Would you continue to seduce and go on dates with a girl that’s somewhat physically attractive but you’re not into at all mentally just for the sex?

Expensive_Law_1193 · 2021-10-09T10:50:13+00:00

Sounds like a lot of stress just to get some. I think I'd leave. At least for me I feel better knowing I dont sleep with whoever. I sleep with the ones I like.

great_account · 2021-10-09T13:28:03+00:00

When I was younger, I would put the effort in for girls I didn't like that much just to get some. But now, I'm not wasting my time. If I like hanging out with someone, then I'll do it. If I just want sex with someone, then it should be clear between both of us that is what is going to happen.

Fatticusss · 2021-10-09T17:18:12+00:00

You don’t find her attractive and you don’t like her personality. Sounds like a hard pass

PatientAssociation62 · 2021-10-09T12:56:00+00:00

Absolutely not. Why waste your time with someone who you honestly couldn't see having a future with and really didn't like anyway? I mean unless she is a knockdown amazing lover, can suck a golf ball through a garden hose and/or can crush walnuts with her vag muscles then I would say a resounding "No".

This chick sounds like another "princess" I dated who was the same way, got to fuck her a few times, really wasn't worth it at all. She was a boring fuck. I regret wasting my time on her.

ponysniper2 · 2021-10-09T18:34:39+00:00

Personally no, that shit is so fake and cringe to do. But damn near every dude I know would do it. Kinda sad if you ask me.

FaithInStrangers94 · 2021-10-09T19:31:51+00:00

Honestly physical attraction is a powerful thing.

There are some girls who can make my heart race just looking at them and if I had the chance to date one of them but found out they were absolutely mentally deficient I would…

Not bother.

The mental/psychological attraction is still too important for me - if a girl turns out to be a mouth breather I lose a lot of attraction toward her overall, and if she’s actually a rude bitch I’ll lose most of it.

Frankly I don’t even know how to hang out with someone who isn’t on my wavelength, what the fuck do you talk about? What do you do? I’d rather jack off then go hang with a friend.

peaches_onions · 2021-10-09T12:02:32+00:00

Find someone else

NiNj4_C0W5L4Pr · 2021-10-09T14:00:58+00:00

Well, there's the question of, what happens if you accidentally get her pregnant? If the juice is worth the squeeze then double bag it & cross your fingers. I've had my share of these types & as I got older I'd rather not put the effort into it. Do it now while you're young, but don't go back for seconds. Chances are it won't be as enjoyable as you're making it out to be. [EDIT]: I've got to drop this grandfatherly advice: "Son, if I could go back and do it all over I'd fuck the fat & ugly ones too! They're usually grateful & generous lovers". To each his own.

canofcanasta · 2021-10-09T21:54:05+00:00

Too many fish in the sea for this BS. And how good could the sex possibly be? She sounds like no fun.

MrHouseGang · 2021-10-09T17:45:15+00:00

I’ve done it. Broken a lot of hearts in my immature days. Only because I was so empty and heartbroken from past relationships. Unfortunately the human body still floods with hormones. I was horny and I needed physical contact. Not a good thing to do to someone though

jessiepc145 · 2021-10-09T15:00:43+00:00

I could but I probably wouldn’t man…I’m at the point if I don’t really want her completely, then I really don’t want her at all

gangweedsavedme · 2021-10-10T00:03:36+00:00

Avoid an entanglement lol

HillarysCell-mate · 2021-10-10T02:09:05+00:00

If she was just some rando I would say yeah give it another date. If it leads to sex cool but if not don’t sweat it. The only problem is she’s a family friend and it’s best not to fuck around with those types of relationships. So with that being said I would cut things off now either tell her you’re not feeling it or just ghost her. Either would be better than her running back to mummy telling her you pump and dumped her or falsely accusing you of rape to save face from being said cum dump. Plenty of women you’ll like out there to waste time on this one

Agreable_Actuator84 · 2021-10-09T12:17:25+00:00

I think the answer depends on your goals and the person you want to be. There isn’t a right or wrong answer here. You decide which set of likely consequences you want to deal with - all have pros and cons - and do that thing.

If you had other options for dating and sex, would you go out with her again? If You’d probably go out with someone else if you had another option then maybe spend what would have been that date night with boring girl going out finding better options.

