Why are you stuck building attraction and cannot escalate? She's laughing at your jokes, showing interest, and wants you to take it to the next level, but you aren't sure how. Or how is it that you have a great time together the night before, but when you call or text she doesn’t answer and ghosts you? The answer is qualification.

This is one of the most neglected steps in pickup. Even by some PUAs who have some experience in the field. Some guys are so trained to not reveal interest in a woman that they never do, but it's important to do it at some point. Because qualification takes all your hard work of building attraction and encases it inside a block of steel so that attraction solidifies. It gives her something to hold on to when she wakes up sober, with a hangover, and realizes she still likes you. Think you know qualification already? Well I’m going to share something about it that you probably didn’t even know.

Qualification begins after you build up attraction and before you begin getting to know each other. This is the way to naturally show genuine interest beyond her physical looks and is the transition to a real conversation. It shows that you have standards as a man and your interest is selective. That you aren’t easy.

To be able to qualify effectively you should have a list of character traits already in mind that you want to screen her about. Some examples are:

-Adventurous

-Spontaneous

-Great sense of humor

-Caretaker

-Independent

-Intellectual

...and on and on. Decide which ones are important to you and you're going to qualify her on these traits.

Next you’ll need to decide HOW you will qualify. The most aggressive is a straight up screening question: “So are you spontaneous? When’s the last time you did something wild without thinking?” Or a more subtle route which is to state what you love in a woman: “I love a woman who knows how to make me laugh.” Other ways are to pick out things she said about herself and comment on them. Which leads me to the most important part of qualification.

The Statement of Interest. This here is the key to it all. The point of screening her in the first place. A chance to actually TELL her she is earning your interest. Such as, “Wow you really surprise me. I would’ve never guessed after first meeting you that you would be this interesting. But that doesn’t mean you’re getting lucky tonight so don’t get a big head about it.” or “Wait you like X? I thought women didn’t like those things. Ok we’re getting married tomorrow! But next week we need an annulment because I’m going on vacation and don’t want to be tied down. Seriously though, when did your interest in X start?”

Stating your interest verbally is the ultimate goal here for this step and afterwards you will be able to have a REAL human conversation and get to know each other and be OPEN with your interest in each other and it’s ok! You still have to sprinkle in some light teasing here and there, but in general you want to slow down on all the teasing and just talk to each other. See her as a real human being instead of just a target. This will solidify the attraction you built up and help turn your interaction into a genuine connection.