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| 2 | How is the dating world after 30?Amen. I'm in a relationship with one who I met through a dating app and – although she wasn't my first choice – she was head and shoulders above anyone else I was dating at the time. Also, ditto on the kid. We have our problems (which couple doesn't), but her kid isn't one of them. | /r/seduction | 17/12/24 03:34 PM |
| 0 | How is the dating world after 30?What's wrong with single mums? | /r/seduction | 17/12/24 03:31 PM |
| 1 | Women are more superficial than men. Key learning: if a girl ghosts, it's probably because she didn't physically find you attractiveFair. Makes sense | /r/seduction | 27/10/22 07:51 AM |
| 0 | Women are more superficial than men. Key learning: if a girl ghosts, it's probably because she didn't physically find you attractiveI think you need to be careful with your all or nothing thinking. Just in life - in general. I wrote a post yesterday - doesn’t mean I subscribe to this thought/idea forevermore. I’ve been swayed by some other people in this thread to have a more nuanced view. Everything we do in life is ‘in the moment.’ Including this post I wrote. I’m not an all-seeing oracle that has all the answers to the universe. It’s sparked a debate and conversation - that’s all. How can that be toxic in any way? | /r/seduction | 27/10/22 07:49 AM |
| 1 | Women are more superficial than men. Key learning: if a girl ghosts, it's probably because she didn't physically find you attractiveInteresting point, but she ghosted me literally the next day. It’s not like something turned her attention away that quickly. Honestly dude, everyone (of course) is entitled their opinion. It’s an interesting topic of debate, this. But no one was there with me, that night, at the bar. Something was off. I genuinely felt like she’d made her mind up there and then when she saw me. Now I know that sounds insecure, but who asks to go for a drink and then orders a coke. Also, when the waitress came b… | /r/seduction | 27/10/22 07:44 AM |
| -1 | Women are more superficial than men. Key learning: if a girl ghosts, it's probably because she didn't physically find you attractiveYep. Exactly. Yet that’s the reason she chose to gave. Not that I seemed like a ‘fuckboy’, not anything else. This is the reason SHE gave. And we’re dissecting it like there’s another reason. It’s bizarre to me. It is what it is! | /r/seduction | 26/10/22 09:10 PM |
| 2 | Women are more superficial than men. Key learning: if a girl ghosts, it's probably because she didn't physically find you attractiveThanks mate. Exactly. | /r/seduction | 26/10/22 09:08 PM |
| 1 | Women are more superficial than men. Key learning: if a girl ghosts, it's probably because she didn't physically find you attractiveI am | /r/seduction | 26/10/22 08:07 PM |
| -24 | Women are more superficial than men. Key learning: if a girl ghosts, it's probably because she didn't physically find you attractiveI’m baffled. I wasn’t pushy, I was a gent but assertive | /r/seduction | 26/10/22 05:34 PM |
| 1 | Women are more superficial than men. Key learning: if a girl ghosts, it's probably because she didn't physically find you attractiveMmmmm fair. This resonated | /r/seduction | 26/10/22 04:49 PM |
| 0 | Women are more superficial than men. Key learning: if a girl ghosts, it's probably because she didn't physically find you attractiveInteresting. Although, I don’t think that is what it is. I was confident af on this most recent date, called out her blushing etc etc Asked her afterwards when she called me a ‘fuckboy’ - post-date if I’d given the wrong impression and she said ‘no that was just me being cheeky’ , I just don’t have a ‘surface level attraction’ to you What aren’t people getting here? 😂 sometimes it’s really that simple. | /r/seduction | 26/10/22 04:48 PM |
| 1 | Women are more superficial than men. Key learning: if a girl ghosts, it's probably because she didn't physically find you attractiveShe said the reasons why she can’t see a potential romantic future is because of surface level attraction | /r/seduction | 26/10/22 04:46 PM |
| -4 | Women are more superficial than men. Key learning: if a girl ghosts, it's probably because she didn't physically find you attractiveWhy would you ghost? End of. Treated her like a gent. We had loads in common - might’ve even have been pals off the back of it. If we had an honest chat post-date and she said she wasn’t feeling it. Blatant disrespect and she had the cheek to say ‘no response is a response’ when I called out that I hadn’t heard from her LOL. Basically - all I’m trying to say is that not all women are these sweet angels we make them out to be. They can be very cold and superficial | /r/seduction | 26/10/22 04:45 PM |
| 6 | Women are more superficial than men. Key learning: if a girl ghosts, it's probably because she didn't physically find you attractiveHuh? I fancied her loads. Fair play - I have generalised. I might change my view on that. No one should - what I don’t understand, though, is that I look like my photos, we vibed so well, had loads in common AND kissed. Listen - it is what it is, I’m just a bit salty - there I said it | /r/seduction | 26/10/22 04:43 PM |
| 4 | Women are more superficial than men. Key learning: if a girl ghosts, it's probably because she didn't physically find you attractiveSomewhat true. I was out this weekend and saw someone fire with a sub-average guy. My inkling though is that’s the exception to the rule and more commonplace in younger couples where they meet organically through school and they get to like them first. Dating apps are faster paced. | /r/seduction | 26/10/22 04:42 PM |
| 1 | Women are more superficial than men. Key learning: if a girl ghosts, it's probably because she didn't physically find you attractiveI said women are more superficial, I didn’t say men weren’t. But fair enough - I see your point. I have made a big generalisation. More women are more superficial than is led on might be more appropriate. | /r/seduction | 26/10/22 04:38 PM |
| 1 | Women are more superficial than men. Key learning: if a girl ghosts, it's probably because she didn't physically find you attractiveWord. Just thought I’d share this for anyone else that might’ve been ghosted and was questioning what they’d done wrong. I hope they can find solace in the fact that it was most likely beyond their control and she already had her mind made up. | /r/seduction | 26/10/22 03:49 PM |
| -6 | Women are more superficial than men. Key learning: if a girl ghosts, it's probably because she didn't physically find you attractiveShe said ‘no surface physical attraction’ - I know you’re desperately trying to sound smart /outsmart me. Why that is? God knows - because it seems you’re lacking the fundamental ability to read. | /r/seduction | 26/10/22 03:48 PM |
| 2 | Women are more superficial than men. Key learning: if a girl ghosts, it's probably because she didn't physically find you attractiveThis, and also (myself included) need to stop matching with sub-6 girls on the apps when in desperate times because it’s sending the wrong message at scale | /r/seduction | 26/10/22 03:40 PM |
| 1 | Women are more superficial than men. Key learning: if a girl ghosts, it's probably because she didn't physically find you attractiveTrue. Not disagreeing with that. I’m picky. But I don’t ghost | /r/seduction | 26/10/22 03:28 PM |
| 0 | Women are more superficial than men. Key learning: if a girl ghosts, it's probably because she didn't physically find you attractiveShe said it was a ‘surface-level physical attraction’ thing. And we kissed. Like I said, if you’re not showing any red flags/not saying anything retarded and she still ghosts - it’s your looks. I’m sorry. I know it’s a bitter pill, but it’s better that than questioning ‘oh I could’ve said this better’ ‘oh maybe I shouldn’t have said that’ The moment you start policing EVERYthing you say is the moment you lose who you are. Stick to the basics: don’t be offensive, but aside from that, be you. | /r/seduction | 26/10/22 03:27 PM |
| 3 | Women are more superficial than men. Key learning: if a girl ghosts, it's probably because she didn't physically find you attractiveNot sure why we are getting downvoted given our stories are factual - i.e. they happened. Just keep plowing away man | /r/seduction | 26/10/22 03:18 PM |
| -17 | Women are more superficial than men. Key learning: if a girl ghosts, it's probably because she didn't physically find you attractiveDude - I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but it’s not ‘I just got ghosted’ lol. There is always a reason. For everything. This isn’t some black pill / insecure / sad boi shit, this is honest and realistic 😂 I’m also not looking for a pity party. I’ve got other girls/had other girls that are interested in me. You can’t win them all. The girls that don’t like you is probably because they don’t fancy you. It really is as simple as that. I’ve seen it in my younger kid sister who had her first bf … | /r/seduction | 26/10/22 02:58 PM |
| 2 | Women are more superficial than men. Key learning: if a girl ghosts, it's probably because she didn't physically find you attractiveBroooo!!! I had the exact same thing 4 years ago… Had this girl grinding on me hard and making out with me hard in this bar. Her 3 sisters were there too and were honestly my biggest wingmen that night. Get her number. Kiss her goodbye, get on with it. SHE texts me the next day. Organise a date. Go meet her. Was a fairly good date. Kiss at the end of it and then she ghosts. Maybe the beer goggles (for her) wore off. It’s baffling | /r/seduction | 26/10/22 02:55 PM |
| 4 | Women are more superficial than men. Key learning: if a girl ghosts, it's probably because she didn't physically find you attractiveYep, don’t sweat the small stuff, play the numbers game and don’t take it personally if someone ghosts - their loss, not yours. It’s cliche, but it’s true. And I’m glad I asked because now I have a tremendous amount of insight into female behaviour/mindset. You’re right on the money re: the yardstick/barometer of what women think they’re capable of attaining are. Kudos to this girl for knowing what she wants, but in all honesty, I think if she wants a Zac Efron-type she’s gonna be hard pressed. … | /r/seduction | 26/10/22 02:35 PM |
| 7 | Women are more superficial than men. Key learning: if a girl ghosts, it's probably because she didn't physically find you attractiveNah man, I'm honestly fine. Just thought I'd share some key-learnings with the community (backed up by context)! How about you? | /r/seduction | 26/10/22 02:20 PM |
| 0 | Went on a date, kissed, ghosted. Wtf?You’ve got a real hard on for me saying I replied late | /r/seduction | 24/10/22 12:49 PM |
| 1 | Went on a date, kissed, ghosted. Wtf?I hear that. I can get caught up in the moment with a girl I’m not THAT into because I’m having a great time and want to escalate, kiss, have sex, etc. But there’s certain things I never do and that’s ghosting. If I wasn’t feeling it after date 1 or we’ve ended up having sex, etc. I’ll always have THE chat | /r/seduction | 24/10/22 12:48 PM |
| 4 | Went on a date, kissed, ghosted. Wtf?Someone’s choice to be sober is NOT a red flag. The fact that she confirmed/asked if we were going for drinks and THEN said she wasn’t drinking was | /r/seduction | 21/10/22 06:09 PM |
| 35 | Went on a date, kissed, ghosted. Wtf?It’s fucked | /r/seduction | 21/10/22 02:57 PM |
| 9 | Went on a date, kissed, ghosted. Wtf?It’s fucked my head thinking what that IT could be | /r/seduction | 21/10/22 02:56 PM |
| 3 | Went on a date, kissed, ghosted. Wtf?If you went to school with her, it’s 100% justifiable you call it out even just for peace of mind | /r/seduction | 21/10/22 02:56 PM |
| 6 | Went on a date, kissed, ghosted. Wtf?I get that. I’d rather just know if it was appearance-based or some kind of vibe I gave off. I get you can’t police your personality - I’m a big advocate of ‘just be you.’ But I may have been too ‘laddy’ for example and not taken my time to speak seriously on subjects (I’m of the opinion you shouldn’t get too deep on first dates but maybe I’m wrong). For example, maybe I should’ve asked what stage she was in, in life. It was all flirty and surface. Feedback would be helpful. I don’t know man, it… | /r/seduction | 21/10/22 02:53 PM |
| 18 | Went on a date, kissed, ghosted. Wtf?Dude, that's mad. Sorry to hear that. I'll be vulnerable: it's made me mad insecure. I'm just looking at myself in the mirror now like... 'really? She didn't like that? What's wrong with that?' Shit hurtsss brooooo. ^ More than this though - it always is the ones I find really attractive, that this happens with. I've got a date on a Sunday and I had an old flame hit up my phone last night, but this one seemed like real LTR material, so it sucks | /r/seduction | 21/10/22 02:19 PM |
| 23 | Went on a date, kissed, ghosted. Wtf?Okay - you've definitely been ghosted. Do you just move on to other girls usually or try have an honest, uncomfortable chat about it? I.e. 'hey - hope you're good - take this to mean you're not interested (honestly no worries at all - part and parcel of the dating process) we got on that night, so could you give me some insight as to why you don't want to continue talking' | /r/seduction | 21/10/22 02:09 PM |
| 43 | Went on a date, kissed, ghosted. Wtf?In most circumstances, it isn't. But she asked me before the date 'we're going for a drink, yeah?' We turn up... and she orders a coke. Her Hinge profile also said she drinks sometimes. I can't explain it. It was more gut-feel (maybe insecurity) telling me: uh oh, she's seen me, she doesn't like what she sees, she wants to make this quick and then get out of here EDIT: why the downvotes? Genuinely curious | /r/seduction | 21/10/22 02:02 PM |
| 0 | Went on a date, kissed, ghosted. Wtf?Not to sound arrogant, but I've slept with over 30 women so - no - I don't think that's at issue | /r/seduction | 21/10/22 02:01 PM |
