was awkward, but I stayed with it. They did the boyfriend line, I did the girlfriend line. They laughed... It got awkward, I stayed with it, and the feeling subsided. I moved on. There was another mixed group of men and women. I approached them, gave them all value and was welcomed into the group. Everyone liked me and was having a good time with me. I don't think any of the girls were single. So I bounced out of that bar... I couldn't find any of the bars I went to last time with my friends where it was mad packed with people almost coming in couples just to meet someone cool to fuck... It almost felt like speed dating that night... Tonight it was much less so. I walked around until about midnight. It was still kinda dead. I'm sure if I was in CRAZY state I could've still opened up all the 10s I saw in the street.

I def lost some confidence when my friends left...

In total I did about 9 sets last night, and I think it was about 6 or 7 on Friday.

I still didn't reach 30 sets. Man, this shit is really hard. You really gotta throw yourself out there. If I could do 30 in 1 night, I bet by 25 I'll be on fire and just dominating!

Things I Did Really Well In:

  • I approached.

  • I remained unreactive more.

  • I had the balls and action to build social proof everywhere I was

  • I saw a pretty girl, I approached within 3 seconds.

  • I flirted

  • I K-closed

  • I #-closed

  • I remained strong in shit tests

  • I kept my head up and my smile on

  • I was 100% sober

Things I did poorly:

  • Didn't approach enough

  • Got phased by the cute blond

  • Got in my head some more and got logical

  • Didn't "push" enough

  • Spoke too fast

Things I want to improve on

  • Speaking slowly and enunciating

  • Pushing

  • Flirting/Flowing/Vibing/talking about nothing/playing off the moment or what she's saying or what's happening between us

  • escalating more

TLDR: Had a fun night in the city meeting strangers, again realizing that people can be really nice, and hot girls can also be really nice and fun and would totally fuck me. And I made out with the hottest girl in my life.