I'm a veteran PUA who used to teach men to do what I do. I wanted to share one of the most important lessons I've learned that changed my entire life and it will do the same for you if you are not already doing this. And that is to change her mood, not her mind.

I have a cousin who was dating a few women at the time. One of them got upset that he may be seeing other women and she "broke up" with him in an emotional fit (that's a whole other story and not the focus of this one lol). His initial reaction was actually better than most. He wanted to try to keep her around longer so he wasn't going to try to talk to her or convince her to not leave. He was going to simply say that he understood and was sorry she was leaving. To wish her good luck and if she changed her mind to just let him know. Basically good old fashion reverse psychology. Pretty chill response right? Nothing wrong with it. But I told him he could do better.

I told him to meet her in person. Tell her that you just finished working out and was starving. That you can only talk on a full stomach, basically a date, and she agreed. I told him that while he was on this date he was not allowed to talk about the break up. That he was only allowed to make her laugh and spread positive vibes. He then asked what if SHE talks about it. I told him to just nod his head and let her know you understand. And at the next opportunity, change the subject and focus on having a good time. I also had him take her to multiple locations to create a time distortion (time distortion creates the illusion you spent more time together than you actually have by going to multiple locations in a single night rather than just one). By the end of the night they went back to her place and he left in the morning. They lasted a few more months after that lol.

He focused on changing her MOOD instead of her MIND. He didn't try to CONVINCE her to stay. He just reminded her what it's like to be with him. I told him if he treated her emotional state as REAL then it manifests and becomes REAL. So you have to look at it like she's just in a bad mood and it's temporary. Don't make it bigger because there's a high chance that's its not real. And I was right because the next day she told him "Ok you're good. You knew how to handle me and I'll admit I was acting a bit childish. I'm glad you did what you did."

This is just one story I have that's a good example of this principle. And is in the top 5 most important lessons I've learned, not to just be successful with women, but with all people in your life. From the book How to Win Friends and Influence People "...we are not dealing with creatures of logic. We are dealing with creatures of emotion,..." (he was speaking about both men and women here. So my fellow men we are not as logical as you think we are. We are just good at hiding our emotions)

Maya Angelou said, "I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel." So stop trying to CONVINCE women to sleep with you and simply focus on putting her in the mood to WANT to.

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Edit: There's a ton of positive responses and it's been very humbling. Thank you guys so much for your support. I plan on sharing more of what I learned that I think will help you guys so stay tuned.

Edit: I couldn't wait guys lol. Here is my next post if you're interested.

https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/vhcpzr/direct_vs_indirect_method/