Insta-date at her house?

bowling4meth · 2010-04-17T19:25:59+00:00

You'd be surprised how little it takes to 'wow' a woman into sex. Really, just showing up and cooking for her ought to do it. She wants to knock boots, you just have to show her 'how'. Which leads to point two:
Massage: After dinner when your on the couch, over wine preferably, just rub your shoulder/neck area a bit with one hand and say something like "Hmmm, kinda stiff from all that cooking. Would you mind?" Then after a few minutes say something like "That felt really good. Okay, turn around, your turn." Then you massage both sides of her neck, back, etc. Get closer as you work. Lean in to smell her hair and whisper "Mmmmm, your hair smells really good." Massage up her neck to her scalp (be gentle.) If you can touch a girls hair you can kiss her. So, then return to smell her hair one more time, lightly kiss her neck, then kiss her on the lips.

None of this should come as a surprise for her, so don't worry about anything, she knows whats up and is expecting and anticipating it. You just gotta do the leading and she will follow. Enjoy!

[edit: I meant cook with her not for her. Make her help. Do not let her take over. Make it fun, flirt with her, dab spaghetti sauce on her nose, etc.]

intjpua · 2010-04-17T20:20:11+00:00

I never cook for a girl. I regularly cook with a girl...and it's fantastically sexy. There are so many possibilities for cranking up sexual tension and excitement in the kitchen. You can increase her compliance throughout the process: "Wash your hands, young lady...were you raised in a barn?", "Hand me that.", "Wash and cut those carrots. No, cut them into thin, two inch sticks, like this." "Come here and taste this...can you handle it if I make it spicier?", etc. Man, if I could get every girl I like into the kitchen with me, I would never sleep alone, and I'd probably have two or three at a time...the kitchen is fucking sexy. Just avoid heavy garlic or onions (caramelized are fine as they lose the grossness).

But, you cooking for her is not sexy. It puts you in the provider role. You can be doing all the hard work, and be the only one who knows WTF is happening and what goes into which pan...but don't be her personal chef. There's a reason why there are almost no female doms who aren't getting paid for it...women are not dominant by nature (men aren't, either, on the whole, actually...there are ten times as many male subs as there are male doms).

Knowing how to give a good massage is cool, but you don't need a bunch of different tactics. Just cooking with her can get you to sex. I've had sex before even starting cooking...just the preparation was hot enough to get her in the mood. And then after a pre-dinner quickie, we'd finish making dinner, have a relaxed easygoing meal...after which we'd both be ready for more.

Anyway, your mindset is wrong...you aren't rewarding her for giving you sex. Sex is something you share. There are many other pleasurable things you can share, but as long as you think she's giving you a gift, you're going to have the wrong mindset for making a girl hot.

bonkdaddy · 2010-04-17T19:52:47+00:00

1.cook and impress her with you knife cutting/water boiling/ salting skills

2.regale her over dinner with impressive stories about your time volunteering at a homeless shelter for children and fighting on the side of the republic in the spanish civil war

3.after dinner show her some of your favorite videos from efukt

4.try to engage in a pun off, if she does not play along insult her personality

mrsnugglecow · 2010-04-17T19:22:02+00:00

Well, with the massage, you don't have to introduce it to explicitly. You can just escalate it from light kino if she's receptive to it.

dudeinachair · 2010-04-23T00:40:37+00:00

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Title	Insta-date at her house?
Author	throwaway543210
Upvotes	3
Comments	17
Date	April 17, 2010 6:52 PM UTC (16 years ago)
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