| 67 | Went on a date, kissed, ghosted. Wtf?That's not news to me at all. She is not the only girl I'm going out with either, but I don't ghost. It'd be nice to know where we stand Edit: has this not happened to you then? I wrote this post because I want advice in terms of next steps from people who have had this experience. | /r/seduction | 21/10/22 02:00 PM |
| 36 | Went on a date, kissed, ghosted. Wtf?Honestly? I've been fucked over by so many girls (exhibit A - this post) by being too invested so I've taken a step back and don't respond straight away anymore. Admittedly, it's a self-protection thing, but also because sometimes I get overwhelmed with work/life and rather than get distracted, like to respond to all my texts in bulk | /r/seduction | 21/10/22 01:32 PM |
| 2 | Had a great first date, now I think I'm being ghostedMad this, isn't it? First girl (what I thought was a good date) I had a date with a fitty that I cold-approached on the street. Thought it went really well. Was holding hands, had a few kisses here and there (nothing crazy passionate, but still, I was stoked that I approached this girl earlier on in the week and was now kissing her - wtf!) There was a massive language-barrier between us so we ended the night a bit prematurely. I did try swinging her back to mine for a few drinks, but she smiled,… | /r/seduction | 22/09/22 01:21 PM |
| 2 | Had a great first date, now I think I'm being ghostedWord | /r/seduction | 22/09/22 01:13 PM |
| 2 | Had a great first date, now I think I'm being ghostedThis is tough love, OP, but they're facts. Bit of a blanket-rule so you can adjust this somewhat but I try to never double-text a girl unless I'm in a relationship with her. The only time I give myself an exception with a double-text to girls I'm dating (not in a relationship with) are for logistics. Example, I sent the last text and then my follow-up text is 'I'm here. By the booth' or later on in the day, for example 'booked this place for later' etc. | /r/seduction | 22/09/22 01:11 PM |
| 2 | Girls I’m dating are calling me cuteHahahaha you're welcome my bro. I'm ngl I haven't posted Reddit in a while. Come on today and saw 50+ notifications and I was like... wtf... completely forgot I'd written this | /r/seduction | 11/09/22 04:53 PM |
| 2 | Girls I’m dating are calling me cuteFuck. | /r/seduction | 11/09/22 04:51 PM |
| -1 | Girls I’m dating are calling me cuteLOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOL | /r/seduction | 11/09/22 04:50 PM |
| 3 | Girls I’m dating are calling me cuteYeah maybe that brought that to the surface a little bit, dude above you 'loathes himself' - fuck me that's dark (maybe a little) | /r/seduction | 11/09/22 04:49 PM |
| 2 | Girls I’m dating are calling me cuteLOOOOOOL | /r/seduction | 11/09/22 04:48 PM |
| 1 | Girls I’m dating are calling me cuteLOOOL. I did say I was stoned. Reading it back now is hilarious | /r/seduction | 11/09/22 04:46 PM |
| 1 | Text game - different states of mindYeah that's strong man. Very good strategy | /r/seduction | 18/08/22 03:08 PM |
| 3 | If I cut off every woman who didn't reciprocate my effort I would only have about one date every year or twoThis | /r/seduction | 15/08/22 06:10 PM |
| 1 | If I cut off every woman who didn't reciprocate my effort I would only have about one date every year or twoWhat does 'live her message' mean? I know on paper it sounds try-hard but it worked a couple times for me so... I mean, you can't refute evidence can you? Cleary there's something in it. | /r/seduction | 15/08/22 06:08 PM |
| 0 | If I cut off every woman who didn't reciprocate my effort I would only have about one date every year or twoNah man not unusual at all. I’m generally quite shit with my phone these days too and it’s rare I have a girl ON it re: reply-times. Very rare. Don’t want to wax lyrical/get overly philosophical but the world has become lazy since Covid (remote working, teams meeting deadlines, etc.) and that’s even more pronounced now in the dating app scene imo But, think about it. EVERYONE is using their phones every single day. There’s really no excuse. It’s laziness. If I had a hot girl basically do a take … | /r/seduction | 15/08/22 04:27 PM |
| 21 | If I cut off every woman who didn't reciprocate my effort I would only have about one date every year or twoOP - if you're going for a hail-mary and want to try and get a girl onboard who ignored your last message I don't think there's any other way than calling it out. Don't send a short, small message that doesn't warrant a response. It's not a fix-all, but it's worked for me in the past. I.e. if you've set up a date, but haven't heard back the whole day 'Hey - just in respect of my own standards, you've not replied all day and no one is ever that busy so let's just forget xxx date. I was into it, b… | /r/seduction | 15/08/22 03:24 PM |
| 1 | If I cut off every woman who didn't reciprocate my effort I would only have about one date every year or twoLove this: 'Only rules I live by is don't degrade yourself and keep an abundance mindset. ' | /r/seduction | 15/08/22 03:20 PM |
| 7 | If I cut off every woman who didn't reciprocate my effort I would only have about one date every year or twoNever thought about this before but you are absolutely right. Every girl I've been with has really liked me and I've got vibes that they think they're almost winning the lottery - in a way. Obviously somewhere along the way, it naturally found balance and an equilibrium - but yeah... Any girl I've put on a pedestal or I've kind of been into them but they're a bit indifferent with me.... yeah... goes nowhere | /r/seduction | 15/08/22 03:20 PM |
| 3 | Getting girls is easyBit embarrassing that, innit. Go find a hobby or something. | /r/seduction | 15/08/22 03:13 PM |
| 1 | A few things I've learned online dating as a man. I really wish I could have told myself this a year ago:Not sure about this mate. Sometimes they just meet you and don’t fancy you physically in person. I’ve met up a couple times and thought ‘nah’ about the girl in person. Obviously been nice about it but don’t say outright ‘you’re frumpy as fuck’ Don’t underestimate girls not digging you on that front either | /r/seduction | 12/08/22 03:29 PM |
| 1 | Do girls get off on ghosting guys?I mean, I get it dude. It's long. And tbh, it doesn't matter all that much (can only speak for me) as other goals in my life. Luckily I have a very casual thing going at the minute and we meet up basically once a week to bang and that's fulfilling my sexual needs whilst I get shit done in my life. Do I want more sexual partners and variety? Yeah, why not. I'm single. But, like I said, if it's forced energy then... fuck it. Numbers game, isn't it. With some people it clicks, others it doesn't. No… | /r/seduction | 11/08/22 03:59 PM |
| 1 | Rejection gets me down!This is where this shit does genuinely interest me because, without trying to sound offensive, to me all that sounds like is he's gone for some fat, desperado toad because he knows he can fuck her. That's not game. I can do that. Anyone with a minimal amount of confidence can do that. If though, you can honestly say he banged a 7 (above average) then... hats off to him. I don't get impressed when I watch YouTube clips of guys cold approaching av/below-av girls. I feel a brotherly pride that they… | /r/seduction | 11/08/22 11:51 AM |
| 34 | Rejection gets me down!Cold approach is great. Know why? Because this is building your character. Big-time. I've only started to realise it myself. It's humbling you. You don't actually matter. But... no one else does either. What I'm trying to say is that... you're not going to magically sweep someone off of their feet. It's not how life works. Everyone has their own lives they're leading. Baggage. An ex. A current boyfriend. A fuck-buddy. A boyfriend they're not happy with, but not ready to leave. 50 matches on Tind… | /r/seduction | 11/08/22 11:05 AM |
| 15 | Do girls get off on ghosting guys?I tend to get ghosted more vs than when I do the ghosting, but I definitely resonate with this. As of late, any girl that kinda just bores me/is too serious/intense or doesn't float my boat intellectually/ask any questions I end up ghosting - not even intentionally or out of malice. Just literally cannot be bothered. Life is busy. Got too much shit going on to force energy when it's dead. I imagine a lot of girls feel the same way. I guess that's why the whole 'how are you? 'what you up to?' is … | /r/seduction | 11/08/22 09:14 AM |
| 6 | This could just be a coincidence but in my experience whenever I'm toxic a girl wants to be with me but when I'm genuinely nice and not toxic to girls they usually dump me. Why?I don’t genuinely think that’s toxic at all. You’re just demonstrating (without consciously and actively deciding to) that you’re less invested in her 🤷🏽♂️ she’ll see you as a prize because of that, because realistically most other guys will be thirsty The reason I DON’t see that as toxic behaviour (to begin with) is because you initially owe that other person Jack-shit. Don’t get me wrong. I used to hate all this stuff and hate it when a girl would do it to me, but if you can’t beat em, join e… | /r/seduction | 11/08/22 08:08 AM |
| 3 | This could just be a coincidence but in my experience whenever I'm toxic a girl wants to be with me but when I'm genuinely nice and not toxic to girls they usually dump me. Why?Exactly what I thought 😂 I hate this mad-broad term everyone’s using to describe everything from forgetting to replace the peanut butter to being physically abusive. Dumb af | /r/seduction | 11/08/22 08:05 AM |
| 1 | Just had another ONS and I'm starting to doubt that the lifestyle is for meNot true. I think you’re being mad hard on yourself. She fell for your charm, wits, looks, etc. just because you’ve now got good game doesn’t mean everyone else suddenly does as well 🤣 I think you’re more not liking how ‘easy’ she is hence the empty feeling. And it’s true, maybe if someone else came along that was her type and spit some good game she might have sex with him but so what? What’s that got to do with your good experience? Maybe you’re just wanting something deeper now, which is fine… | /r/seduction | 31/07/22 12:48 PM |
| 1 | Stop chasing and pick the women who choose youI don’t really get what you’re saying… …are you saying you’d rather stick it out and be persistent with a girl that’s supposedly not into you… just because she’s hot? Because that’s the antithesis of what OP is saying and you’re saying you don’t agree with him… so… Personally, I have never had want to try to change the mind of someone that’s not into me. It’s a big world out there. I’ve slept with girls who don’t seem on it before and who have resting bitch faces, but again, I don’t think that’s… | /r/seduction | 31/07/22 09:35 AM |
| 2 | What do y'all say to a girl you match with on the apps but she doesn't reply to that initial messageLike all these. Cheers mate | /r/seduction | 29/07/22 09:15 PM |
| 1 | What do y'all say to a girl you match with on the apps but she doesn't reply to that initial messageI should clarify, this is the message you send on the prompt to get the initial match.. not a message AFTER you've matched. I've seen success following up after the initial message. My question is more: what should I say now because there are no other prompts on her profile...? | /r/seduction | 29/07/22 12:03 PM |
| 1 | Should I pursue women or focus on myselfBoth | /r/seduction | 25/07/22 05:17 PM |
| 2 | Women are visual creatures tooLove the PMA 👏🏼 | /r/seduction | 25/07/22 03:47 PM |
| 2 | Women are visual creatures tooI'm ngl, I'm really happy with my smile. I lucked out with that. I get compliments on it all the time and when I'm having a really vibey moment/positive moment and I'm laughing/smiling sometimes I do catch women in public checking me out (probably because of the good vibes and the smile) so I completely get that. I just wish I could turn it on more often (the smile)! But it just feels forced if I haven't genuinely been humoured. Feels mad weird to just walk around with a plastered smile on my fa… | /r/seduction | 25/07/22 02:48 PM |
| 1 | A No Nonsense Guide to Daytime Approaching - 4 Simple StepsThis happens all the time bro. I read something somewhere once where the advice was basically like: go for a same night lay with a girl on a night out because the chance of her flaking you the next day is extraordinary high. She’s drunk at the end of the day so when she wakes and sees your name amongst the more sober chats she’s been having she’s probably gonna think nah fuck that. My pal had the opportunity of going home early with a girl the other night, didn’t. Carried on his night with us an… | /r/seduction | 25/07/22 09:45 AM |
| 7 | How to make a connection on a first date.Just want to add to this… A friend of mine has a strong sense of boundaries and has everything you mention here but is far too intellectual and not playful enough. And tends to get friend-zoned a lot So, OP, don’t forget to get your flirt on also. Smile, and have fun whilst basically maintaining your frame. | /r/seduction | 25/07/22 09:25 AM |
| 2 | Women are visual creatures tooDon't really understand the appliance of 80/20, but yeah exactly. The other stuff is fluff and Hollywood nonsense. A 10/10 with a good family, charm, and personality is always going to beat the 10/10 with 0 social skills, but that's obvious. What's not talked about enough is the 10 with 0 social skills vs the 5/6 with an abundance of personality, charm, wit, humor, etc. ...that 6 ain't getting anywhere with an attractive woman sorry. He might get by with an average looking woman, but a stunner (… | /r/seduction | 25/07/22 08:31 AM |
| 2 | Women are visual creatures tooWill check it out | /r/seduction | 25/07/22 08:25 AM |
