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| 1 | Do you think male dominated hobbies and spaces should stay male dominated?answer the question :) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/01/26 04:17 AM |
| 1 | Do you think male dominated hobbies and spaces should stay male dominated?Or a child… also mods exist. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/01/26 01:06 AM |
| 1 | Do you think male dominated hobbies and spaces should stay male dominated?If the company doesn’t make games you like don’t play them? I don’t see the problem really. Also the amount of women complaining has not outweighed the amount of people willing to play them regardless- the companies are the ones explicitly choosing to make games more E rated to ensure they gain a wider audience. Capitalism is always going to be about whatever profits most- ethics or morals be damned. Stop blaming a few outspoken prudes for choices ceos are making (the majority being men no less)… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/01/26 01:05 AM |
| 3 | Do you think male dominated hobbies and spaces should stay male dominated?They’re never going to cease to exist unless pornography and sexuality as a whole are completely illegalized. Sex and art are inextricable and even if this set back the production of sexy booby games from major productions there are literally an unimaginable of sexually charged video games to play already released. We aren’t about to turn into 1984 because the latest edition of your favorite shooter doesn’t make you hard. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/01/26 01:02 AM |
| 1 | Do you think male dominated hobbies and spaces should stay male dominated?I appreciate that! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/01/26 05:28 AM |
| 1 | Do you think male dominated hobbies and spaces should stay male dominated?Well slow down- so you think racism and SA are funny? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/01/26 02:09 AM |
| 1 | Do you think male dominated hobbies and spaces should stay male dominated?How much of that is just cultural though? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/01/26 12:40 AM |
| 1 | Do you think male dominated hobbies and spaces should stay male dominated?Honestly I’d say I’m a pretty fun person and have a goofy sense of humor and most women I know are. None of us make jokes about race or each others bodies, or SA- and I find that to be most people reasonable limits and boundaries on humor. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/01/26 12:39 AM |
| 0 | Do you think male dominated hobbies and spaces should stay male dominated?No reason why you can’t find evidence of that happening in the US. Claims require evidence. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/01/26 12:10 AM |
| 4 | Do you think male dominated hobbies and spaces should stay male dominated?And you can just play a different game WITH boobies, I don’t see the problem? If the company decides to make a game that is less sexualized, go play another one?? I don’t understand what makes one wrong and the other right? It’s a free market for games yeah? Don’t play it? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/01/26 11:58 PM |
| -1 | Do you think male dominated hobbies and spaces should stay male dominated?Is that happening? Can you find evidence that is the case? I mean we’ve been talking back and forth and I haven’t sued you yet? If it were so easy for men to persecuted with no effort from women, why are there so few real statistics to prove that happens? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/01/26 11:55 PM |
| -2 | Do you think male dominated hobbies and spaces should stay male dominated?If what you’re doing is so problematic that some has grounds to sue you and win and your only saving grace is that people of your same gender don’t have the integrity to hold you accountable… I don’t see why that’s something to protect… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/01/26 11:52 PM |
| 1 | Do you think male dominated hobbies and spaces should stay male dominated?Okay sure let’s talk about Call of Duty since you named it as one of these naturally masculine hobbies. What about testerone makes it a naturally male hobby? It’s not real violence- it’s virtual, simulated warfare- so no physical limitations should really matter. And research suggests women actually have great hand eye coordination and excel in certain military positions including being fighter pilots. Women have higher pain tolerance, are less likely to faint from blood loss and are currently o… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/01/26 11:03 PM |
| 1 | Do you think male dominated hobbies and spaces should stay male dominated?But what if they didn’t though? They don’t have to, and perhaps if such a thing was as ordinary as it is to have female coworkers or a woman as your neighbor it wouldn’t be as big of a deal right? Or passing a woman in the grocery store? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/01/26 09:02 PM |
| 1 | Do you think male dominated hobbies and spaces should stay male dominated?That’s crazy how did find and authenticate these? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/01/26 08:59 PM |
| 0 | Do you think male dominated hobbies and spaces should stay male dominated?Sick! What’s the history behind it? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/01/26 08:53 PM |
| 1 | Do you think male dominated hobbies and spaces should stay male dominated?I haven’t experienced that actually but it’s been a while since I attended a drawing class actually. What was the nature of the material that made these women uncomfortable and did it occur with one particular class or was it a repeat problem? Did they tell you that you were not welcome in the class or what exactly was said? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/01/26 08:53 PM |
| 1 | Do you think male dominated hobbies and spaces should stay male dominated?What makes a hobby naturally for men? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/01/26 08:51 PM |
| 1 | Do you think male dominated hobbies and spaces should stay male dominated?Let’s say they didn’t- and let’s say if they did, she ignored them because she was just there to enjoy the hobby as well. Would that change your opinion? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/01/26 08:43 PM |
| 0 | Do you think male dominated hobbies and spaces should stay male dominated?Sounds neat! Can you tell us your favorite one that comes to mind and what the history is behind it? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/01/26 08:42 PM |
| 4 | Do you think male dominated hobbies and spaces should stay male dominated?Can you elaborate on that? Like an example of women gate keeping young boys from enjoying a hobby? I haven’t heard of that | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/01/26 08:41 PM |
| 6 | Do you think male dominated hobbies and spaces should stay male dominated?Go you! I read and write a fair bit myself and it absolutely should be for everyone | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/01/26 08:04 PM |
| 10 | Do you think male dominated hobbies and spaces should stay male dominated?Some users feel women consuming a hobby means that the industry leaders of that hobby may diversify its products to appeal less to men in particular- and some people have complained that their hobbies have become less masculine by the inclusion of women in them | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/01/26 08:04 PM |
| 6 | Do you think male dominated hobbies and spaces should stay male dominated?Women do play a role in the making of comics and video games actually! Perhaps not as a majority of the individuals working on the staff but their skill set is involved. I will say I too also enjoy a game with some jiggle physics and showy outfits on the ladies etc as a woman- but there are still plenty of games with that right? Also the question isn’t so much about the creators of the games you enjoy as the consumers- so would you be bothered if more women played marvel rivals let’s say- and al… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/01/26 08:03 PM |
| 1 | Would you find it weird or embarrassing if your long term girlfriend proposed to you?Mmm no you read that wrong- we’ve talked about it at length including that I wanted to be the one to propose. Nice try lmfao. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/01/26 05:37 PM |
| 1 | Would you find it weird or embarrassing if your long term girlfriend proposed to you?Okay… still doesn’t answer my question of how you define gender roles and what yours are….. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/01/26 11:25 PM |
| 1 | Would you find it weird or embarrassing if your long term girlfriend proposed to you?Again this post specifically in the circumstance that otherwise you are ready to get married and you do consider this person a great potential spouse. Idk how entitled it is to want conversations to stay on topic for the purposes of the post and I do not understand why you cannot simply honestly stay with the subject. Who said anyone owed me anything? How is a woman proposing entitled but a man not? Why is one something being owed and the other one note? Again why is it suddenly entitled when a … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/01/26 10:23 AM |
| 0 | Would you find it weird or embarrassing if your long term girlfriend proposed to you?I am the OP. Are you… sober? Also so you’re saying that everyone around you needs to conform to the gender roles you decide are accurate in your head? So how’s that working out for you? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/01/26 09:27 AM |
| 0 | Would you find it weird or embarrassing if your long term girlfriend proposed to you?No I can’t because it hugely depends on a person beliefs, and ethnic origin, and family circumstance. In a certain tribe in Africa women are considered most feminine and beautiful if they have extra long nexts, so the women where rings around their necks that extend them for example. Gender roles are not universal. Even people in the same town attending the same church will have differing opinions on gender roles and expectations | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/01/26 08:56 AM |
| 1 | Would you find it weird or embarrassing if your long term girlfriend proposed to you?I’m not springing a proposal. We’ve talked about at length… are you sure you’re actually reading what I’m writing, I’ve explicitly wrote that the engagement is planned. How is that not clicking? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/01/26 08:39 AM |
| 1 | Would you find it weird or embarrassing if your long term girlfriend proposed to you?Okay but in the post I specified that this would otherwise be the right time and right person and that you’ve spoken about it before so explain to me how that impatient and what about being a woman makes it that way? How does having XX chromosomes makes the exact thing you would do impatient ? Aside from that what an odd thing to dislike. “She wanted to spend the rest of her life with me too badly”? Like this is wifey otherwise material and that’s… a bad thing??? So you don’t want to be wanted? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/01/26 01:36 AM |
| 0 | Would you find it weird or embarrassing if your long term girlfriend proposed to you?Aw wholesome | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/26 11:14 PM |
| 3 | Would you find it weird or embarrassing if your long term girlfriend proposed to you?There just isn’t much support that the majority of gender roles have anything to do with biology. Breathing however does have to do with your anatomy and nature. Try. Think it through. This is not an innate thing- it’s societal and we have ample evidence of it | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/26 11:13 PM |
| 1 | Would you find it weird or embarrassing if your long term girlfriend proposed to you?Such women? Okay tell me about that, what did they all have in common and why does that make you so certain any woman willing to go above and beyond for a men will “nag” them. Also define “nag” , what were these conversations you call nagging if you can recall? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/26 11:12 PM |
| 1 | Would you find it weird or embarrassing if your long term girlfriend proposed to you?Why though, why would that be so wrong? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/26 11:09 PM |
| 1 | Would you find it weird or embarrassing if your long term girlfriend proposed to you?Okay straightforward I appreciate it | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/26 08:09 PM |
| 0 | Would you find it weird or embarrassing if your long term girlfriend proposed to you?Would it not be equally desperate for a guy to do that though? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/26 07:43 PM |
| 1 | Would you find it weird or embarrassing if your long term girlfriend proposed to you?How sweet! Thank you for sharing- I hope it happens for you | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/26 07:42 PM |
| 1 | Would you find it weird or embarrassing if your long term girlfriend proposed to you?Yeah it does speak of enormous admiration and love | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/26 07:41 PM |
| 1 | Would you find it weird or embarrassing if your long term girlfriend proposed to you?Can you elaborate on that? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/26 07:41 PM |
| 0 | Would you find it weird or embarrassing if your long term girlfriend proposed to you?What makes something manly or feminine and why is it important to you? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/26 07:41 PM |
| 1 | Would you find it weird or embarrassing if your long term girlfriend proposed to you?I mean people on social media can be pretty annoying for sure- but I’d argue they are just bitter and jealous for being so bothered by your happiness and it’s still nothing to be ashamed of | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/26 07:39 PM |
| 1 | Would you find it weird or embarrassing if your long term girlfriend proposed to you?Ah I’m sorry I misread that last bit | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/26 07:37 PM |
| 1 | Would you find it weird or embarrassing if your long term girlfriend proposed to you?So you don’t want the woman you’re with to openly love you? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/26 06:49 PM |
| 0 | Would you find it weird or embarrassing if your long term girlfriend proposed to you?Why do you feel that traditional gender roles suit you as they do? Are there aspects that you personally like? Were raised that way or did you discover it individually? Are their cultural or religious influences? If it’s personal why do you feel the gender binary is important? Do you feel it’s still effective or achievable in today’s economy? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/26 06:48 PM |
| 1 | Would you find it weird or embarrassing if your long term girlfriend proposed to you?How so? Just trying to keep discourse relevant. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/26 06:16 PM |
| 1 | Would you find it weird or embarrassing if your long term girlfriend proposed to you?Okay sure. But why is being romanced by a woman such a bad thing? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/26 06:15 PM |
| 1 | Would you find it weird or embarrassing if your long term girlfriend proposed to you?In the post it’s explicitly clear that the marriage is something you’ve discussed and planned together. Why is it impatient for her to propose and not you if you’ve both agreed you want that in the future? Why is adherence to gender roles so important to you? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/26 06:13 PM |
| 1 | Would you find it weird or embarrassing if your long term girlfriend proposed to you?Please read the post before commenting then- it’s explicitly noted that the proposal would be known and marriage as a planned mile stone | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/26 06:12 PM |
| 0 | Would you find it weird or embarrassing if your long term girlfriend proposed to you?What makes something your place and why? Why is it emasculating? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/26 06:11 PM |
| 1 | Would you find it weird or embarrassing if your long term girlfriend proposed to you?Theyre great friends but would think poorly of your relationship purely because a woman performed a romantic gesture towards you? What if you informed them that you planned and talked about this and wanted this beforehand? Then they’d have no reason to assume that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/26 06:10 PM |
| 1 | Would you find it weird or embarrassing if your long term girlfriend proposed to you?“Performative inversion of gender roles” what makes you think it would be Performative? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/26 06:08 PM |
| 1 | Would you find it weird or embarrassing if your long term girlfriend proposed to you?Why? Men online complain heavily about not receiving enough attention or praise from women, of wanting to be romanced and chased- aren’t those also actions of taking the initiative? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/26 06:08 PM |
| 3 | Would you find it weird or embarrassing if your long term girlfriend proposed to you?What if she didn’t nag, just quietly planned it after your discussion? Why do you think she’d nag about it? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/26 06:06 PM |
| 1 | Would you find it weird or embarrassing if your long term girlfriend proposed to you?Okay so let’s assume it isn’t a grand spectacle, let’s assume it’s a proposal in a quiet private way, a small but romantic circumstance. Like she cooks you your favorite meal and dress absolutely gorgeous, and makes you fancy drinks of your choosing in a nice glass and then quietly holds out a velvet engagement box with a lovely ring. A private, intimate romantic date between the two of you. Would you still feel negatively towards it? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/26 05:36 PM |
| 1 | Would you find it weird or embarrassing if your long term girlfriend proposed to you?What you’re talking about ideologies- wide spread beliefs so overwhelmingly common and accepted that they are treated as innate qualities in humans. But while we are so far as anthropologists know of, tribal and live in social packs evolutionarily, there has always always been a decent number of people in every social formation that do not conform- often for the betterment of humanity as a whole. It is the determination to not follow but lead that has created some of our greatest inventors and r… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/26 05:15 PM |
| 1 | Would you find it weird or embarrassing if your long term girlfriend proposed to you?That’s so cute awww | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/26 05:09 PM |
| 3 | Would you find it weird or embarrassing if your long term girlfriend proposed to you?Right, I’m just trying to understand the difference. Why cultivate such a negative and restrictive social environment where being doted on and loved is something to be ashamed of if it comes from a woman? And how do you think this might influence the commonly talked about issue of women being hesitant to perform gestures of romantic love in same vein men often feel expected to? It sounds like a lot of men genuinely want a grand gesture of love, so why do the optics matter to you? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/26 03:02 PM |
| 0 | Would you find it weird or embarrassing if your long term girlfriend proposed to you?Why? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/26 05:03 AM |
| 1 | Would you find it weird or embarrassing if your long term girlfriend proposed to you?Why? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/26 05:03 AM |
| 2 | Would you find it weird or embarrassing if your long term girlfriend proposed to you?We are though. We pay the same amount equally for rent, and both work and support one another. I know a lot people that do the same. I find relationships that are not 50/50 quite rare in this economy | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/26 05:02 AM |
| 5 | Would you find it weird or embarrassing if your long term girlfriend proposed to you?You’re suggesting that social expectations and cultural beliefs are as natural and innate as hunger or lust but they aren’t. They’re built upon with generations of influence, money, and power. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/26 05:01 AM |
| 4 | Would you find it weird or embarrassing if your long term girlfriend proposed to you?I can because I intend on proposing and all my closest friends know it already. And they’re excited for me. Why should anyone make you feel ashamed because a woman loves you? Why are the optics bad? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/26 04:59 AM |
| 2 | Would you find it weird or embarrassing if your long term girlfriend proposed to you?Okay but assume you are but she planned the proposal first and just beat you to it. She let you know she wanted to as a gesture of love also. Why is it weird? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/26 02:39 AM |
| 9 | Would you find it weird or embarrassing if your long term girlfriend proposed to you?Why do your friends and family not want you to be lavished on and adored in such a grand and romantic way? A lot of men on here claim that women aren’t romantic enough to them and don’t put in the same effort. Why discourage that? Is being love with you foolish? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/26 02:37 AM |
| 3 | Would you find it weird or embarrassing if your long term girlfriend proposed to you?Wow 3ct is a big rock! Why would you friends laugh at you for being proposed to? Why keep friends like that? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/26 02:35 AM |
| 2 | Would you find it weird or embarrassing if your long term girlfriend proposed to you?I agree I think on some level the conversation* of marriage should be happening way before the proposal ETA: sorry major typo! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/26 02:35 AM |
| 4 | Would you find it weird or embarrassing if your long term girlfriend proposed to you?Why does obeying and conforming the cultural frame work appeal to you? As a woman in a liberal relationship I purchased the ring privately after we talked together over preferences and I measured his ring size. He hasn’t seen it yet. He has a general idea on what he wants, but has not seen the ring. He doesn’t know when or how it will happen either. Pretty much the same way most men would plan a proposal | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/26 02:32 AM |
| 3 | Would you find it weird or embarrassing if your long term girlfriend proposed to you?A lot of relationships today are 50/50 though? And on that note if you feel women are simply bad at being responsible in relationships, I’m going to guess marriage isn’t for you? Or what would you say? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/26 02:31 AM |
| 2 | Would you find it weird or embarrassing if your long term girlfriend proposed to you?A lot of guys on here have answered that think it’s embarrassing or emasculating. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/26 02:30 AM |
| 4 | Would you find it weird or embarrassing if your long term girlfriend proposed to you?It wouldn’t be the first time I got on my knees for him and he didn’t think it was silly then…. Seems an odd time to dislike the position right? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/26 02:29 AM |
| 8 | Would you find it weird or embarrassing if your long term girlfriend proposed to you?Is there a reason you’d prefer to propose first? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/26 02:28 AM |
| 7 | Would you find it weird or embarrassing if your long term girlfriend proposed to you?Okay suppose she did but told you she wanted to plan the proposal? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/26 01:57 AM |
| – | Yes you do have a choice, stop acting like a helpless victim to your hormones and desires as a man and learn to process them and make decisionsI wasn't talking about you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/12/25 10:35 PM |
| – | Yes you do have a choice, stop acting like a helpless victim to your hormones and desires as a man and learn to process them and make decisions"Just how it is" You're really just outright saying you're a bad person... I mean it's your life- but I'd want to spend mine very differently. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/12/25 10:31 PM |
| – | Yes you do have a choice, stop acting like a helpless victim to your hormones and desires as a man and learn to process them and make decisionsSo what is it regarding then? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/12/25 10:10 PM |
| – | Yes you do have a choice, stop acting like a helpless victim to your hormones and desires as a man and learn to process them and make decisionsNo I am, men on this subreddit alone with viciously victim blame while insisting they don’t have a choice- pick a profile, any profile really but if you want I can get you screenshots | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/12/25 10:09 PM |
| – | Yes you do have a choice, stop acting like a helpless victim to your hormones and desires as a man and learn to process them and make decisions“I left that out because the follow up sentence does not establish that the previous sentence applies to a very small minority” How does it not? Are you sure you read it? Maybe you should read it again and explain that to me- break it down word for word how what that sentence states is different | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/12/25 10:09 PM |
| – | Yes you do have a choice, stop acting like a helpless victim to your hormones and desires as a man and learn to process them and make decisionsCan you elaborate on that? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/12/25 10:00 PM |
| – | Yes you do have a choice, stop acting like a helpless victim to your hormones and desires as a man and learn to process them and make decisionsFunny how you left out the sentence right after that that explicitly stated “You may not be in the government or rich as an individual but you still have the autonomy to choose who you spend your time with and who you befriend, what parts of the internet you delve and how you talk to or bond with others.” Literally the prime example of taking something out of context. Cringe. Men will literally blame Rihana for “choosing a bad man” when she was beat black and blue by Chris Brown. Are you walking… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/12/25 09:59 PM |
| – | Yes you do have a choice, stop acting like a helpless victim to your hormones and desires as a man and learn to process them and make decisionsHow exactly does being a whiney victim get you laid? I have yet to see that pan out. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/12/25 09:55 PM |
| – | Yes you do have a choice, stop acting like a helpless victim to your hormones and desires as a man and learn to process them and make decisionsThat just isn’t true. My best friend from college was a virgin well into his late twenties and he’s still my bff and roommate to this day. My other roomie is bisexual and never talks about getting laid so idk what he’s up to but he hasn’t had a gf or bf since I’ve met him. It really isn’t a big deal. They don’t talk about it often because they aren’t losers obsessed with getting laid. We stay up late and get high sometimes, watch our favorite shows together, play MTG. You’ve internalized a certa… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/12/25 09:51 PM |
| 2 | Women logically are the cause of most dating problemsGuilty how? About what? I don’t know them, I didn’t do shit to them. Lol ‘condescending as fuck’ I like how you didn’t actually criticize or anything I said, just got upset and went straight for dismissive insults. Your debate skills are amazing /s | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/12/25 05:54 AM |
| 2 | Women logically are the cause of most dating problemsPursuing who you pursue is still a choice. Swiping right is still a choice. Befriending who you friend is still a choice. Your choice doesn’t start with being come onto- but you’ve removed all your accountability and agency down to complete victimhood when you attempt to set these things aside and insist you have no choice unless someone chooses you. You always have choice. If you feel this powerless in your life- time to take control- and by that I mean the things you CAN feasibly control like … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/12/25 03:03 PM |
| 1 | Access to sex is a terrible reason to form any serious kind of relationshipFirst of all debate 101 is to not make it weird and personal, but certain sour individuals with no ability to manage their temper or engage intellectually just can’t help themselves which is why mods exist lol. Second- show me one part of what I’ve said that proves I’m a “bad person” | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/12/25 07:44 PM |
| – | Access to sex is a terrible reason to form any serious kind of relationshipOh not a furry with disordered eating what has the world come to waaaaa! Side note you’ve been reported that’s against this subreddits rules and also proves nothing. Btw what does “suspiciously amateurish” mean exactly- is your Brony art superior or something. How can you shame me for being a furry but also not being good enough at it lol? Also discussing my eating disorder is so random and I have no idea why you think that’s acceptable when you’ve been insisting on your OCD making you a special… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/12/25 07:18 PM |
| 1 | Access to sex is a terrible reason to form any serious kind of relationshipMorals and ethics should always come above selfish personal gain when it comes to consent. Why are you so shamelessly determined to have social sanctioned coercion. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/12/25 05:57 AM |
| – | Access to sex is a terrible reason to form any serious kind of relationshipYou are on this subreddit and the topic is sexual in nature and the mention of make up smudging and life experience is relevant. You chose this conversation and now you’re acting like someone religious grandma clutching your pearls and trying to argue all men dislike a woman being unashamed of experience so I’m clarify that no- you’re a pearl clutcher trying to shame me and I’m not impressed by your rudimentary logic and old world opinions. You don’t go on a subreddit about dating and sex to a p… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/12/25 05:43 AM |
| 1 | Access to sex is a terrible reason to form any serious kind of relationshipHow so? Why are you so desperate to defend sexual assault and coercion based on loose technicalities. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/12/25 05:40 AM |
| 1 | Access to sex is a terrible reason to form any serious kind of relationshipNo I really was just trying to say that it takes self criticism and awareness to be a good person and at the bare minimum you should give a shit about honest informed mutual consent. The fact that triggers you so deeply well… Yee doth protest too much I fear. Getting tired about hearing about your OCD. No one asked and I have no sympathy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/12/25 12:42 AM |
| 1 | Access to sex is a terrible reason to form any serious kind of relationshipOn the contrary my bf finds it hot when we talk about all the good sex and fun we’ve had lol. Keep your dull puritanical prudiness to yourself | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/12/25 12:40 AM |
| 1 | Access to sex is a terrible reason to form any serious kind of relationshipHere’s the thing is I never said rape. I said sexual assault and coercion which aren’t as exact as rape. Either way we’re getting absurd and pedantic now, | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/12/25 12:39 AM |
| 2 | Access to sex is a terrible reason to form any serious kind of relationshipMakeup isn’t a tool of deception though- anymore than good clothing that fits nicely or hair gel is. If you cared so much about supposedly being taken advantage of by someone who wears makeup, you couldn’t simply ask if they could take it off first. If they won’t- leave and refuse at that point. If they will- now you know what they look like without it. And to be frank I think few people over the age of 12 would actually struggle to recognize makeup and comprehend the minor changes it adds to so… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/12/25 03:49 PM |
| 2 | Access to sex is a terrible reason to form any serious kind of relationshipDo you know that? Have you lied to get what you want sexually? Have you taken advantage of someone too drunk to stand or talk clearly? Have you initiated sex on a sleeping partner? Have you pressured someone who was hesitant or on the fence? Have you intentionally convinced someone to go to somewhere private so you could get them alone and then pressure them? Have you groped or felt someone up and tried again when they told you no or that they weren’t comfortable or ready for that? I don’t consi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/12/25 03:44 PM |
| 2 | Access to sex is a terrible reason to form any serious kind of relationshipI think you can’t handle the possibility that this very common thing is in actuality a kind of coercion so your projecting your fear of how horrible that is onto others. The way you describe paralysis as a reaction to the word rape holds heavy implications that it strikes great fear into your hard, even in a circumstance where you aren’t the victim for the perpetrator. I get the sense you know how despicable sexual assault is and are struggling to grasp the gravity of possibly being one of its p… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/12/25 05:27 AM |
| 1 | Access to sex is a terrible reason to form any serious kind of relationship“Because sex” is a really really dumbed down understanding of romantic and sexual relationships as a whole. Asexual people are in relationships too. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/12/25 03:00 AM |
| 1 | Access to sex is a terrible reason to form any serious kind of relationshipGoing through my profile? Weird behavior. That’s Reddit 101 don’t be a weirdo stalker that goes through profiles for ammunition based on the personal life. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/12/25 05:49 PM |
| 0 | Access to sex is a terrible reason to form any serious kind of relationshipDo you care that strangers you aren’t interested in are getting laid? Why? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/12/25 05:31 AM |
| 1 | Access to sex is a terrible reason to form any serious kind of relationshipEnd does not justify the means | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/12/25 05:30 AM |
| 1 | Access to sex is a terrible reason to form any serious kind of relationshipDude why are you even on Reddit, wooooaaah think about it bro… totally radical. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/12/25 05:30 AM |
| 0 | Access to sex is a terrible reason to form any serious kind of relationshipStill not a source for that either. We’re waiting | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/12/25 05:27 AM |
| 1 | Access to sex is a terrible reason to form any serious kind of relationshipIf she persisted to harass him after rejection or get jealous and aggressive I’d absolutely tell her tough shit. No means no. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/12/25 01:40 AM |
| 0 | Access to sex is a terrible reason to form any serious kind of relationshipLying to get sex is coercive. If you do this you are a bad person. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/12/25 01:39 AM |
| -1 | Access to sex is a terrible reason to form any serious kind of relationshipAgain- rub one out. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/12/25 01:39 AM |
| -1 | Access to sex is a terrible reason to form any serious kind of relationshipBecause you shouldn’t have to pay someone to consent to sex with you. Tbh if it’s good enough on its own…. It isn’t good | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/12/25 08:08 PM |
| 1 | Access to sex is a terrible reason to form any serious kind of relationshipI heartily agree | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/12/25 08:07 PM |
| 2 | Access to sex is a terrible reason to form any serious kind of relationshipNot how anything works. I have a bf. He’s really all I want sexually so I don’t fancy strangers lol. Also still not a source. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/12/25 05:20 PM |
| 10 | Access to sex is a terrible reason to form any serious kind of relationshipThat’s not how anything works. Desperate people will make horrible sacrifices to survive, and you have already acknowledged that in your above comments. You’re talking about exploiting desperate women for their bodies, which is hardly above sex trafficking. Why not call it what it is? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/12/25 04:34 PM |
| 2 | Access to sex is a terrible reason to form any serious kind of relationshipI find that really sad though if anything. They’re still being taken advantage of, you’re still shit if you mistreat someone end of sentence. If she expresses wanting something serious, the honest to do would be to tell her that won’t happen. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/12/25 03:26 PM |
| 10 | Access to sex is a terrible reason to form any serious kind of relationshipIf you purchase a slave and then force them to do slave work prior to setting them free, you are in every sense part of the problem and not above it. You’re actively taking advantage of someone powerless and you acknowledge it. It sounds like you know exactly what kind of moral position you have and what quality of person you are. Let’s not sugarcoat it. This is not a deal. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/12/25 03:21 PM |
| 0 | Access to sex is a terrible reason to form any serious kind of relationshipOkay it sounds like you definitely aren’t part of the problem in this particular case then. Good for you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/12/25 03:19 PM |
| 4 | Access to sex is a terrible reason to form any serious kind of relationshipWhy if you don’t like or value those activities? That’s fine you can choose to be with whomever you like within reason. But then you’re acknowledging sex is an aspect of the relationship not the only objective. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/12/25 03:14 PM |
| 4 | Access to sex is a terrible reason to form any serious kind of relationshipDo you have a father? Do you have any friends? Online video game homies? Do you have a boss. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/12/25 03:13 PM |
| 3 | Access to sex is a terrible reason to form any serious kind of relationshipI agree. That wasn’t the purpose of my post. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/12/25 03:11 PM |
| 2 | Access to sex is a terrible reason to form any serious kind of relationshipSure but it’s often the next step | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/12/25 03:11 PM |
| 6 | Access to sex is a terrible reason to form any serious kind of relationshipAnd you’re… happy about that? Preying on those people? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/12/25 03:11 PM |
| 2 | Access to sex is a terrible reason to form any serious kind of relationshipI’m not arguing against that- I’m stating that isn’t a solid foundation to build a relationship on and wastes people’s time- if you can’t get consent from telling truth- you cannot get consent period. I’m not denying this happens, I’m stating it isn’t healthy or moral or functional | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/12/25 03:10 PM |
| 7 | Access to sex is a terrible reason to form any serious kind of relationship“The only reasons I would tolerate the presence of a woman on my life” Is she in your life actually if all you’re doing is using her as a breeding mare? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/12/25 02:59 PM |
| 2 | Access to sex is a terrible reason to form any serious kind of relationshipSo marriage is not a serious relationship? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/12/25 02:57 PM |
| 2 | Access to sex is a terrible reason to form any serious kind of relationshipIs it working out for them though actually? There seems to be a lot of bitter divorced men complaining about women initiating separation, likely in part because of how little these husbands are bringing to the relationship. Is it working out for these guys really? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/12/25 02:55 PM |
| 2 | Access to sex is a terrible reason to form any serious kind of relationshipIf a person pursues only looks than their relationships are fairly shallow. And? Your point? This relates to the post how? Also do you have any proof that that means their relationships after being matched are built entirely on looks rather than it just being initial appeal. This discussion revolves around people pursuing relationships entirely for the sex, not just wanting it as an one of the initial positives of having a love life- but it being the sole objective of having and maintaining a li… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/12/25 02:49 PM |
| 4 | Access to sex is a terrible reason to form any serious kind of relationshipI don’t want to do anything to them. I do think we should further assess our current legislation on rape by deception but otherwise I just think it should be socially frowned upon and discussed further as the issue that it is rather than dismissed and normalized as just something men do. Men being dishonest coercive predators should not be the norm, especially if you’re working towards the not all men are bad narrative- you should want less bad men and you should want them acknowledged for it yo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/12/25 02:45 PM |
| 6 | Access to sex is a terrible reason to form any serious kind of relationshipNot genuine empathy if it’s being feigned to manipulate | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/12/25 02:42 PM |
| 3 | Access to sex is a terrible reason to form any serious kind of relationshipThat’s not a source. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/12/25 02:39 PM |
| 0 | Access to sex is a terrible reason to form any serious kind of relationshipNo unless that was an actual conversation they had. “I’m paying for dinner but only if you’re serious about me, what do you think?” If they lie then yeah that’s no good. No coercive exactly because money is not the same as sexual consent but not good | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/12/25 02:36 PM |
| 5 | Access to sex is a terrible reason to form any serious kind of relationshipIf “I’m not sure” is the truth then no. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/12/25 02:34 PM |
| 6 | Access to sex is a terrible reason to form any serious kind of relationshipEver considered that 90% are the liars. Also source? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/12/25 02:32 PM |
| 4 | Access to sex is a terrible reason to form any serious kind of relationshipOf what? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/12/25 02:32 PM |
| 4 | Access to sex is a terrible reason to form any serious kind of relationshipWho pays for paintings? Fans of art. Oh my gosh the exploitation of people who love art in the art community is despicable!!! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/12/25 02:31 PM |
| 3 | Access to sex is a terrible reason to form any serious kind of relationshipLet’s not move on. Let’s talk about it. Why do you think onlyfans exploits men? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/12/25 02:23 PM |
| 3 | Access to sex is a terrible reason to form any serious kind of relationshipHow is only fans a trick? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/12/25 02:20 PM |
| 3 | Access to sex is a terrible reason to form any serious kind of relationshipIf someone wants a sex based relationship than there should be no need to lie about it though wasting years of your life putting up with the intense emotional trials of long term love solely for sex sounds like a horrible idea. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/12/25 02:07 PM |
| 4 | Access to sex is a terrible reason to form any serious kind of relationshipMy stance was never who is more likely to find sex with honesty. It was always about honesty being the objectively right way to go about your intentions- what exactly would that experiment do? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/12/25 02:06 PM |
| 6 | Access to sex is a terrible reason to form any serious kind of relationshipI’m not arguing against that. Just be honest about it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/12/25 02:01 PM |
| 4 | Access to sex is a terrible reason to form any serious kind of relationship“Post your CV” ah ah ah- you said women get what they want. So that shouldn’t matter it’s what I want. “Safety and security are guaranteed by government” Oh honey were you born yesterday? How many sexual predators do you think get actually convincted? And does that undo what they did and make the victims safe and secure? If they were so safe and secure than how did it happen in the first place? What a comfortable life you must live “A relationship with someone who sincerely loves you” Pause for … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/12/25 01:59 PM |
| 8 | Access to sex is a terrible reason to form any serious kind of relationshipNo that is just the objective context of the statement- sorry you skimmed my post lmao. Also read the other comments, there is an abundance of examples of men doing exactly that. What a silly absolutism to represent with such confidence. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/12/25 01:53 PM |
