Differences in gender?

cottagecorehoe · 2020-08-25T16:40:55+00:00

I'm a woman who frequently hits on guys!

I guess I can just speak to my experience, but I tend to come up and compliment something not super physical/sexual or I start a conversation. I also give context to coming up to them randomly so they aren't like, who is this random girl and why is she talking to me?!

For compliments, I'd say, "Hey, I noticed your shoes and they're really nice. Where are they from? I might want to get my brother a pair!" or "Hi, how are you doing? I came up to you because I thought you had a nice smile/outfit and wanted to compliment you."

For starting conversation, if I'm at a bar, I'll say, "Oh, what's the drink you got there? It looks really good!" or "Have you been here before? What's good to drink or what do you recommend?"

From there, it's really easy to transition into a quick conversation ("Oh, by the way, what's your name? Don't want to forget the guy who recommended me this drink!" or "Did you get your shoes from around here? Are you local? Oh, what do you do?") and then eventually move to, "I really enjoyed chatting with you, would you like my number so we can do this again some other time?"

It took me a good summer of focused practice to get comfortable in situations hitting on a guy, and now I'm too impatient to wait for a guy to hit on me and hope that he understands my not-so-obvious-but-obvious-to-me behavioral cues! I just do it myself LOL

2020-08-25T16:43:07+00:00

Women- show that cleavage. Men - eh-em.

Men- be nice to women, even if you don't want her. Women- ""please don't confuse me.""

YtBlue · 2020-08-25T17:45:10+00:00

Depends on what your looking for in that man. Men treat you by how you appear. If you want lots of attention and many options dress in a more provocative matter. However you'll have to weed out more guys only wanting ONS and flings. If you want a boyfriend, dress in a way that shows off your curves but not overly sexy. After the initial visual contact its all about how you treat him and how much of a "good girl" you seem to him. Or sexy if you want a reoccurring friends with benefits.

cyrusol · 2020-08-25T18:10:28+00:00

Real talk? For an average woman to seduce an average man all she needs to do is ask him whether he is single, then say something like "good, I'm single too", smile at him and then wait until the man starts pulling her towards him. And then remain obedient.

But no woman is going to do this. For a woman there's a lot more risk involved and a lot more of them want emotions and relationships and not just sex.

norwegiandoggo · 2020-08-25T18:21:56+00:00

I wondered what would be different for a girl hitting on a guy?

Not much difference.

Do you guys think a girl should approach very selfconfident?

Her confidence is irrelevant.

Should a girl make sure to not look needy?

What do you mean by needy?

What are the things you would recommend to a guy hitting on a girl but not to a girl hitting on a guy?

I wouldn't do push-pull teasing.

Umbran_scale · 2020-08-25T20:49:17+00:00

Push him against a wall and trap him between your arms and tell him he ain't leaving until he agrees to date you.

Throwawaywanttoplay · 2020-08-28T13:13:34+00:00

As a women, and just the way my personality is, i like the guy to make the first obvious moves. I’ll initiate conversation, smile, giggle, blush nervously and hope he asks me out. That’s just what feels right to me personally.

Title	Differences in gender?
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Comments	15
Date	August 25, 2020 4:14 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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