| 1 | Women are visual creatures tooTbh, I personally compete for money and status because I'm not content living a mediocre life. Not doing it for a woman (that's a fringe benefit). I think most women doll themselves up for themselves also because they like to look and feel nice (of course, attracting a guy is a nice byproduct of that). This whole narrative of 'oh I do it for you, the guy' ... eh... yes, to an extent, but I think its more complicated and complex than that | /r/seduction | 25/07/22 08:24 AM |
| 1 | Women are visual creatures tooYeah man it’s propaganda. My post was more about that exact ‘lie’ we’ve been told. I know it sounds obvious but it’s more a comment on that than an AHA! I’ve cracked it 🤷🏽♂️ | /r/seduction | 24/07/22 10:54 PM |
| 2 | Women are visual creatures too😂 exactly | /r/seduction | 24/07/22 10:52 PM |
| 2 | Women are visual creatures tooNot analysing women at all, just an observation. Haven’t got a spreadsheet out with bifocals mate 😂😂😂 | /r/seduction | 24/07/22 10:52 PM |
| 1 | Women are visual creatures tooExactly | /r/seduction | 24/07/22 10:51 PM |
| 3 | Women are visual creatures tooBravo 👏🏼 I think this is very interesting. The sexual repression and the slut shaming maybe makes it seem that women aren’t like men but really we’re not that different | /r/seduction | 24/07/22 10:49 PM |
| 1 | Women are visual creatures tooMick jagger imho isn’t a good example. He’s famous and led a very exciting life and has bucket loads amount of charm. I’d argue that if you were to Side by side that with an, I don’t know, Ceo … let’s go Richard Branson … it doesn’t matter if he has similar charm… why would she not go for the singer instead. Both have similar status by way of money (rich Branson actually has more) but the singer is always going to be the sexier option imo Looks > excitement/status > money. In the case of the abo… | /r/seduction | 24/07/22 10:44 PM |
| 3 | Women are visual creatures too100%. I guess the purpose of my post, although it sounds blatantly obvious, was to reiterate that. Tbh, it felt like an epiphany to me because I’ve read SO much shit where it’s like MEN ARE VISUAL… which kind of implies women aren’t and I suppose that ingrained itself for a little while | /r/seduction | 24/07/22 10:41 PM |
| 10 | Women are visual creatures tooLOOOOOOL. Fair. ‘I had an epiphany’ now more sounds like I had a stoned moment | /r/seduction | 24/07/22 10:36 PM |
| 3 | Women are visual creatures tooI agree it probably puts a bit more pressure on them but I do genuinely think they are more into looks than we generally accept as a society | /r/seduction | 24/07/22 09:21 AM |
| 25 | Women are visual creatures tooExactly. I consider myself a good looking guy, but there’s a couple of pals of mine over the years that are ‘universally good looking’ I.e. they genuinely could be models if they were a bit taller. Any time I’ve gone out with them, they get 80% of the attention. I still got some, and I’ve done well and pulled whilst being out with them, but they 100% have more options than if I were to go out with a less good looking friend. Thinking out loud here ^ and I’ve had another epiphany. It’s not that w… | /r/seduction | 24/07/22 09:18 AM |
| 28 | Stop chasing and pick the women who choose youConfident that that’s not what OP is saying. OP is not saying don’t approach. OP is saying if you’ve approached and she’s not into you, no amount of word-sorcery, trickery (basically circus acts) is going to make her start liking you | /r/seduction | 24/07/22 09:02 AM |
| 1 | Gaining some confidence back. My local barista gave me her number and agreed a date, then stood me up... I just saw her againLove you | /r/seduction | 23/07/22 08:26 AM |
| 1 | Gaining some confidence back. My local barista gave me her number and agreed a date, then stood me up... I just saw her againWell said. I was a whole tonne of confidence every time I saw her right up until the point I actually asked for the number. I honestly didn't consider going back and getting her number but my female colleague seemed to think she's into me after I told her she gave me free food, etc. My heart was beating out my chest when I went back in to get her number because I'm still relatively fresh to day-game and its my local coffee shop. I was shitting it on multiple levels and I did let the nerves get t… | /r/seduction | 22/07/22 11:26 AM |
| 2 | Gaining some confidence back. My local barista gave me her number and agreed a date, then stood me up... I just saw her againYeah I definitely get that. Like I say, maybe I needed this to build me up stronger and not give as much of a fuck in the future if it happens again | /r/seduction | 22/07/22 11:24 AM |
| 1 | Gaining some confidence back. My local barista gave me her number and agreed a date, then stood me up... I just saw her againAgree to both points. Life is chaotic and unpredictable. Nothing's ever perfect | /r/seduction | 22/07/22 11:21 AM |
| 2 | Gaining some confidence back. My local barista gave me her number and agreed a date, then stood me up... I just saw her againExactly this is what I was thinking. As soon as you start thinking 'oh they'll see me as butthurt' you've lost because... who gives a fuck. Why should you place more emphasis on what others think of you than of what you think of yourself. Either way, I'm happy I called it out, but like I said in the post I did walk away from it thinking 'damn, I wish I grilled her a bit more' Eh, fuck it. Life goes on. I'm over it now. | /r/seduction | 22/07/22 11:20 AM |
| 1 | Gaining some confidence back. My local barista gave me her number and agreed a date, then stood me up... I just saw her againI’m seriously being tongue in cheek with all those comments. I get why people are up in arms but I’m playing. I’m over it now | /r/seduction | 22/07/22 07:55 AM |
| -1 | Gaining some confidence back. My local barista gave me her number and agreed a date, then stood me up... I just saw her again‘OP thinks’ Who are you talking to mate? You have no audience. No one is paying attention to you 😂😂😂 | /r/seduction | 21/07/22 10:21 PM |
| 1 | Gaining some confidence back. My local barista gave me her number and agreed a date, then stood me up... I just saw her againBored of you now mate, go smash one of the many girls you're seeing casanova | /r/seduction | 21/07/22 07:31 PM |
| 1 | Gaining some confidence back. My local barista gave me her number and agreed a date, then stood me up... I just saw her againGeez. Flip the script and imagine you were stood up, then some other guy comes and lectures you about how what you did is wrong and is cringey and bla bla bla rather than bigging you up to have the courage in the first place to do it. Do one. I don’t like people like you. Negative. | /r/seduction | 21/07/22 06:53 PM |
| 1 | Gaining some confidence back. My local barista gave me her number and agreed a date, then stood me up... I just saw her againDon’t know why you got downvoted at all because this FACTUALLY describes the chain of events 😂 | /r/seduction | 21/07/22 06:20 PM |
| 13 | Gaining some confidence back. My local barista gave me her number and agreed a date, then stood me up... I just saw her againThanks mate, exactly. Flip the roles… ‘oh he’s a cunt’ ‘womanising prick’ etc etc | /r/seduction | 21/07/22 06:17 PM |
| 0 | Gaining some confidence back. My local barista gave me her number and agreed a date, then stood me up... I just saw her againWhy does it feel like you’ve taken it as a personal affront on HER behalf that I got stood up on. Weirdo | /r/seduction | 21/07/22 06:15 PM |
| 2 | Gaining some confidence back. My local barista gave me her number and agreed a date, then stood me up... I just saw her againAgain, while I understand what you're saying, it was her that gave me her number (quite confidently punching it into my phone) and she could have responded to my text... but she decided not to. Pawning it all on this other guy doesn't make sense to me. He had his part to play, but she's a grown woman. She can make her own decisions. Also, this is just an opinion of yours. An interesting perspective, but by no means, factual. Honestly, maybe she's just a flirt and thought 'fuck' when I followed u… | /r/seduction | 21/07/22 04:23 PM |
| 1 | Gaining some confidence back. My local barista gave me her number and agreed a date, then stood me up... I just saw her againWhilst I get all of that, where was my reply to 'see you at 7 outside xxx' ... I stood outside like a mug. And called her too. Nothing. | /r/seduction | 21/07/22 03:56 PM |
| -4 | Gaining some confidence back. My local barista gave me her number and agreed a date, then stood me up... I just saw her againBeen watching a lot of Andrew Tate LOL | /r/seduction | 21/07/22 03:25 PM |
| 3 | Gaining some confidence back. My local barista gave me her number and agreed a date, then stood me up... I just saw her againI get what you're saying re: trying to get rid of a guy. Here's my take on things (and obviously it's just my take, it doesn't make it right. It's an opinion). Flirting that's smiling, strong eye contact and just being really nice to someone, that's fine. That's one thing. Giving me free food, leaning on a counter, blushing, and having a prolonged conversation with me whilst a queue is forming behind me at rush hour and asking when I finish work, where I'm from (ethnicity-wise), etc. ... it felt… | /r/seduction | 21/07/22 03:21 PM |
| 2 | Gaining some confidence back. My local barista gave me her number and agreed a date, then stood me up... I just saw her againNot new to dating at all, but I am new to approaching IRL. Ive got a girl coming over tonight. I’ve relied on drunk night game, social circles (including work); I worked with my ex and the apps (where the heavy lifting has been done for you). She is a super early approach in my day game pick up. Glad I posted here because all the insight and feedback has been invaluable and I’m glad the flake happened in a way too because I got too ahead of myself | /r/seduction | 21/07/22 02:25 PM |
| 23 | Gaining some confidence back. My local barista gave me her number and agreed a date, then stood me up... I just saw her againI'll take that. Thanks gents | /r/seduction | 21/07/22 02:16 PM |
| 4 | Gaining some confidence back. My local barista gave me her number and agreed a date, then stood me up... I just saw her againJust getting it out of my system bro. I love women, really LOL | /r/seduction | 21/07/22 02:16 PM |
| 6 | Gaining some confidence back. My local barista gave me her number and agreed a date, then stood me up... I just saw her againThe date was the day after so I just sent a confirmation text the next day in the morning but never heard back from her So true re: the free food. Didn’t think that and she could be doing that to loads of people tbf | /r/seduction | 21/07/22 02:05 PM |
| -12 | Gaining some confidence back. My local barista gave me her number and agreed a date, then stood me up... I just saw her againYeah man I get that. She gave me my food for free earlier that day. It’s not the first time I’ve seen her, that’s the thing. She was all leaning on the counter and blushing and asking me when I finished and shit. I treated her like a human being rather than someone just doing a job and I think that went some ways as to endearing her to me. She’s South American and I completely get she’s probably very flirty by nature but don’t give me your fucking number if you’re not on it man. Spineless hoe. | /r/seduction | 21/07/22 01:25 PM |
| 1 | Really struggling with cold-approach. I'll notice a hot girl I want to speak to just as she's passed me and then I struggle to turn back because I've already made eye-contact/smiled, etc.LOOOOL. This made me laugh man. | /r/seduction | 21/07/22 09:51 AM |
| -2 | Gaining some confidence back. My local barista gave me her number and agreed a date, then stood me up... I just saw her againThanks, brother, I will. What a b*tch! | /r/seduction | 21/07/22 09:49 AM |
| 4 | Really struggling with cold-approach. I'll notice a hot girl I want to speak to just as she's passed me and then I struggle to turn back because I've already made eye-contact/smiled, etc.Love this mate, thank you. Just call the whole situation out: 'I missed the perfect opportunity to talk to you, but I'm not gonna save it' gold. I think the verbal dye is the way to go and just start getting comfortable with honest expression. | /r/seduction | 20/07/22 05:51 PM |
| 8 | Really struggling with cold-approach. I'll notice a hot girl I want to speak to just as she's passed me and then I struggle to turn back because I've already made eye-contact/smiled, etc.Yeah this is what I’m saying. I have no problem when I’m in an elevator, standing in a queue, etc. where there is a prolonged period of time I’ll be next to her. It’s when I’ve already walk past I psyche myself out and think ‘well running back now is uncalibrated’ Having said all that, I managed a date-close with someone I ran back and said hello to a month back. Thing is she didn’t see me when she first walked past. Anyways, thanks for the advice. Work in progress 💪🏼 | /r/seduction | 20/07/22 02:43 PM |
| 10 | Really struggling with cold-approach. I'll notice a hot girl I want to speak to just as she's passed me and then I struggle to turn back because I've already made eye-contact/smiled, etc.Yeah I like this, it’s more honest. Guess I just gotta man up | /r/seduction | 20/07/22 01:39 PM |
| 12 | Really struggling with cold-approach. I'll notice a hot girl I want to speak to just as she's passed me and then I struggle to turn back because I've already made eye-contact/smiled, etc.Thanks man, I really appreciate this. You're right, I think the fact I'm a perfectionist plays a huge part. I guess I can't really see this working, though: “Hey, I noticed _______, what does ______ mean for you?” because I don't think it would be calibrated to walk past a girl, and then run back and say something indirect as opposed to bluntly stating interest. I think that's a big reason why I get anxious about it because I've missed my chance to 'play it cool' and then have to just come out w… | /r/seduction | 20/07/22 01:11 PM |