| 3 | Access to sex is a terrible reason to form any serious kind of relationshipNo lying is wrong gender be damned. Read my other comments, I stare exactly that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/12/25 01:51 PM |
| 10 | Access to sex is a terrible reason to form any serious kind of relationshipMany philosophers would argue that is also not moral or ethical, that utilitarianism or a focus on pleasing the most people is not a strong basis for all moral beliefs due to the amount of means that can justified for the ends. But almost all philosophers would agree that lying is wrong. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/12/25 01:51 PM |
| 5 | Access to sex is a terrible reason to form any serious kind of relationship“You get what you want more often than not” Like a decent job in this economy? Like safety and security from physical violence and assault? Like a relationship with someone who sincerely loves you rather than with one of these individuals for example? “The average man gains nothing from being honest” He would be a decent human being with good morals that only surrounds themselves with sincere connections and opts out of empty dishonest ones. He would gain a great deal in the way of quality and c… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/12/25 01:46 PM |
| 10 | Access to sex is a terrible reason to form any serious kind of relationshipThose both suck and one is not really better than the other. Lying is wrong. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/12/25 01:44 PM |
| 6 | Access to sex is a terrible reason to form any serious kind of relationshipMake you happy how exactly? So say you get laid and are now rich, and now you’ve had it all and done it all? Do you like yourself? Does your life have meaning? Aside from hedonistic pleasure, have your pursuits had any meaningful impact? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/12/25 01:43 PM |
| 3 | Access to sex is a terrible reason to form any serious kind of relationshipI feel like historical context is extremely important here. Women used to own nothing and were forced to marry to survive. The statement that a woman doesn’t need a man for her necessities is essentially her way of expressing that she has the power to choose rather than settle just so she has a roof over her head. It doesn’t necessarily mean that a man cannot be a meaningful addition for her as a companion. It’s just her way of expressing that men no longer posses and control her the way women o… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/12/25 01:39 PM |
| 8 | Access to sex is a terrible reason to form any serious kind of relationshipThen let them all be alone. I don’t care. I don’t want shitty relationships to exist that hurt people purely because it’s somehow more exciting than being alone for the toxic individuals pursuing them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/12/25 01:36 PM |
| 10 | Access to sex is a terrible reason to form any serious kind of relationshipAbsolutely projection- it’s easy to convince yourself that everyone is just as conniving is this logic comes so naturally to you- but obviously you’re the main character of the universe so you’re just an innocent lil victim when you do it 🥺🤦🏻♀️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/12/25 01:35 PM |
| 9 | Access to sex is a terrible reason to form any serious kind of relationshipThat’s still an opinion. And don’t forget the context. If no one will consent to you, you shouldn’t have sex at all. Are you arguing FOR sexual assault or…? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/12/25 01:34 PM |
| 4 | Access to sex is a terrible reason to form any serious kind of relationshipIf you’re honest about that sure. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/12/25 01:33 PM |
| 7 | Access to sex is a terrible reason to form any serious kind of relationshipObviously. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/12/25 01:32 PM |
| 9 | Access to sex is a terrible reason to form any serious kind of relationshipSo you agree this is gross and awful and shouldn’t be perpetuated or defended? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/12/25 01:31 PM |
| 5 | Access to sex is a terrible reason to form any serious kind of relationshipA relationship built of looks is the very basics of superficiality. In sickness and in health, and so forth. Did we miss first grade or something- is this not well known that only so much of our appearances is within our control and that our identities and sense of morals are far more meaningful? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/12/25 01:30 PM |
| 7 | Access to sex is a terrible reason to form any serious kind of relationshipNo I didn’t. Find me that quote anywhere. I said there’s a chance you’re being vetted out because you’re being dishonest and we don’t trust the way you come off enough to interact with you. Also crazy hot take- there are degrees of being a bad or harmful person and not all of them justify putting human beings onto an island. Crazy I know! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/12/25 01:27 PM |
| 10 | Access to sex is a terrible reason to form any serious kind of relationshipI’m not. I don’t know you and I didn’t actually look into your degree of honesty and tell you that you can’t pursue what you’re pursuing right? Im expressing my opinion and sense of morals on a debate subreddit, are you lost? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/12/25 01:24 PM |
| 16 | Access to sex is a terrible reason to form any serious kind of relationshipIt’s insane how many people struggle with the simple concept of informed consent, and honest communication. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/12/25 01:23 PM |
| 13 | Access to sex is a terrible reason to form any serious kind of relationshipI don’t value success in the form of devastating others and their well being. What is your end goal to a pattern of callousness and cut throat policies to success of some kind? If others grow wise to your tactics and resent you, leaving you a rolling stone of dishonest patterns, continuously being turned over and left with disgust, does that make you happy? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/12/25 01:20 PM |
| 5 | Access to sex is a terrible reason to form any serious kind of relationship“In hopes” read that again. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/12/25 01:18 PM |
| 7 | Access to sex is a terrible reason to form any serious kind of relationship“Why not though?” Because putting a man on an island alone purely because I’m uninterested in a fling with him makes no sense at all- someone else is probably interested for starters and if not- that’s fine- that doesn’t necessitate isolating him further if he can take no for an answer? Choosing not to fuck someone is in no way even close to forcefully relocating them into some lord of the flies circumstance out of spite. It’s laughable and has no connection to my arguments. Ala- strawman. So no… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/12/25 01:17 PM |
| 9 | Access to sex is a terrible reason to form any serious kind of relationshipIt’s not convenient- it’s basic consent and cause and effect. Getting robbed is not the same as robbing someone- go figure. If she actively lied to men to get what she wanted out of interactions- that would be just as shitty. What’s convenient is you picking a common incident that women are victim of to try and make a very weak comparison to a harmful action many men perpetrate instead of using a literal one for one comparison- almost like you know a one for one comparison would fail to support … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/12/25 01:08 PM |
| 5 | Access to sex is a terrible reason to form any serious kind of relationshipYeah I agree. If they’re honest about it being superficial that’s their own choice. It’s just quite disturbing how many people want a purely aesthetic relationship but insist that that is somehow a loving one and one they are entitled to should any person get involved with them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/12/25 01:07 PM |
| 9 | Access to sex is a terrible reason to form any serious kind of relationshipNo. She’s not pursuing said circumstances. She’s being dehumanized against her sincere wishes and wants. That’s hardly comparable to the blatant intent to deceive someone lmao. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/12/25 01:05 PM |
| 14 | Access to sex is a terrible reason to form any serious kind of relationshipHave you ever undergone any evaluations for a diagnosis of some kind? I think most people should have the basic empathy of not being willing to do awful things to innocent individuals purely for self gratification. I don’t say that to be ableist it’s just something to consider. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/12/25 01:03 PM |
| 15 | Access to sex is a terrible reason to form any serious kind of relationshipI never said you can’t pursue women for sex though I’d argue there are men capable of love in a whole variety of tax brackets and walks of life- I said you’re absurd if you’re dishonest about it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/12/25 01:02 PM |
| 9 | Access to sex is a terrible reason to form any serious kind of relationshipI disagree. Men would say the same thing of a woman who feels entitled to a man who doesn’t want her. Consent is consent. If no one wants you, lying, manipulating and coercing them is detestable and you’re an objectively bad person, gender be damned. Any man offended by that statement should look inward that the basics of consent is so offensive and hurtful to them. Also I never said send them to an island- that is an absurd strawman lmao- let’s not. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/12/25 01:00 PM |
| 5 | Access to sex is a terrible reason to form any serious kind of relationshipYou would think so but this is a pretty common topic of discussion on this subreddit with many arguing contractual relationships built on giving each other that one superficial thing each person wants, are perfectly valid and functional and not harmful at all. Also there are endless posts from men on here boldfaced admitting that being honest about their want for purely casual flings and hookups makes it near impossible to find anyone interested and willing and using it to justify lying to peopl… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/12/25 12:54 PM |
| 1 | Men will only be happy the day that rape becomes legal, and women will only be happy when medicine will be at its peakNone of us are denying that humans have a long history of subjugation, assault, and cruelty to women- were not arguing about history we’re arguing about nature vs nurture, the idea that it’s provably the biological nature of men to assault and abuse women. If such a thing is just the reality of men- there would truly be no point in allowing them any rights at all for the benefit of society. The majority of men would be forced to be castrated for the sheer safety of everyone else. But we know men… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/12/25 07:56 PM |
| 3 | Men will only be happy the day that rape becomes legal, and women will only be happy when medicine will be at its peakYou would need some evidence of this claim and you just don’t have any. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/12/25 09:42 PM |
| 9 | Men will only be happy the day that rape becomes legal, and women will only be happy when medicine will be at its peakIdk about that. I think even genuinely messed up guys who do coercive things don’t like to think of themselves as rapists or be so brazen even if they are. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/12/25 08:34 PM |
| 11 | Men will only be happy the day that rape becomes legal, and women will only be happy when medicine will be at its peakBecause there would be clear anatomical biological evidence of it. In animals were conception is forced, there are typically notable differences in their anatomy- take ducks for example. There’s no evidence with our bodies and biology that reproduction was necessarily non consensual. There’s plenty more evidence that pregnant women were provided ample support to survive their gestation periods and birth. Violent conception is proven to have significant negative impacts to the health of human kin… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/12/25 08:30 PM |
| 8 | Men will only be happy the day that rape becomes legal, and women will only be happy when medicine will be at its peakThat’s a societal choice or issue not a trait of evolution. In order for it to be the way we evolved we would need to have altered our anatomy, instincts, chemistry, that way just to survive. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/12/25 08:11 PM |
| 10 | Men will only be happy the day that rape becomes legal, and women will only be happy when medicine will be at its peakThere is zero evidence that we actually evolved for non consensual impregnating and far more to suggest that we’ve relied of team work villages to survive and support one another. Anthropologists have stated that the first sign a society has been built is when there is evidence that a broken leg was healed because such a thing is impossible to survive from without the support of others. I’d argue similar things are true of gestation. Pregnancy is incredibly difficult on the body and all evidence… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/12/25 07:55 PM |
| 1 | Why demand emotional numbness from men and then complain when we go cold?That’s just not how that works. We want men to regulate and process their feelings in a healthy way. You’re admitting you can’t communicate and are upset with no end goal. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/12/25 05:30 PM |
| 2 | Why demand emotional numbness from men and then complain when we go cold?Okay so if this is you opening up what sort of reaction are you expecting that would make you feel heard? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/12/25 05:05 PM |
| 1 | Why demand emotional numbness from men and then complain when we go cold?Communication is a complicated thing. You can’t just scream all your worst or most complicated feelings into the void and expect everyone to understand them. That would probably be best for a therapist. When talking to people in your personal life you have to be considerate of how what you say affects others if you want them to care about you as well. Also, saying I’m bored and want sex isn’t exactly a deep or relatable thought. It’s like saying I’m hungry or I’m tired. Like yeah, but what else?… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/12/25 04:56 PM |
| 1 | Why demand emotional numbness from men and then complain when we go cold?Sex is a deeply personal want and experience and I am a stranger. Furthermore many women have been SAed and take a while to trust someone about even talking about this subject. And lastly, why are you telling me about this, why is this a feeling you need to share? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/12/25 04:16 PM |
| 3 | Avoidant men will claim they were cheated on when they didn’t even define the relationship.This has 100% happened to me and If not claim they were cheated on, I have had men cry actual tears over the perceived betrayal of me seeing other men when they insisted on no labels no exclusivity lmao. Not everyone who wants someone casual is being dishonest but I do think you should be honest if you want exclusivity and have no right to have a fit when you don’t receive it if you never asked for it in the first place. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/12/25 04:12 PM |
| 5 | Why demand emotional numbness from men and then complain when we go cold?while some people are genuinely just shitty and demanding stoicism from men, a lot of the times the criticism men are receiving for their venting and frustrations online is aimed more and the poor and ineffective ways it's communicated. Most men don't know how to say "I'm lonely, I'm sad, I wish someone were here to spend time with me" or "I want to hold someones hand, I want to take nice pictures with someone, make memories with them" which are all super valid feelings I don't have any difficul… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/12/25 06:27 PM |
| 1 | What would it take to heal the divide that has seemingly arisen between the sexes so that we can all move forward together, against injustice?Better parenting and therapy for future generations, social movements for rebuilding communities with emphasis on educating people on their differences and how to show respect for one another, more science and research into what currently pulls us apart, an increase in in person social activities and even individuals that can help prepare you for social events with good expectations and basic advice- Ala “make sure you smell great and don’t touch strangers without asking when attending etc.” A l… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/12/25 09:19 PM |
| 4 | Men issues are only considered issues, when it starts affecting women.And ableism, racism, the deportation of immigrants and separation of their families, the ongoing struggles of queer and trans people. I do care about men’s issues. No one is saying they don’t matter at all. But there isn’t a lot of actionable solutions I as a woman can make because most of these issues are rooted in personal lifestyle choices. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/11/25 10:44 AM |
| 6 | Women suffer from Romantic Neuroticism and Weaponized Competence.It’s not about that one time- it’s about consistent patterns of selfishness and neglect over and over again. NEVER doing your share of the chores. NEVER buying cheap flowers from the grocery store just to show you care. NEVER initiating quality time together yourself. Reading this is a dead give away that you’re a pretty bad partner. I’d find you a waste of time too. This isn’t weaponize competence or neuroticism, you just expect to be a part of someone’s life without doing the bare minimum. Rel… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/11/25 08:00 AM |
| 1 | The best way to lose your virginity is to drop all your standards entirely and move up the scale from the bottom.You edited your comment.. you know they can read your edit history right? You’ve been reported for racially charged commentary. “Minstrel” is beyond not okay. There’s nothing fragile about not accepting that. You know it’s wrong. That’s why you edited it. If you don’t want people to know you said something you should look at yourself and ask if you’re ashamed of who you are and how you behave. Don’t project that onto me as sensitive. I’m proud to give a shit. You should try it | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/11/25 05:38 AM |
| 1 | The best way to lose your virginity is to drop all your standards entirely and move up the scale from the bottom.I think there’s a lot of people that think they can play sports they’ve never played actually lol. Also yikes, that’s well beyond this subreddits rules. Have a fun possible ban… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/11/25 05:28 AM |
| 1 | The best way to lose your virginity is to drop all your standards entirely and move up the scale from the bottom.You can have sexual confidence without exterior validation. This is an arbitrary goal post for an internal belief. No one can make you like yourself. Also most women I know are not obsessed with men being skilled and knowledgeable in bed- we just want someone open minded and a good listener. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/11/25 05:24 AM |
| 1 | The best way to lose your virginity is to drop all your standards entirely and move up the scale from the bottom.I mean I agree that sex is pretty overrated but I don’t think using people as pieces of meat is the right way to learn that tbh. I think really just common sense and learning about it from honest people have had it is more than enough. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/11/25 05:17 AM |
| 1 | The best way to lose your virginity is to drop all your standards entirely and move up the scale from the bottom.Shows who exactly? And I’m pretty sure virgins know… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/11/25 04:53 AM |
| 0 | The best way to lose your virginity is to drop all your standards entirely and move up the scale from the bottom.Okay so this always confuses me. Why do people think you need to sleep with one person or lose your virginity in order to sleep with others? I’ve never met a person above the age of 12 that actually cares if you’re a virgin or not. I do know a few people that if they read this post, would not sleep with you. But losing your virginity doesn’t make you suddenly more likely to sleep with other people?? It doesn’t make any sense. You can argue that it’s about confidence but only if you base your con… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/11/25 04:44 AM |
| 3 | Why do women dislike the bottom 50% of men?This is just how statistics work, actually. Making a claim that a majority of something acts a certain way, should be probable with surveys and studies, but making a claim that a small group of outliers behaves a certain way is much easier to support with simple one off examples. Maybe you should learn a little about math and science… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/11/25 07:44 PM |
| 15 | Why do women dislike the bottom 50% of men?I mean, is the claim that some women are like this or the majority? Because if the majority then I’d say statistics are needed, but if you’re arguing some women are mean in shallow- I’d just say yeah- people of every group can be mean and shallow. There’s not really a lot to that, some people suck. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/11/25 07:26 AM |
| -2 | People have so much woo woo beliefs when it comes to gender.I'm gunna be honest op, you sound like 80 years old. Like this is a rant my grandmother would have. I think you might be having trouble processing the way things have changed generationally | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/11/25 03:20 PM |
| 4 | If women want men to be honest about their intentions then they should stop having different standards for casual vs a relationship.Sigh, here we go again. “I only get what I want by lying so that makes it okay. 🥺” Boo hoo. I don’t care. Basic morals and ethics when it comes to consent completely overrule your desperation to get laid. Being a decent human being should always come first. Get your priorities straight. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/11/25 01:39 PM |
| 1 | Men should NOT be so forthcoming or honest about their intentions despite how much women claim they shouldyou're completely incorrect. I'm VR enthusiast and digital artist. I occasionally enjoy nature but I'm not a frequent hiker. I crochet, I do not knit. My favorite color is bubblegum pink. My favorite food is palak paneer. My favorite shows are The GoodPlace, Parks and Rec, and The Office I'm 28 years old and I wake up at 6 am. :) You don't know anything about strangers. It's almost like we're individuals. embarrassing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/11/25 11:10 PM |
| 2 | Men should NOT be so forthcoming or honest about their intentions despite how much women claim they shouldOh really? What are my hobbies? What’s my favorite food? What shows do I like to watch? What’s my favorite color? How old am I? What time do I wake up? What time do I go to bed? These are my habits, so go on, show us | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/11/25 10:38 PM |
| 2 | Men should NOT be so forthcoming or honest about their intentions despite how much women claim they shouldIt’s cute you think you know how our minds work better than us. But I don’t think it’s useful to this conversation. If you have any genuine substantial thoughts to add to the discourse please do. Otherwise, I’d consider getting educated on the idea that you are not telepathic and cannot by any means argue you know how a woman thinks more than she herself | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/11/25 10:15 PM |
| 0 | Men should NOT be so forthcoming or honest about their intentions despite how much women claim they shouldas a woman that has been raped, I heartily disagree- don't use real victim's voice as an excuse if you aren't one!-, the only person this disctinction really protects are the ones perpetrating it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/11/25 09:49 PM |
| 2 | Men should NOT be so forthcoming or honest about their intentions despite how much women claim they shouldI don't care for whether that specific terminology exactly applies to the circumstance- lying is ethically and morally wrong and consent requires you to KNOW what you are agreeing to- even in this definition of consent- the problem is the person doesn't know what's going on. Whether lying and promising a relationship is an exact one to one to that issue isn't besides the point and you're very much derailing the discussion to nitpick on what you perceive as an easier argument to win. I see this a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/11/25 07:36 PM |
| 3 | Men should NOT be so forthcoming or honest about their intentions despite how much women claim they shouldThis is what I mean when I say way more men are sexually assaulting women than they often think- some of them are just sugar coating what they're doing in their minds. "I'm not like those guys because X, Y, Z" It's why guys on here insist that false SA accusations are so common, they don't see some of their morally reprehensible actions as predatory and therefore cannot comprehend just how many men are sexual predators. If you are actively lying and manipulating people to sleep with you and you … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/11/25 07:28 PM |
| 2 | Men should NOT be so forthcoming or honest about their intentions despite how much women claim they shouldlets not get petty and pedantic- lying to someone so they'll sleep with you isn't informed consent. It's a violation. Makeup is not comparable to lying about intentions. Not even close. LMAO | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/11/25 07:26 PM |
| 4 | Men should NOT be so forthcoming or honest about their intentions despite how much women claim they shouldabsolutely. Both are wrong :) Someone else being a POS does not give you free pass to do the same to others. You should still try to be a decent human being. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/11/25 06:58 PM |
| 5 | Men should NOT be so forthcoming or honest about their intentions despite how much women claim they shouldyeah because you know the ethics of what you're doing are wrong. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/11/25 06:58 PM |
| 3 | Men should NOT be so forthcoming or honest about their intentions despite how much women claim they shouldHow about picking up on some basic reading? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/11/25 06:57 PM |
| 14 | Men should NOT be so forthcoming or honest about their intentions despite how much women claim they shouldTLDR; this Redditor thinks coercion and manipulation / lying to potential partners is cool and can’t get laid without it and does not care about the ethics of informed consent. Tough shit :) Basic morality is well above your need to get laid. If you can't have sex ethically, you should not have sex at all. Boohoo. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/11/25 06:07 PM |
| 2 | If the U.S. only allowed women to immigrate, most of the usual left/right arguments basically disappear.What happens when the majority of voting adults becomes young women? This guy should not have been allowed to graduate high school | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/11/25 04:06 AM |
| 1 | Q4W: If the first man you had sex with was the perfect man, would you have been fine with only experiencing sex with one person your whole life?Yeah. I don’t relate with people who want novelty and variety in the form of swinging enm etc, not my thing | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/11/25 03:57 AM |
| 0 | "Men are praised for casual sex while women are berated for it" is a truism of the past.Yes but also no. It depends who you ask. N count is still a popular topic on Reddit | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/11/25 03:53 AM |
| – | Q4M: When dating, do you only spend money if there's something in it for you?It would for me. I’d be honored to date a man so loving and considerate to his friends. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/11/25 03:48 AM |
| 3 | Happy International Men's day everyone! How was IMD celebrated in your life?I’m sorry to hear that your fellow men do not care. I’d say keep working to cultivate a friend group that does. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/11/25 10:52 AM |
| 2 | What are the main ways in which men are lacking these days which is causing them to stay perpetually single?Yes | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/11/25 01:07 AM |
| 2 | In the future, women will push the idea that guys who don’t let their girlfriends do onlyfans and fuck other guys are “insecure”.Oh no thank you I really enjoy monogamy from both of us. Loyalty really deepens the connection for me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/11/25 07:32 PM |
| 3 | What are the main ways in which men are lacking these days which is causing them to stay perpetually single?"Men have been told that they get friendzoned if they act like friends" - That's a very confused and one dimensional understanding of the issue. I've never written off a person as solely a friend that I could never see otherwise unless it had been clearly the case for months or years, or for example they told me about other people they were interested in or expressed a lack of interest in me romantically. 'Friendzoning' isn't an action or decision and is often just a reality of a lack of emotion… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/11/25 02:48 AM |
| 8 | What are the main ways in which men are lacking these days which is causing them to stay perpetually single?I think the easiest answer is the golden rule: Do unto others as you would done unto you. Unfortunately whether you are an incel, or simply leaning into more conservative perspectives of masculinity and manhood, or a whole variety of other individualistic things, a lot of men struggle massively with basic empathy and just can't seem to grasp that women are also, you know, human beings and not remotely as forgein or alien to them as they think. So many men can't even picture treating us like they… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/11/25 12:42 AM |
| 2 | Women hooking up with casual flings are NOT desperate for commitment- a lot of the time they know what they’re getting into.It’s because we’re individuals and can’t read strangers minds so we don’t make black and white assumptions about others. You should try it- it’s an exercise in dualistic thinking and could expand your one dimensional understanding of the world. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/11/25 05:25 PM |
| 2 | Women hooking up with casual flings are NOT desperate for commitment- a lot of the time they know what they’re getting into.How do you know that the situation isn’t a mutual circumstance? How are you so sure it’s the woman that wants something more and not the man? And where’s the evidence that these are even commonplace? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/11/25 05:23 PM |
| 3 | For men, it isn't truly about sex."A sad state of affairs that we have collectively conflated what women find sexually desirable with who is worthy of belonging." No notes. Solid. Mic drop. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/11/25 08:26 PM |
| 2 | For men, it isn't truly about sex.You still have the power to limit your social interactions with those people though. No deserves judgmental people in their life for things as harmless as loneliness or awkwardness. Don’t be their friend. A therapist can help you navigate the stresses involved in finding your people | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/11/25 05:55 PM |
| 3 | For men, it isn't truly about sex.Hi loving this discourse you’re both right and I wish you the best on that journey. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/11/25 05:09 PM |
| 6 | The idea that older men dating younger women are losers - is a woman's revenge fantasy.We’re really not though, that’s never been a big allure for me | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/11/25 02:42 PM |
| 1 | Are you afraid of being alone in your twilight years?What evidence do you have about the biological links to any of these claims? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/11/25 04:47 AM |
| 3 | Are you afraid of being alone in your twilight years?If I sleep with a guy casually- it’s because I’m not serious about him | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/11/25 09:21 AM |
| 2 | Are you afraid of being alone in your twilight years?I mean I did specifically write “with no previous experience of being in a long term relationship” and you acknowledged he had a wife previously so that doesn’t really add up Also the problem of securing commitment is pretty simple- delay sex until the relationship is secure or have sex knowing it may not lead anywhere per what you’ve agreed upon at that point. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/11/25 09:08 AM |
| 4 | Are you afraid of being alone in your twilight years?Sounds like an obscure example of a shallow, manipulative person who can easily convince people of his appeal and continued to benefit from it later in life. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/11/25 08:54 AM |
| 1 | Do women realize that many adult men just don't have people they consider friends?Sounds like a personal choice. Which is fine. But what is there to discuss or argue? How does this really connect with the sub? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/11/25 08:33 AM |
| 1 | You're ReplaceableNo you are not. No one is. For better or for worse you are an individual. I could never replace my bf (and soon to be fiancé- planning my proposal) and I also couldn’t replace any of my exes because they were all individuals. I’d still choose him over anyone I’ve been with but they were all distinct people and I’m glad that every one of them was an original person. I never wanted to replace my exes, I wanted to find a love that was right and compatible for me and they were not. No one person has… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/11/25 08:26 AM |
| 1 | Do you guys think most men are ugly/unattractive?No. I think most people are attractive enough that should they also be a kind affectionate romantic, I’d be eager to be intimate with them. I don’t feel impulsive attraction to strangers without some bonding and trust. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/11/25 08:07 AM |
| 1 | Most men are not interested in romance. They just like to have a woman around and have sex with her. Thoughts?I’m not sure I’d say most but some men absolutely, though I don’t know that it’s a static way of being or a phase in their life when they are immature. Not my thing, these guys don’t actually want a relationship and all entails and would be better off not being in one. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/11/25 08:03 AM |
| 4 | Are you afraid of being alone in your twilight years?It is considerably different. I’ve heard from the elderly and disabled what loneliness is like for them and it’s pretty heavy. Their entire family are sometimes passed on and the ones still around are often too young to relate. Their friends all eventually drop like flies. Some of them beginning losing their range of motion of other senses and are abandoned to government aid facilities with strangers. It’s heart wrenching tbh. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/11/25 07:34 AM |
| 1 | Are you afraid of being alone in your twilight years?Sorry that’s a bummer. What do you like to do with your free time? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/11/25 07:32 AM |
| -1 | Are you afraid of being alone in your twilight years?Naw, are you kidding me, Mr. Clean is drowning in ladies? On a real note I’m literally lying next to my bald bf as we speak. It’s not the end dude. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/11/25 07:31 AM |
| 1 | Are you afraid of being alone in your twilight years?Sounds fun! Where is it? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/11/25 07:01 AM |
| 6 | Are you afraid of being alone in your twilight years?I don’t have any difficulty understanding that age comes for us all- it’s just that so many RPers insist they’ll be sleeping around casually until they’re cold in their grave only pulling 9s and so forth- but haven’t worked out the logistics of that. At some point we all become old and face the downsides of that and that’s completely fine but it doesn’t align with the superficial fantasies and expectations of most RPers. When they’re older how will they keep pulling young good looking women. 40s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/11/25 04:22 AM |
| 5 | Are you afraid of being alone in your twilight years?What do you write about? Preferred genre? I write too | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/11/25 04:04 AM |
| 4 | Are you afraid of being alone in your twilight years?I mean I thought you guys didn’t want “run through hoes” and I do think after a certain point say 65 - 70 you will find it a lot harder to keep pursuing young and attractive people if that is your end goal. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/11/25 04:03 AM |
| 1 | Are you afraid of being alone in your twilight years?just because you aren't at risk of it happening doesn't mean it isn't a thing you'd want to happen- I don't mean to ask if you're afraid it WILL happen so much as the idea of it | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/11/25 02:24 AM |
| 2 | Are you afraid of being alone in your twilight years?Well that is sad to hear. Do you have any hobbies or fun activities to keep you going? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/11/25 01:36 AM |
| 4 | Are you afraid of being alone in your twilight years?If they can afford it and are clever enough to not get scammed. I don’t know how realistic this will be for everyone. I believe that plenty of men will be old, tired, with little to no prospects. Here in America most people are living paycheck to paycheck- the odds that their financial status will be really that much better when their bodies give out... aren't good | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/11/25 01:35 AM |
| 3 | Women not being able to get and stay in good-quality relationships is embarrassinglol it’s definitely a porn category my dude. FWB, step siblings, any relationship you can think of really. But that’s besides the point. The language is crude and insensitive and has no romantic meaning to it. Men that expect romance should be capable of expressing romantic intentions themselves. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/11/25 05:40 AM |
| 1 | Women not being able to get and stay in good-quality relationships is embarrassingFailure implies fault. Sometimes things just don’t work out and it’s no one’s fault. There’s nothing to be ashamed of in that. Relationships require two willing parties interested in the same path and ready to make it work and sometimes things just don’t line up. Not everyone even wants a relationship after all. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/11/25 05:32 AM |
| 5 | Women not being able to get and stay in good-quality relationships is embarrassingthat doesn't really negate the irony of someone whining that women are unromantic for being cautious and hesitant to engage in a relationship and would like to weigh the pros and cons, while describing the entirety of their own expectations of a relationship as essentially a fuck buddy. Context matters- shocker I know. Let's not pretend that that comment was deeper than it was. If a person expects deeply romantic meaning in relationships, at the very least they should have bigger romantic ideas … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/11/25 11:23 PM |
| 1 | Women not being able to get and stay in good-quality relationships is embarrassingthat was my comment that it is not failure. That means you are arguing lol..... | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/11/25 11:21 PM |
| 5 | Women not being able to get and stay in good-quality relationships is embarrassingliterally never have?? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/11/25 06:38 PM |
| 7 | Women not being able to get and stay in good-quality relationships is embarrassingRight because FWB and fuck buddies are just as deep and meaningful life long connections as a wife or partner right? I’m just saying that thinking realistically about if a relationship fits well in your life and is a benefit to you both isn’t unromantic- arguably it’s a kindness not to waste someone’s time. If anyone is being callous and unromantic- it’s the way men talk about love in these replies. Reading you describe it this way makes me doubt many people are even capable of loving because yo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/11/25 05:22 PM |
| 3 | What women don’t understand about male nature: you likely AREN’T your boyfriend’s typeI don’t agree with the medium ugly jokes but I will say that What they’re describing is unconventionally attractive people, people that are very appealing to them but don’t fit the typical beauty standard. It’s poor phrasing but it isn’t supposed legit mean they find these men unappealing. It’s a fucking tik tok lmao. Not remotely a reflection of the average woman’s opinion or beliefs. Log off. Touch grass. And all that. It has absolutely nowhere near the level of vitriol men will share about th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/11/25 05:20 PM |
| 5 | Women not being able to get and stay in good-quality relationships is embarrassing“Get to fuck” is that all a relationship is to you? Access to a body? Yeah I think you need to work on your maturity, most people aren’t interested in a relationship with someone who sees the complexities of love as something this objectifying and shallow. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/11/25 05:11 PM |
| 9 | Women not being able to get and stay in good-quality relationships is embarrassingThat feels unromantic and “best friend I get to fuck” doesn’t to you? Do you hear yourself? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/11/25 05:07 PM |
| 3 | This sub is an objectively bad example of what average men are like in real life because there’s over-representation of autistic/socially incompetent men hereI grew up the ugly duckling and then got hot for a brief while in my early twenties just to go back to being mid in my late twenties. I still don’t harbor any of this brain rot. It’s also not a valid excuse. Grow up and stop weaponizing sympathy as an excuse to be a bad person. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/11/25 05:05 PM |
| 2 | Women not being able to get and stay in good-quality relationships is embarrassingI’ve never met you and you’re in a relationship and so am I, so this hypothetical that I would not be interested….kind of nullifies the point doesn’t it? And no I won’t just admit anything because it just isn’t true lol. Considering you’re on this sub and insisting a stranger just admit to being bitter and shallow and cold and calculating… you most likely do not pass all the things I just listed. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/11/25 05:01 PM |
| 5 | Women not being able to get and stay in good-quality relationships is embarrassingSo what? That’s their personal life and personal journey and no one’s business. Why do you care? Let them be single until they find what they’re looking for. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/11/25 04:55 PM |
| 49 | Women not being able to get and stay in good-quality relationships is embarrassingMore like there’s a ton of okay men. But they’re not all politically aligned They don’t all want the same future. They don’t all find me attractive. They aren’t all intellectually stimulating and interesting to talk to. They aren’t all willing to commit They aren’t all straight They aren’t all sexually compatible They aren’t all in my area They aren’t all an appropriate age for me to date They aren’t all in the right head space for a relationship. And of course there’s also a lot of guys who see… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/11/25 05:58 AM |
| 60 | Women not being able to get and stay in good-quality relationships is embarrassingBeing single / alone isn’t some kind of failure for anyone of any gender. There are a million completely good reasons not to be in a relationship. There’s nothing shameful about it. Edit: also I’ll do you one better, being in a relationship with an absolute bum of a man that wastes your time and disrespects you in front of your loved ones is one thousand times more embarrassing and even then I’d sympathize because people can get stuck in awful relationships for years due to circumstance. But kno… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/11/25 05:44 AM |
| 5 | What women don’t understand about male nature: you likely AREN’T your boyfriend’s typeDid you even read the post? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/11/25 01:46 AM |
| 10 | What women don’t understand about male nature: you likely AREN’T your boyfriend’s typeAlso like lost of women love their porn and spice and smut and sexual content but I have YET TO MEET ONE who complains that their partner is not visually similar to the characters in the books. I've certainly seen tiktoks venting that their partners don't put in as much effort in the relationship as their book husbandos but I've NEVER MET a person who has complained that their husband or bf does not look like their celebrity crush or book crush down to an exact type like this post- the fact that… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/11/25 12:39 AM |