How are you going to feel if you go for third date with boring girl and she turns you down for sex? How will you feel if you have sex and she falls in love with you and stalks you and gets depressed when you dump her? How will your family feel about this?

I have been there. I have dated and had sex with women because they were there, it was the easy option and I wanted sex/companionship but deep down I knew there was some mismatch In personality/interests or looks. In hindsight the sex was not worth the drama/conflict/being bored or frustrated with their negative attitude.

But I wouldn’t say it was wrong, it was just where I was in my journey. And you know what, it was probably where they were too.

Furthermore, She probably is on the spectrum, doesn’t have a lot of male interest, doesn’t know how to interact positively, isn’t sure what she wants from you, and may be using you for attention and possibly only even using you for sex. Women want sex too and when Chad isn’t calling they will settle. I’m not dissing you I am just suggesting that, in addition to valuing your time, you also see her as having agency. So if you do go out again and go forward sex, feel free to be pretty honest about your doubts about her being a match personality wise, but you like her body, but don’t want anything serious. You might be surprised. She may say - I haven’t had dick in a year and I just want to get off, nothing serious, I don’t see you romantically but your body is good enough for a few rolls in the bay .

No-Historian-6391 · 2021-10-09T22:57:12+00:00

So if while you’re with her you feel like you shouldn’t be there bc you don’t give a shit anymore then you should leave.

If you are thinking this person is brain dead but I like to fuck her then stay, and fuck her.

At some point you personally will reach a moment when you no longer care and will move on. If that’s happening then recognize it and leave. If it’s not happening then, enjoy the sex and leave when it does.

Either way get some pussy first.

plainbread11 · 2021-10-09T22:57:44+00:00

Op I’d just tell her you’re not interested and let her bratty attitude go into overdrive as she now wants what she can’t have.

Narcan9 · 2021-10-10T00:54:09+00:00

I find it easier to go the other way around. Moderately attractive, but with a good personality. Kinky, fun in bed, sexually skilled.

A hot girl who's bad at sex isn't very enjoyable. Nor is a hot girl with a bad personality.

truthbomb999 · 2021-10-10T01:15:47+00:00

Would you continue to seduce and go on dates with a girl that’s somewhat physically attractive but you’re not into at all mentally just for the sex?

Men go on dates for sex. That's kinda the point of this exercise. What else are you hoping to get out of this 9

Was shy the whole night and stuck by her mummy’s side;

Easy no here. This isn't high school.

ogroyalsfan1911 · 2021-10-10T05:12:18+00:00

27? No.

13esq · 2021-10-09T10:46:19+00:00

If you're both happy with just sex then fine, but if she's not putting out by the third date, move on.

If you want something more than just sex, move on.

TheSunshineMan · 2021-10-09T13:13:35+00:00

First mistake - exchanging Instagram isn't of the number.

Second mistake - going to a bar for the first date, instead of your place.

Third mistake - going to a bar for the second date, instead of your place.

You said you want to fuck her right?

Then why are you going on public dates?

What would I do?

Invite her straight to my place for the third date or I wouldn't meet.

Something I would've done on the first and second date.

Lord_Augastus · 2021-10-09T12:58:03+00:00

Hot pussy isnt worth it mate. If you are old enough to recognise that, you are mature enough to let it go. She is hot and crazy because men give her the attention. I have a hot girl into me, amd is constantly hitting me up even when i go silent. She is shallow, she wants an easy life with a vain perception of value through consumer showmanship. I am not like that, i dont tell her i have money o dont show it, but she knows my job title. So she figures there is income, so she is interested, even if i am not, but she is hot so she expects attention from me and i dont give it to her. So we are just 'friends' but without any friend like chats. But i hang put with her for her hot friends, some of them arent crazy or vain so there is positives.

eyesopen1111 · 2021-10-09T17:08:28+00:00

If she's too ugly for relationship, then she's (1) a friend/pivot or (2)a pump-and-dump/FWB.

This is why the date sequence doesn’t make sense. Why arrange multiple dates for a pump-and-dump? Those are the girls you invite over to "Netflix and chill", not the ones for some multi date series.

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SnooPets1514 · 2021-10-09T11:41:01+00:00

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External_Lifeguard49 · 2021-10-09T12:57:48+00:00

Most likely not. Because my main purpose of getting to know a girl is so I can be physically intimate with her.

byteseed · 2021-10-09T18:09:24+00:00

I don’t find her attractive 1. Either you fuck her hard just because you can. And dump her next day (personally I will not do it, if your families are in the same orbit, do not shit where you eat). 2. Or, do not sleep with someone who you are not attracted to, simple as that.