| 1 | Was stood up yesterdayFeedback taken. I thought it was charming/spontaneous to ask her on a same day date and her colleagues seemed to support it. They’re all very nice to me in there. I honestly didn’t feel like it was an ambush but I guess I could’ve developed more rapport prior. She easily could’ve said ‘I’ve got a boyfriend though’ | /r/seduction | 16/07/22 11:27 AM |
| 3 | Was stood up yesterdayI’ll be seeing her again because she works in my local coffee shop. I’ve asked if the community thinks I should call it out. It’s not rocket science | /r/seduction | 16/07/22 09:29 AM |
| 1 | How to not feel depressed after an unsuccessful night out?I’m fresh to day game. I’ve only been doing it in-between whatever I need to be doing so around where I work etc. try Central for sure | /r/seduction | 08/07/22 07:02 PM |
| 2 | How to not feel depressed after an unsuccessful night out?Yo man I’m UK based too. Few things I’d say: You going out alone is most likely contributing the most to this depressed feeling because you’re putting huge pressure on yourself to get results. Therefore you’re probably not relaxed and it’s coming through with your approach. See if you can get some mates involved and maybe scale back on night game and do day game instead. The pace of night game is super fast and most people are drunk as fuck, let’s be honest. If you try have a normal sensible con… | /r/seduction | 08/07/22 06:36 PM |
| 1 | I think I'm really starting to embody and understand... the whole process of seduction and 'game' is a game of EMOTIONS. Sparking emotion, piquing emotion, maintaining emotion... even after you have had sex, you are maintaining those emotions.Thanks for your opinion | /r/seduction | 08/07/22 02:23 PM |
| 2 | Cold Approach is Not For EveryoneIt is hard, but it’s character building even if things don’t pan out for you, you will and can learn so much. You’re confronting your fears head-on. That can carry over to almost every element of your life. There’s a lot of upside to doing this. Also, mate, within a week of me doing this seriously I got a date with a hot girl! Nothing came of it and she did end up ghosting me after the date but it felt powerful to set up a date from just being a man, and taking what I want from life by the scruf… | /r/seduction | 08/07/22 01:17 PM |
| 1 | I think I'm really starting to embody and understand... the whole process of seduction and 'game' is a game of EMOTIONS. Sparking emotion, piquing emotion, maintaining emotion... even after you have had sex, you are maintaining those emotions.No, I genuinely wasn't fussed about seeing her. Just didn't like the way she handled the reply without offering an alt date/time. That's genuinely a standard of mine. Nothing deeper. | /r/seduction | 08/07/22 01:07 PM |
| 1 | I think I'm really starting to embody and understand... the whole process of seduction and 'game' is a game of EMOTIONS. Sparking emotion, piquing emotion, maintaining emotion... even after you have had sex, you are maintaining those emotions.This is a mad interesting take. In all honesty, I couldn't be bothered to see her. I was kinda seeing her/set up the date just to keep my dating muscle exercised and for a potential easy lay. Hands up. All things considered, and given how stressful work has been and how long my to-do list is getting I saw her 'need to be up early' as my 'out' which is why I suggested another date. You're right. Maybe that was her sensing I wasn't into it... could be loads of things though to be honest, and she s… | /r/seduction | 06/07/22 08:09 PM |
| 1 | The fatal flaw with Mark Manson's ModelsWell done bro. She sounds hot. MM does say in this book that you should generally be less invested than a woman is for her to be/keep her attraction for you, and I tend to (90%) agree with that particular concept. Sounds like this is that | /r/seduction | 01/07/22 09:42 PM |
| 9 | The fatal flaw with Mark Manson's ModelsTo be honest, I haven't told the full story. (And no offence taken, re: 'what you did was stupid' I know it was). Basically, I was under the impression we were paying for our own meals. It turns out I had to split my bill with everyone else and everyone else had bought shit loads of champagne, etc. that I didn't even drink so I was already pissed off because I'd shot myself in the foot without knowing what the deal was and ended up with a huge bill (not even my doing). He then turns to me and sa… | /r/seduction | 01/07/22 04:45 PM |
| 0 | The fatal flaw with Mark Manson's ModelsYeah, but that's contradictory to me, to be honest. Approaching a girl in the street goes against social norms, yet, it's a necessity if you want to expand your dating pool. Therefore, where does the line begin and end? If I feel really strongly about people that don't get the vaccine (COVID), and that they're idiots, should I oppose someone talking about people that do get the vaccine are idiots at a family dinner, potentially ruin the mood, and it get awkward or move swiftly on? Catch my drift… | /r/seduction | 01/07/22 04:19 PM |
| 3 | The fatal flaw with Mark Manson's ModelsThat's sad if that's the case. Can you give an example of when you've played games with a hot girl and it's landed you sex? | /r/seduction | 01/07/22 03:15 PM |
| 15 | What's something you've learned about women during your seduction/dating journey?This, OP. Had a night out with some pals recently. Wasn’t getting any attention at all. Went into another venue, started getting eyeballs (from equally good-looking women). Biggest lesson: good game is sorting/filtering through girls that are receptive to you versus those that aren’t, NOT convincing those that aren’t to be into you, despite you maybe being attracted to them. | /r/seduction | 01/07/22 09:15 AM |
| 2 | I need a rallying folks. I have lost all the motivation to cold approachThanks man | /r/seduction | 29/06/22 05:59 PM |
| 1 | I need a rallying folks. I have lost all the motivation to cold approachI understand all this. I'm a bit jaded/disillusioned because the hot girl I'd approached who I was into actually did go on a date with me, but then she ghosted. On the other hand, the girls that I am not that into are easy-pickings. Mark Manson, Models, teaches that you should always be less invested in a girl than she is you. Do you subscribe to this notion? If so, how do you manage your own level of investment? I find with the girls I like maybe I'm too invested, but I don't realise it at the … | /r/seduction | 29/06/22 04:16 PM |
| 0 | I need a rallying folks. I have lost all the motivation to cold approachAnd my point is, whilst I did enjoy the sex, it was 'meh'.... not sure how else I need to articulate that for it to make sense | /r/seduction | 29/06/22 02:50 PM |
| 0 | I need a rallying folks. I have lost all the motivation to cold approachDevil's advocate then (I'm genuinely interested) do you seduce a woman because you like to paint her nails? LOL. I understand both responses from you and u/AFarAwayTimeTraveler but equally, why are we seducing more than one woman in the first place then, if not for fun versus a relationship? | /r/seduction | 29/06/22 01:57 PM |
| 1 | I need a rallying folks. I have lost all the motivation to cold approachValid, mate. Needed this. | /r/seduction | 29/06/22 01:29 PM |
| 3 | Girl told me she likes my company and that she loves me then stopped respondingYeah, get out mate | /r/seduction | 27/06/22 12:25 PM |
| 1 | How to stop flakersAs simple as this: if she flakes and doesn't give me a reason, I'm nexting her. | /r/seduction | 27/06/22 11:35 AM |
| 2 | So how the hell do I not talk about typical boring stuff when I introduce myself to a girl?This OP. It's a numbers game. There are some things you can do to spice up a conversation, but by and large, if you're not a weirdo and you're just having general chit-chat and the girls not reciprocating it's not because of the words you're using, it's because she just doesn't fancy you mate | /r/seduction | 27/06/22 11:34 AM |
| 1 | Girl told me she likes my company and that she loves me then stopped respondingI don't know, could she not have been saying 'I love you' as a joke/part of her banter? Maybe you made it weird by looking too into it/treating it seriously. Could you not have said something a bit cringe/goo-ey back just to gauge where the conversation was going to go? I'm playing Devil's advocate, of course. Maybe she does love you, in which case, yeah that would be weird. | /r/seduction | 27/06/22 11:28 AM |
| 2 | How many dates to wait for sex?Wish you got a reply here because that would've been insightful. My pal gets 100s of matches on the apps and he regularly has sex on date 1's and 2's so thinking this very much is a factor. Personally, I think it's either a 'this guy is fucking irresistible' or 'hm I like him, but I need to warm up to him' | /r/seduction | 24/06/22 08:51 AM |
| 2 | They ignore my last couple of text for a week, only to reply to my Instagram story while still completely ignoring the last things I saidYeah man, don't do it. I posted a video of me looking jacked, topless, playing guitar on my balcony the other day and I had a similar thing where a girl reached out 'omg awesome!' Ignore it. Power move. It's literally an attention thing. I asked a female friend about this and she said 'that's the nature of IG" people just respond to stories not entirely wanting to have a conversation | /r/seduction | 23/06/22 04:18 PM |
| 1 | They ignore my last couple of text for a week, only to reply to my Instagram story while still completely ignoring the last things I saidWhat did you text? I’ve had a similar thing happen to me mate. I’ve just left her on read. Good to have a bit of self-respect | /r/seduction | 23/06/22 03:31 PM |
| 1 | Went on first date, says we should just be friendsNot to blow smoke up your ass, pal, (realise I've concurred on a few of your comments...) He's right, OP. I sensed a date going dry af this Monday just gone and by the end of it thought to myself 'eh maybe we're just not compatible' pecked her on the lips and left, told her, 'eh think I'll just go home now' after the date. I ended up getting a nude about 1/2 hour later.... lol... And the girls I'm really, really trying with have never done that. I suppose it is mad attractive when a guy has that… | /r/seduction | 23/06/22 03:11 PM |
| 1 | Went on first date, says we should just be friendsGreat advice | /r/seduction | 23/06/22 03:09 PM |
| 2 | Went on first date, says we should just be friendsI'm tending to think it gives no room for mystery or them wanting more. Best to give them a bit, but pull away and leave them feeling/thinking 'fuck... I want more of this... I miss him... do I miss him? fuck...' you want to conjure that feeling rather than riding the date out dry. I think the only exception a good first date is long is if you've brought her back and you screw, otherwise, gotta be wary of the above | /r/seduction | 23/06/22 03:09 PM |
| 3 | Went on first date, says we should just be friendsVery good advice OP. Utilise this and try and meet other girls through her circle. You're never coming back from the friend-zone unless you lay-off and she somehow miraculously comes to you one day when she sees you're absolutely bossing it at life, but don't bank on it. There'll be other attractive girls who find you attractive. She's a drop in the ocean. | /r/seduction | 23/06/22 03:07 PM |
| 5 | Feeling disgusted with myself!Seduction is a part of the ‘getting a girlfriend’ process too so don’t be so hard on yourself. There’s a lot of value in this subreddit and a lot of skills you’ve picked up (clearly) on the way. Just don’t pick up another guys girl again. Problem solved. | /r/seduction | 23/06/22 09:33 AM |
| 4 | Shower thought: would you approach a girl you found really attractive but was giving you some serious bitch vibes?Like this mate | /r/seduction | 22/06/22 05:59 PM |
| 5 | Shower thought: would you approach a girl you found really attractive but was giving you some serious bitch vibes?Love this. This has given me confidence. Thank you. I usually have one of 2 reactions when I see an attractive resting bitch-face woman: Simp and feel like a little boy in her presence (and mentally find it hard to escape 'she's out of my league'). Project coolness back. ^bizarrely I indirectly opened a resting bitch-face girl the other day and asked her to look after my laptop so I could use the toilet in a coffee shop and, as you say, she melted and asked if I could return the favour after (ma… | /r/seduction | 22/06/22 05:59 PM |
| 3 | Shower thought: would you approach a girl you found really attractive but was giving you some serious bitch vibes?LOOOOL. How do you mean? Bad experiences? | /r/seduction | 22/06/22 10:09 AM |
| 2 | What does a woman mean when she say's she just doesn't feel the connection?I think it's a natural reaction, but my most recent ex who I was with for 2ish years rejected my first advances. She did playfully laugh and say 'not yet' though so was indicative of her fancying me. Sometimes it's sexier when girls are a challenge. | /r/seduction | 21/06/22 02:53 PM |
| 1 | What does a woman mean when she say's she just doesn't feel the connection?This. It's best to keep first/second dates light and fun with some deep stuff sprinkled in, but not the focal-point. | /r/seduction | 21/06/22 02:11 PM |
| 2 | What does a woman mean when she say's she just doesn't feel the connection?Dear, oh dear. Clearly you have trouble reading. At no point, did I say I sexualise every conversation. On the contrary, if a topic is brought up that’s important to my date like video games or hiking we will talk about it! It’d be weird and uncalibrated not to. This is just a bit of self-analysis from dates I’ve been on to help other men like myself who are single that want to do and be better at the dating ‘game.’ And that is exactly what it is. It’s a game. A dance. For all your criticisms ‘g… | /r/seduction | 21/06/22 01:47 PM |