| 12 | What women don’t understand about male nature: you likely AREN’T your boyfriend’s typeLoving it. you're so right- I'm so tired of this reddit's overwhelming population of porn sick limp dick sufferers. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/11/25 12:15 AM |
| 37 | What women don’t understand about male nature: you likely AREN’T your boyfriend’s typeThis is just absurd negging. Types and fantasies about niche aesthetic and modlesque women and porn stars to the point of being disapointed in your real life partner who loves and supports you is profoundly childish and empty-headed. Why should I give a fuck if I don't fit into your favorite gooner porn category- and why do you give af? This is so chronically online it's not even funny. Like if a guy told me this I'd just leave? What do you want to prove with this post? That these men are dense … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/11/25 09:22 PM |
| 24 | What women don’t understand about male nature: you likely AREN’T your boyfriend’s typevibes honestly. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/11/25 09:18 PM |
| 1 | Manners and boundaries are often one of the biggest faults of men when pursuing womenNever when they forced themselves on me and assumed I wanted them without establishing my consent and reading the room. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/11/25 06:04 AM |
| 1 | Manners and boundaries are often one of the biggest faults of men when pursuing womenNope, can’t be vague. Drop a quote. Stop dodging saying what you mean and just say it. What are you so afraid of? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/11/25 06:02 AM |
| 2 | Manners and boundaries are often one of the biggest faults of men when pursuing womenI very much initiated a lot of the interaction with my bf. Including the sex. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/11/25 05:37 AM |
| 1 | Manners and boundaries are often one of the biggest faults of men when pursuing womenNo. In order to engage in debate, you can’t be willfully vague and use phrases like “you know” you have to take a clear definitive stance. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/11/25 05:26 AM |
| 1 | Manners and boundaries are often one of the biggest faults of men when pursuing women“Learning how to have a relationship comes after that” I think a lot of people would prefer the opposite order or operations | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/11/25 05:24 AM |
| 1 | This sub is an objectively bad example of what average men are like in real life because there’s over-representation of autistic/socially incompetent men hereUsually that involves modeling positive relationships, not telling your kids who they should date… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/11/25 04:43 AM |
| 9 | This sub is an objectively bad example of what average men are like in real life because there’s over-representation of autistic/socially incompetent men hereAt least you’re honest and self aware about it now I guess. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/11/25 04:41 AM |
| 8 | This sub is an objectively bad example of what average men are like in real life because there’s over-representation of autistic/socially incompetent men hereEmphasis on dorky guy and cute girlfriend- I think there’s an expectation that they’ll be like a movie protag and always score a dream girl, a manic pixie dream girl, etc. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/11/25 04:40 AM |
| 1 | This sub is an objectively bad example of what average men are like in real life because there’s over-representation of autistic/socially incompetent men hereYeah Reddit definitely has the same vibe as going to the table top gaming room at a comic or anime convention- if you’ve done it… you know it smells it there. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/11/25 04:39 AM |
| 7 | This sub is an objectively bad example of what average men are like in real life because there’s over-representation of autistic/socially incompetent men hereExactly. And they take it to such a delusional extreme. “She only wants 6 foot chad that’s all women, we’re all going to die alone” like no, it’s really not that fucking black and white. Lookism and aesthetics are an issue but it’s more of an issue with the beauty industry and entertainment industry than anything else. Normal people exist. It’s insane how hard that is for them to grasp. Or talking like women not being these Angellic madonnas is a cataclysmic realization and they’ll never recover… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/11/25 04:37 AM |
| 5 | Manners and boundaries are often one of the biggest faults of men when pursuing womenI promise you they were not doing it out of any particular interest in me lmao. Because if I really wanted someone to not lose interest in me I’d definitely not be such an a hole to them out the bat | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/11/25 03:40 AM |
| 3 | Manners and boundaries are often one of the biggest faults of men when pursuing women“My chat GPT mommy thinks it’s hot” | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/11/25 03:38 AM |
| 3 | Manners and boundaries are often one of the biggest faults of men when pursuing womenNaw she goes to another school | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/11/25 03:38 AM |
| 1 | Manners and boundaries are often one of the biggest faults of men when pursuing womenWe can and have statistically supported the issue of abuse in relationships and historical dehumanization of women. Knowledge is power. Ignorance prevents you from actually substantiating your beliefs. If you can only support them through vibes and a lack of evidence and it falls apart when you look into any scientific data or documentation- that should be a huge wake up call | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/11/25 03:37 AM |
| 1 | Manners and boundaries are often one of the biggest faults of men when pursuing womenDid you read the post? I’ve been a relationship for 3 years | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/11/25 03:26 AM |
| 1 | Manners and boundaries are often one of the biggest faults of men when pursuing womenRight because all misogynists with partners are total hotties. Like Donald trump and Elon musk are absolute chads /s | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/11/25 03:25 AM |
| 0 | Manners and boundaries are often one of the biggest faults of men when pursuing womenNo. ‘Logic’ is not enough. My partner met me online and was simply a kind and decent person. And plenty of others have had the same story. I can find endless stories of real people that met each other online not by being crass edgy horn dogs. If you want claim that it won’t pay off to be decent and learn basic social etiquette etc you have to support that | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/11/25 03:20 AM |
| 1 | Manners and boundaries are often one of the biggest faults of men when pursuing womenCan you provide evidence that supports this is true for the majority | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/11/25 03:18 AM |
| 1 | Manners and boundaries are often one of the biggest faults of men when pursuing womenI brought it up because I explicitly don’t want that and it being the default way of flirting to be gross and crass and rude is why a lot of guys are getting unmatched or not matched with in the first place if they have it in their bio | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/11/25 03:17 AM |
| 5 | Manners and boundaries are often one of the biggest faults of men when pursuing womenGot any sources that they genuinely like jerks as opposed to people that engage in playful banter or teasing? There is a huge difference | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/11/25 03:15 AM |
| 5 | Manners and boundaries are often one of the biggest faults of men when pursuing womenBelieving chads are a real thing is an even bigger one | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/11/25 03:14 AM |
| 3 | Manners and boundaries are often one of the biggest faults of men when pursuing womenDo they? Do we have evidence that even say 20% of women do that let alone the majority? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/11/25 03:13 AM |
| 2 | Manners and boundaries are often one of the biggest faults of men when pursuing womenI don’t think they’re saying otherwise, they’re calling those individuals deeply immature and not fully actualized mentally and emotionally which I don’t disagree with | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/11/25 01:09 AM |
| 1 | Manners and boundaries are often one of the biggest faults of men when pursuing womenI don’t think anyone cares about your diagnosis or experiences on this thread no offense | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/11/25 01:07 AM |
| 0 | Manners and boundaries are often one of the biggest faults of men when pursuing womenWhat makes you so certain that is what would happen? Source? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/11/25 01:04 AM |
| 1 | Manners and boundaries are often one of the biggest faults of men when pursuing women“The factors that led to women matching with these men” elaborate on that. And yes, being rude is also a choice. Be a decent person and you might blow it less of the time. Is this hard to understand or…? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/11/25 12:32 AM |
| 0 | Manners and boundaries are often one of the biggest faults of men when pursuing womenSome women want something casual. He didn’t force them to do it against their boundaries. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/11/25 12:30 AM |
| 7 | Manners and boundaries are often one of the biggest faults of men when pursuing womenWhat I’m describing isn’t clinginess though, it’s straight up rude. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/11/25 11:44 PM |
| 0 | Manners and boundaries are often one of the biggest faults of men when pursuing womenIdk if this is just like incredibly difficult for men on here to understand or what but most people I know like to get to know someone before agreeing to something sexual just to make sure that person isn’t super crazy, weird, dangerous, or carrying STIs or has bad intentions. Does that make sense? Or are you still needing clarification? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/11/25 11:43 PM |
| -1 | Manners and boundaries are often one of the biggest faults of men when pursuing womenThe fact that you think an entire person’s moral hingeing on how much sex he gets is normal, is appalling. As if no one can ever be decent for decencies sake? You truly care more about sex than being a good person? Why are you here? I mean it why are you here, having this conversation, engaging in society at all if your entire sense of self is built by your sexual success? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/11/25 11:33 PM |
| 2 | Manners and boundaries are often one of the biggest faults of men when pursuing womenThere’s a huge difference between expressing interest and pushing against established boundaries. And my partner managed to score me without doing any of the shit I described in the above post | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/11/25 11:31 PM |
| 5 | Manners and boundaries are often one of the biggest faults of men when pursuing womenHonestly you’re right thanks for the tip. I do find letting them down gently but completely honestly and then just dipping hits harder than lashing out back and leaving them with the impression that you’re just a hater so to speak. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/11/25 11:21 PM |
| 1 | Manners and boundaries are often one of the biggest faults of men when pursuing womenOkay so let me get this straight, they’re only douchey to women they think are mid because we aren’t “worth his time” but then why spend it on us? And also he’s only that way because he can pull that on women who are mid and yet others are in the comments very much affirming that we don’t care for this and we don’t find it attractive and they’re blowing it on us acting like this so which isn’t? And if we’re the outliers who is it working on and why do it if it isn’t worth his time? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/11/25 11:19 PM |
| 3 | Manners and boundaries are often one of the biggest faults of men when pursuing womenI don’t think you really understand what boundaries are. Approaching isn’t crossing boundaries. Crossing boundaries is when someone explicitly tells you what their comfort zone is and you disrespect that. If someone looked right at you and said “oh no thank you, you’re so unattractive to me” and you kept pressuring and pushing and taunting and insisting she’s lying, that’d be crossing boundaries. If she said I don’t do casual and you insisted on casual that’s crossing a boundary. These people cl… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/11/25 11:14 PM |
| 5 | Manners and boundaries are often one of the biggest faults of men when pursuing womenA few times when I’ve had really spectacularly rude and awful interactions I’ve chewed them out prior to blocking them. Just a short list of reasons why they fucked up and should be embarrassed and a block to let them sit with my final thoughts in silence. If they were truly an asshole and I felt they needed to dwell on their behavior. Most of the time I’d just ghost or block. Interestingly they’ve never asked me where they fucked up if I ghosted. Which is funny because they could have learned s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/11/25 11:12 PM |
| -2 | Manners and boundaries are often one of the biggest faults of men when pursuing womenI don’t think I’d care if I didn’t get a date by acting as a gentleman, I’d still rather be decent and single than not. Arguing that getting laid comes before basic manners and decorum isn’t a take I’d be proud of. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/11/25 11:10 PM |
| 2 | Manners and boundaries are often one of the biggest faults of men when pursuing womenWow that’s a long novel. I’m saying your describing consensual circumstances where the individuals expressed consent and interest and pursued you back where as the post is about men who harass everyone woman they meet without gauging how they want to be talked to or treated first. But you’re describing people you asked consent to interact this type of way with which isn’t relevant. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/11/25 11:05 PM |
| 2 | Manners and boundaries are often one of the biggest faults of men when pursuing womenYou’re conflicting your own arguments. A second ago the whole point was that a douchey guy can still score a decent partner and will only improve for someone willing to tolerate their immaturity but now you’re arguing against yourself | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/11/25 11:02 PM |
| 1 | Manners and boundaries are often one of the biggest faults of men when pursuing womenThat is a very extreme stance to take. Can you provide evidence that every man who has ever had sex or a relationship is a bad person and that most decent men have died a virgin? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/11/25 11:01 PM |
| 4 | Manners and boundaries are often one of the biggest faults of men when pursuing womenBy that criteria there are very few men, at least online. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/11/25 10:58 PM |
| 0 | Manners and boundaries are often one of the biggest faults of men when pursuing womenYou make it sound Herculean to be a decent person | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/11/25 10:57 PM |
| 2 | Manners and boundaries are often one of the biggest faults of men when pursuing womenSource? What incentive? Explain it. And if the argument is that the ego boost of scoring an interested partner than makes these guys want to aim higher than your initial argument that these guys are worth pursuing because they’ll improve falls apart. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/11/25 10:56 PM |
| 5 | Manners and boundaries are often one of the biggest faults of men when pursuing womenDid he read the room and pursue people who were also causal and looking for something short term and hang around a casual scene, or did he pull this is every circumstance imaginable and always succeed? This is a time and place type of discussion about manners, reading the room, and establishing comfort zones and boundaries instead of just being gross and douchey to every woman you meet | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/11/25 10:55 PM |
| 2 | Manners and boundaries are often one of the biggest faults of men when pursuing womenYou’re describing consensual interactions where the women suggested they wanted these circumstances and you asked them first in pretty much all of these situations. That is not the point of the post. It’s about understanding people’s comfort levels and not forcing things when the person has made it clear they don’t like that. You’re also being extremely vague about how some of these became sexual conversations. I never said women don’t like a casual situations or sex early on. My post is about r… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/11/25 10:53 PM |
| 3 | Manners and boundaries are often one of the biggest faults of men when pursuing womenIf women like him as is why change? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/11/25 10:49 PM |
| 5 | Manners and boundaries are often one of the biggest faults of men when pursuing womenWhy would anyone gamble on someone changing like that when other people are already decent? Also I’ve met this kind of douchey person and seen how life plays out when they commit. They change a little but not a lot. They’re still loud and like to shout at the TV during football season, think motorcycles are cool, love getting black out drunk on cheap beer. This is hyperbole and just examples but what I’m saying is they didn’t really change. Most people can only change on their own merit after al… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/11/25 10:31 PM |
| 2 | Manners and boundaries are often one of the biggest faults of men when pursuing womenAnd yet it didn’t work on me remotely and a good chunk of those guys were just average joes in gym shorts with beat up cars and minimum wage jobs (you know, like me tbh 🤷🏻♀️) I don’t think I’ve ever seen a 6 figure, 6 foot, whatever the Chad is supposed to be irl, and I avoided them on the apps because honestly we had nothing in common. Plus they had no hobbies and were all about the grind, superficial and douchey. All surface level and trying so hard to look cool with no personality. Even then… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/11/25 10:25 PM |
| 4 | Manners and boundaries are often one of the biggest faults of men when pursuing womenOr perhaps they don’t want to learn any other way because they cling to what they prefer to do whether anyone likes it or not. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/11/25 10:24 PM |
| 3 | Manners and boundaries are often one of the biggest faults of men when pursuing womenCan you tell me about one these encounters and how it played out? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/11/25 10:18 PM |
| 1 | Who really are the worst men?Robbing a convenience store makes you automatically NOT a loser? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/11/25 09:49 PM |
| 4 | Women are obligated to “fix” male loneliness by dating/sleeping with lonely men.If social bonds always outweighs attraction and comparability then just do your mom. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/11/25 05:36 PM |
| 0 | Men need to stop drinking the kool aidThank you this is so succinct and exactly what I was thinking like “what romantic fantasies” most men in the manosphere are very much interested in fuck boy fantasies about domination and having side girls | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/11/25 04:52 AM |
| 1 | Women are much more naive than menJust because you’re simple doesn’t me we are. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/10/25 02:02 AM |
| – | The big issue that we've in current dating market is that many women just don't wanna date and it's not because "men bad"What makes you so sure of any of these claims? Got a source for even one of them? Also you’re gravely underestimating the psychological toll a toxic or imbalanced relationship has on a person. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/10/25 03:59 PM |
| 3 | Most Low Status men (ugly, autistic, short,etc..) rejected by society and by women become alcoholics (some hide it well, others not so muhc) and create problems for everyone else involved. And it seems that no one wants to adress this issue. It's society's fault this is a systematic issue, CMVOkay sure what would help do you think? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/10/25 07:14 AM |
| – | Women want relationships far more than men doCan’t say this is true for every man but it was definitely true for my exes. Eager to rush into a relationship because it meant so little for them and they expected me to carry it on my back while they got laid. The worst. Would not recommend it to anyone | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/10/25 06:27 AM |
| – | Can the Perceived Ruthlessness of Modern Dating Be Explained as the Malaise of a Dying Civilization No Longer Sustained by a Set of Moral Principles?Your wording is really clunky and unnecessary yeah. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/10/25 06:25 AM |
| – | Can the Perceived Ruthlessness of Modern Dating Be Explained as the Malaise of a Dying Civilization No Longer Sustained by a Set of Moral Principles?This feels like it was written by AI and is waaaaay too pseudo-intelectual. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/10/25 06:04 AM |
| 3 | Men should be douchebags to find loveThis is so random lol. What does that have to do with weekends? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/10/25 06:01 AM |
| 1 | Men should be douchebags to find loveJokes on you, a lot of people don’t need any help being mean, spiteful, misogynistic or awful. Also you’re right, attraction can’t be negotiated but it can evolve naturally with closeness and security and it can absolutely be tarnished by a horrid personality and misanthropic moral compass. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/10/25 05:58 AM |
| 2 | 90% of all women want to be dominated. Period.“The app said it so it’s true, and the only way to prove otherwise is log into the app” 😩😂 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/10/25 06:39 AM |
| 1 | 90% of all women want to be dominated. Period.Research shows most women aren’t even on the apps. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/10/25 06:36 AM |
| 2 | Most women are too timid to find the right guy they'd actually love and respectI think social anxiety and poor communication are a common problem, gender be damned. The language used to describe young women as “primitive” comes off as misogynistic and and demeaning and is a harmful generalization. In general I’d recommend sticking to the “if they wanted to they would mindset” and entirely disregarding reading into hints and passive signaling. It can be fun and exciting to overanalyze every little interaction and exchange with someone you’re attracted to, to pick up on clue… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/10/25 10:55 PM |
| 1 | "Choosing better" arguments should also apply to men who get falsely accused, get cheated on, get rejected, if we're going to apply to female victims of violence and SABoth. You can find them on this sub. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/10/25 07:39 PM |
| 0 | "Choosing better" arguments should also apply to men who get falsely accused, get cheated on, get rejected, if we're going to apply to female victims of violence and SAStop with the straw men. I never said that. If living a quiet life away from women is your choice, that is your life- I have zero opinions about it. It’s absolutely a valid choice. I don’t think there’s necessarily anything wrong with opting to have an AI girlfriend, or a sex doll, or enjoy romance through fiction, whatever- these are all completely harmless and personal choices like a tattoo or a piercing- it is your life and it hurts no one else to choose it (aside from AI having issues with h… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/10/25 07:36 PM |
| 0 | "Choosing better" arguments should also apply to men who get falsely accused, get cheated on, get rejected, if we're going to apply to female victims of violence and SAHow so? You can’t ask people out? You can’t pursue people? You can’t reject people? What choices does she have that you don’t? This is about choosing not receiving. What if you’re choosing the wrong girls and that’s why they aren’t interested? What choices do you not have? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/10/25 07:17 PM |
| 1 | "Choosing better" arguments should also apply to men who get falsely accused, get cheated on, get rejected, if we're going to apply to female victims of violence and SASexual assault can be a stranger or even a trusted family member. So? You agree choose better is a shitty argument as it isn’t often a choice for either right? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/10/25 07:16 PM |
| 1 | "Choosing better" arguments should also apply to men who get falsely accused, get cheated on, get rejected, if we're going to apply to female victims of violence and SAYou’re just wrong. I’ve been SAed and abused and I’ve heard it many times over. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/10/25 07:15 PM |
| 1 | "Choosing better" arguments should also apply to men who get falsely accused, get cheated on, get rejected, if we're going to apply to female victims of violence and SAStill a choice. Also how do you know you’re not pursuing the wrong people | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/10/25 07:13 PM |
| 1 | "Choosing better" arguments should also apply to men who get falsely accused, get cheated on, get rejected, if we're going to apply to female victims of violence and SAAh yes the gen Z folks who are infamously mature and a realistic depiction of long term love and not at all hormone filled, young and immature. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/10/25 07:10 PM |
| 1 | "Choosing better" arguments should also apply to men who get falsely accused, get cheated on, get rejected, if we're going to apply to female victims of violence and SACute. Source? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/10/25 07:09 PM |
| 1 | "Choosing better" arguments should also apply to men who get falsely accused, get cheated on, get rejected, if we're going to apply to female victims of violence and SAActually women are as much as 3 to 4 x as likely to attempt but men are more likely to use a firearm, ensuring the attempt is fatal- as guns are often considered a masculine possession. I’m serious, look it up. And I’m pretty sure I’ve been single before lmao | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/10/25 07:08 PM |
| -1 | "Choosing better" arguments should also apply to men who get falsely accused, get cheated on, get rejected, if we're going to apply to female victims of violence and SAYou really didn’t read anything I wrote did you? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/10/25 07:05 PM |
| 1 | "Choosing better" arguments should also apply to men who get falsely accused, get cheated on, get rejected, if we're going to apply to female victims of violence and SAChoosing to be alone or in a relationship is still a choice. Choosing to only go on the apps or only approach irl is a choice. Choosing not to pursue anyone at all and self isolate is a choice. Those are all choices and women have them too. There is no choice I have that you don’t romantically. Everyone’s ability to find a partner relies on them wanting to be in a relationship and someone else wanting it too. I don’t have more choices than you. Someone else just chose me back. But choosing to pu… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/10/25 07:04 PM |
| 2 | "Choosing better" arguments should also apply to men who get falsely accused, get cheated on, get rejected, if we're going to apply to female victims of violence and SAIf it is a truly society wide phenomenon we could prove it like physics. We need the stars and moons were farther than they looked before we left the atmosphere. If it exists, it should be provable | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/25 10:35 PM |
| 3 | "Choosing better" arguments should also apply to men who get falsely accused, get cheated on, get rejected, if we're going to apply to female victims of violence and SANeither because who the fuck is going to commit to someone after one night?!? You watch too many movies | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/25 10:26 PM |
| 7 | "Choosing better" arguments should also apply to men who get falsely accused, get cheated on, get rejected, if we're going to apply to female victims of violence and SAExactlllyyy. Men will say things like “all men cheat it’s in their nature” and no one will say shit against them but when a woman repeats it suddenly it’s “NOT ALL MEN!!” | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/25 10:25 PM |
| 1 | "Choosing better" arguments should also apply to men who get falsely accused, get cheated on, get rejected, if we're going to apply to female victims of violence and SASure explain it to me with concrete math then. What exactly makes the odds unfair in men’s favor. Sources too please | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/25 10:23 PM |
| 4 | "Choosing better" arguments should also apply to men who get falsely accused, get cheated on, get rejected, if we're going to apply to female victims of violence and SABut it’s not though. It won’t actually kill you. Why do you want to have children so badly? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/25 09:58 PM |
| 6 | "Choosing better" arguments should also apply to men who get falsely accused, get cheated on, get rejected, if we're going to apply to female victims of violence and SAI’m just following the math. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/25 09:44 PM |
| 4 | "Choosing better" arguments should also apply to men who get falsely accused, get cheated on, get rejected, if we're going to apply to female victims of violence and SAHow did you proposition one person without it being a choice? Did someone force you? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/25 09:10 PM |
| 7 | "Choosing better" arguments should also apply to men who get falsely accused, get cheated on, get rejected, if we're going to apply to female victims of violence and SAConsent takes two people yes? That’s still fifty fifty. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/25 09:08 PM |
| 6 | "Choosing better" arguments should also apply to men who get falsely accused, get cheated on, get rejected, if we're going to apply to female victims of violence and SAChoosing is not the same as receiving. You still have a choice. You can still choose who you want. It’s only when two people consensually choose each other that a relationship happens. If you choose someone and they don’t want you, the relationship can’t happen. If they choose you and you don’t choose them, the relationship can’t happen. Right? Makes sense so far? So women can choose someone, men can choose someone, they both get a say and only when they both choose each other does the relations… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/25 09:07 PM |
| 4 | "Choosing better" arguments should also apply to men who get falsely accused, get cheated on, get rejected, if we're going to apply to female victims of violence and SAThis is unfortunately a real problem. Abused children are often groomed to tolerate abuse well into adulthood and even believe it’s all they are deserving of. However, the double standards of women being accused of making bad choices in comparison to men’s is what I’m talking about today. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/25 08:59 PM |
| 9 | "Choosing better" arguments should also apply to men who get falsely accused, get cheated on, get rejected, if we're going to apply to female victims of violence and SAThe population is about 50/50. Seems like there’s just as many women as men yeah? You can ask out any consenting adult you want yeah? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/25 08:56 PM |
| 11 | "Choosing better" arguments should also apply to men who get falsely accused, get cheated on, get rejected, if we're going to apply to female victims of violence and SAI had my tubes removed on purpose and I’m not dead. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/25 08:52 PM |
| 13 | "Choosing better" arguments should also apply to men who get falsely accused, get cheated on, get rejected, if we're going to apply to female victims of violence and SAInceldom is not death. You’re still here aren’t you? And the choice is not inceldom or not- it’s individual women. If you truly had no choice but to pursue every woman you met because it was that dire you would have propositioned a good chunk of the other commenters here. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/25 08:51 PM |
| 3 | "Choosing better" arguments should also apply to men who get falsely accused, get cheated on, get rejected, if we're going to apply to female victims of violence and SAStill not evidence or a source. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/25 08:47 PM |
| 15 | "Choosing better" arguments should also apply to men who get falsely accused, get cheated on, get rejected, if we're going to apply to female victims of violence and SAShooting your shot is a choice. A girl can also shoot her shot and get rejected. It takes two to tango. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/25 08:46 PM |
| 7 | "Choosing better" arguments should also apply to men who get falsely accused, get cheated on, get rejected, if we're going to apply to female victims of violence and SAFull sentences please for coherencies sake. You chose all the people you propositioned, those were all choices, and you definitely could have chosen the wrong ones. There’s billions of people out there, and many aren’t on the apps. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/25 08:44 PM |
| 9 | "Choosing better" arguments should also apply to men who get falsely accused, get cheated on, get rejected, if we're going to apply to female victims of violence and SASo you’ve never tried any of the things I’ve listed? That’s a choice actually. Doing nothing is also a choice. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/25 08:42 PM |
| 3 | "Choosing better" arguments should also apply to men who get falsely accused, get cheated on, get rejected, if we're going to apply to female victims of violence and SAActually you didn’t substantiate your claim. I don’t really care what you think you deserve. Jeeze so personal, you guys really get in your feelings about having to support your ideas with evidence huh? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/25 08:41 PM |
| 15 | "Choosing better" arguments should also apply to men who get falsely accused, get cheated on, get rejected, if we're going to apply to female victims of violence and SAAsking someone out is choosing. Swiping right is choosing. Messaging first is choosing. Ignoring or approaching is choosing. Consent is choosing. Are you pretending to be a head empty NPC or have you never pursued anyone in your life and if the second, how would you expect anything to come from that, exactly? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/25 08:40 PM |
| 5 | "Choosing better" arguments should also apply to men who get falsely accused, get cheated on, get rejected, if we're going to apply to female victims of violence and SANot how sources work | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/25 08:38 PM |
| 6 | "Choosing better" arguments should also apply to men who get falsely accused, get cheated on, get rejected, if we're going to apply to female victims of violence and SASo you have made the choice to pursue who you’ve pursued. A look at that- a choice | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/25 08:38 PM |
| 7 | "Choosing better" arguments should also apply to men who get falsely accused, get cheated on, get rejected, if we're going to apply to female victims of violence and SADon’t you also choose who you offer yourself too? Also I asked my bf to be my bf. So no one’s asked you, don’t mean it doesn’t happen. Again, you’re probably choosing the wrong people then. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/25 08:37 PM |
| 3 | "Choosing better" arguments should also apply to men who get falsely accused, get cheated on, get rejected, if we're going to apply to female victims of violence and SAJust seems like you should know the difference between two unique fields of study when arguing their actual efficacy yeah. Glad I can’t be of use to you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/25 08:35 PM |
| 2 | "Choosing better" arguments should also apply to men who get falsely accused, get cheated on, get rejected, if we're going to apply to female victims of violence and SAThat sounds awful I’m sorry to hear that | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/25 08:34 PM |
| 8 | "Choosing better" arguments should also apply to men who get falsely accused, get cheated on, get rejected, if we're going to apply to female victims of violence and SAHow do people get in a relationship though? Do they both agree or not? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/25 08:33 PM |
| – | "Choosing better" arguments should also apply to men who get falsely accused, get cheated on, get rejected, if we're going to apply to female victims of violence and SANo. Are you? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/25 08:32 PM |
| 3 | "Choosing better" arguments should also apply to men who get falsely accused, get cheated on, get rejected, if we're going to apply to female victims of violence and SAYou’ve never approached anyone or swiped on anyone before? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/25 08:31 PM |
| 3 | "Choosing better" arguments should also apply to men who get falsely accused, get cheated on, get rejected, if we're going to apply to female victims of violence and SAPsychiatrists and Therapists aren’t even the same healthcare providers. Those are two different career paths. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/25 08:29 PM |
| 1 | "Choosing better" arguments should also apply to men who get falsely accused, get cheated on, get rejected, if we're going to apply to female victims of violence and SAWe’re not a hivemind. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/25 08:26 PM |
| 5 | "Choosing better" arguments should also apply to men who get falsely accused, get cheated on, get rejected, if we're going to apply to female victims of violence and SAHe consents or dissents too right? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/25 08:25 PM |
| 1 | "Choosing better" arguments should also apply to men who get falsely accused, get cheated on, get rejected, if we're going to apply to female victims of violence and SAYeah that’s the point of the post I’m just opening a discussion about the double standards of it | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/25 08:25 PM |
| 3 | "Choosing better" arguments should also apply to men who get falsely accused, get cheated on, get rejected, if we're going to apply to female victims of violence and SADo you not swipe? Do you not ask people out? Do you not approach? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/25 08:24 PM |
| 17 | "Choosing better" arguments should also apply to men who get falsely accused, get cheated on, get rejected, if we're going to apply to female victims of violence and SAThen he chose wrong 100 times by the logic of SA victim blamers. Choose better.. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/25 08:23 PM |
| 7 | "Choosing better" arguments should also apply to men who get falsely accused, get cheated on, get rejected, if we're going to apply to female victims of violence and SAIt’s just an example of the kind of dysfunctional relationships women get blamed for having been in. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/25 08:22 PM |
| 10 | "Choosing better" arguments should also apply to men who get falsely accused, get cheated on, get rejected, if we're going to apply to female victims of violence and SAThat makes it his choice too | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/25 08:21 PM |
| 1 | "Choosing better" arguments should also apply to men who get falsely accused, get cheated on, get rejected, if we're going to apply to female victims of violence and SAWhat do you consider benefit? Getting laid? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/25 08:20 PM |
| – | "Choosing better" arguments should also apply to men who get falsely accused, get cheated on, get rejected, if we're going to apply to female victims of violence and SAWGH? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/25 08:20 PM |
| 2 | "Choosing better" arguments should also apply to men who get falsely accused, get cheated on, get rejected, if we're going to apply to female victims of violence and SAWho’s they and why are you telling me about it like I know them | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/25 08:19 PM |
| 11 | "Choosing better" arguments should also apply to men who get falsely accused, get cheated on, get rejected, if we're going to apply to female victims of violence and SAWhat do you mean? You aren’t approaching? You aren’t swiping? You aren’t hitting on anyone? Are those not choices? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/25 08:15 PM |
| 7 | "Choosing better" arguments should also apply to men who get falsely accused, get cheated on, get rejected, if we're going to apply to female victims of violence and SAWhere is there an enforced order to who chooses? Source? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/25 08:11 PM |
| 9 | "Choosing better" arguments should also apply to men who get falsely accused, get cheated on, get rejected, if we're going to apply to female victims of violence and SAHow so? Both people need to consent yes? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/25 07:19 PM |
| 3 | "Choosing better" arguments should also apply to men who get falsely accused, get cheated on, get rejected, if we're going to apply to female victims of violence and SAOops sorry, no victim blaming has a long history of misogyny and propagation by men :) The "What were you wearing" question is infamously one asked repeatedly by men- but you chose to pick an unrelated metaphysical theory proposed by mentally unwell people as if it held any relevence and use it as fodder to argue that no, those people are the only ones blaming victims, which just isn't true. Brock Turner didn't get 6 months in prison because the judge thought women were psychic. :) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/25 07:04 PM |
| 11 | "Choosing better" arguments should also apply to men who get falsely accused, get cheated on, get rejected, if we're going to apply to female victims of violence and SAThen what are you, NPCs? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/25 07:00 PM |
| – | "Choosing better" arguments should also apply to men who get falsely accused, get cheated on, get rejected, if we're going to apply to female victims of violence and SAGoodness what a novel of imaginary things from an absolute stranger. It's giving joe goldberg. Words on words about a person's inner thoughts that you know nothing about. Before we go on our little sigmund freud adventure, why don't we start with the basics. How old am I? Am I trans or cis? Am I 5' 9" or 4' 11" or somewhere in between? Do I wear all black, neon tye dye, or athleisure grey? What's my tax bracket? What are my hobbies? Surely if you intend to write this much about my head space the… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/25 06:59 PM |
| 14 | "Choosing better" arguments should also apply to men who get falsely accused, get cheated on, get rejected, if we're going to apply to female victims of violence and SAI'd choose loneliness over assault any day of the week. It isn't even close. How do you know you aren't choosing the wrong women? Stop choosing women who will reject you then? Hope this helps :) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/25 06:55 PM |
| 4 | "Choosing better" arguments should also apply to men who get falsely accused, get cheated on, get rejected, if we're going to apply to female victims of violence and SAAnd actually scientifically speaking you can choose not to be in a toxic relationship- you can't choose where you're born. If so why did you just get born into a rich family lol? weird. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/25 06:53 PM |
| 8 | "Choosing better" arguments should also apply to men who get falsely accused, get cheated on, get rejected, if we're going to apply to female victims of violence and SADid you read the post orrrrr? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/25 06:53 PM |
| 8 | "Choosing better" arguments should also apply to men who get falsely accused, get cheated on, get rejected, if we're going to apply to female victims of violence and SAstill a choice to choose that over peace and security. If you get falsely accused or cheated on or divorced down the line that was your choice by this logic. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/25 06:50 PM |
| 9 | "Choosing better" arguments should also apply to men who get falsely accused, get cheated on, get rejected, if we're going to apply to female victims of violence and SAstill a choice. Why not choose to be single then? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/25 06:47 PM |
