This is for those that want to implement a strategy on the dance floor. I developed this over many years of practice and I don’t think anyone was doing what I was doing at the time. So if you want to increase your chances on the dance floor here is your guide.

Which Dance Style:

All you need is basic two step. Nothing fancy. As long as you got rhythm that’s all you need. If you wanna take it to the next level I recommend basic salsa, merengue, and bachata. I personally also like pop locking. So whatever catches your interest. (P.S. The most women literally ran up to me to dance was when I was doing basic salsa. Just FYI)

How to Handle Dance Battles:

So what if you are challenged to a dance battle? (Trust me if you’re a good dancer it will happen quite a bit.). Understand that this guy is under the assumption that parading his dancing skills for women will make them want to sleep with him. Which is false. It makes him into a performer on stage. Which is not where you want to be in seduction. So what you are supposed to do is encourage him to dance alone. Give him the center of attention. And while he does that go up to the female friend he brought trying to impress her, put your arm around her and say, “Wow look at him go. He’s great isn’t he? I’m taking a break to grab a drink. You want one?” So the rule is NEVER enter a dance battle. And always lift people up by encouraging them.

Take Dancing to the Next Level:

Dancing in itself can be very seductive. But as a man you must ask yourself are things escalating on your terms or hers? Usually it’s hers. She is the one that chooses to keep dancing with you or not. To let you get closer and closer or push you away. You have to make things escalate on your terms. You have to introduce some push/pull here. (A lot of this revolves around what YOU want to do. So if a song comes on I didn’t like I never forced myself to keep dancing. I would take a break and grab a drink or go talk with friends.)

While many men are good and getting physically closer to a woman to raise the tension not many are good at pulling away to raise the tension as well. This is likely the most important step: you must pull away from her before she does it. Showing a woman you are disciplined enough to pull away not only shows you are not needy and in control of yourself, but also raises the tension because your warm bodies were just rubbing against each other and now she feels a cold chill. And guess what…the next time you get  closer, because you showed you can control yourself, she will be comfortable enough to let you get even closer without resistance.

The Moment:

So it typically starts with some basic dancing. Some spin moves or something. Then I’ll get a bit closer. I then pull away and kind of do a solo dance in front of her. I do this for me because I genuinely love dancing, but it also is me creating space between us. Then I go back in and get a little closer than last time. No resistance. Eventually I will smell her hair and tell her it smells nice. Then pull away again. On the last one I will graze my cheek against hers. And will sometimes even graze my lips against hers before pulling away again. Never kissing. By this time she is expecting the kiss and is even frustrated that I haven’t yet. You might even experience a woman asking permission to kiss you. You can also pull away by telling her you’ll be back and go grab a drink or use the bathroom. Either way it’s creating space.

If you aren’t sure what to do in the moment just think of a rubber band. Constantly pulling and letting go builds heat and creates tension. Tension that if built up enough will snap the rubber band. This is what you want to create. Bathe in the tension you build up and watch her frustration build. Eventually you two will release all that tension and she will love you for it.