| 2 | What does a woman mean when she say's she just doesn't feel the connection?What’s foul about my post that resonated with 26 other people? By proxy you’re calling them all foul too. You have no idea who I am, where I live or about the life experiences that have shaped me. P.S thanks for the tip re: ‘ironically’ ! | /r/seduction | 21/06/22 12:56 PM |
| 14 | What does a woman mean when she say's she just doesn't feel the connection?It's fucked me so many times brother (the connection thing) where I have genuinely not gone in with a beta-mindset but more-so thoughts of 'she seems really lovely, maybe let me try things differently this time' and you just get categorised as a pal LOL. Fresh off a breakup a few years back I used to catch a train with a colleague almost every day and I just wanted to 'get to know her' because with the ex at the time, I just plowed on with the sexual stuff and it didn't work out between us. I fo… | /r/seduction | 21/06/22 12:01 PM |
| 5 | What does a woman mean when she say's she just doesn't feel the connection?Yeah, more than happy to. I'll share a few examples (giving them different names for obvious reasons). Alice (objection-handling) ^ Some chick I met on Hinge. Had around three good dates and she wanted to continue what we had going. We kissed. Met up in public all three times. I was living with parents at the time, as was she, making it hard logistically to have sex. As the dates progressed I more frequently raised the topic of sex. My own standards/wants I felt weren't being met. I stop seeing … | /r/seduction | 21/06/22 11:56 AM |
| 6 | What does a woman mean when she say's she just doesn't feel the connection?I've always found this a really interesting point, but don't give women too much credit. Sometimes women that agree a date aren't receptive, they're neutral, but willing to see where it goes. I.e. they'd rather be out that night, potentially have a few drinks and have something in the diary than sit at home, not necessarily want to get banged by that guy/fancy that guy. | /r/seduction | 21/06/22 10:31 AM |
| 72 | What does a woman mean when she say's she just doesn't feel the connection?Everyone's said it here already man, but might as well add my own two cents because I've had this a couple times too. I'm 28 too, ironically, although have had a few LTR's. Yeah, it's a flirting thing. It's far far better to be sexually-forward and be clear with your intent than it is to not. I've got date 2's, date 3's, date 4's, lays, and fwb's being forward and haven't when I've kind of just layed back and allowed her conversation and the ease of the flow to dictate the pace of the date. Call… | /r/seduction | 21/06/22 10:27 AM |
| 1 | Change Her Mood, Not Her MindI like this, but can this be applied to someone who’s really adamant they’re not going back to your place to have sex? I feel I have a 50/50 win/lose ratio with this. With some girls I’ll amp up the innuendos and have sex chat quite quickly on a date and they’ll agree to coming back to mine ‘but not having sex with you’ which they inevitably do. Some girls (date I was on yesterday) chats loads about sex but super adamant. And, as you say, when I found myself in convince mode you don’t get anywhe… | /r/seduction | 21/06/22 08:25 AM |
| 2 | Are we as men working too hard to get women?Word. But I think the key is to not chase girls you actually like but be a bit more zen about the graft | /r/seduction | 19/06/22 12:33 PM |
| 2 | Girl keeps popping up periodically to me on IG and messaging me, then disappears, shall I just leave her on ‘seen’ ?100%. You know where I’m coming from. | /r/seduction | 19/06/22 09:44 AM |
| 1 | Girl keeps popping up periodically to me on IG and messaging me, then disappears, shall I just leave her on ‘seen’ ?Honestly? This is less a question of me trying to bang her and more one of developing that grit and self confidence as to how an alpha would act. I want to carry that with me in all my interactions and not respond like a little bitch boy, just to be nice, if that make sense? | /r/seduction | 19/06/22 09:30 AM |
| 1 | Texting anxiety - what's the cure? How do you show personality through texts/get the outcome you want?He’s getting laid all the goddamn time with 9s. He sent a voice note to our group chat the other day of her practically begging to see him again. He love bombs then disappears that’s his general strategy (after seeing girls) | /r/seduction | 16/06/22 02:28 PM |
| 2 | Texting anxiety - what's the cure? How do you show personality through texts/get the outcome you want?Mmmmm. Don’t agree. Consider this: girl from work likes you, starts messaging you. You don’t ask her anything, talk about nerdy af hobbies, she realises she had you wrong and actually you’re a dweeb. Attraction dips. Extreme example, but same can be said the other way too. Initial attraction, and then making her more attracted. Leaving her on read. Compliments here and there. Bit of push/pull, etc. | /r/seduction | 16/06/22 02:24 PM |
| 1 | life is cruelYou’re preaching to the choir mate. I’ve had matches on apps where it’s been smooth as anything, I’ve not responded for a couple hours and I get unmatched. There is no right way to do it but I think there are things that can help | /r/seduction | 16/06/22 02:22 PM |
| 3 | life is cruelOh mate, this is a tough one. Plenty of interest, but just goes cold... It's always best to strike whilst the iron is hot and the interaction is at an emotional *high*-point. I think you would've reduced your chances for flaking if you had booked in the date when she said the patio sounds nice. Having said that, don't beat yourself up. If she was actually interested, she'd come with. Most likely, you're competing against lots of other men and she's dating someone else instead that day (hence, no… | /r/seduction | 16/06/22 01:11 PM |
| 2 | Texting anxiety - what's the cure? How do you show personality through texts/get the outcome you want?Yeah, all makes sense really... Just for the sake of debate, though, what's your take re: waiting times to reply, etc. there is an element of game-playing there. You might be available to text back right away, but you don't because you don't want to seem needy. By that very logic, you're not being you... if you see what I mean. What do you do/how do you not get this anxiety then. Apart from meditation, do you have any other methods/advice that's helped you? | /r/seduction | 16/06/22 11:15 AM |
| 1 | Texting anxiety - what's the cure? How do you show personality through texts/get the outcome you want?I used to think this. Playing devil's advocate, though, I think there's value in texting. Especially after you've had a date or two. Girls love to text. My pal showed me his Hinge, Bumble and WhatsApp the other day... it was absolutely popping. Paragraphs on paragraphs. Lots of rapport-building, in-jokes being made, banter, etc. and not just purely logistics-setting. | /r/seduction | 16/06/22 10:33 AM |
| 6 | ConfusionWowwww. What a cunt. | /r/seduction | 14/06/22 04:59 PM |
| 1 | Approached a girl last week Wednesday, and got her on a date that Saturday! Field-report and advice on next steps, please!Legend. What do you reckon in terms of a reply then? Just keep it casual and don't bring up hanging out again? I feel that's so awkward LOL | /r/seduction | 14/06/22 02:45 PM |
| 1 | Approached a girl last week Wednesday, and got her on a date that Saturday! Field-report and advice on next steps, please!Thanks man, like this a lot. I think I compensated with the emoji’s because she’s foreign. I don’t usually use as much Yeah, these were my thoughts too re: not being interested. I’m tempted to call it out because I feel the ‘no’ is better now than later and it shows balls. I should also say she’s only been in the country 9 days so maybe doesn’t want to feel overwhelmed like ‘fuck, what have I got a boyfriend now or something?’ Know what I mean? | /r/seduction | 14/06/22 01:33 PM |
| 1 | Approached a girl last week Wednesday, and got her on a date that Saturday! Field-report and advice on next steps, please!Thanks, brother. What do you reckon I should do next? Something along the lines of: Sunday jibber-jabber, and what's she been up to and then... So, Thurs. Know this really cool place in xxx. You free then? | /r/seduction | 14/06/22 11:47 AM |
| 2 | Approached a girl last week Wednesday, and got her on a date that Saturday! Field-report and advice on next steps, please!Why the saltiness? Appreciate the feedback but I get some seriously aggy vibes off you. What would you next? That was the OG question. | /r/seduction | 14/06/22 11:13 AM |
| 1 | Approached a girl last week Wednesday, and got her on a date that Saturday! Field-report and advice on next steps, please!No, check: https://imgur.com/a/NCVoHRb I suggested to hang out, but she doesn't comment on that. She's sent the last message. I don't know how to reply. | /r/seduction | 14/06/22 10:57 AM |
| 5 | I approached the hottest girl in the venue last night.100% this was the right thing to do OP. Shows you're an empathetic guy that gets it. She's just a human being, like you or me. It's all about developing a bond and emotional connection | /r/seduction | 09/06/22 11:51 AM |
| 1 | Sleeping with lots of average girls to gain confidence?100%. He's single. Let him enjoy and reap the benefits of being single? I didn't know sex and vibing with a girl was a crime | /r/seduction | 27/05/22 09:29 AM |
| 2 | Sleeping with lots of average girls to gain confidence?Word. | /r/seduction | 27/05/22 09:26 AM |
| 2 | Sleeping with lots of average girls to gain confidence?I agree with this. Up-voted. I think it's the way you made your initial point that's got you downvoted but I understand what you mean. I think you made the whole process sound a bit sinister. However, I can attest to never seducing a girl by basically saying 'hey, wanna fuck?' it's always a dance of words and subtle nudges in that direction unless you're in a relationship with that person. | /r/seduction | 27/05/22 09:24 AM |
| 4 | Sleeping with lots of average girls to gain confidence?In exactly the same position. Was toying with the idea of a date last week. She wasn't grotesque but nothing to scream from the rooftops about either. Plain-face. Not ugly. Huge tits. Borderline big. We had sex. I'd put her down as a 4/5, dependent on who you ask. I get the point made about confidence. I think you're wondering if it's actually detrimental because you're dating 'beneath you' and you can start to feel like you're actually at that level too. For example, I'm athletic and in great s… | /r/seduction | 27/05/22 09:19 AM |
| 2 | How to respond to this? (Text game)Have you not mentioned yet where you’ll be meeting/what you’ll be doing? Inviting her over first thing is ballsy and I’d venture to say 9 times out of 10 you’re setting yourself up for failure. I’d exaggerate and go in the opposite direction. Something along the lines of ‘painting your nails and combing your hair.’ She probably knows / might be down to fuck but is testing you. Diffuse the situation with humour. Last thing you want to do is show thirst | /r/seduction | 26/05/22 09:07 AM |
| 1 | Just went out and did about 15-20 approachesTags post ‘field report’ No field report | /r/seduction | 19/05/22 08:55 AM |
| 1 | How Being "Non-Needy" Is Killing Your Text GameYeah 100. You know the old saying ‘too much of anything is bad for you’ You don’t want to be so much of a pen pal but you don’t want to not develop rapport either. I think the key is definitely in getting rid of the arbitrary thinking of: I must get her off the app within 5 messages Live in the moment. Relax. Let go of any expectation and go with the flow. | /r/seduction | 12/05/22 10:12 PM |
| 3 | How Being "Non-Needy" Is Killing Your Text Game100 million percent man. I've been so wrapped up in logistics and getting her 'off' the apps for years and trying to organise a date quickly to minimise margin for error but just like the sentiments in your post it's the wrong way to go. If you're minimising margin for error there's bound to be a hiccup some point down the line. May as well develop rapport and build a connection first before organising a date otherwise you're actually increasing the likelihood she's going to flake. Why? Because … | /r/seduction | 12/05/22 12:03 PM |
| 1 | Why is it so hard to find a middle ground between complete openness and shutting down?submissivemami I hear that. This is a really interesting topic of debate actually. Not challenging you. I'm curious. What does it mean for you to be 'genuine'? Reason I say that? In recent years I've matured a lot and have learned to bite my tongue in certain situations. For example: if someone has pissed me off, where usually I'd tell them how I feel... NOW I calm down and address it diplomatically later. What I've found is that I've saved relationships that way rather than telling someone to f… | /r/seduction | 11/05/22 01:04 PM |
| 3 | Why is it so hard to find a middle ground between complete openness and shutting down?I think this means have some self-respect. Feel free to cry about something but don't dwell and take action to make it better. Don't mope around expecting things to change. Positivity and having your shit together is attractive. I can attest to what u/submissivemami has said. With my ex, I'd found out a colleague had died from cancer in her 20's and I cried and my ex hugged and embraced me. She didn't think poorly of me because of that. Conversely, when we came back from traveling together and I… | /r/seduction | 11/05/22 11:54 AM |
| 1 | Just do not think its worth it anymore'Mistakes' implies you value their perception of you more vs the perception you have of yourself. It's an inner game/confidence thing. I completely can relate to you. I had the epiphany yesterday of... wtf do I think I'm going to say that's so drastically bad? Nothing. Unless you open your mouth and cuss out their mother/them then you're good? | /r/seduction | 11/05/22 11:49 AM |