| 8 | "Choosing better" arguments should also apply to men who get falsely accused, get cheated on, get rejected, if we're going to apply to female victims of violence and SAChoosing to date someone vs not is still a choice. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/25 06:44 PM |
| 0 | "Choosing better" arguments should also apply to men who get falsely accused, get cheated on, get rejected, if we're going to apply to female victims of violence and SAActually no where in my original post did I ever claim women have the magical ability to know who will abuse them. Find me one snippet that supports that I'll wait. You chose the whataboutism route and brought it into the discussion- not me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/25 06:43 PM |
| 8 | "Choosing better" arguments should also apply to men who get falsely accused, get cheated on, get rejected, if we're going to apply to female victims of violence and SASure do. There's an equal number of us and even the 1%-ers aren't dating enough of the population to make a significant dent in options so- absolutely. The math is sound. More believable than some grand conspiracy for certain. Why do you keep choosing women that reject you? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/25 06:40 PM |
| 7 | "Choosing better" arguments should also apply to men who get falsely accused, get cheated on, get rejected, if we're going to apply to female victims of violence and SA"So you processed it but you don't even realise I was not speaking about you. I'm explaining what happens when one doesn't introspect." "You will enter the new relationship, first things that reminds of your ex, you will react instinctively because you never processed your own pain. " That is what the pronoun you typically means- admittedly I skimmed what you wrote, because it was weird and had nothing to do with me and is all some kind of imaginary speculation about what victims endure so I did… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/25 06:38 PM |
| 2 | "Choosing better" arguments should also apply to men who get falsely accused, get cheated on, get rejected, if we're going to apply to female victims of violence and SADo you think when a starving person is desperately eating moldy cheese off the floor, they're thinking about their genes? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/25 06:34 PM |
| 5 | "Choosing better" arguments should also apply to men who get falsely accused, get cheated on, get rejected, if we're going to apply to female victims of violence and SAStill can't answer any of my questions. So you need a relationship or you will die? I don't think that's normal, maybe you should get that checked out. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/25 06:29 PM |
| 10 | "Choosing better" arguments should also apply to men who get falsely accused, get cheated on, get rejected, if we're going to apply to female victims of violence and SA"You will enter the new relationship, first things that reminds of your ex, you will react instinctively because you never processed your own pain." Been in a relationship for 3 years. Flattered that you're writing fanfiction about me though lmfao. "I look at me and the dumbest choices I made I understand where they came from and what type of comfort these women that had no right to be in my mind were filling on my psyche." Right and none of them SAed you right? right. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/25 06:27 PM |
| 5 | "Choosing better" arguments should also apply to men who get falsely accused, get cheated on, get rejected, if we're going to apply to female victims of violence and SANo I know there are people making this argument- but they're wrong and ridiculous and they have nothing to do with the debate at hand. Do you actually think women can magically detect bad men? No? So why are we bringing this up? Should I be assuming you think they're eating dogs and cats in Ohio because a man said it or would that also be unecesary and derailing the topic at hand? You do understand- I and those are separate people right? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/25 06:25 PM |
| 2 | "Choosing better" arguments should also apply to men who get falsely accused, get cheated on, get rejected, if we're going to apply to female victims of violence and SATo hear their excuses for themselves and ask them why that only applies to them. You don't pick up on sarcasm and arguments for the sake of argument at all do you? "And your strategy for this was to just tell me to log off after I reaffirmed my consistency?" Because you engaging at all is an odd choice if you think everything bad in the realm of dating is by choice. Doesn't make any sense- and points to some cognitive dissonance lol. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/25 06:18 PM |
| 16 | "Choosing better" arguments should also apply to men who get falsely accused, get cheated on, get rejected, if we're going to apply to female victims of violence and SAOh so you think it's a cruel thing to do? You agree it isn't fair to just blame people for their circumstances even if bad things happen to them out of their control? You agree that blaming victims of SA and DV is wrong also then right? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/25 06:14 PM |
| 5 | "Choosing better" arguments should also apply to men who get falsely accused, get cheated on, get rejected, if we're going to apply to female victims of violence and SAYou can still choose between bad relationship and no relationship if you know the relationship is going to be bad- which is what RPers and sexists claim of victims of DV and SA- that's still a choice- and obviously being single is better than being SAed, or hurt, or falsely accused right? So why not choose better and choose to be alone? And how exactly do you know you don't have other choices? What if you're just passing over the right people? You wouldn't know. Dating apps dob't have as many wo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/25 06:11 PM |
| 7 | "Choosing better" arguments should also apply to men who get falsely accused, get cheated on, get rejected, if we're going to apply to female victims of violence and SAtough. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/25 06:10 PM |
| 8 | "Choosing better" arguments should also apply to men who get falsely accused, get cheated on, get rejected, if we're going to apply to female victims of violence and SASource? Still didn't answer my question of why shouldn't the "chads" choose better in this hypothetical? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/25 06:09 PM |
| 10 | "Choosing better" arguments should also apply to men who get falsely accused, get cheated on, get rejected, if we're going to apply to female victims of violence and SALearning to protect yourself from future harm and abuse is not the same as carrying all the culpability of what has been done to you. If a dog bites you, you learn to look for signs in aggression or ask owners before approaching other dogs, but you don't go to the ER for stitches and insist you bit yourself because you just wanted to have a cool scar. And if the person is held liable in court, they put down the dog, not you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/25 06:08 PM |
| 6 | "Choosing better" arguments should also apply to men who get falsely accused, get cheated on, get rejected, if we're going to apply to female victims of violence and SABecause I don't believe all victims chose to be victims, I'm asking the question to engage people who do and pick their brains about how inconsistant that logic is. Obviously lol. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/25 06:05 PM |
| 7 | "Choosing better" arguments should also apply to men who get falsely accused, get cheated on, get rejected, if we're going to apply to female victims of violence and SAIt's not a built in creep radar. Incels and chronically online men in particular lack subtly. It's not a supernatural talent, it's literally just hearing them say off kilter things right to our faces. That doesn't mean all misogynists and abusers are this heavy handed- it means guys who haven't touched grass in a couple years and have poor social skills are worse at hiding it. The fact that you took that so literally is probably not a good sign. Still doesn't mean manipulators don't exist just b… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/25 06:03 PM |
| 2 | "Choosing better" arguments should also apply to men who get falsely accused, get cheated on, get rejected, if we're going to apply to female victims of violence and SAseems like an unnecessary stretch just to be included. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/25 06:00 PM |
| 4 | "Choosing better" arguments should also apply to men who get falsely accused, get cheated on, get rejected, if we're going to apply to female victims of violence and SAPurple pill is literally defined as being somewhere between red and blue pilled, pink pill is defined as feminist stance that is neither. Are you old enough to be on this site if you don't know that? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/25 06:00 PM |
| 6 | "Choosing better" arguments should also apply to men who get falsely accused, get cheated on, get rejected, if we're going to apply to female victims of violence and SAWhy would I engage with your counter argument when you can't even stay on topic about the first one? Doesn't seem like there's a point to debating someone who afraid to answer a simple question regarding their main stance they just presented. Also your statements aren't exactly scientific, there's nothing to refute or argue with. You're insisting men don't have many options and therefore cannot choose but you haven't done anything to validate that, or support the idea that they are pursuing the … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/25 05:58 PM |
| 14 | "Choosing better" arguments should also apply to men who get falsely accused, get cheated on, get rejected, if we're going to apply to female victims of violence and SAThen why do so many posts on here moan and whine about false SA accusations? Why'd you choose to sleep with her then? And why do so many men complain about rejection, why'd you ask her out then? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/25 05:55 PM |
| 3 | "Choosing better" arguments should also apply to men who get falsely accused, get cheated on, get rejected, if we're going to apply to female victims of violence and SAI did choose. I'm proposing soon. I would say good luck but, mmm I hope you make good choices is all I'll say lol. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/25 05:54 PM |
| 9 | "Choosing better" arguments should also apply to men who get falsely accused, get cheated on, get rejected, if we're going to apply to female victims of violence and SAIt's completely relevent. You're arguing men don't have a choice. Answer the question. Refusing to is really showing your hand, you don't wanna make yourself look worse do you? Just answer it, what are you afraid of. Yes. Or. No? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/25 05:52 PM |
| 7 | "Choosing better" arguments should also apply to men who get falsely accused, get cheated on, get rejected, if we're going to apply to female victims of violence and SAagain, it's a 50/50 number of people, why do some guys keep choosing to date numerous women, don't THEY have too many options? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/25 05:51 PM |
| 3 | "Choosing better" arguments should also apply to men who get falsely accused, get cheated on, get rejected, if we're going to apply to female victims of violence and SAwhat's there to talk about? Choose better. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/25 05:50 PM |
| 10 | "Choosing better" arguments should also apply to men who get falsely accused, get cheated on, get rejected, if we're going to apply to female victims of violence and SASomeone you don't know the name of could drug and SA you before you've ever even seen their face just because you happened to be out in public with an exposed drink. And that's a choice but this isn't? use logic. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/25 05:50 PM |
| 11 | "Choosing better" arguments should also apply to men who get falsely accused, get cheated on, get rejected, if we're going to apply to female victims of violence and SAYou didn't answer the question. Would you be with her? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/25 05:49 PM |
| 4 | "Choosing better" arguments should also apply to men who get falsely accused, get cheated on, get rejected, if we're going to apply to female victims of violence and SAhow is it not? You're purple pill which means a little blue, a little red- make it make sense? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/25 05:48 PM |
| 1 | "Choosing better" arguments should also apply to men who get falsely accused, get cheated on, get rejected, if we're going to apply to female victims of violence and SANo tf we don't? Don't know a single woman who says this. This is an absurdist straw man issue. Just because some weirdo with religious psychosis on tiktok claims women have supernatural powers doesn't literally mean all women think that. Seriously if you think we think that you need to touch grass. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/25 05:47 PM |
| 9 | "Choosing better" arguments should also apply to men who get falsely accused, get cheated on, get rejected, if we're going to apply to female victims of violence and SAthat's not how anything works. We're not supernatural creatures. That person is a moron. Also how do you know we have too many options. It's a 50/50 split gender wise. You're just choosing the wrong people clearly. And also do those men keep choosing to date women when they're violent. Why shouldn't they choose better? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/25 05:45 PM |
| 12 | "Choosing better" arguments should also apply to men who get falsely accused, get cheated on, get rejected, if we're going to apply to female victims of violence and SAThat's not how a source works. So if a conventionally unnatractive female serial killer in jail chooses you, you just gotta be with her then? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/25 05:44 PM |
| 7 | "Choosing better" arguments should also apply to men who get falsely accused, get cheated on, get rejected, if we're going to apply to female victims of violence and SAthen why are you here. Choose better and log off, this subreddit shouldn't exist. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/25 05:43 PM |
| 11 | "Choosing better" arguments should also apply to men who get falsely accused, get cheated on, get rejected, if we're going to apply to female victims of violence and SAand women who are SAed do? Explain that? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/25 05:42 PM |
| 11 | "Choosing better" arguments should also apply to men who get falsely accused, get cheated on, get rejected, if we're going to apply to female victims of violence and SAsource? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/25 05:42 PM |
| 7 | "Choosing better" arguments should also apply to men who get falsely accused, get cheated on, get rejected, if we're going to apply to female victims of violence and SAI'm not denying that, I'm asking why stop there? If everyone just chooses every person in their life and how they treat them, why do we even have this subreddit. "incels" should just stop choosing women who don't want them, how did they not smell it a mile away? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/25 05:35 PM |
| 43 | "Choosing better" arguments should also apply to men who get falsely accused, get cheated on, get rejected, if we're going to apply to female victims of violence and SAI completely agree, I'm just using this discussion to show how victim blaming is awful and hurts everyone and no one should expect empathy while shitting all over others who are suffering just as much if not more, no matter how special they think they are | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/25 05:33 PM |
| 9 | "Choosing better" arguments should also apply to men who get falsely accused, get cheated on, get rejected, if we're going to apply to female victims of violence and SAwhat makes one more obvious than the other or more valid than victims of SA? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/25 05:31 PM |
| 1 | Most women aren’t good enough for relationships for most menIf you personally find most women not worthy of a relationship- don’t date them- it is that simple. More for those that do. 🤷🏻♀️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/25 12:22 PM |
| 2 | We need more two-way empathy, not sympathyIt was on true off my chest and was an in detail story. There was no punchline. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/10/25 10:41 AM |
| 5 | We need more two-way empathy, not sympathyI wish I could agree with you but I’ve seen obviously fake pity fuck stories like “I gave my depressed guy friend a blow job to cheer him up” get legit 15k or more upvotes and awards and everything. They seem to love that shit. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/10/25 10:31 AM |
| 10 | Removing access to abortion and birth control won’t make women want dependable average men more -- it’ll make them avoid men altogetherSo… you care more about random men having sex than finding a meaningful relationship of your own that isn’t essentially forced and contractual? And just so we’re clear, you’re assuming the sex will keep happening with you even with all these changes to medical treatment and access? What’s stopping a woman from engaging in sex acts that’s aren’t P in V as a preventative measure? What’s stopping a woman from marrying a guy for security, popping out a kid with him and then discontinuing all intimac… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/10/25 10:23 AM |
| 26 | Removing access to abortion and birth control won’t make women want dependable average men more -- it’ll make them avoid men altogetherSo just so we’re clear, the stance your taking today is people dying is a good thing if it means more women with sleep with what you deem deserving men. People should die. So some dude you sympathize with can get laid? I’m just being certain I understand your priorities and morals here | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/10/25 10:18 AM |
| 6 | We need more two-way empathy, not sympathyExplain to me how feminists don’t return the empathy. Just so we’re clear the lesbian community played an enormous role in providing medical care and nursing for male patients during the aids epidemic because most male doctors refused to go near them. (Look it up.) and despite men being a significant minority group in the number of individuals who have endured sexual violence, progressives and feminists are outspoken about protecting the rights and consent of people of all genders and identities… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/10/25 09:57 AM |
| 5 | We need more two-way empathy, not sympathyI agree, it’s honestly so weird the way many men weaponize pity to guilt women into sleeping with them and have zero interest in caring about them. It’s just so gross and dishonest and it’s no wonder most women shut down emotionally when conversations about mental health start to turn into a gendered discussion, at this point many of us have built an association with the topic itself and sexual harassment / coercion. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/10/25 09:51 AM |
| 5 | We need more two-way empathy, not sympathyIt’s not a pity fuck if I developed a genuine emotional connection and passionate feelings for someone else due to their willingness to be open and vulnerable. However the superficial men have it hard posts on here certainly seem like a pan handling for pity fucks | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/10/25 09:48 AM |
| 1 | Women's brains have been FRIED by social media and OLDOr you know it’s really not that deep and just women recognizing they liked a particular guy for the wrong reasons and have realized that now. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/10/25 09:48 PM |
| 2 | Men are not obliged to validate any choice a woman makes and they are free to have their own opinions and feelings tooI really don't care. Live your life. I can dislike you if I recognize that you're a bad person, but I'm entitled to my opinion and you're entitled to yours. I don't think many women here would argue otherwise. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/10/25 08:57 AM |
| 1 | CMV: Men frequently lose in life if they are too empathetic towards women and female issuesI mean, idk my bf is definitely winning.... | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/10/25 08:56 AM |
| 3 | Men have to take responsibility for feminismoooh, this is gunna entertaining. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/10/25 08:55 AM |
| 2 | Q4RPmen: Why do you need women?Every comment is so defensive and avoidant of answering the question, this is such a mess and I’m here for it | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/10/25 06:22 PM |
| – | Women aren't going to drastically change their lifestyle so that someday you might want to marry them.And every in between. Im monogamous but I wouldn’t consider myself remotely trad and that’s how I like my men too. Romantic and loyal but progressive and kind | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/10/25 06:19 PM |
| 19 | The idea that women don't enjoy sex, comes from male sexuality being demonize in society.Absolutely, even good sex I enjoy can leave me feeling sore / bruised down there and every day sex isn’t often a thing for me purely because my body would be hurting a lot even if I wanted it daily. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/10/25 09:38 PM |
| 14 | The idea that women don't enjoy sex, comes from male sexuality being demonize in society.Communication is key for both partners but ask yourself the last time you’ve seen a woman instruct a man in porn that wasn’t specifically femdom porn. Ask yourself how or what taught them not to tell you what feels good for them, and why they’ve been made to feel their comfort isn’t worth talking about | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/10/25 09:35 PM |
| 0 | Do you think women's standard for a partner is bad?No one understands me the way my bf does. Some people may be shallow enough to see other people that way but no one that actually loves their partner woman or man is so material. No idea what Taylor and Travis’s deal is but they are a very public relationship built on celebrity personas so expecting something deep from that seems a bit silly no? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/10/25 06:53 AM |
| 1 | Women preferences are considered morality. While men preferences are considered evil.Date whoever you want as long as you adhere to some basic ethical guidelines like age of consent and general honestly and acceptance on both sides. People will still have opinions about it regardless but it is a personal choice. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/09/25 05:13 PM |
| -2 | Contrary to popular belief women have a rather similar taste in menShallow people are shallow regardless of gender- obsessing over shallow women and insisting they are the reason some people are alone, and targeting the gender rather than ultimately the common mindset of superficialism- won't solve the problem. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/09/25 04:02 PM |
| 3 | There is no moral failure in not wanting to sleep with whatever percentage of men.Men’s rights are also negatively impacted by patriarchal norms and that part I think is hard for these folks to accept because they enjoy the perceived benefits of it too much | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/09/25 02:04 PM |
| 27 | There is no moral failure in not wanting to sleep with whatever percentage of men.From what I’ve garnered having been on this sub for too long, it’s not even about how many or how few they sleep with so much as that they get to choose. Most anti feminists are just boiling with rage that women get to choose. They’d rather you be a perfectly chaste virgin waiting for whoever they deem a good guy (typically the most down trodden and lonely men because they are more motivated by pity and sympathy than actual critical thinking and are convinced all the lonely men are always the be… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/09/25 12:02 PM |
| 2 | DISCUSSION🗨️ ABOUT MAIN PPD POSTS📮, LOOKS👀, AND N-COUNT🔢 ARE RESTRICTED🚫 FROM THE DAILY🌞 MEGATHREAD🧵Lol I remember thinking that I found it hard to say who was more attractive to me and then started asking my female friends if they’d ever thought about kissing another girl… I was not straight actually lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/09/25 12:22 AM |
| 1 | Q4E: Is the OKcupid data about the 80/20 rule what caused all the dating discourse/gender war ?Did everyone just fall asleep during history class? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/09/25 04:02 AM |
| 2 | Single Men have better mental health than married men nowadaysI feel like if it’s all about mindset than therapy would help | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/09/25 03:53 AM |
| 2 | Single Men have better mental health than married men nowadaysWhy does this subreddit exist if men being single is always good for them, actually? I’m not saying being single is bad but considering how unhappy the single guys are on here, I’m not seeing it | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/09/25 03:52 AM |
| 2 | Every woman beater I've ever met was almost constantly in relationshipsAbusers often use abuse as a vice to self regulate- they’re so used to taking their feelings out on someone they don’t know how to live without and will do anything to maintain their grasp on a victim and will be desperate to replace them if they can’t. It’s a common part of narcissistic abuse that the abuser changed tactics when their victim starts slipping away because hurting this person is the only way they know how to regulate their emotions. You let off steam playing video games, these POS… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/09/25 01:36 PM |
| 1 | The entitlement of certain autistic men is bafflingNo it's not. That simply isn't what the word means in this use case. "the belief that one is inherently deserving of privileges or special treatment." And everyone receives certain things as basic human rights, entitlement is about feeling owed something that others won't willing or consensually give, especially in the circumstances of it not being necessary for human survival which sex provably isn't. Celibate monks have lived long lives, and the same can be said of asexual individuals. Sex isn… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/09/25 11:19 PM |
| 1 | The entitlement of certain autistic men is bafflingSomeone consenting to have sex with you isn't entitlement. It's a choice. Someone chooses someone and they agree. So assuming women aren't assaulting men, no they are not entitled because they have access to sex. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/09/25 11:15 PM |
| 2 | The entitlement of certain autistic men is bafflingWell the way most people do it is someone chooses to love them. And you do have that right and option to choose someone and be chosen just like they do. Just because someone hasn't doesn't mean they can't. Like- I tattoo my skin- I have that same right to my body and my skin as everyone else. But I'm not entitled to hours of labor by a talented artist for free, see that's a thing that belongs to someone else, their energy and time, that I don't get to just take because I want it. And that's how … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/09/25 11:11 PM |
| 1 | The entitlement of certain autistic men is bafflingNo see, that's what the world entitlement means. It means being owed something from others. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/09/25 11:09 PM |
| 2 | The entitlement of certain autistic men is bafflingBeing born with something isn't the same as being entitled to it. It didn't cost anyone else anything unique to give their baby blue eyes, the baby was just born like any other baby and happened to have blue eyes. The problem comes in thinking you are owed something from other people for being born with brown eyes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/09/25 11:08 PM |
| 2 | The entitlement of certain autistic men is bafflingNot really. It's like saying some people are born with blue eyes so I should receive some kind of funding to make my eyes blue to make up for the difference. There are some things that we can't just fix, and some things that we are not owed even if they would be nice to have. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/09/25 10:30 PM |
| 4 | The entitlement of certain autistic men is baffling"them being allowed to have sex by existing" Everyone that is a consenting adult is allowed to have sex. That's not what entitlement means. Entitlement is "I WANT SEX SO SOMEBODY NEEDS TO GIVE IT TO ME WHETHER THEY LIKE IT OR NOT!". But two people that mutually say "I like you, I want to have sex with you," aren't entitled in the same way that if I baked you a cake you aren't entitled to that cake I'm giving it to you because I want to. ""seeing a relationship as something owed to a person for e… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/09/25 10:29 PM |
| 4 | The entitlement of certain autistic men is baffling"ordinary people can have relationships by existing." They aren't owed it. Someone chose them. That's how consent works. You can't force love. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/09/25 10:19 PM |
| -1 | The entitlement of certain autistic men is bafflingThe problem lies in treating mental health like a uniquely male problem and seeing a relationship as something owed to a person for existing. Any diagnosis would conjure the same troubles. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/09/25 10:03 PM |
| 1 | The ability to find FWBs, not relationships, is the measure of how sexually attractive a man is.“Just reading know she did say” my guy, I do not understand what that means are you genuinely having a stroke, that doesn’t make sense? I did edit the post but i didn’t actually change my initial statements in anyway, just added context I thought was relevant. You don’t take being wrong well do you? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/09/25 03:57 AM |
| 0 | It's probably a good idea to implement programs specifically to lift up boys and men.I’m all for positive changes to infrastructure that actually help disparately impacted groups without unnecessarily harming the rest. Go for it. Actual change to potentially systematic issues instead of such a heavy focus on access to sex would be a breath of fresh air. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/09/25 03:54 AM |
| 0 | The ability to find FWBs, not relationships, is the measure of how sexually attractive a man is.I’m not offended I was literally not desperate for sex, reading comprehension | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/09/25 03:51 AM |
| -2 | The ability to find FWBs, not relationships, is the measure of how sexually attractive a man is.If the sex itself is so meaningless and unspecial why should I be picky about the person I have it with anyway? Is that desperate or is it weird to be finicky about such an empty act that will happen once and then be over? If it’s casual sex why would you be so picky? It means nothing right? I don’t obsess over the quality of paper that I wipe my butt with, as long as it gets me clean. You wouldn’t call me desperate for tolerating mediocre toilet paper instead holding in my poop to find high qua… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/09/25 02:44 AM |
| 0 | The ability to find FWBs, not relationships, is the measure of how sexually attractive a man is.I wasn’t desperate for sex, I was mentally ill, isolated, at my lowest, I was offering sex just to feel something. It didn’t work. I chose strangers because everyone felt like a stranger to me anyway so what difference did it make? I did get hit on quite a bit actually, but only for sex, not usually anything more. It was randos not because I was desperate but because why would I have sex with someone I like and want something more with? It’d mess everything up if they saw me as casual only after… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/09/25 02:34 AM |
| -1 | The ability to find FWBs, not relationships, is the measure of how sexually attractive a man is.I'm just not sexually attracted to nonromantic circumstances personally, but I get where you're coming from. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/09/25 10:34 PM |
| -2 | The ability to find FWBs, not relationships, is the measure of how sexually attractive a man is.The only time I've ever bothered with fuck boys and casual flings was at my very lowest and felt entirely unlikable and probably would have taken just about anyone. I don't remember their names or faces, I don't feel anything when I try to think of them, and most never were spoken to again after a one night stand. If I could skip over that part of my life to the part where I met my bf of 3 years I would. And he didn't withold commitment from me for sex. He was happy to wait. Make of that what yo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/09/25 10:32 PM |
| 0 | [Q4RP] have you ever wavered on your RP beliefs after becoming RP, maybe even gone BP before coming back?do you have evidence to support that? You don't know anything about us | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/09/25 03:01 PM |
| 0 | Women do not fall for "manipulation" as much as they want to think they doAnd what is your take on men who date convicts and criminals- that this is supposed proof a man can never be lied to or manipulated? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/09/25 08:37 PM |
| 1 | "If she is interested she will show" show what exactlyI messaged him silly memes every day, asked to see him first before he asked me, made it clear I was looking for something serious, dressed up really cutesy in dresses and little outfits for all our first dates and surprised him every time, kissed him eagerly the first time he asked if he could kiss me. Yes definitely, women that are into you can be forward I’m tired of the nonsense that we won’t be. Though I do want to mention that it does surprise me that women are more timid than men when app… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/09/25 04:05 AM |
| 1 | [Q4RP] have you ever wavered on your RP beliefs after becoming RP, maybe even gone BP before coming back?I mean no because it’s not always quirky and the halo effect doesn’t often save me. I grew up the weird kid and still make people uncomfortable a lot and many find it unattractive | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/09/25 05:00 PM |
| 1 | [Q4RP] have you ever wavered on your RP beliefs after becoming RP, maybe even gone BP before coming back?No, a lot of the self improvement came a year or so after we were already together but having problems in our relationship and it was something we both committed to. I would definitely say I’m ND to the point of being off putting and weird even as an adult. I don’t read others emotions well, I’m often told that everyone knows something or I should just know something that I don’t, and I’ve definitely made people uncomfortable before trying to befriend them or romance them without releasing- thou… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/09/25 01:10 PM |
| 7 | What’s the point of all the gender whining?I’m super anti the incels and the RP and all of it but even I have to agree, if all hope is lost and nothing can be done- why do incels make such a scene of it like something can be changed by doing that- if what they say is true and it’s all human nature, what’s the point? And on the other end as a person who is involved on this subreddit why do I care? I think either side wants more people to empathize with their point of view for that feeling of validation and catharsis as no matter which sid… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/09/25 04:16 AM |
| 2 | [Q4RP] have you ever wavered on your RP beliefs after becoming RP, maybe even gone BP before coming back?Both of us have pretty severe ADHD- like really forgetful, bad at doing basic adult things, find most jobs horribly stressful and overwhelming, though mine is arguably worse than his. I struggled more socially growing up, had almost no friends for most of my life, while he was class president on a whim because his friends thought it would be a cool thing to do (he insists he was deeply lonely and not popular but like- come on!) Both of us have a struggle with depression, anxiety, and a history o… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/09/25 03:59 AM |
| 1 | [Q4RP] have you ever wavered on your RP beliefs after becoming RP, maybe even gone BP before coming back?Okay but say this traditional wife or angel of the house does become a supposed fat hag shortly after marriage- you're sticking to it? for decades, the rest of your life maybe, because she was a virgin when you married her? Just curious because the use of the phrase fat hag very much implies you don't approve of fat or aging women so it makes me wonder why marry at all, if it bothers you so much? I mean perhaps she stays thin forever, which is hard to maintain but not impossible I guess if she l… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/09/25 03:47 AM |
| -1 | [Q4RP] have you ever wavered on your RP beliefs after becoming RP, maybe even gone BP before coming back?I mean, me and partner are both neurodivergent though- what do you think it is that would make the difference there for some people? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/09/25 03:23 AM |
| 1 | [Q4RP] have you ever wavered on your RP beliefs after becoming RP, maybe even gone BP before coming back?Okay curious here! lots of women have mental health dianosis, would they not want to date someone who has one so that they can feel understood? Or what's your take on that? As far as the hair one, you mentioned wig- but like, what happens if the girl he's seeing finds out it's a wig? Or is more the aesthetic of the thing than trying to deceive anyone. I know personally I'd prefer my partner bald over a toupe but idk Also is it for a relationship or are these just requirements to hook up? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/09/25 03:19 AM |
| 2 | [Q4RP] have you ever wavered on your RP beliefs after becoming RP, maybe even gone BP before coming back?So of your goal is marry a skinny young woman, will you divorce her if she doesn’t age gracefully or stay thin? Just curious | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/09/25 01:52 AM |
| 3 | [Q4RP] have you ever wavered on your RP beliefs after becoming RP, maybe even gone BP before coming back?Aren’t you somewhat glad in a way that women aren’t basically just pets to be looked after though? Wouldn’t it be so dull and challenging to care for and provide for something that is as you say innocent and delicate like a child? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/09/25 12:32 AM |
| 1 | [Q4RP] have you ever wavered on your RP beliefs after becoming RP, maybe even gone BP before coming back?Do you think there is an exact definition of attractive in this case? and if so could you give me your explanation of what that means for you? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/09/25 11:23 PM |
| 1 | [Q4RP] have you ever wavered on your RP beliefs after becoming RP, maybe even gone BP before coming back?Another commenter described it as sort shifting back into what he sees as a fantasy as a way of coping with what he feels is reality- so maybe that? I'm interested in what changed in those phases, and what might have motivated the changes. Can you tell me what RP beliefs you may have adjusted and in what ways? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/09/25 11:21 PM |
| 5 | [Q4RP] have you ever wavered on your RP beliefs after becoming RP, maybe even gone BP before coming back?Curious, are you still with your girlfriend? This is the kind of nuanced take I was hoping to explore, I'd like to hear more | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/09/25 11:20 PM |
| 3 | [Q4RP] have you ever wavered on your RP beliefs after becoming RP, maybe even gone BP before coming back?I'm not sure I'm well versed. What is the cosmic horror if you could elaborate? So far what I understand of red pill is just the idea that most people are deeply deeply shallow and this idea that you have to be near perfect to attract a woman. That's sad yes, but cosmic horror? am I missing something? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/09/25 11:19 PM |
| -1 | If women like different men, why are there so many men not liked by anyone?There's a good chance you haven't met your people. I didn't find mine for some time. As an adult it can be especially hard to find those connections. But worth it when you do. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/09/25 11:16 PM |
| 2 | The gender war epidemicThat was not my point remotely but if a person were to take their own life due to believing they can’t change or resolve their loneliness, than there would be no telling what life they could have lived had they survived, so yes I would say that doesn’t prove they were right. Statistics suggest less than 1% of people live to 65 as virgins. And that is not accounting for how many are asexual, or significantly cognitively impaired to the point that sex wouldn’t be appropriate for them. More than 1%… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/09/25 07:36 PM |
| 1 | The gender war epidemicIf you can show me one case of a person actually enduring that, explicitely with scientific evidence that it was not by choice, not due to a poor personality or any other quality, or that they didn't die young, then I'd concede that there is one person who endured it. It still would not be nearly enough to argue to it common for men- not remotely. If such a thing is this common it should be easy to prove with case studies and documentation. Find me one case. One. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/09/25 07:24 PM |
| 1 | The gender war epidemic"men that women collectively cannot be attracted to" to be frank I just don't really believe that. And there are a lot of people who don't subscribe to that. If this is a fact there should be evidence for it | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/09/25 07:02 PM |
| 1 | The gender war epidemicHave any sources to support that this is genuinely a permanent condition? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/09/25 06:44 PM |
| 4 | Men arent fighting a war we are just fighting back against Misandry"And you look up how many babies have been killed by their mothers. As you see I can tell you things like that as well." Before or after birth? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/09/25 04:21 PM |
| -1 | The gender war epidemicbut did it get more men laid and in relationships? Did it raise birthrates? Did it increase the number of people getting married? Did it decrease the number of male virgins? Did you get what you wanted from us, or just make women hate you more? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/09/25 04:16 PM |
| 2 | Men arent fighting a war we are just fighting back against MisandryYou can be two things at the same time- what he did is considered to most to be a form of violent or extreme protest, with it still being a politically charged act with purpose and meaning, though through fairly brutal means. "Deny Defend Depose" and his infamous manifesto are more than enough evidence that his crimes were motivated by greater unrest and economic challenges. We also know that he was denied health care for a very serious and painful condition and suffered for some time before com… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/09/25 03:55 PM |
| 3 | Men arent fighting a war we are just fighting back against MisandryJust look up how many women have been killed by their partners. Yikes, “Rachet feminists” that’s gunna be a rule breaker for sure | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/09/25 02:02 PM |
| 1 | The gender war epidemicI’ve only recently seen the phrase gender war crop up and it seems like a trending term used to treat the current gender political circumstances as a mutually inflicted issue. As many others have put it, men have started calling it a gender war instead of the male loneliness epidemic because they’re losing said war and now want to put their white flags while pretending we’re both at fault for starting it in the first place. In reality the manosphere intentionally formulated a wide spread phenome… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/09/25 01:53 PM |
| 1 | The gender war epidemicI think a lot of worse things can happen especially considering your exclusion is not a permanently enforced state but often a temporary problem while you find your people- I would know I spent 7 years single after a traumatic break up not for a lack of trying but because my mental health made me difficult to love, to trust, to like at times and I was not ready to heal. I was rejected, used, discarded, you name it, because of my emotional unavailability. It is hard- but it is temporary if you ca… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/09/25 01:46 PM |
| 1 | Men arent fighting a war we are just fighting back against MisandryOn the contrary I think analyzing the legitimacy of someone’s stance and the reason for debating it- is a valid contribution to a debate especially when that individual has openly acknowledged that they rage baiting. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/09/25 01:41 PM |
| 5 | Men arent fighting a war we are just fighting back against MisandryNot trying to. I use the sub for what it’s supposed to be for, actually | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/09/25 01:27 PM |
