EDIT: thank you so much to anyone reading this lengthy thing. I didn't know how to condense it without losing parts of the story

So I've made about 4/5 day game approaches so far and really pushing myself (it's something I've never done before without alcohol in my system).

I'm working up the courage to even just make small talk and flirt with people without asking for a number or anything like that when I'm picking up groceries, for example. I'm enjoying the process. Feel a lot more comfortable in my skin and...yeah...just enjoying the process and feeling more confident.

What I am doing though is taking an honest reflection after the fact and taking stock of what went well and what could've gone better, etc.

Just now I went to a restaurant to meet my family for a catch-up meal (my Dad and 2 younger sisters).

There was a girl standing outside (front-of-house) and she was very hot. Eastern European. Beautiful lips, nice eyes, great bone structure, etc. etc.

ANYWAYS - to be honest, it doesn't actually register how fit she is until we start speaking. I plant myself in front of her and literally just say 'hey.'

She pauses for a second, looks back tilts her head (and I kid you not) her eyes light up, a smile creeps across her face and she says 'hey' back. No 'hey have you got a booking', no 'hi sir welcome to...' etc. It definitely was a vibe.

I say to her 'There's a booking here, I've come to meet my family, they should be inside' No kidding, her face drops. And that energy, and mystique before vanishes into thin air as what I felt was her resuming her job and taking it as not a stranger coming up to her on the street and starting a chat, but a customer.

I register this and en route to the table, I say to her 'what's your name?' she says 'vaidi'... I say 'wha?' she smiles and says 'vaidi with a v' and I say 'I'm xxx', we shake hands and she smiles at me. I feel smooth af.

I felt so confident that when a waitress came to our table she said 'who has the coke?' (I was zoning out - when I eventually came to - I look at her and say: 'sorry...I got lost in your eyes' she smiles a massive Cheshire Cat smile, puts the coke down and says 'enjoy.'

I was feeling myself and my energy. I don't know, I was dressed very well today, could swear I was getting looks in the street and I just wanted to spread positive vibes. Here's my mistake. I made the error after that flirt of telling my family I liked the girl on front of house upstairs and that I wanted her number.

So when we go to leave, I've built it up in my head and I asked them to walk in front of me so we didn't congest the walkway, make a scene, etc. but they were still in earshot and I was nervous af (I wasn't nervous earlier, I was cool as a cucumber).

I literally stroll up to Vaidi and say 'Vaidi could I get your number?' no small talk. No nothing. Just that. Just clumsily 'could I get your number?'

I'm glad I made the approach ANYWAY. It's not something I would've done a week ago. So I'm getting more ballsy.

However, as expected and in hindsight, she looks at me and she just kinda goes 'nooo I would rather not' I felt like a fool.

I offer up 'why have you got a boyfriend?' she quips '2 actually' I offer up 'very lucky men' and then I see 'see ya' and leave.

I suppose I felt awkward to start chitter chatter in the middle of a restaurant (my family literally just there) and get to know her whilst on the job and I'm beating myself up for not just asking her when we were outside and going with that energy and just telling my family I'd meet them after their meal or something. I honestly really did feel like it was a vibe there. It didn't feel like your standard 'oh I have to be nice because I'm serving them'

Any thoughts? Advice? Etc.

Tl;dr - my approaches and closing is abrupt. My brain goes blank and rather than trying to form a connection and be in the moment I'm clumsily asking women 'for their number'