A few weeks back I had posed a questions here on improving dating life as a 38M. I got some great inputs on that post (https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/vuzrwr/seeking_dating_advice_from_35_men/). Using those inputs and my own understanding from reading other dating related books, I created the below holistic strategy to follow. Open for suggestions for improvement.

Dating Goal: At this stage of my life, my goal is to find someone with whom I can build a long term relationship and potentially get married to.

My strategy involves taking action in the following areas:

Build a life I love and am proud of:

I want to live in a way where I am happy by myself and proud of the life I have. A life in which a woman adds to my happiness but isn't the reason for my happiness. I am already taking action in the following areas, but need to be more disciplined.

  • Career: Use my career to build a Purposeful Life. Through my skills I will create value for people around me and generate wealth for myself.
  • Physical Fitness: Build an attractive and strong physique through regular workouts and by following a disciplined Diet.
  • Mental Health: Meditate regularly to remain stable emotionally. Take cold showers to build mental resilience.
  • Hobbies: Make time to routinely engage in the following interests - Public Speaking, Salsa, Biking and Self Defence.
  • Social Life: Through my hobbies and career, identify men and women that I find inspiring and build relationships with them by contributing value to their lives.

Finding Women to date

I know the characteristics that I find attractive in a woman. I also have some understanding of what kind of women find me attractive based on past experiences. Using this knowledge I will select women to date through following channels:

  • Attend singles dating events
  • Approach women that I find attractive in day to day life only when they match my criteria and either are in my immediate vicinity or give me indicators of interest.
  • Have a solid dating profile on atleast one online app. I don't expect much from OLD, but would use it just for the occasional dates that I can get.

Improving Communication Skills

Communicate with a high-value mindset which will come from the Life I am building for myself. Following are the principles that I will follow to communicate with a High-Value mindset:

  • Speak my mind and express myself authentically at all times
  • Engage with women in proportion to their investment in the interaction. If a woman shows little or no interest in interacting with me, I will disengage.
  • Keep improving my Storytelling, Humor and Banter skills.