| 2 | Men arent fighting a war we are just fighting back against MisandryDo you think it’s possible that there are other factors involved in that? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/09/25 01:24 PM |
| 8 | Men arent fighting a war we are just fighting back against MisandryPayback is not a justification for crimes against humanity and also why only the women then? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/09/25 01:22 PM |
| 4 | Men arent fighting a war we are just fighting back against MisandryGuess we know what you use it for it. So who’s condescending and disingenuous then? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/09/25 01:20 PM |
| 2 | Men arent fighting a war we are just fighting back against MisandryI literally don’t care as a feminist we want you to give a shit about real problems that you can fix rather than berating us and guilt tripping us for sympathy and weaponizing to silence our own movement. Feminists are not remotely opposed to better education for men or healthcare reform. Look at the response most progressives had to Luigi | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/09/25 01:18 PM |
| 17 | Men arent fighting a war we are just fighting back against MisandryExactly. The economy and political challenges is their biggest threat, not access to sex | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/09/25 01:15 PM |
| 10 | Why do women give bad advice to men?Because there is no exact formula to attracting someone into wanting to be with you. What would work on one person wouldnt work on another and it’s worth mentioning that simply molding yourself to be what someone wants is inauthentic and most of us want sincerity | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/09/25 01:14 PM |
| 1 | Women want socialism in professional life and capitalism in personal livesWhy do you want access to sex from someone who doesn’t want you? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/09/25 01:29 PM |
| 1 | Women want socialism in professional life and capitalism in personal livesSocialism doesn’t require sex slavery. These two things have nothing to do with each other, you’re not making any sense | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/09/25 11:47 AM |
| 1 | Women want socialism in professional life and capitalism in personal livesHow would these benefits thus far not also help men? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/09/25 11:47 AM |
| 1 | Women want socialism in professional life and capitalism in personal livesDating someone or sleeping with them solely for resources is prostitution. That’s what that means. No one cares what flair you use, the terms of your proposal are exactly that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/09/25 03:56 AM |
| 1 | Women want socialism in professional life and capitalism in personal livesDo they? Will you die the same way you’d starve and wither away without food or water? How so? Source? Why do only men need this? What does because I’m a woman mean? What about being a woman makes a difference? Elaborate. And? Source that proves that claim? So forcing people to date someone they don’t want is the solution- explain how forcing relationships would be a good thing? Explain how having someone tolerate your presence the same way youd tolerate a retail job is going to do anything for … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/09/25 03:55 AM |
| 2 | Women want socialism in professional life and capitalism in personal livesHow would you turn that into a kind of currency? Charge by the hour? If I just tolerate being around a man does that count? How would you write up an employment contract for it exactly? What if I give all the appearances of a relationship but have no interest in the person and have my own relationship with someone I really love and wasn’t forced to be with to survive, does that not count? And why not? What determines what is worthy for bare minimum resources? If dating is for resources and survi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/09/25 03:49 AM |
| 1 | Women, would you be friends with an active sex worker?Sure, if it didn’t otherwise affect our friendship | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/09/25 03:47 AM |
| 1 | Women want socialism in professional life and capitalism in personal livesElaborate on “giving men what they want” what does that look like for you? Widespread prostitution of all women just for the bare necessities? What are you really saying here? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/09/25 03:33 AM |
| 2 | Women want socialism in professional life and capitalism in personal livesWhy can’t we as a society focus on providing for those needs of individuals regardless of gender without there being some kind of demand of sexual and romantic favors in exchange? If I can survive with my fundamental needs met even if I am lonely, why is that not a better outcome for you and the rest as well? And you do realize that working 40 hours a week to afford to exist means you have very little time to bond with or connect with others right? There’s a very good chance that the redistribut… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/09/25 03:32 AM |
| 1 | Women want socialism in professional life and capitalism in personal livesIf I can’t obtain the resources needed to survive such as food, a home, medical help, I will die. If I cannot find a person who fits my emotional and sexual needs I will have a hard time, but if I still have access to rest including therapy, I will survive. It makes sense. Being alone and without a support network is hard, there is no doubt about it- but not being to afford food on my table, a bed to lay in, and a dentist to keep my teeth from rotting in my head, is a lot harder. Plus we can red… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/09/25 07:24 PM |
| 0 | If a guy uses terms like “dance monkey” and “beta bucks”, he despises relationships. (Even if he claims to want one)And this is why birth rates are still declining, women are marrying older and older, and men as single as they’ve ever been. The mindset that communication is a battle to win, where you are always right and just want defeat someone and feel superior, rather than a way of actually understanding each other, has resulted in women pulling away from men en mass. If you aren’t willing to illustrate your point you can’t communicate. Relationships are built on communication and here you can’t even manag… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/09/25 06:25 AM |
| 0 | If a guy uses terms like “dance monkey” and “beta bucks”, he despises relationships. (Even if he claims to want one)See but you do because that’s how that works. You made a claim now you have to present evidence. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/09/25 03:27 AM |
| 1 | If a guy uses terms like “dance monkey” and “beta bucks”, he despises relationships. (Even if he claims to want one)“Still report being in relationships twice as often as men” it’s almost like men think commitment is something to be ashamed of and often insist on being FWBs or on the low down more often, creating a disparity in self reports on who is with who. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/09/25 08:54 PM |
| 1 | If a guy uses terms like “dance monkey” and “beta bucks”, he despises relationships. (Even if he claims to want one)The rest of it is just insisting there is no research on this issue due lack of funds or resources but that is certifiably false. We have endless research on human psychology, biology and the processing of empathy and none of it supports your claim. You cannot hide behind the excuse of a lack of resources. Sometimes I don’t waste my precious time engaging in arguments that hold no water, doesn’t mean I don’t notice or skim them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/09/25 08:49 PM |
| 1 | If a guy uses terms like “dance monkey” and “beta bucks”, he despises relationships. (Even if he claims to want one)I mean yeah the thing is if I asked for a source that water is wet you could find one instead rant and throw a fit on the internet. So where is the source? If it’s also well known as water is wet, it should be pretty easy, so why are you having such hard time? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/09/25 08:42 PM |
| 1 | If a guy uses terms like “dance monkey” and “beta bucks”, he despises relationships. (Even if he claims to want one)The thing is that there are thousands of sources that racism exists, it is incredibly easy to prove and yet you’d rather throw a fit than find one piece of evidence to this claim… so tell me how one is just as true as the other lmfao | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/09/25 08:41 PM |
| -5 | If a guy uses terms like “dance monkey” and “beta bucks”, he despises relationships. (Even if he claims to want one)Again, Source? All we have for a basis of this is your feelings, by that logic any kind of extremist is just as valid as you are because that’s how the world felt to them, whether it was real or not. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/09/25 04:30 PM |
| -3 | If a guy uses terms like “dance monkey” and “beta bucks”, he despises relationships. (Even if he claims to want one)And that substantiates this claim how? And that should be taken as fact why? And that compares to women’s experiences dating how? This is not how real scientific data is determined. It’s an incredibly weak basis for any belief. This is the kind of logic that could suggest that if you ask every guy at the con if spider man is real then I guess that proves he is. Any person that cares about being knowledgeable instead of biased and ignorant would use more data than this. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/09/25 04:23 PM |
| -6 | If a guy uses terms like “dance monkey” and “beta bucks”, he despises relationships. (Even if he claims to want one)Pretty big claim there, source? Need I remind you a woman created you with her body… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/09/25 04:18 PM |
| 1 | I'd rather be a man finding a girlfriend than a woman finding a boyfriend.She got one-itis and was lonely and quite mentally Ill. What she did was weird and unethical but her friends were AI bots, I don’t know that it’s so unrelatable to a lot of men on here. Regardless of her problematic character which she is, my point is the idea that women don’t get rejected or have unreciprocated feelings is a myth. Also most men don’t worry about being violently assaulted or murdered on their dates. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/09/25 03:34 AM |
| 0 | Why it's controversial when a man says "women are attracted to a small percentage of men" when women themselves agree with this statement in their spaces ?I think there’s too much focus on the superficial qualities that determine attraction. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/08/25 07:07 PM |
| 2 | Males should be told to dress betterI think there's a balance to be had but I definitely look at my old exes and the lack of effort they made to look good for special events and it certainly helps to put it a little effort and of course just practice hygeine, bathe regularly, wear something scented even if it's just a decent deodorant, groom yourself, etc. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/08/25 10:16 PM |
| 1 | Cheating is equally immoral no matter who does it, BUT men stand to suffer more when cheated onIdk I don’t think most progressive minded people agree with even that. My bf has been sexually assaulted in the past and i take that shit very seriously. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/25 05:02 PM |
| – | Men arent rewarding bad men, women areI've been arguing that this entire time, and no we don't because you've been insisting that it is women's fault for "rewarding" shit men for falling for them rather those awful men for doing awful things, continuously- ala the post- which is just wrong. If you've changed your mind though to something rational like bad people are responsible for doing bad things, good for you for coming to your senses. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/25 04:01 PM |
| – | Men arent rewarding bad men, women areno. I think shit men are responsibile for fixing themselves, and should stop crying on the internet for pity instead going to therapy. And if you think that despite mental health being overall stigmatized and the health care of some nations being in absolute crisis, that somehow your mental health is special and deserves pity fests on the internet because you're male, you're an entitled bad person and should go to therapy to unpack your victim complex. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/25 03:55 PM |
| – | Men arent rewarding bad men, women are"We aren't saying women are responsible for making men good people" "bad men have zero incentive to change as long as there are willing women out there. " make it make sense dude. If women aren't responsible than the only ones that are to blame for being awful people are themselves. Also loving someone isn't some kind of reward for being a good or bad person, it's just a thing that happens sometimes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/25 03:49 PM |
| – | It’s a women job to cook for her manDo you think it’s possible you just wanted to brag about your relationship on a forum of people who are often mentally unwell and desperately lonely? I mean by all means, celebrate your happiness. But in that case is this really a debate about how others should conduct themselves or a ploy for attention? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/25 12:14 PM |
| 2 | Men arent rewarding bad men, women areAccurate! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/25 11:42 AM |
| – | It’s a women job to cook for her manSure but for what they feel are important social movements, but why do you feel all women should cook for their partner? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/25 11:40 AM |
| -1 | Men arent rewarding bad men, women areBecause your moral compass and mental health is your responsibility. It’s part of being an individual. Men aren’t a monolith but when they argue as individuals that women are to blame for not molding them into better people such as this post, they’re avoiding accountability. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/25 11:37 AM |
| 1 | It’s a women job to cook for her manWhy do you want to spread your opinion? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/25 03:52 AM |
| 2 | Men arent rewarding bad men, women areWhy is it women’s job to make men into better people instead of their own? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/25 03:42 AM |
| 2 | It’s a women job to cook for her manWhy would you be bothering her with this anyhow? Besides with the regime you’ve got going, I’m sure she’s too busy meal prepping and cooking anyhow right? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/25 03:32 AM |
| 1 | It’s a women job to cook for her manI don’t see why we all have to partake in the same gender roles as you do. Also saying “I care because they care” doesn’t seem like a fair response. Why do you care what they think? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/25 03:31 AM |
| 3 | It’s a women job to cook for her manI didn’t say any of that…. You did. This sounds like a personal preference for a relationship though, why do you care to debate it on here? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/25 02:57 AM |
| 1 | I'd rather be a man finding a girlfriend than a woman finding a boyfriend.You can’t force someone to give you their entire life purely through rizz. In actuality they have to be sincerely looking for that level of sacrifice and willing to give it to you. Furthermore I wouldn’t want a partner that wants to me marry me on sight. That isn’t love. People trolling on here that I’m wrong for saying a meaningful connection is rare or hard to come by no matter the gender maybe haven’t felt that degree of love before. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/25 02:18 AM |
| 2 | I'd rather be a man finding a girlfriend than a woman finding a boyfriend.Currently in a wonderful long term relationships, I still had to meet a lot of unkind noncommittal shallow men to find him. I’m glad you were lucky. Sometimes the first person you come across happens to be the best one. Sometimes you aren’t shaped by past traumas to be used to abuse in the future. Just because something comes easily to you doesn’t mean you should be unempathetic to others or pretend misogyny and the general objectification of women don’t play a role in their lives even if you we… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/25 02:16 AM |
| 1 | I'd rather be a man finding a girlfriend than a woman finding a boyfriend.How so? Are you saying you’d seriously commit to someone you barely know effortlessly and quickly while knowing nothing about them, especially in a culture where men are praised for having a variety of casual partners? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/25 02:15 AM |
| 3 | It’s a women job to cook for her manThis is obvious bait. Have you found this person yet? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/25 02:11 AM |
| 2 | I'd rather be a man finding a girlfriend than a woman finding a boyfriend.absolutely. Serious relationships with meaningful connections are rare and hard to find regardless of if you are more likely to be sexualized and objectified for your gender. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/25 08:55 PM |
| 1 | There is no such thing as an "invalid" or "shallow" reason not to date someone, every single dating preference is valid.I agree, as long there is no insincerity at the start about those expectations. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/25 06:02 AM |
| – | Going dutch on dates is the best way to weed out women with a parasitic mentality.You do know if someone genuinely wants to manipulate you into a financially abusive relationship, they’ll likely do so in stages gradually while earning your trust right? It’s a long con, if a woman wanted to do that she would definitely be smart enough to agree to go Dutch on the first date to give the impression of being more egalitarian and independent than she is. Most women interested in a sugar baby type relationship in a non-abusive or controlling way, will be pretty up front about it. So… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/25 06:00 AM |
| 5 | A lot of men who women otherwise love as friends, but never see them “that way”I feel like this belongs more on r/iam14andthisisdeep if we’re being honest | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/25 05:56 AM |
| -1 | I'd rather be a man finding a girlfriend than a woman finding a boyfriend.Exceedingly easy to get sleazy hook ups maybe, finding someone ready to commit as a life partner to you? Not really no. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/25 05:55 AM |
| 3 | I'd rather be a man finding a girlfriend than a woman finding a boyfriend.Yes. I agree, though I’ve had a good number of rejections or even awkward misunderstandings with guys who were taken as I didn’t know it at the time. If there was any advice I’d give my younger self on dating, it would be to not spend forever secretly pining on a crush, to just make your move when you feel a spark, take the no gracefully and move on. Instead I’d really get hung up on someone and delay telling my feelings to them until I was in too deep and the rejection hit a lot harder. But wom… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/25 05:52 AM |
| 1 | Women give bad advice because their advice comes from a point of privileged ignoranceThe hive mind concept isn’t real. We’re individuals. This isn’t new information. Why are we acting like this is the craziest news in the world? Isn’t this basic human psychology? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/08/25 12:50 PM |
| 1 | The idea of marriage and family is dead for women"melting the fuck down" You used more swears than I have on this entire exchange. You sure about that? I'm just asking questions | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/08/25 12:37 AM |
| 1 | The idea of marriage and family is dead for womenHow? Explain that. It’s…. Embarrassing to find dehumanizing language about women unfunny? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/25 11:57 PM |
| 0 | Women in the past were not unhappy in their marriages, modern women's psychology have just adapted to modern societyI really want you to sit with this one for a minute, okay. Any reason for a break up is a good reason. Because wanting to break up- is all the reason a person should need. They don’t want to be with you. You can’t force them. Why would you want that? To force someone who is unhappy to be with you? Who cares if many women initiate divorce? If they didn’t there would be just as many posts on here complaining that wives stop giving their best in marriage after a certain time and are cruel for stayi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/25 11:55 PM |
| 1 | Q4W: Do you women ever confuse an attractive guy that is just being nice to you as him flirting with you? Then it turns out not to be the case and he was just genuinely being nice and polite with no romantic intentions?Oh I’ve totally done this and the opposite SO MANY TIMES. You really gotta be direct sometimes! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/25 11:39 PM |
| 3 | If you could date the perfect synthetic companion, more attractive than any human, would you choose that over a human partner? (Hetero relationship)Only if you’re deeply shallow and into something so artificial. Otherwise it would be like any other break up | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/25 11:12 PM |
| 1 | If you could date the perfect synthetic companion, more attractive than any human, would you choose that over a human partner? (Hetero relationship)No. I found my person. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/25 11:10 PM |
| 2 | I don’t think it’s a man job to protect his girlNeither do we. People choose to protect who they love. It isn’t anyone’s job and idk any woman who thinks it is unless she’s reaaaal old school and right wing. It’s mostly RPers that insist women are privileged because they actually think we expect them to dive in front of a bullet for them. Because while “FeMiNiStS aRe RuInInG moVies aNd ViDeo GamEs” by wanting strong female characters and while self defense weapons are popular among women somehow they supposedly also expect men to protect them… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/25 11:03 PM |
| 2 | Prison for non-payment of child support should be abolished, and if someone can't or won't pay it, the state should just pay it instead of prosecuting the non-payerThey always assume and they’re always off base like I never just point at people and make up vivid fan fictions about their life with nothing to go off of because they’d tell me I’m wrong and I have basic human decency and shame. Is it a kink to be wrong about women for them? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/25 01:42 AM |
| 1 | Women give bad advice because their advice comes from a point of privileged ignoranceAndddddd? Your point is? That’s not an exact recipe. I mean if you act like a repulsive asshole then yes, your odds are not great. It’s still not a magic recipe. You could do and say all the things my bf did when he met me for example and another woman would probably not be interested. I’m a liberal leftist and child free. Lots of women want children. I alarmed that this needs to be said. This logic shouldn’t surpass a certain grade level. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/25 12:11 AM |
| -1 | The idea of marriage and family is dead for womenirony and sarcasm still require an effective conveyance of an opposing stance or belief. The way you've worded this is unconvincing. The fact that I'm not the only one completely unimpressed by your paragraphs about loving your wife speaks to how poorly you wrote that. It's not funny, it doesn't work, there's nothing clever or entertaining about it. It's just having a laugh at dehumanizing language. How much can you love or seriously care about a person when you think misogyny is funny? This is … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/08/25 11:14 PM |
| -1 | The idea of marriage and family is dead for womenelude to....? Where's the joke? "or" is a joke? the comma symbol is a joke? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/08/25 11:08 PM |
| 0 | The idea of marriage and family is dead for womenExactly, where's the funny part? Explain to me how it's funny to refer to women as objects like "younger models" or mock your wife for ageing now the problematic treatment of women's ageing. I'll wait. Tell me how that's funny. ( Also thanks captain obvious, if I didn't understand the phrase I wouldn't have explicitly asked you what was so funny. ) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/08/25 11:04 PM |
| 0 | The idea of marriage and family is dead for womenWhere's the funny part? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/08/25 10:59 PM |
| -2 | Women give bad advice because their advice comes from a point of privileged ignoranceI would consider myself neither privileged nor ignorant. On the notion of a "spark" and having no further explanation, no one is pretending the specific elements surrounding meeting their partner/crush don't matter or play their role. Read a romance novel. Key elements of the situation clearly play a role in the character's feelings. Women aren't unacquainted with that. The reason why women's advice appears vague is because humans are insanely unique people. Think about the fact that a lot of ca… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/08/25 10:57 PM |
| 2 | The idea of marriage and family is dead for women*never* paid *never* valued? Bit hyperbolic- the entire scenario described in this post could still happen with a person who was perhaps paid or valued on some level- but not on the level they deserve or need. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/08/25 10:38 PM |
| 5 | The idea of marriage and family is dead for womenThis might be one of the realest things I've ever read on this sub. And the comments show that so many people are in denial of this being the case. And I roll my eyes at the number of comments comparing this to black pill rhetoric as black pill rhetoric is so often based on the 1% scenario, where these situations are tragically extraordinarily common. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/08/25 10:30 PM |
| 3 | The idea of marriage and family is dead for women"big 30 next year" " younger model" uhuh... | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/08/25 10:28 PM |
| 2 | The idea of marriage and family is dead for womencare to elaborate? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/08/25 10:23 PM |
| 2 | Prison for non-payment of child support should be abolished, and if someone can't or won't pay it, the state should just pay it instead of prosecuting the non-payerbecause I'm a leftist and I also don't want to pay for some rando's child if they can provide and simply refuse to while still wanting parental rights of that child. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/08/25 10:04 PM |
| 22 | If you want to spread genes without effort, it’s a sensible strategy to abandon pregnant mothers since women won’t vote against themselves and since bluepill men will always cheerfully clean up your sloppy seconds.This is a wannabe super villain origin story | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/08/25 12:07 AM |
| – | If you want to spread genes without effort, it’s a sensible strategy to abandon pregnant mothers since women won’t vote against themselves and since bluepill men will always cheerfully clean up your sloppy seconds.Get help. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/08/25 12:07 AM |
| 2 | Ironically, progressive women are still obsessed with status in menWhat most people on here consider positive attention can still be very dehumanizing. Most the attention I get is just treating me like a fleshlight for sale. They don’t care about me as a person, don’t even see me as an individual with feelings, just something to fuck and use. Calling that positive attention is like calling incessant adverts from scammers trying to get your money positive attention. Often the same men who want to use me for my body will degrade me and demean me. Positive attenti… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/08/25 05:14 PM |
| 2 | Women link a mans romantic invisibility with a moral or character flawMmm I don’t know. For me personally I grew up the weird kid no one liked. I know being awkward or weird is not a sign someone is a bad person. But when a person rants about their want to get with a woman and shows that sort of desperation for just any female shamed entity, it gets icky fast because they don’t seem to care at all about knowing another human, just wanting access to something they’re sexually attracted me. It’s not the loneliness or social outcast issue that unsettles me, it’s the … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/08/25 12:31 PM |
| 1 | Modern hookup culture makes women jaded and have unrealistic expectations of menYou sound young. I’d recommend you seek higher education to expand your horizons if you really care to understand this type of thing. I don’t think we’re really getting anywhere with your current perspective. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/08/25 02:09 PM |
| 1 | Modern hookup culture makes women jaded and have unrealistic expectations of menIs sexual assault a loss of virginity? Do oral / fingers count? Does lesbian sex count? What changes exactly? Source on what actually changes after sex other than the social belief that one has experienced some sort of right of passage? Are you a virgin? If not can you explain what actually altered your brain chemistry after having sex the first time in a way that almost having sex or planning to have sex with a consenting party wouldn’t have, or masturbation for that matter? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/08/25 01:51 PM |
| 1 | Modern hookup culture makes women jaded and have unrealistic expectations of menTake your pick. “Virginity” isn’t even real. There is no scientific way to prove it. Also, 3 or 4 is not a lot unless you’re one of those weirdos obsessed with purity. I’m probably well below average at my age lmao and content with it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/08/25 01:44 PM |
| 1 | Modern hookup culture makes women jaded and have unrealistic expectations of menNo I would say I hooked up with maybe 3 or 4 different people total. Again, it was always at my lowest. I don’t see why this is relevant. N count is pure pseudo science anyway. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/08/25 01:03 PM |
| 2 | In online debate, women insist "Husband Material" always encompasses "Hookup Material", but in real life it's a distinct categoryI’m planning on marrying my bf. He’s hot, funny, caring, gentle, loving, clever. He gets me on a different level and he’s great in bed. I explicitly held off on sex to be sure we were on the same page and ready for it, he wanted that too. It isn’t complicated | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/08/25 02:38 PM |
| 1 | Ironically, progressive women are still obsessed with status in menI’ve always been intimidated by DND as it seems a bit complicated and the idea of involving that many people makes me socially anxious. But we do play magic the gathering together and paint 3D prints and DND mini figures for his campaigns. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/08/25 06:16 PM |
| 2 | Ironically, progressive women are still obsessed with status in menyeah just a saying like "dude" or "bro" | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/08/25 12:28 AM |
| 3 | Ironically, progressive women are still obsessed with status in menIt's just not true dawg. I'm "mid", chubby with bright pink hair and lip ring. Half these guys are intense about alt being unnatractive and plenty more want their women as thin as a kpop model. I've dated real irl men who would tell me at some point that my body was just "alright" and I was "nothing special" or they'd sleep with someone hotter if they got the chance (of course this culminated in a break but STILL) I was very much a loser to these people. You're talking out of your ass. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/08/25 12:26 AM |
| 2 | Ironically, progressive women are still obsessed with status in menPeople are individuals is the thing. We’re not a hivemind, the people upvoting clearly feel the same way. Some people are shallow, tell me something I don’t know. Some people clearly arent. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/08/25 11:03 PM |
| 4 | Ironically, progressive women are still obsessed with status in menI’ve gotten quite a few disgusting messages commenting on my weight and appearance and mocking me, particularly when I was single and struggling to find someone that wanted a long term connection. I’ve been called everything under the sun by bitter strangers on the internet. When it comes to those vile comments they don’t usually appear in this sub because the mods take them down. But as a woman they are constant. Though I will say it doesn’t surprise me how clueless most men online are about ho… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/08/25 10:53 PM |
| 1 | Men are much better at manipulation than womenI don’t think they’re better at it, just more willing to do it. Men more commonly get diagnosed with conditions like narcissism and there is some evidence that men are raised and conditioned to be more selfish and unempathetic to others. Manipulation isn’t about smarts like some people may think. Studies find even our pets are capable of manipulating us to get treats or preferred outcomes based on positive or negative behaviors. Being a manipulator doesn’t make you some kind of genius. The main … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/08/25 06:20 PM |
| 8 | Ironically, progressive women are still obsessed with status in menTo me a “loser” isn’t a man who is poor or a man who is awkward or lonely or shy, socially. Being a loser is to be a person who is wildly immature, selfish, chooses to gamble or borrow from friends and abuse substances to get by. It’s a lifestyle with a variety of bad choices involved. It doesn’t have to do with the way he looks in standing with others, it has to do with his total lack of stability and refusal to change or heal as a person. I don’t think most women actually care what their frien… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/08/25 06:12 PM |
| -3 | Do You Think Women Are Lying About Their Safety Concerns?The only one accountable for sexual assault and domestic violence are sexual assailants and domestic abusers. And the only one hurt by their lies and manipulations being believed are the people themselves that believe them. Why are you so angry about something you have nothing to do with? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/08/25 11:36 PM |
| -3 | Do You Think Women Are Lying About Their Safety Concerns?Stupid? I don’t agree. More often vulnerable to manipulation tactics due to social conditioning and a history of trauma, absolutely. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/08/25 08:51 PM |
| 6 | Most boyfriends would be happier forgiving their cheating girlfriend or wifeNope. No. Monogamy is the right path for me | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/08/25 08:36 PM |
| 6 | Modern hookup culture makes women jaded and have unrealistic expectations of men"So often, women will meet and hookup with attractive men and BELIEVE that she can actually date him." Actually none of the men I hooked up with even come close to my bf. They were often desperate and in a bit of a low place themselves to be wanting to meet some absolute stranger on a whim that night, as was I at the time. If I found a guy really attractive or special, I would want to take my time getting to know him and not mess things up by rushing for a hook up. So I've never looked at a hook… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/08/25 11:13 AM |
| 2 | How are ugly couples sexually attracted too each other?Yeah so much of the supposed evidence to support this idea that women are excruciatingly frigid and picky towards male partners, is just gotcha style studies, engineered to force women into the role of judging others based on the most shallow qualities. The results are obviously significantly biased. So many arguments about women’s sexuality being lesser and passionless in comparison to men’s supposed hopeless pining, is determined in scenarios where there is intentional reduction of meaningful … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/08/25 09:30 PM |
| 0 | Introverted nerds still can't also be assholes like attractive bad boysIt’s not as straightforward as you would think. I’ve almost dated entirely dorky guys as I am a geeky woman. I am sad to say that sometimes these men seem to bank on being perceived as innocent and nerdy as a way to Trojan horse a fuck ton of toxic shit into a relationship. “He’s just a shy awkward guy, he didn’t mean it like that” is the kind plausible deniability they take advantage of. Considering how this post is written, there’s a good chance you dismiss your own toxicity or friends’ worst … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/08/25 12:16 PM |
| 5 | How are ugly couples sexually attracted too each other?There’s a lot going on here but I wanted to address the initial premise of picking attractive people out of a line up of random folks. If you reread my comment I talk about psychological associations and how they alter the way we see people. But these are strangers in this scenario where there are no connections or associations to be had, no memories, no knowledge of their character, no opportunity to know if they have an adorable laugh, or a charming special talent,so forth. In this greatly sup… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/08/25 10:26 AM |
| 15 | How are ugly couples sexually attracted too each other?A few things. There’s no such thing as objective beauty. Different people are attracted to different things. Also familiarity plays a role in what we find beautiful or comforting. If you see someone’s face enough times, an association is formed with their appearance and the memories or emotions you’ve had with them, regardless of how they look. If at first you find someone dull, your perception of them can evolve as you adjust to their quirks, their mannerisms. You will look at someone entirely … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/08/25 12:34 AM |
| 1 | How likely/unlikely is it to find love as a man?99% of people who live to their 30s have had sex at least once and by 60 to percentage of people that are still virgins is almost zero. Some finding one or more sexual / romantic connections is so likely it is almost an inevitability, actually | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/25 05:22 AM |
| 2 | This quote "the bar is in hell for men". This quote doesn't make sense all. Because that bar isn't usually meant for all men.I genuinely just want a good and decent person. Being tall or rich or exceptionally good looking wouldn’t make a person tolerable long term for me on its own. He would still need to be a good and decent person or I’d entirely lose interest due to the way he’d handle conflicts. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/25 05:03 AM |
| 8 | Why do women expect empathy and a good guy behavior from "undesirable" guys?BECAUSE EVERYONE SHOULD TRY TO BE A DECENT PERSON WHAT ARE YOU A SUPER VILLIAN?! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/25 12:59 AM |
| 1 | The bluepill is by far the nastiest dating ideologyYou replied to my comment... do you know how that works orrr..... ? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/25 10:06 PM |
| 1 | The bluepill is by far the nastiest dating ideologyI stated 0 of those things. You pulled all of them out of the air to reinforce your own mindset. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/25 05:04 AM |
| 2 | The bluepill is by far the nastiest dating ideologyI'd argue the blue pill or "normie" mindset is just: Love is a very complicated thing to find and maintain but your best bet is to treat each other as equal human beings, be open minded, and if you're lucky you just might find it. The average person understands great people can still struggle to find love, that luck and complex social dynamics play a big role but that being bitter and chauvinistic about it won't make anything better. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/25 05:55 AM |
| 2 | Hot take: (CMV) The "Healthy Masculinity" feminism pushes is more toxic than the toxic masculinity"no presumption of innocence when accused of DV or SA" 1 in 3 women is sexually assaulted. Most women never go to court because of how difficult this is to prove. There is an estimate chance of the accusation being false and that is less than 5%. 30% of women are actually raped. Less than 5% of people of either gender, are falsely accussed. You cannot seriously be dense enough to see these issues as remotely equal in value right? I also would like to put it this way. Most rapists don't like to t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/07/25 11:12 PM |
| 1 | Hot take: (CMV) The "Healthy Masculinity" feminism pushes is more toxic than the toxic masculinity"Right to genital integrity, paternity rights for the first few week (mother can put child up for adoption without father consent), lack of DV, SA, Rape and other resources. Literally most countries define rape in such a way to exclude male victimes or female perpetrators, most men who call the police as victims DV get arrested themselves, no presumption of innocence when accused of DV or SA. Many more exist? Should ai give you a mens issues masterpost?" Sigh. Circumcision is a problematic opera… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/07/25 11:12 PM |
| 2 | Hot take: (CMV) The "Healthy Masculinity" feminism pushes is more toxic than the toxic masculinity“Exterominated” ummm that’s not a word and any case they certainly haven’t been. Again, sexual assault is very common but the perpetrators are almost always not some random stranger. Also provide a single source that supports women initiate domestic violence and are in any way at fault for being murdered by their spouse and partners. Even one source to support your claim, I’ll wait. Name a protection women have that doesn’t apply to men. Go on. What is the point then? Elaborate on that. Be speci… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/07/25 08:29 PM |
| 1 | Hot take: (CMV) The "Healthy Masculinity" feminism pushes is more toxic than the toxic masculinityProtection how? If something dangerous happens I’m calling the police. There are endless examples of women carrying self defense weapons as well. Protection from who? From what? Is the average woman at risk of being mugged on the street? Have you ever been mugged, kidnapped, attacked by a stranger? The majority of assaults and physical violence towards women is from the hands of their partner. The primary suspect for a murdered woman is typically the husband because of how common it is. So prote… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/07/25 07:51 PM |
| 1 | Hot take: (CMV) The "Healthy Masculinity" feminism pushes is more toxic than the toxic masculinityExplain to me in detail how you’re expected to serve women in ways that span beyond normal boundaries we all owe to one another such as respecting rejection and physical boundaries? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/07/25 07:25 PM |
| 0 | Hot take: (CMV) The "Healthy Masculinity" feminism pushes is more toxic than the toxic masculinityThis feels like an enormous misunderstanding of what us actually being said about masculinity and boundaries, coming from an emotionally immature place of having never challenged your own world view and fearing any change even the positive kind because it involves working on yourself. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/07/25 07:19 PM |
| 5 | How Men Could Become Lustless and Emotionally Free from Women, Without Losing Their DriveThis is such a great way of putting it with the whole “it’s just biology” excuse. Assigning animalistic thinking to humans who are very much capable of more sophisticated morals. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/25 04:32 AM |
| 2 | Why is toxicity rewarded in a dating setting like I know it makes them interesting but what about morals?Mostly because of trauma and the way it rewires victims to feel attraction to people that remind them of their first abuser, often their parent or guardian. There’s substantial research on it but often times it starts in the home with their caretaker’s mistreatment, which instills in them low self esteem and a certain tolerance even comfort derived from Ill tempered and moody people. It’s subconscious. Considering 1 in 4 girls will be sexually abused before they’re even an adult, and there are o… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/25 03:31 AM |
| 7 | What are the signs a woman is only into a guy for his looks?They have nothing else in common, she talks a lot about his fitness or whatever hobbies he has that make him more attractive but has zero interest in anything else he likes to do or is interested in, a general vibe like they don't get along and just tolerate each other or don't enjoy being around each other | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/07/25 09:47 PM |
| 3 | If you knew a woman/man who could never have sex, would you still marry them?Probably not because I don’t think we’d be compatible. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/07/25 04:56 PM |