Yummy_Castoreum · 2021-10-09T22:42:51+00:00

She is not that into you and you are coming on too strong. Tone it the fuck down. And if you don't want a relationship, fuck off out of there.

JFizz06 · 2021-10-10T00:27:53+00:00

So basically you’re using her at this point? Who sucks more here, you or her?

Hmmoklolthisisfine · 2021-10-10T00:34:23+00:00

Continue to seduce? It doesn’t sound like you’ve even began seducing her. Honestly it sounds like you’re making excuses because you lack the game to close.

If you actually wanted to sleep with her, why are you taking her on dates?

The first date went good and you didn’t take her home. (At 28, ending a first date with a kiss is no accomplishment. Don’t get me wrong you’re doing well but no mans goal should be to wait till the end of the first date to get a kiss. That’s teenager mentality. You escalate throughout the night. This will lead you to closing more on first dates.)

The second meetup you took her out to eat instead of just going to your place.

You’re failing her basic tests I.e. calling out eye contact and making YOU feel like she has to be impressed.

If you’re serious that you’d “100% fuck her” then cut the excuses, get her to your place and close.

Work on your mindset and game.

Or continue complaining.

Theory_Agile · 2021-10-09T14:11:55+00:00

Run broz she's gonna shit all over your name to her family once you fuck and and stop talking to her. Ive been here, its not worth it.

HughBeaumont500 · 2021-10-09T14:38:29+00:00

You really need to keep things honest with her. Like continue to remind her.

I would proceed with a lot of caution

RegretsNothing1 · 2021-10-09T17:05:32+00:00

Waste of time. You'll have post nut clarity and feel sick after. Been there, done that.

Yamochao · 2021-10-09T18:08:07+00:00

vinceybabey · 2021-10-09T19:49:16+00:00

Keep it casual and yes for the sex

Adorable_Albatross94 · 2021-10-09T19:55:14+00:00

No I am sapiosexual

rickmackdaddy · 2021-10-09T20:02:25+00:00

Dude, sex is going to be terrible. If she’s that uptight, picky and demanding, you’re not going to have a fun ride. Bounce/ghost/whatever.

Doctor0z · 2021-10-09T20:29:59+00:00

On my younger days, yes. Now that I am older, sometimes no and sometimes yes.

mmmkaaaayyy · 2021-10-09T20:36:40+00:00

ayay0x · 2021-10-09T20:41:14+00:00

I did it, thought it could keep myself shielded, in the end I got attached and it backfired. So while it totally understand the temptation, I say it’s not worth the hassle when it unavoidably comes to an end - which it will if sex is the main thing, guaranteed

Dennis6125 · 2021-10-09T21:31:28+00:00

%100

thrownoutta · 2021-10-09T21:45:32+00:00

I did this a few times and it got to a point where I could not ‘rise to the occasion.’ I felt bad enough that I could not have sex after a few times.

18Mandrake_R00T5 · 2021-10-09T22:30:07+00:00

No. As a scorpio ♏, I would feel wrong putting my dick into an empty bucket headed woman. As I'm sure some women won't really consider fucking some hot dumb guy upon finding out HOW dumb he is

subscribe20pewdiepie · 2021-10-09T22:33:57+00:00

Stick w that as long as you can if you don't have anything lined up

peaches_onions · 2021-10-09T23:15:02+00:00

Hey will someone tell me what a “sexual frame” means? Im genuinely asking. Please help 😅

changthaiman · 2021-10-10T02:38:49+00:00

Sounds like a fatty. Pass

IamWisdom · 2021-10-10T03:29:13+00:00

i wouldn't see her again.

blatherskiters · 2021-10-10T05:20:31+00:00

No. Wtf, hell no.

myra_nc · 2021-10-10T06:09:51+00:00

This is a case where proper punctuation changes the meaning of the entire thought, I think.

2021-10-10T15:06:16+00:00

That second date screamed shy but piece of work when she’s comfortable. For me a no go. I’ll let you decide what you do with the yourself.

Title	Would you continue to seduce and go on dates with a girl that’s somewhat physically attractive but you’re not into at all mentally just for the sex?
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Date	October 9, 2021 10:41 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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