| 1 | Just do not think its worth it anymoreI've come to realise it's exactly like a muscle. If you step away from the gym for too long you won't forget how to use a machine (you won't forget how to talk to girls) it'll just be harder to push the weight you were pushing before (you won't feel as smooth/might feel a little anxious). I'm completely with you on sustainability, but perhaps try frame it a little differently. There is still time to do what you want and achieve the goals you want in life if you don't focus too much energy on say… | /r/seduction | 11/05/22 11:48 AM |
| 4 | When a girl rejects you, does this mean she thinks you're not hot enough?Not at all. I’ve been rejected by a girl who’s now seeing an ugly af guy but he’s got a shit tonne of money. When I got with my ex she suddenly popped up on the scene and sent me a message saying: ‘miss u let’s play soon’ Don’t try to understand a woman 😂😭 | /r/seduction | 10/05/22 02:06 PM |
| 4 | PSA: Don't waste time on girls who don't like youI've missed out on some girls I had serious feelings/crushes on before literally because of this very reason. I'd not let it impede my romantic life so completely that I wasn't having casual sex or even relationships but I really do feel like I did miss out on this one girl I was really into because she did show some serious interest in me. And it was for that reason that you've just said. That feeling of 'not cooked enough yet.' Her boyfriend at the time was really well-off, 6 foot something an… | /r/seduction | 23/03/22 07:31 PM |
| 1 | PSA: If it’s not a fuck yes, then it’s a no.Exactly. It doesn't have to be a permanent 'fuck yes' or 'no.' u/bully_goobers you took your pedal off the gas when it wasn't a vibe but that didn't mean you blacklisted her in your mind completely. The 'fuck yes' or 'no' method is a way to preserve self-respect and to save you time. You moved onto other prospects during those first two months. Then, when you'd met at a party and you were feeling a vibe (a fuck yes) things happened (probably because you came off as a self-respecting not thirsty … | /r/seduction | 21/03/22 10:22 AM |
| 1 | Lay-report from last nightI was pretty proud of that 😭🤣 at that point in the evening I was just in self-amusement mode | /r/seduction | 19/03/22 10:14 AM |
| 3 | Lay-report from last nightHahahaha ‘can I just come over and we can have some bedroom fun’ 👏🏼 Fair play to you for stating what you want. Risky. I think this is the difference between wanting to make someone your gf and just having a fwb isn’t it? You’d tend to be more ‘on a level’ with a gf. It shouldn’t feel like work. Completely get what you mean by the ‘headache’ | /r/seduction | 19/03/22 10:11 AM |
| 2 | Lay-report from last nightThis | /r/seduction | 19/03/22 10:07 AM |
| 2 | Lay-report from last nightWord. | /r/seduction | 19/03/22 10:01 AM |
| 3 | Lay-report from last nightIt’s the reluctance to talk about the ACTUAL issue here for me. I’ve seen that there’s been a few women that have commented on this thread. And the gist I get is that most women like gauging a guy before they indulge in a little smash. I.e. ‘can I trust him?’ ‘Will I be judged?’ ‘Do I actually like him enough to go through with this?’ The problem is… this is all internal monologue and it’s off the chart bonkers because I imagine it’s incessant (one thought after the other). I’m not saying you ne… | /r/seduction | 19/03/22 09:57 AM |
| 3 | Lay-report from last nightYeah I’ve done the whole ‘I’m not that easy’ thing before and that’s worked a charm | /r/seduction | 19/03/22 09:50 AM |
| 6 | Lay-report from last nightYeah that’s exactly what it was. And they wonder why men often leave with their tails tucked between their legs. Living in a fear-monger society | /r/seduction | 19/03/22 09:49 AM |
| 1 | Lay-report from last nightI understand where you’re coming from. I’m quite cynical also. However, like I said in another comment, ‘always be learning.’ My Tinder chat does tend to suck which is why I asked for advice but I’m not starting from ground-zero in terms of my game. I can DM you screenshots of our chat if you want re: the champagne and everything else? | /r/seduction | 18/03/22 05:43 PM |
| 4 | Lay-report from last nightYes, bro. Front lever pending. | /r/seduction | 18/03/22 05:04 PM |
| 7 | Lay-report from last nightLikewise, brother. Thanks for the compliment. | /r/seduction | 18/03/22 05:02 PM |
| 10 | Lay-report from last nightMe | /r/seduction | 18/03/22 04:40 PM |
| 17 | Lay-report from last nightOh, don't get me wrong, towards the end of the night when it was getting late and we still hadn't slept together I was a bit disappointed. But I kinda just thought 'oh well... it is what it is.' There were a lot of green lights, so you could definitely misconstrue that as her being a bit of a tease or getting down on yourself and thinking 'how have I got this close and not managed to seal the deal' (that's the worst part, but as I've said somewhere else here, negative self-talk will get you nowh… | /r/seduction | 18/03/22 04:13 PM |
| 13 | Lay-report from last nightI don't see it that way. Yes, I'm experienced and not a complete novice, but I still struggle with things like approach anxiety and cold-approaching. I used to do this quite well when drunk, but sober is a completely new ballgame to me and I've recently done away with drinking. I find a lot of useful information in this sub and I've always been of the mind that you should never stop learning. Aside from that, I thought I'd just share a positive experience with this community. If it helps someone… | /r/seduction | 18/03/22 03:54 PM |
| 16 | Lay-report from last nightYeah in the grand scheme of things she’s been one of my most difficult lays, but I don’t think this behaviour is mad uncommon | /r/seduction | 18/03/22 03:31 PM |
| 73 | Lay-report from last nightI'm by no means an expert, but I've found confidence will get you really far and is the no. 1 trait all men should cultivate when approaching, dating and having long-term relationships with women. Looking at yesterday and the text build-up, now, objectively: I didn't take it personally when she said 'I'm not sleeping with you tonight' or when she said 'I didn't think you had it in you' when I easily could have got in my head and thought stupid shit like 'is it the way I'm dressed?' 'maybe I'm no… | /r/seduction | 18/03/22 01:22 PM |
| 7 | Lay-report from last nightLOL | /r/seduction | 18/03/22 10:59 AM |
| 2 | Being a great dancer doesn't help at allDon’t invite her to dance with you. Are you from a black and white film and do you go out with a three-piece and a top hat? The year is 2022 my guy. Some approaches that have worked for me before have been taking the lead and twirling a girl around (if we’ve already made eye contact and smiled at each other). It’s been going over and singing Mr Brightside at the top of my lungs, putting my arm around her and jumping up and down like a loon with her. It’s almost never ‘smooth’, ‘fun’ is what enga… | /r/seduction | 17/03/22 06:40 PM |
| 1 | The Best Dating Advice I've Ever ReceivedHave you got any examples of when a girl wasn't interested in you and you got laid with her/went steady? Genuinely asking because I'm curious. I'm thinking back on any examples I've had and I don't have any. They all somehow showed me they were interested. | /r/seduction | 17/03/22 04:56 PM |
| 3 | Have you ever told someone you loved them, even though you didn’t mean it?Underrated | /r/seduction | 17/03/22 01:44 PM |
| 5 | Being a great dancer doesn't help at allYo, this has resonated big-time and it's something I've also observed in my own life in recent times. I learnt to shuffle a long while back and I bust that out when I go to the club and it has about an 80-90% hit-rate, I would say, in terms of piquing a girl's interest. I've had phones whipped out before filming my feet, I've had finger-points and loads of 'oiiiiii' or 'wowwwww!' and loads of eye contact and smiles. However, not unlike what u/Liberaler has said... that's just one part of it. In … | /r/seduction | 17/03/22 12:51 PM |
| 4 | How can I truly work on my self-esteem?TRM vol. 1 Dope comment bro. What's this though ^? | /r/seduction | 17/03/22 12:32 PM |
| 1 | How can I truly work on my self-esteem?I learnt a lot about this in therapy bro. There's this thing in psychology called internal or external locus of control. As soon as you place more of an emphasis on your life externally you are 100% setting yourself up for heartbreak, disappointment and (as you say, insecurity). When you realise that all these girls are, are just people (like you) who shit, piss, pick their nose and fart too (when no-one's looking) that should give you the confidence that no one should hold authority over the wa… | /r/seduction | 17/03/22 12:28 PM |
| 15 | first date, is talking friendly but not flirty a bad idea?Yeah, it's definitely a bad idea. I learnt this the hard way. Sometimes when chat flows and it's just 'easy' you'll get sucked into that 'frame' and that vibe because it's comfortable. I think, personally, it's a fine balance. I've found most of my success comes when I'm unflappable and I'm cheeky. | /r/seduction | 17/03/22 12:23 PM |
| 1 | Don’t give her the same energySpot on | /r/seduction | 17/03/22 09:33 AM |
| 1 | I (m28) bumped into a 1st date (f26) that friendzoned meI wasn’t ‘on’ and in seduction mode. I was just chilling and about to listen to music. My default isn’t ‘seduce’ it’s ‘the chill guy’ which is why I was like ‘oh yo, how you doing?’ I didn’t see her and think: ‘I must flirt/seduce’ because tbh I was a bit salty because I’ve been hitting the gym, looked at her and thought… ‘you know what? I’m the prize’ rather than trying to win her over… Interesting take, though. Definitely taking this on board. Maybe I should be more cognisant of being ‘on’ bec… | /r/seduction | 16/03/22 09:22 PM |
| 1 | I (m28) bumped into a 1st date (f26) that friendzoned meFair enough, I’ll take that. So you think the more appropriate response when I was there on the train with her would’ve been: ‘why are you telling me this? I honestly don’t care’ or to change challenged it in some way? | /r/seduction | 16/03/22 05:39 PM |
| 1 | I (m28) bumped into a 1st date (f26) that friendzoned meCheers man 👊🏼 no I’ve got a smash lined up tomorrow anyway, so I’m not bothered. It’s more of a conquest thing for me than feeling desperate as I have options. Just would like to smash. I’m curious why she is assessing me as some beta because I was completely unfazed when she was telling me about these other guys. Find it funny how we have no control over how people perceive us at all. You can be the coolest most confident chill guy and you’ll still get painted with a brush you don’t feel is app… | /r/seduction | 16/03/22 05:11 PM |
| 45 | Fall Back guy disguised as Male Best Friend?Dtf - down to fuck IOI - indicator of interest Aggressive - more proactive behaviour than reactive behaviour | /r/seduction | 11/03/22 10:09 AM |
| 34 | Fall Back guy disguised as Male Best Friend?100% dtf then | /r/seduction | 11/03/22 10:07 AM |
| 192 | Fall Back guy disguised as Male Best Friend?Just assume she’s dtf. You’ve got enough IOI’s. Get a bit more aggressive with it and if she tries to friendzone when you actually make a move, then at least you tried. Nothing to be ashamed or embarrassed about | /r/seduction | 11/03/22 08:34 AM |
| 2 | Guys, I'm (m28) not new to the game, but I am getting older and I am getting bored of sex with people I'm just not that interested in. Guys in a similar position (or age) do you tend to just let it fizzle or end things?Hi dude, thanks for the comment. I've actually found it really profound that you were seeing multiple people when you first started seeing your girlfriend. I was the exact same with my ex. However, I was made to feel really bad about that and I feel she tried betafying me as a consequence for a long time. She never knew I was seeing others, but she wasn't happy with the fact I wasn't all-in on her immediately as she was with me. And after our breakup I chastised myself for this for fucking aroun… | /r/seduction | 09/03/22 06:11 PM |
| 2 | Girls ghosted me, after 6 months she asked to hang out twiceYeah, I kinda like this. I think the natural want is to ask 'what's changed?' but if she was so low-investment that she ghosted OP before, better for him to go in with an idgaf attitude and just slay. I think if he's tempted to ask, ask when you've got a bit of investment from her (kino, kiss, etc.) and deffo ask in a jokey call-out way, not a butthurt way. | /r/seduction | 07/03/22 10:06 AM |
| 1 | Day Game - coming to the realisation that you just have to go for it and won’t get a clear-cut ‘come approach me’ sign. Am I right? What are your experiences?Thanks man. Any other tips? | /r/seduction | 28/02/22 11:56 AM |
| 1 | Worst first time rejection at club‘Just be a man’ is like saying ‘just bake the cake’ What’s the recipe? Some people don’t know what ‘being a man is.’ What’s your definition of ‘being a man’ | /r/seduction | 26/02/22 08:58 AM |
| 9 | Will giving up on porn up my game?That’s like saying ‘will giving up chocolate make me ripped’ | /r/seduction | 25/02/22 08:36 AM |
| 11 | Got the let's be friends text...Weird innit. This was actually really refreshing to read because it Just goes to show you that you can do everything 'right', have an 'abundance mindset' and still not really get the outcome you want. No one likes getting that text. Massive bruise to the ego even if you have a solid rotation because you're a bit like: 'bitch, you friend-zoned me!?' Could be that she: Decided she doesn't fancy you (this could be your mannerisms, beliefs, the way you think, words you use, the way you carry yoursel… | /r/seduction | 23/02/22 10:40 AM |