| 1 | Why do you assume men are only looking for sex?I found a wonderful committed long term relationship with an atheist. You do not have to go to church to find a man that is decent but if religiosity doesn’t bother you and you’re open minded do whatever you want I suppose. Religious traditional men often are uptight, adhering to steadfast gender roles, and often expecting their partner to birth and raise a bunch of kids. So I know it isn’t for me. On the other side of things, many religious people infamously have a problem of practicing what th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/07/25 04:46 AM |
| 1 | The future is polygamous - rich men have harems and male slavesI have been there myself. I can empathize | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/25 04:14 PM |
| 1 | The future is polygamous - rich men have harems and male slavesI don’t know any woman who isn’t like this. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/25 04:14 PM |
| 1 | The future is polygamous - rich men have harems and male slavesYes. We’ll be in it together. I’d work with him to find more sustainable ways to survive, such as growing our own food and potentially living off the land, so forth. It wouldn’t be easy, but I’d rather have nothing than not have him. Just because you’ve never loved like that doesn’t mean everyone else is just as superficial. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/25 02:15 PM |
| 3 | The future is polygamous - rich men have harems and male slavesI don’t know any women who wouldn’t do the same. I know a women who stood by her man as he died slowly of cancer and has continued to step up and raise both her biological child but also his two children from a previous marriage, after he has passed as a single mother. I don’t know anyone who doesn’t prioritize meaningful relationships over petty and superficial benefits. Bad people exist but to say they’re the majority is just absurd | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/25 02:14 PM |
| 4 | The future is polygamous - rich men have harems and male slavesRight? I read this and was like “woah, thanks for reminding me how out of touch and unreal this part of the internet can be, that’s it I’m touching grass” and the other comments engaging in this bizarre unsubstantiated rant? Like what?!? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/25 02:01 PM |
| 1 | The future is polygamous - rich men have harems and male slavesI’d 100% rather choose my person as a destitute man than some insufferable rich a hole and certainly over cutting my life short. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/25 01:58 PM |
| 1 | The future is polygamous - rich men have harems and male slavesTruly my bf could be homeless and I’d put clothes on his back without a second thought. Money is so boring, shallow, empty and beauty fades as we all age and change. But the core components that make him him, his personality, his sense of humor, irreplaceable. This is such an extreme, reductive understanding of relationships. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/25 01:56 PM |
| – | Sexual compatibility isn't a real thing.Sexual compatibility is a thing and it does go beyond the basics, but I don't think you have to necesarily give it a trial run as soon as possible to test it out. It should start with honest communication back and forth when both people express being comfortable with it. I. E. "where are you comfortable being touched" etc. I do think that some people weaponize sexual compatibility to prioritize sex above all else in a relationship and that's fucking wild tbh. If nothing else in a relationship ma… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/25 03:02 AM |
| 2 | Being hookup material is much better than being husband material.I think it's very hard to develop any sincere feelings for someone if the connection starts as a form of using each other, the ability to build trust with a person who wants to inherently use you without feeling for sexual fullfilment is a lot harder. I'm not saying casual sex is cruel or evil, it can be perfectly fine and consensual, but it rarely builds the foundations of safety, intimacy and trust that many people need or want to have serious feelings for each other. Think of it like renting … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/07/25 07:53 PM |
| 3 | Being hookup material is much better than being husband material.It can happen I’m sure but I think the people that do have considerably low self esteem, and I cannot imagine the romantic feelings they have for a FWB are comparable to that of a relationship. And again, a casual non exclusive thing means a lot of the best things in sex are typically off the table. Have you had a casual thing or relationship sex to compare? Porn can make casual hook ups look like an all you can eat buffet with no downsides. Real casual sex is a lot more complicated. At least if… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/07/25 05:54 AM |
| 3 | Being hookup material is much better than being husband material.Only if that is your goal. I can tell you for certain have never desired anyone as much as I do my boyfriend and I have hooked up before. The hook ups at the time were almost completely random, just a case as is with most men of being lonely, frustrated and thinking “I’d take any company right now, you’ll do”. I didn’t enjoy it, end up not seeing any of them again and it left me feeling empty. The sex was always subpar and I always held back from doing all the fun stuff I like to do in the bedro… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/07/25 01:00 AM |
| 1 | Giving up on women is a very healthy choice (for real)What hobbies would you say you connect with other men better on? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/07/25 10:32 AM |
| 0 | Giving up on women is a very healthy choice (for real)would you say then that you're a fairly stereotypical one dimentional man that fits neatly into the cookie cutter definition of one? a man's man that only likes manly things? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/07/25 08:09 AM |
| -2 | Giving up on women is a very healthy choice (for real)why not just avoiding people in general who don't empathize with or click with you regardless of gender? Why does it have to be sexist? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/07/25 07:42 AM |
| 1 | Existence of cuckold porn proves that more men than you think want to be cuckedSorry to hear that, do you mind sharing what they did? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/06/25 09:58 PM |
| 7 | What complaint *COULD* a man state about being a man, that you would FULLY agree, and sympathize with? And you your first thought IS NOT: "But it's because of other men and the patriarchy..."Circumcision. Total violation of human rights and autonomy to do that to an infant, and the supposed medical benefits are minimal at best. Consent is clearly not provided, and the reason for it often aesthetic which is gross to me. If a man told me he felt violated by his parents for doing that to his infant body, I’d completely agree and argue that the systematic nature of this violation where I live, needs to be changed. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/06/25 09:52 PM |
| 2 | Why Don’t You Use Condoms? The data is in and we know you’re raw dawgin, so tell us why…I’m sterile and in a wonderful monogamous relationship, there is no need. My darling would never cheat and we are both STI free and healthy so, I personally prefer it regardless as it feels the most intimate, but for us it’s also a perfectly safe choice | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/06/25 09:50 PM |
| 10 | Stop the "emotional labor"Totally valid but I think in relationships where the other person is unwilling to do their part, they will just fall apart when the other stops doing it. I’m not saying that’s bad but it will be the likely end result. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/06/25 02:35 PM |
| 0 | The average woman has a lower libido than the average manI could engage with this patently false and ignorant narrative but I don’t care to, it isn’t worth the energy. Five seconds of scrolling on this subreddit alone would show you solid examples of this logical fallacy in action. To deny this is to refuse to look at all easily accessible evidence and exercise blind ignorance when it benefits you, with a boost of confidence and hyperbolic certainty. I’m not interested in interacting with this limited black and white thinking, plainly. I recommend get… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/06/25 11:26 AM |
| 6 | The average woman has a lower libido than the average manWoman here, I don't disagree, there is a natural element to this that is notable, we're just all still fairly unique and diverse, and it's more of a general thing to be aware of rather than a hard and fast rule, or objective truth. It's like saying most men are physically stronger than women, like yes- but it isn't always true, it isn't as dramatically different as you think, and it isn't an stagnant unchanging factor. It's not as black and white as one would think, but it is generally something… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/06/25 05:55 AM |
| 2 | The Circle of Porn and Intimacy : Men watch porn because they can't get women Vs Men can't get women because they watch pornIt’s definitely an unfortunate and complicated vice heavily encouraged to many men. I think like any vice the positives are short terms but the negatives can be long term so the key is always balance. I think if you can recognize that you feel detached from the real world because of your porn use or can detect the way it tends to increase when your mental health is especially low, it’s important to make an effort to self reflect, understand your ability to log off, or seek resources for addictio… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/06/25 09:09 AM |
| 1 | The Circle of Porn and Intimacy : Men watch porn because they can't get women Vs Men can't get women because they watch pornTo me it really depends on what the word resources means to the person. It could be money, it could be time, space, energy, transportation- a million other valid reasons. If a person needs to look after themselves first I fully support that. If a person is surviving but not rich, but has the time to spend with another and the ability to treat them well emotionally and so forth, I don’t think most women see a problem there at all. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/06/25 09:03 AM |
| 1 | The post-#MeToo culture and the rise of dating apps gave men a reality checkCan you elaborate on this? I’m curious how exactly the suggestion that no one is entitled to love or sex is wrong | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/06/25 06:43 AM |
| 0 | The average man cannot set healthy boundaries or feel at ease and comfortable in a relationship because he’s so replaceable she’ll just walk awayMy boyfriend is not replaceable to me. There a million other people out there but none of them are like him. Just because I could date someone else, does mean they'd be remotely who is right for me. There are probably plenty of men that would want me for one night, or in superficial transactional relationship where my only value is my looks and whatever other benefits and means I bring to the table, but they wouldn't love me and accept me the way that he does, they wouldn't support me through th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/06/25 11:49 AM |
| 3 | Do women have difficulty getting wet when they're nervous, the same way men have trouble getting hard?Absolutely! Hormonal shifts and other less predictable factors make a difference but I can get really anxious or stressed and have trouble relaxing. Even the temperature in the room can have an effect or if a fan is blowing can dry me out. Lube can help with the moisture but the vaginal muscles can be too tense to feel good during penetration and it will hurt. I generally find it takes about 2 - 3 different sexual interactions with a new sexual partner to actually get comfortable and have sex co… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/06/25 05:37 AM |
| 0 | If Men Should Accept Women’s Preferences, It’s Fair for Women to Accept that Men Prefer Young WomenI think the age problem goes for both genders and I haven’t meant anyone in modern day who disagrees with the notions that one gender should date barely legal while the other can’t- generally you either think it’s problematic gender be damned or not. However, pretty much any other ethical preference is just fine to me. And even if you date someone really young, if they are of legal age I might judge but I can’t stop you. 🤷♀️🤦🏻♀️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/06/25 02:03 AM |
| 3 | Would you describe yourself as an autosexual?Not at all, I am wildly insecure about my body and hate even looking at it most of the time | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/06/25 04:08 AM |
| 5 | What are subtle red flags you see in other men?This one makes me sad. It sounds like he has major mental health problems and should get therapy and treatment. Dating the same toxic people over and over is usually a symptom of some kind of trauma early in life. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/25 07:58 PM |
| 1 | What are subtle red flags you see in other men?Yeah my partner is an outspoken feminist but I do know what you mean when you say pandering for some people like the “wife guy” from buzzfeed | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/25 07:56 PM |
| 3 | What are subtle red flags you see in other men?I’ve definitely picked up how a gap in communication like that can boil up out of control. When you aren’t actively listen to someone and just operating on your own assumptions you’ll find you can never make them happy because you don’t care to know what actually does. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/25 07:56 PM |
| 4 | What are subtle red flags you see in other men?Pretending to be anything to make people like you is pretty weird. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/25 07:54 PM |
| 3 | What are subtle red flags you see in other men?This I agree with for sure, that is a love bombing red flag and I’d be suspicious. I think it’s bad advice when people tell women to only go for guys like that, they’re basically bribing you to like them, you should think it’s suspicious | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/25 07:54 PM |
| 2 | If you don’t see the point in having female friends, you’d absolutely despise dating themNeither, saying something is anecdotal, is to say it is not an accurate reflection of everyone's experience, and more of an assumption that everyone has had the same issues as you. YOU perceive men as "cold" and "logical", meanwhile, there are thousands, if not millions, of complaints documented of men expressing their distress for emotional problems like loneliness, social rejection, feelings of low self-worth, envy of others, and so forth. YOU have asserted that men and women essentially don't… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/25 06:26 PM |
| 1 | Men who believe AI “girlfriends” can replace real women should be judgedFor real I am with you, it’s a healthy and generally harmless solution. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/25 02:20 PM |
| 7 | If you don’t see the point in having female friends, you’d absolutely despise dating themThis is all entirely anecdotes and personal feelings without any solid data for any of it. It also seems counterintuitive to argue men are “cold” and “logical” while observing the male loneliness epidemic and the number of men expressing intense emotional distress from a lack of female attention or perceived rejection. There are plenty of men on the internet and off currently arguing the opposite, even suggesting the narrative that all men are cold and unfeeling has actually negatively impacted … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/25 02:04 PM |
| 8 | If you don’t see the point in having female friends, you’d absolutely despise dating themYou mean to tell me you’ve never met a woman you weren’t attracted to and couldn’t resist wanting more with? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/25 01:56 PM |
| 1 | If you don’t see the point in having female friends, you’d absolutely despise dating themI’ve dated more than one guy who has never had a girlfriend. Do you think it’s possible you’re rationalizing the idea that you don’t like women as people but expect a girlfriend to be different somehow? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/25 01:43 PM |
| 4 | If you don’t see the point in having female friends, you’d absolutely despise dating themYou didn’t answer the question. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/25 01:38 PM |
| 1 | If you don’t see the point in having female friends, you’d absolutely despise dating themI have no idea what that means. Can you elaborate? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/25 06:38 AM |
| 5 | If you don’t see the point in having female friends, you’d absolutely despise dating themHow do they head that way exactly? Like what happened where you were made to pay for things and do favors without any awareness of it exactly? Seems really weird to call me a gaslighter and compare me to these situations when again, I never ask for my friends to buy me things and we are happy to just chill together no favors needed. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/25 06:30 AM |
| 2 | If you don’t see the point in having female friends, you’d absolutely despise dating themBecause friendship is a meaningful connection between humans that doesn't require sex or romance or any of that. How do you have any semblance of a normal relationship with family members that are women with this perspective exactly? Literally we just want to have relationships with men that don't revolve around sex. What is men obsession on here with sexualizing any interaction with women? Why can't you treat us like humans? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/25 06:13 AM |
| 4 | If you don’t see the point in having female friends, you’d absolutely despise dating themhow does that work? Source! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/25 06:08 AM |
| 8 | If you don’t see the point in having female friends, you’d absolutely despise dating themEven if that were true ( touch grass and log off porn hub, REALLY?! You KNOW that's statistically improbable ) he'd still be treating them as friends on his end, that still supports the argument that he views women as people he can actually have companionship with. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/25 06:07 AM |
| -1 | If you don’t see the point in having female friends, you’d absolutely despise dating themIf it's always like this with female friends you've never had a female friend. I've bought my friends dinners. I've sat on the carpet and stayed up all night marathoning movies in my apartment with my friends. You haven't had a female friend. I'd empathize more if there was some level of abuse or coercion but for the life me I don't understand why you didn't just say no thank you or I can't manage that? I can see doing a nice thing out of the impulse to just be nice to others once in a while but… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/25 06:00 AM |
| 8 | If you don’t see the point in having female friends, you’d absolutely despise dating themI never stated that. In my other comments I even pointed out that you can do just about anything with a female friend you would with guy, aside from a few gross or impolite behaviors men seem to think is normal. Otherwise, women are just as individual as men. There women that would love to be your gym buddy, your player 2 for console multiplayer games, your stoner pal, your movie buddy, and so forth. Women have a diverse number of hobbies and interests just like men. A girl that is genuinely you… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/25 05:56 AM |
| 6 | If you don’t see the point in having female friends, you’d absolutely despise dating themFor starters… they’re people. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/25 03:22 AM |
| 1 | If you don’t see the point in having female friends, you’d absolutely despise dating themWhy do you think a woman should “fix” your sexual needs while your guy friends don’t owe that in order to spend time with you? What are they “fixing” exactly? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/25 03:20 AM |
| 12 | If you don’t see the point in having female friends, you’d absolutely despise dating themWhat exactly does a friendship with a man give you that a friendship with a woman can’t. Also what do they get more of exactly? I’ve said this to others but if a friendship is more take than give then you aren’t friends | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/25 03:16 AM |
| 0 | If you don’t see the point in having female friends, you’d absolutely despise dating themIt’s biased to intentionally write women off as not worthy of friendship just because you assume there will be challenges and still doesn’t support the idea that women cannot be good friends with men or that your girlfriend shouldn’t also at least be a friend | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/25 03:13 AM |
| 1 | If you don’t see the point in having female friends, you’d absolutely despise dating themWhy would women post themselves playing basketball on social media? On the shame I’m just guessing but like locker room talk is famously disgusting and dehumanizing and it’s well known that men only say it around men because they support treating women like that and no it’s a horrible thing to say to them soooo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/25 12:41 AM |
| 4 | If you don’t see the point in having female friends, you’d absolutely despise dating themBest friend love =/= perfect love. You’ve definitely fought with your friends. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/25 12:40 AM |
| 1 | If you don’t see the point in having female friends, you’d absolutely despise dating themExcept this is the 21st century and there is no point in marrying someone today that you don’t actually like. A lot of women initiate divorce BECAUSE they want a life long love and best friend after years of trying to make it work, they’ve determined that this isn’t it. That’s how relationships work it’s really just trial and error sometimes shit doesn’t go how you want it to. Sometimes people change or even discover they aren’t the same sexuality or gender identity as before. In a transactional… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/25 12:36 AM |
| 7 | If you don’t see the point in having female friends, you’d absolutely despise dating themYou can find a powerful meaningful best friend love connection in reality to if you are a half decent person and look for it. It won’t be perfect but it will be far more worth the time, the stress, the memories, the potential years of your life, than someone you don’t feel that way about. Both relationships will cause most likely the same amount of stress, or at least hold the potential too, but one of them will have some really special moments too even if it falls apart in the end. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/25 12:35 AM |
| 2 | If you don’t see the point in having female friends, you’d absolutely despise dating themYou don’t sleep with your male friends right? Why do you keep them around? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/25 12:33 AM |
| 2 | If you don’t see the point in having female friends, you’d absolutely despise dating themSo have you heard that saying about brutally honest people? It goes like “people who are brutally honest are almost always using it as an excuse to say hurtful things bluntly with no repercussions”. Arguing that because men can be nonchalant at the expense of each others feelings your relationship is more sincere , is a bit of a mixed bag | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/25 12:31 AM |
| 3 | If you don’t see the point in having female friends, you’d absolutely despise dating themThis hinges on the assumption that all women are the same and all men are the same. Which just isn’t true. I’m sure you’re a completely different person than say your dad or your brother, or to go a step further, your coworkers. You probably have nothing in common with a lot of men too, that doesn’t mean men are fundamentally incompatible with you. Again, most arguments against female friendship have no solid basis in reality aside from past experiences and a formulated negative bias. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/25 12:28 AM |
| 1 | If you don’t see the point in having female friends, you’d absolutely despise dating themI know plenty of women who would enjoy competitive basketball with you as long as good sportsmanship is at play. If you have to tone yourself down considerably around women then certain behaviors may be akin to guy talk or guy behaviors because they’re only things you get away with for being a man and that usually is not a good sign… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/25 12:24 AM |
| 1 | If you don’t see the point in having female friends, you’d absolutely despise dating themAny partner who can’t tolerate you having opposite friends is either not in a good head space to be in a serious relationship or has a good reason to be uncomfortable as in maybe your boundaries with your female friends can get a bit iffy? Anyway, either way is possible but with a healthy partner and a person who has appropriate boundaries with their friends that respect the agreed upon expectations of the relationship, it shouldn’t be weird at all | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/25 12:22 AM |
| 0 | If you don’t see the point in having female friends, you’d absolutely despise dating themDoesn’t it sound concerning to you that you can’t foster a sincere connection with anyone that can’t share your exact point of view? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/25 12:19 AM |
| 5 | If you don’t see the point in having female friends, you’d absolutely despise dating themAnd that’s fine for you to feel that way but then how do you expect to have a relationship with them? Or is that not the goal just to clarify? Because if it’s not that’s neither here nor there in this discussion | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/25 12:16 AM |
| 1 | If you don’t see the point in having female friends, you’d absolutely despise dating themI was working. I have a job. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/25 12:15 AM |
| 1 | If you don’t see the point in having female friends, you’d absolutely despise dating themI don’t see how past casual experiences have anything to do with the idea that a relationship is also a friendship. Can you elaborate on that? I’m sorry those situations didn’t go where you wanted them to, but it’s best to disclose your intentions and drop people who don’t want the same things where you can to avoid heart ache. Rejection in any form still hurts but miscommunications can make it so much more excruciating and dragged out. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/25 12:13 AM |
| 1 | If you don’t see the point in having female friends, you’d absolutely despise dating themI don’t think you’re thinking that through. Just imagine all the challenges and strife and burdens of a marriage you’d have to go through with a person you don’t even like much. Relationships are work, and energy and time. A relationship will take up at least a portion of your week or weekend to maintain and foster that connection, so you’d better hope you actually aren’t at the very least bored. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/25 12:11 AM |
| 3 | If you don’t see the point in having female friends, you’d absolutely despise dating themYes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/25 12:07 AM |
| 7 | If you don’t see the point in having female friends, you’d absolutely despise dating themAnd you’d rather do that and even potentially legally bind yourself to a person you have a sort of Luke warm connection to rather than find someone you actually enjoy being with and are excited to spend time with? It doesn’t make any sense. A person I just kind of tolerate could not remain my life partner through thick and thin. That would be miserable. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/25 12:07 AM |
| 21 | If you don’t see the point in having female friends, you’d absolutely despise dating themThe short answer is some men are great people. Kind, caring, funny, compassionate, great to hang out with and not trying to sleep with you. What inherently makes same gender friendships better to you? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/25 12:05 AM |
| 7 | If you don’t see the point in having female friends, you’d absolutely despise dating themsincerely why would you want to devote so much energy to a person you don't enjoy the company of? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/05/25 11:48 PM |
| 0 | If you don’t see the point in having female friends, you’d absolutely despise dating themif your friends genuinely like you they won't mind just coming over to do nothing together like play a board game, or watch movie. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/05/25 11:17 PM |
| 4 | If you don’t see the point in having female friends, you’d absolutely despise dating themHealthy friendships are a balanced give and take- if all of your female friendships are more take than give altogether, again, those are bad friends that don't seem to like you much. It says very little about women to suggest that female friends of your past were poor friends, especially while acknowledging your girlfriend does not make a poor friend, which actually proves my point after all- as you've acknowledge your relationship with her is more balanced in that sense. You already have a fema… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/05/25 11:12 PM |
| 4 | If you don’t see the point in having female friends, you’d absolutely despise dating themThat's definitely different from saying a friendship with a woman is pointless, or women cannot possibly be friends with men, which is the crux I think of the issue this post is focused on. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/05/25 10:52 PM |
| 2 | If you don’t see the point in having female friends, you’d absolutely despise dating themNo. My partner is genuinely my person. My best friend. He gets my weird silly jokes, he loves doing just about anything with me, we call each other and tell each other about our days just about every day, we love sending stupid memes back and forth, we connect on our political beliefs and world outlooks, I genuinely can't think of a better stronger connection. We have our faults and our challenges. But I couldn't ask for a person more beautifully aligned with my hobbies, my inspirations, my valu… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/05/25 10:48 PM |
| 7 | If you don’t see the point in having female friends, you’d absolutely despise dating themThat sounds like a sex based bias then that you're being pretty open about. If your partner is genuinely a good friend, then the argument that women don't make good friends or offer nothing in the way of friendship is a false claim, and more of assumption based on past experiences | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/05/25 10:38 PM |
| 4 | If you don’t see the point in having female friends, you’d absolutely despise dating them"I agree. I still don't see any reason to have a female friends. Anything a female friend can bring to my life is something a male friend will provide to me for cheaper." "Talking to women adds something to my life. Something I can get for cheaper from a male friend. So I don't see why have female friends. It is inefficient. A waste of my time and resources." My guy friends don't pay anything to be my friend, and when we do things together we're happy to take turns or split costs on shared activ… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/05/25 10:32 PM |
| 5 | If you don’t see the point in having female friends, you’d absolutely despise dating themit is a contribution to that discussion yeah! Thanks for acknowledging! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/05/25 10:23 PM |
| 4 | If you don’t see the point in having female friends, you’d absolutely despise dating themBecause a relationship requires spending time with them, hanging out with them, listening to them, which, if you can't stand doing, will breed misery and resentment over time. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/05/25 10:22 PM |
| 7 | If you don’t see the point in having female friends, you’d absolutely despise dating themHow can you expect to connect with a woman in a relationship if you can't even enjoy bonding with them in a non sexual manner? It's hard to fathom nurturing genuinely loving connections with anyone I wouldn't also want to hang out with and be myself with in the same way I am with my closest friends | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/05/25 10:17 PM |
| 1 | If you don’t see the point in having female friends, you’d absolutely despise dating themDid you read the full body of the post or just get worked up by the title? That is not the purpose of the post. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/05/25 10:10 PM |
| 5 | If you don’t see the point in having female friends, you’d absolutely despise dating themDid you read the body of the post or..... ? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/05/25 10:09 PM |
| 4 | If you don’t see the point in having female friends, you’d absolutely despise dating themIf you have nothing in common with a woman, such as views, interests, hobbies, that relationship isn't built on anything solid or meaningful and I don't know that it will last tbh. If you have yet to meet a woman that has genuinely related to anything about you, you either haven't met the right person or you maybe aren't ready to be with someone. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/05/25 10:08 PM |
| 1 | If you don’t see the point in having female friends, you’d absolutely despise dating themWhat benefits do your male friends offer you, why don't we find out that first so I can understand how you personally feel about friendship first. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/05/25 10:06 PM |
| 8 | If you don’t see the point in having female friends, you’d absolutely despise dating themI did not say it necesarily helps with dating- my only argument is you're not going to enjoy a woman's company that you're dating if you don't enjoy keeping women around as your friends because it's not that different in some ways- you have to be able to hang out with women to genuinely enjoy a relationship with one or it won't have a solid foundation. I do think being an approachable person who knows how to be polite with women and respectful is a great thing too, but if you're expecting it to … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/05/25 10:06 PM |
| 4 | If you don’t see the point in having female friends, you’d absolutely despise dating themNo one said you'd have to do anything particularly different than you would with your other friends. Play video games together, hang out, drive around listening to tunes- do whatever you normally do with a friend sans some of the potentially more weird stuff like locker room talk or scratching your balls in front of them if that's something you do with the homies. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/05/25 10:03 PM |
| 9 | If you don’t see the point in having female friends, you’d absolutely despise dating themI've never met a man like that if I'm honest. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/05/25 10:01 PM |
| 5 | If you don’t see the point in having female friends, you’d absolutely despise dating themHow can you expect to be in a relationship with a woman you can't even call a friend? What does that look like to you? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/05/25 10:01 PM |
| 5 | If you don’t see the point in having female friends, you’d absolutely despise dating themif you don't have any of those things in common with a woman, why would you even want a relationship with one? Why spend time with a person when both of you would likely bore each other to death outside the bedroom? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/05/25 09:55 PM |
| 18 | If you don’t see the point in having female friends, you’d absolutely despise dating themI firmly agree with this, if you literally can't stand to spend time with any man, dating one wouldn't make any sense. I don't think every person expressing frustration from negative experiences with men literally hates them but in general, a basic level of decency and respect is the minimum. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/05/25 09:52 PM |
| 6 | If you don’t see the point in having female friends, you’d absolutely despise dating themthis is such a great way of putting it | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/05/25 09:50 PM |
| 1 | Monogamy Is the Only Logical Sexual Pairing ModelI personally prefer monogamy and think it can work better for most people but even I can acknowledge other relationship dynamics have been known to work for certain people. They are not for everyone and when poly was especially in and trendy nonmonogamy was often pushed upon monogamous people while calling them small minded which is detestable in my opinion, but I cannot even then, argue that poly doesn’t work for people who choose it. It’s a very different kind of love than the kind that I know… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/05/25 01:02 PM |
| 1 | Is oral sex a compensation or not?Not at all. It’s just an element of exploring each others bodies. Is giving oral a punishment or chore to you? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/05/25 12:20 AM |
| 1 | It’s not worth it for men to have female friends, too many downsides, not enough benefit.My best friend is a man. I watch movies and play video games with. I hug him and have special jokes with him. We have movie marathons and send memes to each other. We are super close. I save my venting mostly for my therapist or my partner who is also akin to a best friend in our closeness. But sometimes I do vent to him about things he understands like having a toxic family growing up, our similar political views and both being bullied kids when we were young. He does the same with me. It isn’t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/05/25 07:04 PM |
| 1 | Women feel they are the same value as any guy they have sex withI don’t believe in leagues or objective value. I observe qualities in the men I’ve been with based on what I am informed and what I observe and rather than seeing a man as in a certain league, I noticed areas that he may be more knowledgeable and confident and areas he may be less so. I might notice a guy is more socially awkward than me but have better skills in playing a musical instrument or know more about a certain thing like philosophy or science. He might have a different aesthetic than m… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/05/25 10:27 PM |
| – | Women don't mind men being starved for intimacy. Women do mind if men find a fix for it that does not involve them or if they walk away or worse if men decide to deny intimacy to them.I’m not automatically assuming it, I’m just operating under the logic that it is a very possibility and I want no association with even that as a possibility. It’s not a risk worth taking when there are options that don’t pose it. It’s like saying one in ten of a certain fruit contain deadly levels of arsenic and will kill you and deciding to still eat it knowing that. So what if it isn’t every time, it’s still a very real possibility. Also I have never needed money to motivate me to want to hav… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/05/25 05:12 PM |
| – | Women don't mind men being starved for intimacy. Women do mind if men find a fix for it that does not involve them or if they walk away or worse if men decide to deny intimacy to them.Sugar Daddy / Sugar Babies are still protected legally in most countries as an ethical above the board dynamic. If a sugar baby is physically abused they can still safely take that issue to court. A sugar baby is not necessarily agreeing to consent as the end all be all purpose of the relationship. Boundaries and consent are still accounted for. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/05/25 05:11 PM |
| – | Women don't mind men being starved for intimacy. Women do mind if men find a fix for it that does not involve them or if they walk away or worse if men decide to deny intimacy to them.There is absolutely no reason not to overcome those problems ethically through therapy. I don’t care why people do it, the end does not justify the means. If the individual is being exploited odds are you are sexually traumatizing them. Again- sex workers are humans too and they’re not being treated like them in this equation. Find an alternative that doesn’t potentially emotionally scar another human where consent is clear and the source is ethical. And if it’s simply human touch you need, ther… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/05/25 03:11 PM |
| – | Women don't mind men being starved for intimacy. Women do mind if men find a fix for it that does not involve them or if they walk away or worse if men decide to deny intimacy to them.Things I am all for: - AI GFs - Ethical Porn - Sex toys / sex bots - Celibacy by choice - other forms of going your own way - passport bro-ing with mutual consent and understanding - Sugar babies / Sugar Daddy situations - pursuing cougars / individuals who are within a 5 year age difference or at least above 30 as it may be easier and make more sense than dating your age - long distance VR / online relationships that are otherwise healthy Things I am genuinely against and why: prostitution: as … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/05/25 08:28 AM |
| – | Women don't mind men being starved for intimacy. Women do mind if men find a fix for it that does not involve them or if they walk away or worse if men decide to deny intimacy to them.Thank you! This! All of this! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/05/25 08:22 AM |
| 2 | the game plan for women?I love marriage as a concept and am a hopeless romantic. But I want to work out some of the problems in our relationship first and that may take a while. I want to be careful about getting wed to ensure that we are ready and have a working dynamic first as divorce can be enormously costly and sometimes becoming married itself can put a complicated strain on an already imperfect couple. I think marriage in general is awesome but it should be done thoughtfully with mature insight | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/05/25 01:43 PM |
| 13 | the game plan for women?Survive. Maybe get married to my bf of 2 years. idk. We'll see. Heal my mental health. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/05/25 11:51 PM |
| 2 | Does porn warp women's expectations of penis size the same way it does for men?I don’t think so. Maybe if you had never been with one for real you might have some strange ideas on what they should look like but after I started having sex I didn’t really compare what they looked like size wise, I just paid attention to how they felt and if it felt good that’s all I cared about. I watch porn but I notice when the junk is unnaturally huge and I don’t really care for it. I think it just looks better on camera because visually it’s more to look at which is why the porn industry… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/05/25 12:54 PM |
| – | If a woman genuinely likes a man, she'll make it easy for him.I agree 100% while some of us may be more shy than to immediately express that we want them as much as we do, we do not need to be pursued with money or nice things. If we like them we want to be around them and that is it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/05/25 12:49 PM |
| 1 | If you want to avoid the “friend zone” be honest about your intentions early onYou’re not a creep you’re just wasting time and energy miscommunicating what you want from each other and creating misunderstandings. And there is a difference between waiting a few weeks or months to be sure you know them well enough and years of friendship. It’s not black and white. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/05/25 01:13 PM |
| 3 | If you want to avoid the “friend zone” be honest about your intentions early onIf you get rejected in the beginning you’re saving yourself time and energy on something that would have panned out anyway. It’s okay to be honest about what you want and accept when someone else doesn’t want the same and just move on. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/05/25 05:08 PM |
| 3 | If you want to avoid the “friend zone” be honest about your intentions early onI agree but I feel the type of people who complain about being "friend zoned" don't want to preserve the friendship after all and are dissatisfied with having a friend altogether. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/05/25 03:48 PM |
| 3 | If you want to avoid the “friend zone” be honest about your intentions early onyes. Several actually lol. Was that supposed to be a gotcha? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/05/25 03:24 PM |
| 0 | If you want to avoid the “friend zone” be honest about your intentions early onThere is a difference between hitting on a stranger and crushing on a friend for years and saying nothing. This isn't black and white. You can get to know someone for a month or two and tell them you're looking for something more and see how that goes. But befriending someone long term especially if they are with someone else for the majority of that friendship and then dropping the bomb that you don't see them as a friend is strange. You're treating it like there is no in between but there very… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/05/25 03:23 PM |
| 2 | If you want to avoid the “friend zone” be honest about your intentions early onThat anything outside of casual sex requires basic social skills and abilities | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/05/25 03:09 PM |
