So last night I had a party at my apartment. Not the first time I had had lots of people over and were having fun, but a good friend of mine actually procured some alcohol, which was new for a get together at my place. It was a great time. One girl brought over Dance Central with Kinect and Guitar Hero which we were playing with great enthusiasm after a couple drinks.

My point with this is that from this scene I was establishing awesome social proof in front of this girl that I met three weeks ago that I've been trying to get with. It has been a frustrating process so far. Despite the fact that we have hung out in several group situations, I have not had one single opportunity to be with her alone. I tried arranging a time with her alone twice and she flaked both times. I was almost ready to give up at that point because it had been two weeks and I still hadn't gotten a chance to escalate, but I decided to keep trying. You might say that I still could have escalated even in those group situations, which I tried, but I still wasn't convinced I had done enough. However, I realized that I needed to be extremely direct the next time I saw her because I felt that the attraction would disappear otherwise.

I was really confident in myself due to a couple reasons. I had a couple beers, she performed a song that I told her I really loved in front of a crowd on campus, and I've perceived her giving me IOIs every time I've seen her since the day I met her. I figured at this point either she is asking for me, or I need to take the initiative and let her know I'm into her.

As she was leaving, I decided to grab her arm and just go straight for a make out. This turned out disastrously. She turned away, it was awkward, and I could tell she was thoroughly turned off. There really wasn't any redeeming factor in this despite the fact that I went for it. It was also in front of two of her friends as they were leaving. I played it off and laughed and then wished them a good night.

I could choose to be really down about this, but I realize that even if this is the end for me and this chick that it doesn't matter. All that matters is that I tried, and it's her loss if she doesn't want to reciprocate.

So what are you guy's take on this? Is there anything that I could have done, or perhaps anything I should never do again? First field report btw.