| 1 | You are not preserving a woman’s honor by ‘taking things slowly’ or delaying sex. You’re only hurting your chances. Always escalate and avoid the White Knight mentality with sexWhat would you recommend if she is a bit cautious about that the first or second time you sleep together but still want to be a 'giver' ? | /r/seduction | 17/02/22 09:43 AM |
| 2 | Have you ever been rejected multiple times by a friend but eventually come out victorious in the end? Or is no a forever no?Bro she’s married ffs | /r/seduction | 14/02/22 08:07 PM |
| 2 | [deleted by user]Fuck your ex (not literally, figuratively). Call her request out for what it is: 'weird' | /r/seduction | 14/02/22 04:21 PM |
| 1 | I have no problem finding women for sex, but how do you get high-quality women?Nah not necessarily. If you've not ever had a gf then yeah maybe that's something to address, but if you've seen things you like in a partner before then maybe you've just not found the right one yet | /r/seduction | 11/02/22 09:47 AM |
| -1 | The power of noIt's so true. I'm guilty of it. I think we are just biologically wired that way though. It's not anything to beat ourselves up about and think 'why are we like this' it's just the way things are. Whenever a girl has not put out straight away I have invariably stuck the course until it happened and by that point there is some level of investment there. Some things just work and make sense. Even at a basic psychology level that makes sense. | /r/seduction | 09/02/22 12:23 PM |
| -2 | [deleted by user]I've always been of this opinion also, but what would you do if you and your partner had been arguing for a day or two and then put up a scantily-clad bikini pic with like squinty eyes and a lip bite whilst she was away on holiday with her girls. I'll be real, that shit made me impotent for days and knocked me for six; felt so handcuffed. Felt like if I admonished her for it I'd come off controlling and push her farther away whilst she was on holiday and if I praised/complimented her for it: I'm… | /r/seduction | 02/02/22 04:41 PM |
| 2 | Once you reach an abundance of sex you will realize that a lot of what you read here is overcompensation by guys who have't had that success yet.LOOOOL. I encountered him too the other week. Think he's a Cassanova | /r/seduction | 19/10/21 12:49 PM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]I fucking love this man. Thank you. This sounds a bit silly and bit embarrassed to share this, but I'll go ahead anyway because maybe someone can relate LOL Recently when I've been in a club and I feel like I'm being a bit too much or desperate I think to myself... 'hang on a minute... would Justin Timberlake or Cristiano Ronaldo behave this way...' I immediately feel more powerful and feel better vibes from everyone around me. Just more cool, laidback and fun to be around. It's incredible. Affi… | /r/seduction | 11/10/21 03:36 PM |
| 2 | [deleted by user]Love this. I had a date ask me if I was 'alpha' and I stone-cold stared her back out and said 'I don't believe in that alpha beta shit, I believe in being me' and she respected that | /r/seduction | 11/10/21 03:28 PM |
| 1 | Coworker flaked on date. How should I handle seeing her at work come Monday?Each to their own Imreallytired2301 | /r/seduction | 11/10/21 02:53 PM |
| 1 | I already scheduled a date for the weekend but the girl still initiates conversations on text.This, OP. Don't not text just for the sake of not texting. If she's messaged you, message back. Simple as. Do what feels right and natural. | /r/seduction | 11/10/21 02:45 PM |
| 1 | Can confidence hide inexperience or does it always seep out?Yeah, word. Vulnerability and letting others have a peek into your inner life no matter who you are is magentising; makes you feel like you know them/have known them for years. | /r/seduction | 11/10/21 12:25 PM |
| 1 | I did it!!Hey man, what book is this? See the comment was deleted. | /r/seduction | 11/10/21 12:18 PM |
| 1 | Coworker flaked on date. How should I handle seeing her at work come Monday?Disagree. Women get hot under the collar when they get called out on because not a lot of men have the balls to do so. | /r/seduction | 11/10/21 12:18 PM |
| 1 | Coworker flaked on date. How should I handle seeing her at work come Monday?She sounds like a cunt. | /r/seduction | 11/10/21 12:16 PM |
| 1 | Coworker flaked on date. How should I handle seeing her at work come Monday?Fantasic advice, OP! Listen to this. Cool, calm and collected. | /r/seduction | 11/10/21 12:16 PM |
| 3 | Coworker flaked on date. How should I handle seeing her at work come Monday?'get out of character' wrong wrong wrong wrong. If I were him, I'd have a smile plastered on my face, genuinely unbothered because I know she's a cunt and say 'what happened this Saturday?' Watch her blubber for an excuse, just stand there unfazed, nod, wink, say 'no problem' and go about my day. I think we give women too many free passes on this behaviour. You know she shits too right? She's another human being. It's prize-mentality you want to adopt. Not ignoring a girl and playing games - tha… | /r/seduction | 11/10/21 12:15 PM |
| 2 | Coworker flaked on date. How should I handle seeing her at work come Monday?Next her bro. Too much effort shown on your part (not that that's particularly turned her off, but surely you can see your energy isn't being reciprocated)? Next her. | /r/seduction | 11/10/21 12:10 PM |
| 3 | When a female flakesDoes this genuinely work my G? I've invited a girl straight over to my place and we had sex that same night. But we had a mutual friend and I had met her at a party before. No problem bringing 1st dates back to mine after we've had a good night too, but never thought to ask someone I've been chatting to randomly on an app | /r/seduction | 11/10/21 12:08 PM |
| 3 | When a female flakesInteresting anecode though, I hit some random girl up I'd met in a club years ago for a drink. And when I got ignored for a few days I hit her up with an 'oh no she didn't' which got a subsequent positive reaction and a date. We kissed at the end. I think as long as you're coming from a place where it's not intense, you're good. E.g. 'how dare you not respond to my text' etc. I'd literally just remembered I'd not heard back from her, was feeling myself and just shot her a message trying my luck … | /r/seduction | 11/10/21 12:05 PM |
| 5 | When a female flakesDating someone at work is absolutely fine. I had a great and serious relationship with someone I met from work. If she flaked on you and has said she's not interested, though, drop it dude. Trust me, you get any 'legitimate' answers from this that will satisfy, really. Feel free to ask if it makes you feel better; but ultimately she's given 'her reason.' Either she legitimately isn't in a place when she wants to get to know anyone or she's just not that into you. Nothing that can be done there. … | /r/seduction | 11/10/21 12:00 PM |
| 2 | Having a whimsical, self-amused attitude is key to attraction. The overly-polite, serious guy rarely winsHumour me because this will sound weird... Recently it occurred to me that men (including myself) walk around thinking they’re the shit. We put on nice clothes, jewellery, workout and grunt at the gym, etc.. Then I remembered if anyone had x ray vision right now they’d see a tiny shrivelled dick 😂😂😂 Then I imagined all the other dudes like this too (I was at the gym). I was self-amused and felt like I’d just discovered the secret of the universe and it just had me in stitches and put a massive s… | /r/seduction | 10/10/21 04:16 PM |
| 4 | FR - Approaches last nightFirstly, good on you. You had the balls to approach 5 different women which not a lot people can do and 1 even approached you. I don’t like how someone has said ‘gross’ in this chat to you when all you’re trying to do is better yourself. Personally I would do away with the ‘can I meet you’ line. It’s a bit strange. If you’re looking to provoke the reaction ‘he’s odd, but cute’ maybe that could work but you’re narrowing your chances. One thing that also strikes me is that you’re a bit too in your… | /r/seduction | 10/10/21 04:08 PM |
| 1 | Would you continue to seduce and go on dates with a girl that’s somewhat physically attractive but you’re not into at all mentally just for the sex?100%. Gonna leave this alone | /r/seduction | 10/10/21 09:50 AM |
| 1 | Would you continue to seduce and go on dates with a girl that’s somewhat physically attractive but you’re not into at all mentally just for the sex?Wise words 🙏🏼 | /r/seduction | 10/10/21 09:48 AM |
| 1 | Would you continue to seduce and go on dates with a girl that’s somewhat physically attractive but you’re not into at all mentally just for the sex?Huh? | /r/seduction | 10/10/21 09:48 AM |
| 1 | Would you continue to seduce and go on dates with a girl that’s somewhat physically attractive but you’re not into at all mentally just for the sex?I live at hone with my parents and so does she. Fin. | /r/seduction | 10/10/21 01:57 AM |
| 2 | Would you continue to seduce and go on dates with a girl that’s somewhat physically attractive but you’re not into at all mentally just for the sex?Amen and relatable but quelling the urge these days. I wouldn’t even think twice about airing my thoughts out on Reddit a few years back | /r/seduction | 09/10/21 06:47 PM |
| 4 | Would you continue to seduce and go on dates with a girl that’s somewhat physically attractive but you’re not into at all mentally just for the sex?She’s so so fit on Instagram but not all that in person. Think if I liked her I’d find her attractive but it’s the whinging that’s put me right off LOL | /r/seduction | 09/10/21 05:26 PM |
| 25 | Would you continue to seduce and go on dates with a girl that’s somewhat physically attractive but you’re not into at all mentally just for the sex?LOOOOOOL. This very well could be the case. She’s just a strange girl man. The hilarious thing is, right, is that she said the last date(s) she’d been on was with this Spanish guy. This Spanish guy ghosted her after the 2nd date because she was ‘hard to read’ What provoked this conversation was because I’D said she was ‘hard to read.’ What’s happening after this 2nd date also? No contact. I think girls need to realise that - yes, us men do NOT find it attractive if it’s all there on a plate but … | /r/seduction | 09/10/21 03:09 PM |
| 6 | Would you continue to seduce and go on dates with a girl that’s somewhat physically attractive but you’re not into at all mentally just for the sex?Yeah you’re 100% right. This other guy thinks he’s some Casanova who knows the secrets of the universe | /r/seduction | 09/10/21 02:20 PM |
| 13 | Would you continue to seduce and go on dates with a girl that’s somewhat physically attractive but you’re not into at all mentally just for the sex?Yeaaaah man. I dated a girl like that too at 22. Forgot what she was like completely, and this girl just brought all those memories back. I think you’re all right. Drop her. | /r/seduction | 09/10/21 12:58 PM |
| 3 | Would you continue to seduce and go on dates with a girl that’s somewhat physically attractive but you’re not into at all mentally just for the sex?Nah I’ve got a few more dates on the go so haven’t text her since | /r/seduction | 09/10/21 12:32 PM |
| 6 | Would you continue to seduce and go on dates with a girl that’s somewhat physically attractive but you’re not into at all mentally just for the sex?Ah no I didn’t do that all to get laid brother. You misunderstand me. She lives on my road and my family know her family... if she was like from an app I’d be out of there. Thought the situation was a bit more delicate than that to go aggro with it. No need really | /r/seduction | 09/10/21 12:31 PM |
| 7 | Would you continue to seduce and go on dates with a girl that’s somewhat physically attractive but you’re not into at all mentally just for the sex?I booked crazy golf for us so we had somewhere to be upon her arrival to the date, and I bookmarked two places in my mind of where she might like for dinner (she mentioned she liked Asian and Italian cuisine). We didn’t even set foot in the Asian place. We rock up to it, she turns her nose up at how it looks inside and said ‘noooo what about the other place?’ We turn up to this Italian (this time with a real nice ambience inside. Lots of couples etc. and - again - complained about everything). ‘… | /r/seduction | 09/10/21 11:53 AM |
| 41 | Would you continue to seduce and go on dates with a girl that’s somewhat physically attractive but you’re not into at all mentally just for the sex?Yeah this is it man. I’m 28 now. If I were 21 - 25 it might be a different story. If I’m not intellectually/mentally stimulated and it means hanging out more (more dates) etc, it just feels a bit slimey. If it were ONS vibes and we both knew what the deal was I’d be up to it | /r/seduction | 09/10/21 10:57 AM |
| 2 | Gentlemen... throw the rule book out. Don't be afraid to tell women you're going on other datesThat’s an interesting reaction if it’s a first date though no? | /r/seduction | 08/10/21 08:17 AM |
| 1 | Gentlemen... throw the rule book out. Don't be afraid to tell women you're going on other datesNot asking for advice mate | /r/seduction | 07/10/21 12:54 PM |
| 1 | Gentlemen... throw the rule book out. Don't be afraid to tell women you're going on other datesApples and oranges bro. If a woman said to me 'do I look fat?' of course I would be saying no. Life, interactions and social dynamics is complicated and nuanced by default. There is no one right answer. I want to caveat this all by saying I do not advocate playing games, but I do advocate being honest and not feeling like you need to hide a part of your life. That's the delineation here. And if you're single and you feel like you're having a down-to-earth conversation. My question is: well, why … | /r/seduction | 07/10/21 10:34 AM |
| 1 | Gentlemen... throw the rule book out. Don't be afraid to tell women you're going on other datesPeace brother | /r/seduction | 07/10/21 10:23 AM |