| -2 | If you want to avoid the “friend zone” be honest about your intentions early onEven if you get rejected upfront by someone, is it not better to save years of your life, potentially wasted pining over someone who doesn't feel the same? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/05/25 03:08 PM |
| 5 | If you want to avoid the “friend zone” be honest about your intentions early onSometimes the change in dynamic can be a hard transition and that is fine. I do think honesty and transparency is important but it's understandable | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/05/25 03:05 PM |
| 7 | If you want to avoid the “friend zone” be honest about your intentions early onThen this isn’t categorically friendzoning because that was the expectation from the start | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/05/25 02:20 PM |
| 3 | If you want to avoid the “friend zone” be honest about your intentions early onExactly, I think some people drag out asking the person out because they’re avoiding rejection. But delaying it won’t really change it. After a month or two AT MOST, most people know what they want from you. When we say make friends first we’re not suggesting be friends for years and form a trusting platonic bond just to drop this bomb on them, we mean stop chasing absolute strangers who don’t trust you. 👏🏻 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/05/25 01:42 PM |
| 6 | If you want to avoid the “friend zone” be honest about your intentions early onIf that is your opinion make it clear early on with a woman. If she’s looking for only friends then she’ll know you guys wouldn’t mesh well Some people aren’t sexually attracted to all their friends and just value hanging out together. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/05/25 01:38 PM |
| 3 | Going your own way (for both genders) is by far the best optionwomen have porn and smutty books and a lot of us aren't even straight so like keep dreaming. Women very much do not need men to fulfill their sexual needs. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/05/25 03:15 AM |
| 3 | Going your own way (for both genders) is by far the best optionr/4bmovement LMFAO. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/05/25 03:12 AM |
| 1 | Going your own way (for both genders) is by far the best optionI would not describe these as instincts at all. Learned behaviors with conscious thought. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/05/25 12:04 AM |
| 2 | Going your own way (for both genders) is by far the best optionand the thing is, you may still have issues in other parts of a relationship that could still contribute to a person feeling like you do not add to their life in a positive way. Just incompatibilities and such | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/25 11:23 PM |
| 2 | Going your own way (for both genders) is by far the best optionLmao, social Darwinism is insufferable. I can tell you point-blank why I, as a woman, run the other way from a controlling, demanding, clingy man. I'm concerned that their instability could be highly reactive and dangerous, and escalate to more abusive behaviors. Their mental health issues are worrying and show a lack of independence and ability to self-regulate, which could mean they have a higher risk of being abusive. However, in the circumstance where they were open and honest with their nee… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/25 11:20 PM |
| 1 | Going your own way (for both genders) is by far the best option" I mean look at this post, "beauty standards", the poor girl thinks broad shoulders on men and wide hips on women are made up beauty standards by the illuminati,, that's just biology, we are wired to find those things attractive, nobody is inventing beauty standards " - and here we see another man who is wildly confident and horrendously ignorant. I'm not even going to bother explaining why you have the IQ of a tortilla for thinking like this. Anthropology and centuries of documented history ca… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/25 11:12 PM |
| 3 | Going your own way (for both genders) is by far the best option"neediness" / "clinginess" is a sign of mental health issues and attachment issues, regardless of gender and I've very much been the needy one that was rejected and avoided for that exact issue lmao. It's a mental health issue that impacts both issues and a sign to get help. No one accepted my mental health conditions as normal. Also how do you even define "needy". I think texting constantly demanding responses and getting upset without it every 5 minutes is inappropriate neediness for example, … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/25 10:46 PM |
| 3 | Going your own way (for both genders) is by far the best option"Women in general don't want a needy man. They want a man who doesn't need them but wants them. " No one wants a NEEDY person who is desperate and controlling and demands your attention. That's mentally ill. "Hence a man must find a purpose other than a relationship, whatever that may be, before he is able to be fully accepted by a women. " The horror men must (gasp) have a life, what a cruel cruel expectation | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/25 10:32 PM |
| 2 | Going your own way (for both genders) is by far the best optionshow me where I wrote that lmao | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/25 10:31 PM |
| 0 | Going your own way (for both genders) is by far the best optionNo, describing a life where you are fulfilled with your hobbies and joys and friendships and community, and mentally well to the point of not desperately needing a romantic partnership as hell sounds like a person with codependency issues and lack of self and identity | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/25 10:30 PM |
| 2 | Going your own way (for both genders) is by far the best optionSome of my best friends are literally men like this. It's so hilarious how you're literally arguing against my own words that I wrote because of baseless vibes. Just say you have an irrational bias and think you know how I think better than I do and log off in that case. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/25 10:23 PM |
| 3 | Going your own way (for both genders) is by far the best optionLiterally my entire post is about the benefits of self fullfillment. Did you even read it? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/25 10:10 PM |
| 6 | Going your own way (for both genders) is by far the best optionNot at all. Re-read the post. The argument was never die alone. The argument is to stop trying to force connections when they don’t happen. To stop blaming the opposite gender online. To stop wallowing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/25 10:09 PM |
| 6 | Going your own way (for both genders) is by far the best optionMany of my closest male friends are single and amazing people with individual lives. They are leading their own paths and happy. There is a difference between "Women suck we don't need you LOL!" and "I'm just going to do what makes me happy and if I find someone that's great but I'm not going to endlessly search and fuss and scream about being entitled to something, I'm going to put me first and be indifferent to it." | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/25 09:59 PM |
| 2 | Going your own way (for both genders) is by far the best option"perfectly fine"? No, life is never effortless, that's just unrealistic. But worse off than they would be in a relationship? No, I don't think so. I think that mentally well person is very much capable of being as much happy alone as they would be with a partner. It is very much possible to foster connections as deeply supportive as a relationship without being in one and to supplement the desire for romance in other creative outlets or media. Romance novels and media exist purely for the feelin… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/25 09:51 PM |
| 2 | Going your own way (for both genders) is by far the best optionThere this a difference between not having options, and being at peace with being alone. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/25 09:38 PM |
| 2 | Going your own way (for both genders) is by far the best option"My pushback would be that relationships actually are worth it, even the fucked up ones. ~As long as we aren't talking seriously messed up (lets be reasonable people). " There's your problem right there. A LOT of relationships are legitimately unfixable, psychologically debilitating, and life-ruining. Count your lucky stars if you've never endured a relationship that made you look back and wish you had just stayed single. There are relationships that are worth it, don't get wrong, but there are … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/25 09:30 PM |
| 2 | Going your own way (for both genders) is by far the best option""self improvement to achieve what our parents and grandparents achieved with little effort" will start to die" exactly, people are taking this to mean that I don't approve of people changing or adapting. I do, just not for the end goal of getting laid but for the opportunity to live their own lives for their own purpose, other than shallow glamourized sex appeal and validation. Self improvement to be hot and fit and sexy is entirely different than self improvement to be the best artist, writer,… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/25 09:23 PM |
| – | Going your own way (for both genders) is by far the best optionSo tell me about your codependence problems, did it start with your mother? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/25 09:21 PM |
| 1 | Going your own way (for both genders) is by far the best optionliterally just read the post. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/25 09:14 PM |
| 3 | Going your own way (for both genders) is by far the best optionGoing your own way is literally just self-improvement with a focus more on what makes you happy and improves your own mental health, rather than for the sake of getting laid. So much self-improvement on the RP side of things is entirely focused on attracting women to the point of it all being ultimately shallow and based in empty hypermasculine ideals like "gymmaxxing" and "looksmaxxing" or pickup artistry. Going your own way is just focusing solely on the qualities about yourself that make you … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/25 09:09 PM |
| 7 | Going your own way (for both genders) is by far the best optionI support non-antagonistic MGTOW practices. Folks that keep their heads down, work, pay the bills, and spend all their free time on their hobbies, their videos games, etc- maybe have an AI GF or waifu or whatever helps fill the gaps if it makes them feel content. I think there shouldn't be any negativity towards that choice as it is far less harmful than a toxic relationship where individuals struggle for control and force one another to surrender freedoms and healthy connections due to a lack o… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/25 08:59 PM |
| 4 | Going your own way (for both genders) is by far the best optionI think there is too much pressure on the idea that one HAS to have a partner to PROVE they are lovable or worth something to others. I think the pressure and expectation of partnership and conformity is a real societal issue. But I think the gender wars and demanding compliance from the opposite sex is misdirected energy and a disturbing mutation of old world misogyny rather than a willingness to confront the actual issue that today's individual face. Which is simply an intense expectation for … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/25 08:56 PM |
| 1 | Going your own way (for both genders) is by far the best optionI'm not going to respond to the questioning of an obvious hyperbolic complaint that was cherry-picked out of the body of my body comment. You can acknowledge the actual meat of my argument or accept no reply. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/25 08:52 PM |
| 3 | Going your own way (for both genders) is by far the best option"Sounds like it was easy as fuck for you. " I was emotionally and physically abused and raped several times. "You don't understand that men who whine have nothing but a very intense warm feeling inside them that pulls their whole being." I am a hopeless romantic. Believe it or not, having a thousand options where 9999 of them treat you like an inhuman piece of meat is just as depressing and dreadful as loneliness, arguably far worse. "Meanwhile, what, you had some experiences that weren't so goo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/25 08:34 PM |
| 6 | Going your own way (for both genders) is by far the best optionI would describe this post as extremely hopeful. In what world is this nihilistic? Find one sentence that supports that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/25 08:20 PM |
| 2 | Going your own way (for both genders) is by far the best option"There's a difference between self improvement and trying to improve aspects of yourself to make you more appealing to potential partners." So you agree, that people should go their own way then? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/25 08:18 PM |
| 4 | Going your own way (for both genders) is by far the best optionImagine thinking that just doing what makes you happy instead basing your existence and self worth on getting laid "batshit crazy". Your therapist will have their work cut out for them when you finally get that in check. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/25 08:17 PM |
| 2 | Going your own way (for both genders) is by far the best optionIt does honestly take time to formulate a community, and with adult responsibilities, that can be hard. I honestly would recommend picking a hobby like DnD / TRPGs, a multiplayer game that can be played on a console, a sports team that you can watch the regular games of, a fitness or hiking group, cosplay, honestly there are so many options. That being said, this is worded alarmingly like you've never had a hobby that you've shared with a friend to bond over. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/25 08:07 PM |
| 6 | Going your own way (for both genders) is by far the best option"they still have access to sex and relationships even when they're not looking for them, and with relatively minimal effort." - Sex where they often don't reach orgasm or enjoy themselves, and relationships where they may experience more stress and dissatisfaction than many people feel it is worth. I am not here to argue who is more negatively impacted by the relationship that treats who worse here, but with relationships often creating such unhappiness in many people, is this really the plus yo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/25 08:04 PM |
| 8 | Going your own way (for both genders) is by far the best optionIt is in fact not easy. However the net positives for society and the individual are notably better than what’s going on as of late. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/25 07:27 PM |
| – | Most Men Do not truly want a relationshipI honestly think you might find yourself at home in the LGBTQ community and Aromantic community. It sounds like you just personally don’t desire that to me which is completely valid. Some men do some men don’t, it is far healthier to embrace the idea of being aromantic or whatever is your happiest identity than to fight it and try to conform with allosexual alloromantic hereronormative expectations. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to be alone. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/25 07:25 PM |
| 4 | Going your own way (for both genders) is by far the best optionWhy not devote this anger and aggression so many lonely men have towards forming those communities rather than their romantic or sexual desires. I am not here to argue romantic or sexual needs don’t exist. But healthy self worth and mental health can make an enormous impact on how much value and emotional distress is attributed to a lack of sexual fulfillment. An otherwise happy person surrounded by caring friends and fun shit to do all the time, is far less likely to be drawn to the belligerent… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/25 07:22 PM |
| 15 | Going your own way (for both genders) is by far the best optionRight? Or forfeit elements of who you are just to not be alone. I think so much anger on this site comes from an unwillingness or fear of just being alone. And less people would be so malicious about demanding relationships from the opposite sex with the made peace with the value of self worth and solitude | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/25 07:18 PM |
| – | Most Men Do not truly want a relationshipThe impression I get from this post is that OP may be aromantic or just tired of trying to connect with others and that is completely fine tbh. It is an individual want but to any men who feel that way, I encourage you to do what works for you, we don’t want to change your mind if going solo is the answer | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/25 07:15 PM |
| – | Women don't "owe" men relationships...But it's reasonable for men to be upset about not having themI’m not claiming that at all, that is a straw man argument. I’m stating that forcing relationships that people do not choose to be in of their own desire or free will purely due to the black and white logic of “being alone is always harder than not” is only going to create dysfunctional relationships. Not that men specifically are the toxic ones but any dynamic that forces two people to be together and sacrifice their individual lives and freedoms for each other when they don’t even like each ot… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/25 06:54 PM |
| – | Women don't "owe" men relationships...But it's reasonable for men to be upset about not having themJust because something is hard for you to understand doesn't make you correct; it means your perspective is distorted based on your own wants, rather than a realistic understanding of what the alternative is. ETA: This isn't starving VS overeating, that's a poor analogy. It's more like the difference between starving and eating cyanide | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/25 03:33 PM |
| – | Women don't "owe" men relationships...But it's reasonable for men to be upset about not having themDo you think relationships where people don’t like each other actually work? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/25 02:28 PM |
| – | Women don't "owe" men relationships...But it's reasonable for men to be upset about not having themPretty much any relationship where two people aren’t compatible or don’t like each other intrinsically and are together for the sake of having a relationship winds up being messy and ugly pretty quickly even it doesn’t become super toxic- it doesn’t work out and the best scenario is two people waste years of their life stuck with someone they barely tolerate only to break up anyways and wind back up at square one because they didn’t have a good foundation to begin with. Toxic or not relationship… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/25 02:26 PM |
| – | Women don't "owe" men relationships...But it's reasonable for men to be upset about not having themhttps://www.who.int/news/item/09-03-2021-devastatingly-pervasive-1-in-3-women-globally-experience-violence Why are guys like you sporting your ignorance like a trophy? Is it a kink to make yourself look stupid and be proven wrong? Google one thing in your life before confidently pulling nonsense out of your ass lmao. I’m literally getting second hand embarrassment for you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/25 02:15 PM |
| – | Women don't "owe" men relationships...But it's reasonable for men to be upset about not having them1 In 3 women are victims of assault. Rare? Get real! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/25 02:09 PM |
| – | Women don't "owe" men relationships...But it's reasonable for men to be upset about not having themBecause there’s such resentment towards women for making the logically better choice like we’re so horrible for sparing you an unhappy relationship with us when you are just as angry and unhappy if not more when you get that. Because knowing it’s the better option and still being resentful and bitter that you can’t magically get everything you want is irrational and the female gender doesn’t owe it to you to magically make it so you can always get what you want and nothing else. Because you’re c… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/25 02:05 PM |
| – | Women don't "owe" men relationships...But it's reasonable for men to be upset about not having themI’m sure it feels worse to some people, I certainly know it didn’t for me as all the people that wanted to date me were so demeaning and judgmental I felt just as rejected as ever. Most men are not considering how many guys pursuing us will say horrible hurtful things to lower our self esteem, or assault us, and so forth. An interested man can do some genuinely traumatic shit to the target of their interest. But none of that is the point. The point is that not getting into a toxic relationship j… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/25 02:03 PM |
| – | Women don't "owe" men relationships...But it's reasonable for men to be upset about not having themYou’re arguing them it’s valid for men to be angry and resentful for a lack of relationship without any consideration for the fact that avoiding a toxic relationship with you is honestly a kindness to your mental health and the better choice. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/25 02:00 PM |
| – | Women don't "owe" men relationships...But it's reasonable for men to be upset about not having themThe point isn’t that being alone is easy. It’s that everyone copes with loneliness in some form or another and most people who choose it are mature enough to realize they aren’t compatible with anyone. It’s ultimately to your benefit a lot of the time that someone uninterested in you hasn’t felt pressured to date you anyway out of pity and to alleviate your loneliness. The women choosing not to date are just as lonely as you no doubt, but they don’t want to endure the trauma of a seriously toxic… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/25 01:57 PM |
| – | Women don't "owe" men relationships...But it's reasonable for men to be upset about not having themWith the number of posts on here ranting about gold digging, baby trapping, cheating, alimony and child support- you’d think it’d come you guys a little sooner that the wrong partner is so much worse than no partner at all. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/25 01:50 PM |
| 6 | If men objectify women with their bodies, women objectify men with their ressources.I mean yes, if a woman pursues a partner solely for their resources, that would certainly be a kind of objectification. I don't think anyone is arguing with that like, at all really. If all a partner is to you, is their job, their car, their house or whatever, that's definitely objectification. The thing is most people are struggling in this economy. I don't think most women could go for the gold-digging lifestyle even if they wanted to, there's hardly enough gold to go around, at least where I'… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/25 06:27 AM |
| 1 | Females, you're not single because a lack of quality men. Its because you're not pretty enough to get a rich one.I’ve never actually wanted a rich man is the thing. I’m childfree and many men who have worked hard for their careers and are now searching for a partner, have the expectation that I be the stay at home baby maker, which doesn’t interest me. I don’t want gaps in my resume as it could strip me of the ability to re-enter the working class in case the relationship fails, so I have no interest in becoming a stay at home pet for a rich man to provide for. I’d be a bit unsettled by the difference in p… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/05/25 12:45 PM |
| 1 | Q4M: Why are so many of you so convinced that abusers are obvious, blatant, cartoonishly evil people that can be easily spotted?A lot of them do. They aren’t a monolith. On some level I think what he did he knew was wrong. But I think you can be a part of the problem and know on some level but keep pushing it down and denying it. He had to know on some level because I even told him I didn’t want sex in the mornings and he had to stop and he kept doing it. At that point he very much knew it was unwanted. So I think it was just denial. I still think in a way my past traumas drew me to him but not as consciously as some abu… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/05/25 12:08 AM |
| 3 | Q4M: Why are so many of you so convinced that abusers are obvious, blatant, cartoonishly evil people that can be easily spotted?As I've explained in other comments, research supports that people who have been previously abused are more likely to be abused again because abuse feels normal to them and it's what they're used to. So it's actually very believable that an abuse victim is abused again, statistically many abuse victims were initially mistreated in childhood, where they learned the idea that this is normal, and breaking the pattern later in life is very difficult. It's not that EVERY guy is abusive, though it's d… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/05/25 11:53 PM |
| 2 | Q4M: Why are so many of you so convinced that abusers are obvious, blatant, cartoonishly evil people that can be easily spotted?Alright, fair. Just as much may be the wrong lingo to use. I'd still argue that being an abuser is horrible, shameful, monstrous thing to do that in no should even remotely compare to the crime of what, trusting someone else to be a decent person? How do you even compare the two as equal or deserving of each other? And trusting a person does not MAKE them abuse you. Abusers want to abuse. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/05/25 11:45 PM |
| 2 | Q4M: Why are so many of you so convinced that abusers are obvious, blatant, cartoonishly evil people that can be easily spotted?Here's what's especially interesting. Another redditor and I were just talking about how abuse and being a bad partner or friend isn't super black and white, and it can be hard to self-reflect and realize you're a bad person. Many people will have weird justifications in their heads for what they do to others, convincing themselves they had to do it for some reason or that others just wouldn't understand. Others even just push the memories of their worst actions down and pretend they didn't happ… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/05/25 11:40 PM |
| 1 | Q4M: Why are so many of you so convinced that abusers are obvious, blatant, cartoonishly evil people that can be easily spotted?Again, either before they know the person is as abusive as they are, or because they feel this is what they deserve, this is normal for them. Neither of those are choices to be abused. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/05/25 11:31 PM |
| 3 | Q4M: Why are so many of you so convinced that abusers are obvious, blatant, cartoonishly evil people that can be easily spotted?No you dude. What?! "Only women are that gullible". Men get abused just as much as women in different and unique ways related to their role in society, but nonetheless. Why are they not also "gullible" and "choosing badly" ? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/05/25 11:27 PM |
| 3 | Q4M: Why are so many of you so convinced that abusers are obvious, blatant, cartoonishly evil people that can be easily spotted?A lot more children than you think are accidental. And again, that man also made that baby, while BEING the one who was doing the abusing, and knowing how that would hurt mother and child, and choosing not to change course or get therapy. That is a far worse decision to make. And women that wind up with baby daddies were often treated like dirt long before they became a mother. The term alone "baby daddy" is associated with poorer people in more complicated situations in life. People like this t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/05/25 11:26 PM |
| 2 | Q4M: Why are so many of you so convinced that abusers are obvious, blatant, cartoonishly evil people that can be easily spotted?As explained in my other comments " It can take years, even decades, for a person to fully slip off their mask, and most abusers intentionally wait until their victim is somewhat dependent on them to do it, so they have nowhere to run. Even then, a victim can have extremely low self-worth and self-esteem and a history of abusive family members that have conditioned them to feel that this what they deserve, that people have always treated them this way so they must deserve it somehow, that they a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/05/25 11:17 PM |
| 3 | Q4M: Why are so many of you so convinced that abusers are obvious, blatant, cartoonishly evil people that can be easily spotted?"Only women are that gullible and accepting of people on their act." Male sexual abuse is very much a real issue, and the majority of the perpetrators of it are other men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/05/25 11:13 PM |
| 7 | Q4M: Why are so many of you so convinced that abusers are obvious, blatant, cartoonishly evil people that can be easily spotted?That just sounds like a ton of black and white thinking to me on either side. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/05/25 11:07 PM |
| 11 | Q4M: Why are so many of you so convinced that abusers are obvious, blatant, cartoonishly evil people that can be easily spotted?"So yes I will agree with what you're saying here, it comes from trauma. " "THIS is what men call out." you just acknowledged she's a victim and was traumatized and abused and you're still mad at her rather than him?.... forrrr...... wanting an abuser to love her because it's all she knows?... make that make sense to me. You're wrong and you're still standing by your victim blaming. I hope she blocks you if she hasn't already, it sounds like you can't for the life of you, stop blaming her instea… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/05/25 11:04 PM |
| 9 | Q4M: Why are so many of you so convinced that abusers are obvious, blatant, cartoonishly evil people that can be easily spotted?"And for people who say that “why do these women keep getting into abusive relationships”, it’s because a lot of times that’s what feels familiar to them. When all you’ve known your entire life is an emotional rollercoaster, emotional stability feels unfamiliar and scary." Thank you! this is a big one I wanted to address. Often when abuse against women is talked about on this sub, no one wants to acknowledge the well known and researched phenomenon of previously abused and groomed individuals be… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/05/25 10:59 PM |
| 2 | Q4M: Why are so many of you so convinced that abusers are obvious, blatant, cartoonishly evil people that can be easily spotted?You're only noticing the obvious ones because you CAN'T notice the ones that aren't obvious. That's how perception works. Of course, you only notice the obvious abusers, they're the EASIEST ones to notice. You've likely never had to slowly peel back the layers of a genuinely deceptive and dangerous abuser because you've never been a target of abuse. Side note: it's APPALLING that I've had to explain confirmation bias and statistical blind spots to this many men. Education has failed you guys or … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/05/25 10:34 PM |
| 13 | Q4M: Why are so many of you so convinced that abusers are obvious, blatant, cartoonishly evil people that can be easily spotted?You've completely missed the point twice now. you're only noticing the obvious ones because you CAN'T notice the ones that aren't obvious. That's how perception works. Of course you only notice the obvious abusers, they're the EASIEST ones to notice. You've likely never had to slowly peal back the layers of a genuinely deceptive and dangerous abuser because you've never been a target of abuse. I'm honestly concerned for your mental comprehension that this is so hard to understand. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/05/25 10:27 PM |
| 4 | Q4M: Why are so many of you so convinced that abusers are obvious, blatant, cartoonishly evil people that can be easily spotted?"Because every abuser I've known was obvious, blatant, cartoonishly evil and easily spotted." Of course. That's like saying every breath you've taken went into your lungs, or every time you drank water, a liquid went down your throat. Of course, they were noticeable; that's how you noticed them. If someone is good at hiding their worst qualities, and they aren't personally targeting you as the individual to take them out on, you'd never know about them. As I've explained to others, the majority … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/05/25 10:16 PM |
| 12 | Q4M: Why are so many of you so convinced that abusers are obvious, blatant, cartoonishly evil people that can be easily spotted?That's a fair assessment and I would argue it's never black and white, we have all been bad friends or partners in some ways though some are far worse than others. A lot of folks don't fully reflect on how even small actions can just make you a poor quality partner in general. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/05/25 09:58 PM |
| 21 | Q4M: Why are so many of you so convinced that abusers are obvious, blatant, cartoonishly evil people that can be easily spotted?It can take years, even decades, for a person to fully slip off their mask, and most abusers intentionally wait until their victim is somewhat dependent on them to do it, so they have nowhere to run. Even then, a victim can have extremely low self-worth and self-esteem and a history of abusive family members that have conditioned them to feel that this what they deserve, that people have always treated them this way so they must deserve it somehow, that they are somehow just pissing everyone off… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/05/25 09:51 PM |
| 3 | Q4M: Why are so many of you so convinced that abusers are obvious, blatant, cartoonishly evil people that can be easily spotted?I appreciate you reflecting. Empathy and support for victims is for everyone! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/05/25 09:12 PM |
| 10 | Q4M: Why are so many of you so convinced that abusers are obvious, blatant, cartoonishly evil people that can be easily spotted?Your anger and pain over having a traumatic childhood are valid, but it still doesn't answer the question of any of these factors, and it sounds like you should go to therapy instead of taking your mommy issues out on other women. It's odd you aren't more angry at the men who hurt you both too, but I wouldn't know much about that dynamic. But still, that just means you need therapy rather than assuming every woman is like your mother or even that your mother WANTED that life for you and her. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/05/25 08:55 PM |
| 9 | Q4M: Why are so many of you so convinced that abusers are obvious, blatant, cartoonishly evil people that can be easily spotted?"Because they are so blatantly obvious to me." The ones you could identify were because that's how that works. Look I can do it too! 100% of people who have died are dead! No way!! Mind blowing!! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/05/25 08:51 PM |
| 5 | Q4M: Why are so many of you so convinced that abusers are obvious, blatant, cartoonishly evil people that can be easily spotted?"Because every abuser I've known was obvious, blatant, cartoonishly evil and easily spotted." Is like saying every time you drank you swallowed or every person alive has breathed oxygen. It's weak af and proves nothing. Of course they were obvious, that's how you spotted them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/05/25 08:47 PM |
| 11 | Q4M: Why are so many of you so convinced that abusers are obvious, blatant, cartoonishly evil people that can be easily spotted?Yeah actually. Do they have children together? What kind of manipulation tactics does he normally employ? Is she disabled? Does she have a reliable job? A reliable method of transportation? Somewhere to go if she needs to get away? When did the hitting start? How long have they been together? Is drug abuse involved? see how you didn't even think about a single one of these factors? It's embarrassing how black and white this logic is, how can you be proud of that? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/05/25 08:45 PM |
| 8 | Q4M: Why are so many of you so convinced that abusers are obvious, blatant, cartoonishly evil people that can be easily spotted?I'm sure it is easy to point out men who espouse their narcissistic beliefs to you, but I want to mention that men get abused and hurt by other men all the time, and sometimes their loved ones or family members. The majority of male sexual assault victims were assaulted by OTHER MEN. Meaning that abusive men are not easy to spot even by other men, let alone by their actual targets who they intentionally want to fool. It's also worth mentioning that a heterosexual friendship with a man tells you … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/05/25 08:43 PM |
| 7 | Q4M: Why are so many of you so convinced that abusers are obvious, blatant, cartoonishly evil people that can be easily spotted?I've never told a man that, and I don't agree with it. No one should be victim blamed, regardless, but I have yet to meet a woman who has said that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/05/25 08:29 PM |
| 0 | Women want men who are kind , Emotionally available , considerate but they will throw away all of that for a guy thats just tall , funny and good in bedNeither. I’d gently let down the nice one if we haven’t been able to improve his performance by just telling him we aren’t compatible in some aspects and I’d completely ghost the arrogant one once his shitty personality became clear to me without any further discussion. Sex is a skill and if the good guy can’t improve after multiple sessions it could be a sign of someone who does not understand me or listen to my feedback to say the least. But regardless being good at one skill doesn’t fix anyth… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/25 02:01 PM |
| 3 | Women want men who are kind , Emotionally available , considerate but they will throw away all of that for a guy thats just tall , funny and good in bedYou can absolutely be the majority of these things and not be perfect. My boyfriend is spectacular in bed, sweet, affectionate, committed and we’ve always had the same sense of humor. He isn’t above 6 foot but height truly is not as arbitrary and important to most women as guys on here will have you believe. And he still isn’t perfect. He’s human. We have communication issues. We’re both messy, forgetful, disorganized. But he’s wonderful in all the ways that actually matter to me. If you think t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/25 07:45 AM |
| 42 | Women want men who are kind , Emotionally available , considerate but they will throw away all of that for a guy thats just tall , funny and good in bedAnd of course paired with the Im not tall or modelesque and I struggle to connect with women therefore all men that have these features are being oppressed and discriminated against by women, and I’m not just an exceptional weirdo | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/25 07:42 AM |
| 13 | Women want men who are kind , Emotionally available , considerate but they will throw away all of that for a guy thats just tall , funny and good in bedJokes on you my man is all those things except tall and I’m extremely happy 🤷♀️. Also I find it hilarious when men on here complain about girls picking the “funny” guy like having a personality is an unreasonable expectation? I’m so sorry it’s so hard to learn a decent joke lol. All of my partners have been under 6 foot. Varying races, personalities, and yes quality in bed. This is the only partner I’ve had that consistently helps me finish during sex. I’d argue good sex may strengthen an other… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/25 07:39 AM |
| – | Question for the Women on this sub who regularly go out to bars and clubs.Absolutely OP! Good take away | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/04/25 02:04 PM |
| 1 | Hey PPD! What is an unpopular opinion that you are thoroughly convinced is true about modern dating after many years?The big one for me is that most people are harboring a secret longing for romantic connection but feel an enormous pressure to play it cool which results in a lot of casual shit just for show and doesn’t get them what they really want. Im sure people that genuinely prefer casual exist, but I think most people want love and aren’t being honest with themselves | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/04/25 01:31 PM |
| – | Question for the Women on this sub who regularly go out to bars and clubs.Honestly when I went out dancing most of the guys never complimented me or even said much, just danced with me and sometimes felt me up. If a guy tried to get to know me and offered to step out and chit chat in the out door patio for a bit and seemed interesting and nice enough, I’d want to see them again | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/04/25 01:27 PM |
| 12 | Women, would you find it inappropriate for a man to cold approach you at a nice restaurant?The issue isn’t how attractive the man is, it’s the very public situation in front of a parent. Restaurants also seat people at individual tables for a reason, you’re there usually to spend time with your own group or entourage and enjoy the food, not meet someone new | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/04/25 01:24 PM |
| 2 | How common are gangbangs actually?Never heard of anyone except for the super freaky fetish community to do it and even then it was a once in a life time type deal. So not common at all. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/04/25 01:46 AM |
| 1 | What’s the point of asking women for their opinions if you’re just going to dismiss them right away?I honestly have no idea if that is the answer for a lot of people but if two incels found love with each other I’d be happy for them | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/04/25 01:41 AM |
| 6 | What’s the point of asking women for their opinions if you’re just going to dismiss them right away?Just guessing here but probably just for validation. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/04/25 11:02 PM |
| 7 | No it’s not anti bisexual or anti gay or lesbian for a guy not to be into threesomes with another dudeeven if she isn't straight, she may find nonmonogamy wildly unnatractive by itself regardless of who gets involved | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/04/25 04:22 PM |
| – | What do you consider emotional cheating?So for every person it's different but I think there has to be genuine intent to have an emotional affair if not actions taken. Developing feelings can be somewhat out of our control but if you intentionally seek out the target of those feelings while being aware of them, and continually strengthen that bond to an inappropriate degree, that's definitely questionable to say the least. And if you verbalize or communicate your romantic feelings with the intent to manifest something between you and … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/25 06:28 PM |
| 1 | Why do you think some women settle for relationships with men who don’t share domestic responsibilities according to their preferences?I've said this before but it deserves reiterating: people who stay in toxic relationships do not genuinely want to be in them, they just lack the self worth to believe they deserve better. Typically they've been treated this way or similar since childhood and have formed the belief that this is what is normal for them. If as a young girl they did all the chores, or perhaps their mother did all the chores, this is just how believe they are supposed to be treated in a relationship. That is just an… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/25 06:12 PM |
| 1 | [Q4M] What do YOU consider reasonable expectations and standards for women to have for their male partner?If thats all you’d expect from a potential partner gender not withstanding I’d say there are definitely people searching. Just beware that they may not be a great match for you compatibility wise | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/04/25 05:14 AM |
| 7 | [Q4M] What do YOU consider reasonable expectations and standards for women to have for their male partner?Yeah, no that whole first paragraph is solid, I just meant like the tattoos or piercings or divorce thing, or even abnormally tall thing, I wouldn't make assumptions based on those. But observable characteristics that could make a person violent or dangerous as a direct result of their behavior, that's fair. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/04/25 11:18 PM |
| 2 | [Q4M] What do YOU consider reasonable expectations and standards for women to have for their male partner?The question was, if you WERE a WOMAN what standards would you EXPECT of a MAN | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/04/25 11:14 PM |
| 5 | [Q4M] What do YOU consider reasonable expectations and standards for women to have for their male partner?Can you provide sources that substantiate that partnership with a man with a gun is actually safer for a woman than not? Or that feminist fathers raise sons that face particular challenges? " In violent relationships where an abusive man has access to a firearm, there is a 400 percent increased risk of him killing his female intimate partner. " (Link) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/04/25 10:44 PM |
