***Prefacing this whole post with 'girls are crazy'.... (if you're getting positive signs, take their actions, not their words at face-value)... you'll see why***

I (m28) matched with her (f29) on Tinder last September. We went on one date together. She was charming, but really fucking talkative and it was honestly a challenge getting a word in edgeways. Our energies completely differed. I'm a hell of a lot more chill than her and hers was a bouncing off the wall kind of energy, so it was exhausting trying to match that. I decided to keep in my own energy and frame.

She was into me. We got food at the bar. She fed me olives. At one point she dropped a drink on my lap and she went to town rubbing my crotch with a napkin.

I ended the night kissing her, and I made it clear I wasn't looking for anything serious. She was taken aback by this, but said that she wanted me stay out longer and drink but because I'd been hitting the gym (and I'm generally kinda done with binge drinking), I told her I didn't fancy it, and said 'nah, but I'll see you some other time, though.'

The months go on and I go on other dates and kind of forget about her. We chat here and there intermittently.

Recently, she texts me again saying that she's moved into her new flat and said that it was 'time to bust out the champagne.' I'm obviously like: it's on. We set logistics and I ask for her address.

Not soon before long, she hits me with her anti-slut defence: 'do you not wanna go somewhere for a drink first?' I say: 'champagne's a drink last time I checked' and hit her with a laugh and skull emoji.

Bust through that ASD like The Hulk. That brings us to yesterday where we smashed. I go straight over to her place with a bottle.

On arrival, she took me on a tour of her new place and said she was living alone. We bust out the champagne, drank and reacquainted and she showed me her new mattress within 30 minutes of me being there and said, 'get in, try it.'

I said: 'I'm obviously not gonna just get in your bed alone, come with me' she gets in. But she very quickly says 'I'm not sleeping with you tonight, though.' There was a lot of this suggestive flirting by her but no follow-through to begin with.

I don't go cold on her (like a lot of people on this sub recommend, because I just find that kills the mood) so I indulged in her bullshit chat for a few minutes in the bed, and then I got out of the bed and took us back to her living room where we were having the vibes beforehand, drinking, chatting and listening to music.

I kiss her. She calls me a good-kisser, but she doesn't linger. Starts talking again. We had loads of chat. After kissing her, she looked at me and said 'you're a good looking guy' and I said 'thanks, so are you' LOOOL

We talked a bit about calisthenics and I showed her a few moves. The compliments kept coming. This time she complimented my body. (At this point, I'm thinking, why the fuck do girls put up such a resistance when they so obviously want it?)

So here I am pushing and pulling gently, not overtly in either direction and just 'reading the room'. I put my arm around her and pull her close and kiss her a few times and then pull when she pulls away when she starts jibber-jabbering again about something else. I'm doing this: rinse and repeat, rinse and repeat, rinse and repeat.

I get her lying down on me eventually with her clothes on and she spreads her legs. I said 'no way, I used to be able to do the splits when I was a kid', I stroke her leg, and I decide to go for it and start massaging her pussy through her leggings. It was clear she was wet. She pulls away after a little bit and distracts herself with something else (again) and moves away from me to do something.

Throughout the night she kept offering that I could stay over. I told her 'thanks, but I've got to be up early. If I'd of known before I would've packed a bag. Don't worry this doesn't have to be the only time I come here'

We end up watching TV and spooning under a blanket. I indulge in this bullshit for a little while and ask for the time, and say 'I better go' (false time-constraint, but also kinda true, I thought 'eh fuck it, we can smash next time, I'm tired'). She turns to face me, I kiss her again and keep talking some bullshit whilst I start fingering her. Get her moaning and she says 'I didn't think you had it in you' (Lol).

Then she takes me to her bedroom, and I have zero resistance and end up smashing a couple times. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