| 1 | Gentlemen... throw the rule book out. Don't be afraid to tell women you're going on other datesThere's so many variables. I wouldn't be telling a girl after a 3rd date for example that I've got more dates lined up because, to be honest, I think that is taking the piss. However, if it's date #1 and it's going well and she genuinely asks you what you're up to that week and you tell her... that's fine. I'd almost say it's a good thing because if she has any objection to that, that would be a massive red flag. Ultimately, you're single, and you've got another date in the calendar. No crime th… | /r/seduction | 07/10/21 09:37 AM |
| 0 | Gentlemen... throw the rule book out. Don't be afraid to tell women you're going on other dates'take care' LOOOL I told the truth to these women, my friend. No manipulation done happenin' here. That was the point of the post. And I do disagree, I've had women tell me before that they might have a date coming up and in all honesty I respect the truth a lot more than bullshit. They've said it in a 'uhh not sure if I should be telling you this' kind of way not a gloating way. Tone matters. | /r/seduction | 07/10/21 09:31 AM |
| 21 | Cold approach is like body building, if the approach doesn’t scare you, you are not growing.Merit to both. Agree that socio-economic bla bla bla should take precedent, but equally if you're not 'playing the game' don't expect to win. | /r/seduction | 07/10/21 09:24 AM |
| 1 | Does anyone else get anxiety after you send a girl a message or is it just me?I hear you my G. Like the energy 💪🏼 | /r/seduction | 29/09/21 06:53 PM |
| 1 | Does anyone else get anxiety after you send a girl a message or is it just me?Yeah I suppose I know what you’re saying. I’m not in a place where I want to get into a serious relationship though (still kind of getting over my ex, but just want to have fun and live my single life - that’s for sure what she’s doing also, I’m not sure there’s any salvaging that now. She told me she ‘didn’t love me anymore.’) See what I mean? Like, obviously it’s a plus if I really really click with someone, but if it’s just a fwb I want? | /r/seduction | 29/09/21 06:26 PM |
| 1 | Need a hand with my approachingYep. Very guilty of this. Thanks man | /r/seduction | 29/09/21 10:53 AM |
| 1 | Need a hand with my approachingGreat advice | /r/seduction | 29/09/21 10:52 AM |
| 1 | Need a hand with my approachingLove this. Thank you | /r/seduction | 29/09/21 10:52 AM |
| 1 | Does anyone else get anxiety after you send a girl a message or is it just me?Yeah good question... completely cold approaches (I.e. no mutual friends beforehand to ‘warm’ the whole process up a bit) probably like 6 Most have been met in ‘normal’ circumstances. Slept with my neighbour. Met people through friends at parties. Friends of friends. School when I was a kid. Work. And then other than that the apps. Out of those 6 all of them were night game and exchanged deets or one night stands. Apps probably around 12 and other than that ‘normal’ circumstances | /r/seduction | 28/09/21 10:58 PM |
| 1 | Does anyone else get anxiety after you send a girl a message or is it just me?Mate yeah definitely definitely outcome dependent and I think definitely pushing myself in terms of talking to ‘better looking’ women | /r/seduction | 28/09/21 10:09 PM |
| 9 | Does anyone else get anxiety after you send a girl a message or is it just me?I’ve slept with 34 women 😅 I’m not sure why I still have this EDIT: I think it’s because I’m recently single and rusty after a 2yr relationship | /r/seduction | 28/09/21 09:53 PM |
| 1 | Need a hand with my approachingThing is, I wasn’t faking it. En route to the table I thought ‘fuck, this girl is actually hot’ but maybe you’re right in the sense that when I thought that I should have been congruent and made it known I was into her rather than let the moment go. I thought I’d left the interaction on a high so that when I came back I could resume but alas | /r/seduction | 28/09/21 09:08 PM |
| 1 | Need a hand with my approachingCheers. | /r/seduction | 28/09/21 09:02 PM |
| 1 | Need a hand with my approachingHey man, thanks. What do you mean 'excuser'? | /r/seduction | 28/09/21 08:44 PM |
| 3 | I did it!!How’d the texting go OP. I always find that part interesting as well because that’s a battle also | /r/seduction | 22/09/21 04:29 PM |
| 0 | I did it!!Bet she’s a cheese grater | /r/seduction | 22/09/21 04:29 PM |
| 2 | Remember: we don’t chase, we attractBELONG! That is a very sexxxxist way to talk about theseee bitches | /r/seduction | 22/09/21 04:24 PM |
| 9 | Remember: we don’t chase, we attractI think 1 out of 500 women, if that would ever make the first move irl and even then it’s about something innocuous. Had a girl come up to me at the gym once and said ‘are you using this?’ motioning to weights and smiled. And then acted all clumsy with said weight ‘oh I’m no good at this’ That was the move. I couldn’t be assed to escalate because it felt like me turning it ‘on’ when I was in workout mode and there were guys around me and I didn’t want to be judged (my own personal thing I’m work… | /r/seduction | 22/09/21 04:22 PM |
| 4 | Remember: we don’t chase, we attractCouldn’t agree more! Love this post. Just thinking about all the times I’ve attracted a woman and it’s always only ever been when I’ve not given a shit and treated her more like a mate really. Still have to show intent by way of asking her out etc. otherwise nothing will ever happen for you but I think the key here (eureka, lightbulb moment) is for it to be casual and not too intense. Intensity can come later | /r/seduction | 22/09/21 04:20 PM |
| 7 | Remember: we don’t chase, we attractDisagree. No one obese is conventionally considered attractive - might be to some, but you’re limiting your dating pool by hugely significant amounts. On your point of mindset and how that boosts your attractiveness - agree - to a point. A fat person might be ‘nice to be around’ if they’re fun and don’t give a shit but doesn’t necessarily mean a woman will want to sleep with him if she’s got options. The whole things is nuanced because we’re talking about emotions. We’re not talking about simply… | /r/seduction | 22/09/21 04:18 PM |
| 3 | How do I ask her to pay without making it awkward?Don't understand this - a woman who fucks a guy one time, stops, but wants to keep him around. Makes no sense to me. Clearly she isn't embarrassed to be around you in public and she's not repulsed by you otherwise she wouldn't have shagged you. Could it be that she's getting sex elsewhere and doesn't want to proverbially cross swords? (I.e. she's into this other guy more?) Look into it bro. I would stop being passive and definitely take action - however it is you want to do that. | /r/seduction | 21/09/21 03:25 PM |
| 1 | OLD openers pt.2Are you sure it won’t let you? Yeah man that’s what I was getting at because I think it’d help heaps to see your approach but if you have to type it all out don’t worry | /r/seduction | 17/09/21 02:51 PM |
| 1 | Reason for approachGood for you! I think there's a difference between dropping a line like this when you're with someone and when you're first getting to know them though | /r/seduction | 17/09/21 10:58 AM |
| 1 | OLD openers pt.2Interested to see what comes between the opener and the number close. I think you're seeing it as 'fluff' which is why you haven't posted any examples here, but to be honest, I think those are the most important steps | /r/seduction | 17/09/21 10:03 AM |
| 4 | [deleted by user]This. It's what makes dating/seduction both fun and exhausting. The only way you win the game is by sparking emotions and committing your own emotions to it | /r/seduction | 17/09/21 10:00 AM |
| 2 | Reason for approachIf there’s a life where we can be soppy, romantic, be nice and still yield results (I.e. get laid, and have women fall at your feet) please take me there | /r/seduction | 17/09/21 09:39 AM |
| 10 | Reason for approachHonestly I wouldn’t validate her too much. I’d say something along the lines of, ‘I thought you were cute and wanted to talk to you’ | /r/seduction | 17/09/21 08:48 AM |
| 3 | Be willing to walk away100 million percent - so well-put! And... also, dude... you're preaching to the choir. I have done what you have said also so so many times, it hurts to count. I've never actually felt desperate when giving chats more effort or another go, it's more from a place of frustration because I know my worth and would just genuinely like to get to know a girl. So when chat is stunted, I just try giving it another go. It's crazy how a pure-intention may be perceived as 'desperate' - but that's out of our… | /r/seduction | 16/09/21 04:14 PM |
| 2 | Be willing to walk awayLOOOL | /r/seduction | 16/09/21 11:58 AM |
| 8 | Be willing to walk awayShare your story my guy | /r/seduction | 15/09/21 02:21 PM |
| 2 | When a female flakesWith a smile and a thumbs up 😭 | /r/seduction | 15/09/21 11:52 AM |
| 6 | Be willing to walk awayLOL. I think it’s a good read 🤷🏽♂️ deffo watch the video | /r/seduction | 15/09/21 11:45 AM |
| 2 | An observation from the other night (semi in-field) which goes against conventional/popular advice: don't be afraid to be a little jealousYeah mate this is what was so interesting to me. I saw first-hand these 2 necking off and I honestly thought ‘wow’ | /r/seduction | 14/09/21 06:32 PM |
| 1 | An observation from the other night (semi in-field) which goes against conventional/popular advice: don't be afraid to be a little jealousQúe? The ‘couple’ were not strippers they were civilians/regular folk that went into a strip bar for entertainment just like my pal and I | /r/seduction | 14/09/21 05:41 PM |
| 1 | An observation from the other night (semi in-field) which goes against conventional/popular advice: don't be afraid to be a little jealousThat’s a good point! Although there was a lot of reluctance to explain away any of it. What is the natural conclusion you’d make from that? It screams ‘I am available’ If I were on a date and an attractive lady beckoned me over and I was reluctant to say I was on a date it’d be only for one reason... | /r/seduction | 14/09/21 05:39 PM |
| 1 | An observation from the other night (semi in-field) which goes against conventional/popular advice: don't be afraid to be a little jealousNah man, I’m not sure it was a shit test...? Remember the guy had gone off for a lap-dance! The girl was alone and said to me whilst alone that that guy was emphatically not her boyfriend. Sounds like she was fair game to me, but him coming back, him being jealous and them already having a ‘friendship’ or whatever you want to call it clinched it and worked in his favour. | /r/seduction | 14/09/21 03:13 PM |
| 1 | It's about time you became the man women want you to beTHIIIIS IS SPAAAARTA | /r/seduction | 14/09/21 02:53 PM |
| 2 | An observation from the other night (semi in-field) which goes against conventional/popular advice: don't be afraid to be a little jealousI 100 and million percent agree with you. I think my main takeaway here was do not be afraid to show emotion or ‘be vulnerable’ - I’m starting to really hate those 2 words but for the lack of something better... I have personally consciously steered away from showing ANY kind of jealousy because the community deems it an ‘unattractive’ behaviour but I think it’s much more important to show how YOU feel as well as making your date FEEL rather than trying to impress with words or just have a gener… | /r/seduction | 14/09/21 02:32 PM |
| 3 | An observation from the other night (semi in-field) which goes against conventional/popular advice: don't be afraid to be a little jealousWhereabouts are you from? And, yeah, it's weird. I think it can work both ways. I've found it can be a massive turn-on for girls I've dated when I've been unfazed. I've been with girls who get annoyed at me for not being more jealous and I'm just a bit like 'meh - what for? What a useless emotion, if you're gonna cheat, you'll do it anyway.' Also - if a girl tries to get me jealous on purpose - it's a massive turn-off and I don't have time for that. With my first girlfriend when I was 17 or so a… | /r/seduction | 14/09/21 01:26 PM |
| 1 | How do you make dating and approaching women fun or at least less painful?This | /r/seduction | 25/04/21 05:05 PM |
| 1 | How do you make dating and approaching women fun or at least less painful?Dude, I completely know where you're coming from. Dating is a weird thing. As loads of people have said just try to 'enjoy' it. Its not simple. And I wish it was as simple as man meets woman, asks out on date, goes to bed together, but it's just not that simple. There are so many variables at play. Try to reframe your interactions as an exercise of her having to win you over. Careful, because this can send you too much on the spectrum of arrogance, but there is something to be said for self-resp… | /r/seduction | 25/04/21 05:05 PM |
| 1 | Discussion thread + example: women that put out only when you’re willing to walk awayIsn’t that just crazy? It kinda seems true, but the sex was great and she was into it... so it makes me question whether it was a a manipulation move... although everything points to that I forgot to mention but she also gave me a couple handjobs and we showered together too but this was early days, everything else was off limits to her! | /r/seduction | 08/04/21 08:56 PM |
| 1 | Discussion thread + example: women that put out only when you’re willing to walk awayYeah man, ain’t that mad? Reckon we’ll have to keep up that facade then forever? Just show a lack of interest to the ones we’re actually interested in? 💀 😂 | /r/seduction | 08/04/21 08:04 PM |
| 1 | Discussion thread + example: women that put out only when you’re willing to walk awayYou had similar experiences? Finding it’s a fine line between showing women interest but not being too available 🤔 | /r/seduction | 08/04/21 07:55 PM |
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