| 3 | [Q4M] What do YOU consider reasonable expectations and standards for women to have for their male partner?How do you think being a non feminist and gun owner would benefit you as a woman in this scenario? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/04/25 10:31 PM |
| 5 | [Q4M] What do YOU consider reasonable expectations and standards for women to have for their male partner?why should a man be in a relationship with a woman he's settling for? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/04/25 10:30 PM |
| 6 | [Q4M] What do YOU consider reasonable expectations and standards for women to have for their male partner?Honestly none of these would be immediately red flags for me other than the criminal record one. The others may be based on statistics but the criminal record one speaks to personal actions that are dangerous or problematic. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/04/25 10:30 PM |
| 1 | [Q4M] What do YOU consider reasonable expectations and standards for women to have for their male partner?So real. My partner is helping me recover from an eating disorder. He could not care less about my weight gain right now, he just wants me to thrive. Real love is definitely less fickle than people will have you believe | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/04/25 09:59 PM |
| 5 | [Q4M] What do YOU consider reasonable expectations and standards for women to have for their male partner?This is so valid, I feel this way about my partner. As long as we can survive this world as a team and they are compatible with me emotionally and mentally, none the rest of it matters to me. I'd pay the bills if I could afford to help us both. I'd teach him life skills if he didn't have them already. What matters the most is his ability to listen, to care, to connect. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/04/25 08:58 PM |
| 0 | [Q4M] What do YOU consider reasonable expectations and standards for women to have for their male partner?The question is what would be YOUR standards? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/04/25 08:55 PM |
| 0 | What is wrong with modern menIn my experience, it's extremely individual, but the biggest common thread I've noticed is a lack of effective communication and self-reflection. Many men don't know what they want or how to express what they're looking for clearly and earnestly. When I was single, I had a handful of short-term dating experiences while trying to find my person. and I find an interesting problem kept coming up over and over that made me cut things off and stop seeing them. They were terrified of their own wants r… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/04/25 03:27 PM |
| 2 | Women, how old are you and what is your preferred age range when dating?27 F and I’m in a long term relationship with 34 M | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/04/25 02:12 PM |
| 2 | Post-Scarcity should come to the Sexual Marketplace.I’m all for people who are either dissatisfied with real human relationships or unable to find, finding a safe and appropriate means to fulfill their sexual needs and loneliness that does no harm to others. I support AI partners, advancements in tech, the use of smut / romance novels, the enjoyment of tulpas / personal fictional romantic relationships and so forth. I will say I would choose my irl partner over a robot all day every day but there really is nothing wrong with this concept. It shou… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/04/25 04:57 AM |
| 5 | Arent women scared when they are in a traditional relationship?yes you can put in the extra work and gain some kind of education or degree ON TOP of raising kids and all the work that entails but that WON'T make up for a lack of experience and employment gaps in this economy | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/04/25 06:53 PM |
| 1 | Escorts are Men’s Best Option (Unless You Want Kids)“Sexual validation is not compatible with intimacy” it’s your first sentence dude. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/04/25 12:08 AM |
| 1 | Escorts are Men’s Best Option (Unless You Want Kids)You think a woman can’t deeply long for a lust for their intimate romantic partner? I feel sorry for you if that’s the case. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/04/25 11:58 PM |
| 3 | Women, why do you scream so much when something bad happens?Research supports that humans are social creatures and are meant to work together as pack to protect each other and survive. Animals of all kinds commonly exhibit the behavior of making noise when they are hurt or threatened to alert the other members of their pack of the danger so they can work as a team to protect one another. In solitary creatures, sure, communication and collaboration are completely meaningless. But humans are not meant to be solitary creatures. The fact that you’re writing … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/04/25 09:15 AM |
| 1 | Does it matter to you if you are a man's first choice?If by first choice you mean I don’t fully have his heart yeah I think it matters | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/25 09:30 AM |
| 24 | Women, why do you scream so much when something bad happens?I agree. We are just expressing our emotions more openly, expressing fear, sadness, grief or whatever. We’ve been conditioned even to feel it’s the fastest way to be protected. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/25 12:28 AM |
| – | CMV: Men who go to brothels shouldn't be stigmatized it's and prior the late 20th centure it used to be the normI suppose if it were legal and well-regulated, I would have fewer qualms about it. I personally don't feel comfortable with the idea of consent being bought and someone having to have sex to put food on their table and pay for their basic human needs. But perhaps if it was well regulated, I would have different feelings about the issue, but regardless, on a personal level I just don't want to be with someone who would pay for sex, there's an uncomfortable degree of objectification and detachment… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/04/25 10:59 PM |
| – | CMV: Men who go to brothels shouldn't be stigmatized it's and prior the late 20th centure it used to be the normWoman here and this guy has a really really good point. I can tell this person has a good grasp of the golden rule (Do unto others as you would like done unto you) Thank you! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/04/25 08:32 PM |
| – | CMV: Men who go to brothels shouldn't be stigmatized it's and prior the late 20th centure it used to be the normI really think this is a case-by-case personal philosophy as I have read of many women being fine with this. I am personally have my own beliefs about it but this seems to be generally a deeply individual opinion in the 21st century | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/04/25 08:31 PM |
| 2 | Is it true that the most beautiful women aren't on dating apps?idk I'm like a 'becky' and I definitely used the apps and most women I know did. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/25 04:59 PM |
| 1 | Women who claim that size doesn't matter, have you actually experienced a big penis before, or are you just assuming it won't make a difference?The vaginal canal has individual rings of muscle than can tighten and relax and when a person is sexually excited. Individual vaginas react to sexual excitement differently, but mine relaxes at first to allow penetration and then gradually squeezes tighter and tighter as near orgasm to increase the amount of friction and sensation I can feel from the penetration so that the glans can rub more against my G-spot and outer vulva. I'm not certain but I believe those are the kegal muscles people ofte… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/25 04:27 PM |
| 4 | Women who claim that size doesn't matter, have you actually experienced a big penis before, or are you just assuming it won't make a difference?Yes. I've experienced large ones, small ones, etc. The emotional connection and feelings of care and security were fundamental to my ability to relax and enjoy the experience and feel pleasure. The vaginal canal is a muscle that can relax and tighten in response to penetration. When I experience arousal it relaxes enough to allow for penetration but also can tighten / squeeze my sexual partner's penis for added stimulation during the act which not only makes him feel more pleasure but actually a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/25 04:12 PM |
| 1 | Q4M: Does "Whoever invites you out for the date should pay" make things equal?Nothing will ever be fair for them, they don't want fair, they wanna be treated like "kings" remember? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/04/25 04:27 PM |
| 0 | A lot of “icks” and turn-offs are just modern women reinforcing traditional gender roles while pretending to reject themThis is some tiktok brain shit- you realize no one in real life thinks like this right? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/04/25 03:23 PM |
| 3 | If you're 'lonely' purely due to a lack of sex, you're not 'lonely', you're just horny.My boyfriend is under 6’ lmao. Do you guys have a kink for confidently making assumptions about total strangers and getting mocked for it? Or are you a wannabe psychic? If so, you’ve got to work on your cold readings lol Also, it’s Red Pill 101 to objectify women and use them for sex. If you’ve been on this subreddit for years and have not seen a single post of a ‘Lonely’ man stating the answer is casual sex, I’m concerned with your ability to read. Did you make it out of elementary school? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/04/25 12:14 AM |
| -2 | If you're 'lonely' purely due to a lack of sex, you're not 'lonely', you're just horny.Glad you can recognize it. Not an excuse. It means that societal problem needs to change rather than have us cater to it. Tough shit. Learn to communicate or nothing changes | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/04/25 12:12 AM |
| 3 | If you're 'lonely' purely due to a lack of sex, you're not 'lonely', you're just horny.Lmao tell you’ve never spent any actual time on this subreddit without telling me | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/04/25 12:10 AM |
| 1 | If you're 'lonely' purely due to a lack of sex, you're not 'lonely', you're just horny."Ultimately the point you are getting across is that their "problem" is not really a problem (and further that they are pretending it is a problem to manipulate people). " No I'm arguing that they're being dishonest and intentionally emotionally unavailable to the same people they demand intimacy with. Not that their problem isn't real, that it's misplaced and weaponized in order to get their desired outcome which is sex even though emotionless one time sex alone has nothing to do with lonelines… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/04/25 12:01 AM |
| 2 | If you're 'lonely' purely due to a lack of sex, you're not 'lonely', you're just horny.*EERRRR* That is incorrect. That is not written anywhere in my post. Find me a direct quote or take a 3rd grade class on reading comprehension. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/25 11:40 PM |
| 7 | If you're 'lonely' purely due to a lack of sex, you're not 'lonely', you're just horny.re-read the post. Show me where I contradicted myself. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/25 11:27 PM |
| -6 | If you're 'lonely' purely due to a lack of sex, you're not 'lonely', you're just horny."If I wanted to get off, I'd go see escorts - which I already do." Well there you go. Most women avoid men that do that like the plague and for good reason. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/25 11:11 PM |
| -1 | If you're 'lonely' purely due to a lack of sex, you're not 'lonely', you're just horny.The entire point of this post is that most of these men don't want JUST SEX but are unwillingly to maturely acknowledge that. I wish I knew why | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/25 10:53 PM |
| 6 | If you're 'lonely' purely due to a lack of sex, you're not 'lonely', you're just horny.Yes it does. Especially when these same belligerently deny caring for or even willingly humanizing their female potential partners while trying to use emotional pleas of loneliness for sex. It absolutely does. If you cannot communicate your emotional needs effectively then of course no one will empathize. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/25 10:49 PM |
| 2 | What’s going on with the ‘older men mainly want younger women to manipulate them’ claim?I believe that you might find them physically attractive in a deeply shallow and kind of weird way I guess, but I don't believe they meet your degree of psychological development and wisdom unless you're deeply stupid and have learned nothing in the last decade | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/25 10:35 PM |
| 4 | If you're 'lonely' purely due to a lack of sex, you're not 'lonely', you're just horny.Completely valid. If one can articulate meaningful feelings they shouldn’t be misdirected. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/25 10:09 PM |
| 1 | If you're 'lonely' purely due to a lack of sex, you're not 'lonely', you're just horny.True. Communication and self reflection is the greater solution | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/25 10:09 PM |
| 1 | If you're 'lonely' purely due to a lack of sex, you're not 'lonely', you're just horny.Then you acknowledge it’s a relationship with oneself. Than no physical act can solve that. That’s internal. That’s a case of therapy and self healing. Someone else can’t fix that | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/25 10:07 PM |
| 1 | If you're 'lonely' purely due to a lack of sex, you're not 'lonely', you're just horny.This is specifically the issues of the same men saying they want no feelings casual sex. I’m not being pedantic. It’s intentional avoidance of their own feelings. These examples are not that. If you want your feelings acknowledged, the least you can do is acknowledge them yourself. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/25 10:06 PM |
| 6 | If you're 'lonely' purely due to a lack of sex, you're not 'lonely', you're just horny.This is not relevant to the post. These are emotional gestures not “sex with no feelings involved” reread the post if you must | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/25 10:02 PM |
| 3 | If you're 'lonely' purely due to a lack of sex, you're not 'lonely', you're just horny."Rubbish, plenty of people need the physical to not be lonely." Elaborate. Do you have feeling about taking poops or eating meals? Or are there certain sociological connections to those bodily functions that incur emotions? "How about the women I know who need the physical (sex) to not feel lonely?" From their partner or casually with strangers who couldn't care less if they lived or die? Be honest. "This part doesn't make sense" Sounds like you've learned about one of your individual challenges… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/25 09:54 PM |
| -2 | If you're 'lonely' purely due to a lack of sex, you're not 'lonely', you're just horny.The purpose of this post is to state that these are two separate things. Thanks for reading it. /S | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/25 09:37 PM |
| 7 | If you're 'lonely' purely due to a lack of sex, you're not 'lonely', you're just horny.I have seen some posts on there where men acknowledge their sadness and emotions more honestly, though I will say there is still a lot of victimhood and self-pitying and a lack of responsibility, but one step at a time. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/25 09:35 PM |
| 3 | If you're 'lonely' purely due to a lack of sex, you're not 'lonely', you're just horny."It's kissing, loving, holding each other, cuddling, and being close to someone else. It's about sharing something intimate and beautiful. It's about a connection." Those are feelings, that is the purpose of the post, that it's pointless and reductive to attempt to dehumanize women while admitting you want a woman to have feelings for you. You have to be willing to care for someone if you want someone to care about you. "Nobody cares about what men want or need, no point in communicating anythin… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/25 09:33 PM |
| -1 | If you're 'lonely' purely due to a lack of sex, you're not 'lonely', you're just horny.Absolutely, but one cannot claim to be lonely while insisting that their needs or desires contributing to it or purely physical. Again, your dick doesn't have emotional feelings. I'm not a mind reader but if you want us to care about genuine feelings you have, you should be communicating them. It is difficult empathize or care about purely physiological needs, and so they shouldn't be surprised by most women's complete lack of care at that point. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/25 09:15 PM |
| 2 | If you're 'lonely' purely due to a lack of sex, you're not 'lonely', you're just horny.So you acknowledge that most of these men have deeper emotional and romantic needs? That this is about feelings, maybe love? I appreciate that contribution thank you! That's the dialogue I intended to have, is an acknowledgment that a relationship with a woman might mean more to these men than they would want to express it does. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/25 09:11 PM |
| 1 | If you're 'lonely' purely due to a lack of sex, you're not 'lonely', you're just horny.I've definitely seen it, but I agree that it isn't honest. If there are feelings involved it's deeper than that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/25 09:09 PM |
| 8 | If you're 'lonely' purely due to a lack of sex, you're not 'lonely', you're just horny.this and also wanting others to buy into your "woe is me" "my life is so hard" and so forth rants and empathize with you because you can't get your dick wet and refusing to acknowledge any deeper feelings of wanting connection because it would mean dropping the facade that a woman might mean something to you other than an object to fuck. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/25 09:08 PM |
| 6 | If you're 'lonely' purely due to a lack of sex, you're not 'lonely', you're just horny.You'd think this is true, and yet many many many people will argue until the cows come home that sex is all they need and yet that's damaging to them on an emotional level to not receive it, firmly insisting it is casual sex with no feelings that is the answer to their 'loneliness' and depression. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/25 09:05 PM |
| 1 | If you're 'lonely' purely due to a lack of sex, you're not 'lonely', you're just horny.Because communication matters. Many of these individuals want empathy but are unwilling to express the feelings they want us to care for. The language used when discussing what you want from others hugely affects their response to you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/25 09:02 PM |
| 6 | If you're 'lonely' purely due to a lack of sex, you're not 'lonely', you're just horny.Sex is a natural human desire but it's deeply deeply personal and also a bodily function. Everyone has to poop for example but most of the time strangers don't want to know about what you did in the bathroom. Strangers aren't going to engage sympathetically with conversations about your dick, and feel for what you're going through, with zero emotional context. It's also not necessarily an emotional thing in and of itself. People can have emotions around sex but to claim one is 'lonely' solely du… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/25 08:59 PM |
| 8 | If you're 'lonely' purely due to a lack of sex, you're not 'lonely', you're just horny.Sex also =/= Romantic relationships. If you have genuine feelings of loneliness and desire, you should be talking about those. The point of the post is that if lonely men want us to care and emotionally connect with us, they need to fully honest about their feelings instead of insisting it's purely sexual. It come across as wanting emotional intimacy but refusing to give it, which just won't work no matter how rooted in masculinity they feel it is to deny their feelings. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/25 08:54 PM |
| 8 | If you're 'lonely' purely due to a lack of sex, you're not 'lonely', you're just horny.sure and when I read about genuine emotional loneliness regardless of gender, I care. But I cannot exaggerate it is the men writing this themselves, that insist that sex is the only solution and nothing more and that women aren't even human to them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/25 08:48 PM |
| 4 | If you're 'lonely' purely due to a lack of sex, you're not 'lonely', you're just horny.That's the thing, I can empathize with and feel for that kind of void. Wanting a life partner to laugh and cry with, to hold, to wake up next to. I care about those feelings, I know what it is. But so many of these individuals insist they only want sex. That I just don't care for and it's dishonest to call that lonely. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/25 08:45 PM |
| 4 | If you're 'lonely' purely due to a lack of sex, you're not 'lonely', you're just horny.I can't read people's minds but I don't think, if there are genuinely emotional needs associated with the sexual desires of these individuals, that stating they want no-feelings sex, is an effective way of communicating them. They may have those feelings, but we're not hearing them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/25 08:42 PM |
| 13 | If you're 'lonely' purely due to a lack of sex, you're not 'lonely', you're just horny.I have not seen a post about a woman saying she is lonely purely due to a lack of casual sex with no other feelings attached, but if you can find a post like that I'd happily read it. I will say again, your genitals don't have emotional feelings, so if you feel lonely, it'd be better to be honest about your deeper emotional needs, and if you just want sex and nothing else, you are not 'lonely'. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/25 08:37 PM |
| 17 | If you're 'lonely' purely due to a lack of sex, you're not 'lonely', you're just horny.I super appreciate your vulnerability for being honest about this. I fear this is the case for a lot of men but their unwillingness to be that open makes it difficult to care or empathize. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/25 08:34 PM |
| 2 | What part of a man's personality are women attracted to?Gentleness, compassion, a tender heart, an artsy sensibility (draws, paints, reads, writes, does something fun and creative), Silliness ( makes funny words for things, likes to dance around the living room to certain songs, a love for animated movies or "childish" things because they're fun), Quality conversational skills ( good at listening and engaging to what I have to say, and sharing meaningful thoughts with me that make for exciting and inspiring conversations with each other, wanting to t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/25 03:58 PM |
| 1 | Do women actually act cold towards men they have a crush on while acting flirty with men they have no interest in?I don’t know this to be a thing at all no unless she’s deeply afraid of him noticing her feelings and trying to downplay them a little | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/25 02:24 PM |
| 0 | Q4M: Would you date someone who fetishizes you? Why or why not?I think for it to be a fetish it has to be sexualized in a manner that is particularly objectifying to the individual or somewhat shameful to have. Like a person can find bigger women hot but if he's weird and secretive about that attraction and seeks out these individuals aggressively because of porn fantasies that he isn't telling her about, that's sort of fetishtic. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/04/25 11:59 PM |
| 3 | How often do you encounter a man you're attracted to?aesthetically I find most people to be beautiful, especially if they have charming mannerisms like a quirky smile or small fidgeting behavior etc. However I very rarely experience sexual attraction to the degree that a lot of people describe, like wanting to actually fuck a person just by looking at them. I do experience sexual desire and attraction to my partner but I think that's because we are so close and bonded with each other. Over the years I've just accepted the idea that this probably m… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/04/25 03:19 PM |
| 0 | Men who were clear and consistent about not wanting kids are no morally different than sperm donors to me.if he was *clear* and *consistent* about being childfree, and wasn't assaulted, coerced, or otherwise decided not to use any protection, then he wouldn't have a child, end of story. Accidents happen, but if at any point he went along with the plan to have kids with someone at the insistence of a partner he's just a spineless doormat and has only himself to blame. No one should be intentionally creating children they do not want, especially because they're simply too cowardly to stand by their ow… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/04/25 03:11 PM |
| 2 | Women gripe that "the bar is in hell" for men, but the situation is actually reversedThat's literally girth means lmao! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/04/25 09:24 PM |
| 3 | Women gripe that "the bar is in hell" for men, but the situation is actually reversedMinecraft Steve ahh shit | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/04/25 05:09 PM |
| 10 | Are all or most women attracted to women?No because if they were I'm pretty sure they'd be having sex or getting with other women then. I'm pretty sure women who WANT to be with other women sexually, typically act on those desires unless they've not had the opportunity to. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/04/25 04:14 PM |
| 0 | Women are only against age gap relationships when the man is much less attractive than the woman.It wasn't intended to be a direct comparison, but a similar example in the sense that financial control and total BDSM domination are common kinks in fantasy that are less often practiced irl in comparison. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/04/25 03:57 PM |
| 1 | If a guy wants NSA sex he has to go to where NSA sex isor accept that people don't want casual sex with you? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/04/25 03:53 PM |
| -1 | Men who have hook-ups, how often are you 100% upfront with the women?No, it's actually pretty common, I can back up u/OrganicAd5450 for many cis/het women the risks outweigh the benefits I'm not certain if it's the majority, it's still not that uncommon. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/04/25 03:46 PM |
| -1 | Men who have hook-ups, how often are you 100% upfront with the women?The only people that this sort of unstable addictive behavior works on, are unstable people who form addictions. If that's what you want this might be a fun ride for you, but if you want anyone you can count on and trust, this won't go well. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/04/25 03:45 PM |
| 2 | Men who have hook-ups, how often are you 100% upfront with the women?I am also a bit of a sap that doesn't care for hookups but yes, I agree that it can be super messy on both sides and never seems to lead anywhere good. It does seem to ensnare people with addictive personalities and penchant for taking risks who get hooked up on the ups and downs, the highs and lows, the will they won't they of it all. I think ultimately it is just better to not engage with people who play these types of games. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/04/25 03:43 PM |
| 12 | Are all or most women attracted to women?Straight women definitely exist believe me, any girl who has dated or been intimate with other women will tell you they've possibly formed a crush on a straight girl who genuinely just didn't see them that way! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/04/25 03:32 PM |
| 4 | Women are only against age gap relationships when the man is much less attractive than the woman.Congrats for failing comprehend the entire point of my comment. It’s fantasy. It isn’t real. Just like you probably think Spider-Man is awesome but probably don’t want to fight the vulture | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/04/25 03:03 PM |
| 1 | Men who have hook-ups, how often are you 100% upfront with the women?Yes because you’re making a claim without any evidence. You’re not a woman, you don’t have any research on women’s social attitudes or philosophies and yet you’re arguing with a woman on how women think. Think that through for a second, see if your brain can formulate what’s wrong with this picture? “I’m not quoting a statistic” … “99% of women…” so do all men have this poor of grasp on terminology and debate, or are you… you know, just exceptionally bad at? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/04/25 01:32 PM |
| 0 | Women are only against age gap relationships when the man is much less attractive than the woman.Correction: women are only interested in age gap relationships in FANTASY. Ala 50 shades of grey sold like crazy but very few real women have pursued these types of relationships because reality isn’t the same. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/04/25 01:30 PM |
| 1 | Men who have hook-ups, how often are you 100% upfront with the women?Again source? Cute fan fiction btw, but I’m more interested in stories that at least engage my intelligence even if they’re entirely mythological. Maybe try a class in creative writing since you seem really into making shit up. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/04/25 01:28 PM |
| 1 | In the long run, there's nothing that fulfills most women better than having kidsThis is the funniest crock of shit I’ve read in a while. My mother was sold this nonsense when she was young and she hated being a mother, always screamed and complained about the realities of parenthood like her messy home, her endless list of duties to support her 6 children she insisted on having, the absurd cost of feeding, clothing, and educating us all like any of us asked to grow up with 5 siblings and a miserable woman who hated being a mom for a parent. Several of her children including… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/04/25 01:25 PM |
| 2 | Men who have hook-ups, how often are you 100% upfront with the women?Lmao. Actually I don’t know a single woman who doesn’t want that information upfront. You didn’t explain it. You made it the fuck up. Source? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/04/25 01:20 PM |
| 1 | Men who have hook-ups, how often are you 100% upfront with the women?I mean I’m not autistic I just have severe ADHD but if it scored me a strong relationship with a good partner, I don’t see why that shouldn’t be the norm? Any therapist will tell you relationships are built on communication. Starting a connection out this way is fundamentally terrible for that key proponent. This is all weird mind games and social scripting. Just because honesty is more my language doesn’t mean it’s a flaw. It’s different in a great way. Where’s the relationship that this strate… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/04/25 01:09 PM |
| 2 | The break up didnt come out of nowhere. There are guys who ignore signs their relationship is in trouble.Just here to share my contribution to this experience. Had an ex neg and demean me in little way that he swore he was “just kidding” about for years. If I confronted his insults he’d start crying until I felt sorry for him and gave up arguing. I told him we didn’t have to fight like this if he could be more supportive and respectful towards me and that mocking has to end but he would say these comments would just “slip out”. The bullying gradually made pull away from him until I was totally with… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/04/25 01:03 PM |
| 4 | Men who have hook-ups, how often are you 100% upfront with the women?Yeah as a neurodivergent woman all these unspoken assumptions about everything are just too much for me. I like security, honesty, direct and open communication. Not guessing what I mean to someone purely based on vibes. Entrusting someone with my body is already a big step, I would never do it if I couldn’t know their intentions at that point. My bf and I waited about a month or so before we got physical with each other and we had both agreed we wanted to know what we meant to each other first … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/04/25 12:44 PM |
| 12 | Women gripe that "the bar is in hell" for men, but the situation is actually reversed“ 6”+ NBP, 5”+ girth” is the funniest shit I’ve read in a while. Just picture it. A dick as wide as it is long like one of those “chubby” soda cans. Fucking ridiculous. I’ve never even seen a dick shaped like that. What are you on? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/04/25 12:30 PM |
| 0 | In your opinion, how would you like men to introduce sex into the relationship?In my experience the sex conversation shouldn’t be initiated with one long weird ass pick up line. It should be done with sensitivity and maturity. “I’d like to take things a step further with you and have sex together. Do you think we’re ready for that?” | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/03/25 01:34 PM |
| 1 | Most dating advice given to men tries to turn them into something they're not.Conformity is ultimately nonesense in my opinion and the best path is to be the best version of you, change the things that hurt you and don’t make your life good, accept the things that can’t be changed or are difficult to change, forget aesthetics and prioritize well being, and not let go of what makes you you whether it be Table Top Games or Hiking adventures in the mountains, or Scrap metal sculptures or whatever makes you feel a little more complete. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/03/25 12:25 PM |
| 3 | Lowering women's self-esteem won't make them choose better, but the inverseHave to agree that the environment your raised in hugely affects the way you understand future relationships, and that children need to be raised to know their worth. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/25 03:24 PM |
| – | How could men push back against their expected pursuer role in dating?Honestly I think it’s just a case of effectively communicating that’s what you desire. If I was friends with a guy and the vibes were good (chemistry, attraction in the friend stage etc) and he said something like “I really want to meet someone special but I wish they come to me, I want to feel wanted that way” I’d probably go for it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/25 02:15 PM |
| 1 | Do dating apps work for womenIt worked for me but I had to learn to vet and protect myself and express firmly what I want and many young women may be vulnerable to low self esteem and put up with a lot of bullshit. It's why so many "sitatuationships" are a common issue. There's a lot of noncommittal and predatory behavior on there, so you have to be guarded and very careful and be ready to say "no, that's not what I'm looking for" a lot. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/25 11:49 PM |
| 2 | Lowering women's self-esteem won't make them choose better, but the inverseThanks! I infer using common sense and attention to detail. Bummer, I know I'm not stupid, must be tough. Want explain where I'm wrong and why... or just... you know, whine? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/25 11:43 PM |
| 2 | Would you date a trans man that passes well?Yes absolutely. I don't have difficulty separating a person's genitals to their identity and I'm attracted to both "parts" so to speak, so for me personally, it isn't complicated, especially if emotionally we connected in a really wonderful way it was the only hang up. ( I have a cis partner but obviously this is a hypothetical where I were single so I'm answering in that head space ) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/25 11:36 PM |
| 1 | Lowering women's self-esteem won't make them choose better, but the inverseAlso if anyone needs context, here. This is the foundation of this made up story about having "Narcissistic personality disorder". Because I love my boyfriend and refer to him as my "darling". Because anyone that thinks their boyfriend of two years is a "darling" has "narcissistic personality disorder" apparently. <image> | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/25 11:06 PM |
| 2 | Lowering women's self-esteem won't make them choose better, but the inverseIdk it's your made up story about my life. You decide. I'm not writing your fanfiction for you man. Pick your own motive. Btw my boyfriend is literally reading this post with me and laughing about how fucking stupid you are over messenger. I also love how you just abandoned another comment thread with me because you couldn't think of a response. :) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/25 10:59 PM |
| 2 | Lowering women's self-esteem won't make them choose better, but the inverseKeep going man, that book isn't gunna write itself. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/25 10:59 PM |
| 2 | Lowering women's self-esteem won't make them choose better, but the inverseOkay valid. I definitely approve of the mentality that for many people it's in their best interest to protect themselves first and to be cautious of who they let in their life. And yeah I concede when it comes to certain situations it can be a bit cringe to watch it go down, I still just feel this negativity is misplaced. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/25 10:57 PM |
| 3 | Lowering women's self-esteem won't make them choose better, but the inverseHow much you wanna bet and where would you like to send my winnings? This is like your fifth comment thread with me and you gave up on all the other ones and ran away scared so like, how much more public embarrassment do you need to fulfill this kink or whatever? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/25 10:47 PM |
| 3 | Lowering women's self-esteem won't make them choose better, but the inverseIt's not embarrassing it's tragic. Maybe instead of asking why women tolerate abuse, we should be asking why abusers abuse? Hope this helps. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/25 10:47 PM |
| 2 | Lowering women's self-esteem won't make them choose better, but the inverseAbused who? When? How? If you're going to make shit up then elaborate lmao. Go on. If you're going to continue writing fan fiction about my life, keep going. Tell me what you supposedly know about me, stranger on the internet. Which narcissistic traits? Where? When? Show me a screen shot of where that happened? Sources? Go on. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/25 10:41 PM |
| 5 | Lowering women's self-esteem won't make them choose better, but the inverseget a hobby? maybe that's why you're on here lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/25 10:22 PM |
| 3 | Lowering women's self-esteem won't make them choose better, but the inverseyeah probably because, like in the original post, they have no self-worth. I was abused all through my childhood so by adulthood, it just felt normal and like how I deserved to be treated. I think this is probably a common through line, they haven't been taught that they are worth something, that they deserve better. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/25 10:21 PM |
| 1 | Lowering women's self-esteem won't make them choose better, but the inverseHave you ever noticed how basic cheaters' alibies are? "Work trip" "just a friend", deleting their PMs with women are their phone? Their methods are often super common and unoriginal, nothing brilliant, just basic lying. So yeah, it's super easy to trick and lie and manipulate a person who you've been nice to and established a sense of trust with. Come on I'm sure you've got a working brain and you know you've put on an act to make someone like you before, for example a job interview. You've got… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/25 10:06 PM |
| 8 | Lowering women's self-esteem won't make them choose better, but the inverseNo one said masterminds. You don't have to be clever to manipulate others. Research suggests even animals know how to trick their owners into getting what they want. You can be quite stupid and still manipulate someone, and sometimes you have to be dense, to be so lacking in shame and self reflection. Intelligence isn't really the necessary ingrediant that makes someone a liar or not, it's a lack of moral qualms, really. And btw how would you know? have you ever dated an abusive man? Do you know… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/25 09:55 PM |
| 5 | I believe sexual energy is far more important than general 'looks'I think it's just personal chemistry tbh. Like yeah charisma and charm in general exist but I think the vibe that attracts one person doesn't always work with another, so it just depends on how two people connect. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/25 09:35 PM |
| 1 | "just be confident" is a shallow advice for menI hugely agree with this one actually, as a neurodivergent woman who has struggled massively with anxiety and self-esteem, I think the better advice is to make peace with the fact that not everyone is going to like you that if you're being your best self and people don't like you, that's okay and there isn't necessarily something wrong with you, they just aren't meant for you, and to not give up when someone doesn't get you, because somebody will. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/25 09:32 PM |
| 3 | Stop saying "just be yourself" to menI mean sure, in an individual conversation if someone asked me what I meant I would say, be the best you but never let go of the good things in you that genuinely make you happy! I do say those kinds of things? Generally just be yourself is given by people that don't know you so they can't give more individual advice really, but it's just common sense that we should all be the best version of ourselves. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/25 09:23 PM |
| 1 | Are you okay being the man she settled for? Does is matter if you disgust her?Absolutely as you should feel, no one should be made to feel like a second choice, at that point why put all the effort into a relationship, better to put yourself first | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/25 09:21 PM |
| 1 | Are you okay being the man she settled for? Does is matter if you disgust her?I never settled for him. He is my everything. I'm in love, more than I ever have been. If they don't feel that way about you, you don't have to stay with them. That love is out there. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/25 09:18 PM |
| 6 | Stop saying "just be yourself" to menWhen we say that we mean the best version of you while not denying your fundamental personality qualities. For example I've had to mature a lot over the last few years, develop more adult skills like driving myself around, cleaning up and organizing my space more frequently, processing and handling criticism better, and so forth, but I've never let go of my best qualities, I've only refined and improved them! I'm still an artist, and a gamer, and a nerd! I still love fantasy and scifi stories, a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/25 09:14 PM |
| 1 | Lowering women's self-esteem won't make them choose better, but the inverseI have a professional therapist thank you. You should get one too. Also I don't need to explain my abusive exes so you can verify if they're abusive. It happened, I lived through it and I know for a fact that those were abusive dynamics with inequal power and control. I don't care if you can't comprehend the reality that all abuse is not mutual. That's a failing on your part to wrap your head around the very basics of relationship dynamics, open a book. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/25 09:01 PM |
| 2 | Lowering women's self-esteem won't make them choose better, but the inverseI'm not blocking free speech I just don't care for your opinions, if I were blocking free speech I would be trying to get all of your awful takes taken down by the mods but at this point, you're really entertaining lmao. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/25 09:00 PM |
| 2 | Lowering women's self-esteem won't make them choose better, but the inverseIt's... embarrassing.... to be able to understand and use sarcasm...? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/25 08:59 PM |
| 2 | Lowering women's self-esteem won't make them choose better, but the inverseYou weren't being real specific, and we both know Britney was made extremely famous for her Lolita high schooler aesthetic in one of her first music videos, you cannot blame me for using common sense. Regardless, calling her a "goddess" and stating their ex "ruined her" is bizarre and gooner behavior. Regardless, abuse can ruin anyone of any gender, so it's a pointless argument to make and reaks of bitterness | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/25 08:58 PM |
| 2 | Lowering women's self-esteem won't make them choose better, but the inverseNo. I don't think I will. Grammar does not invalidate my points. Refusing to substantiate yours does. I'll wait. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/25 08:54 PM |
| 2 | Lowering women's self-esteem won't make them choose better, but the inverseYeah so you're either like 12 years old, or should probably talk to a professional about getting diagnosed with a condition I'm sorry. It's gotta be seriously difficult to live in a world where sarcasm is this challenging for you to process | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/25 08:47 PM |
| 2 | Lowering women's self-esteem won't make them choose better, but the inverseWhere was the help? Where was the insult? Where did I get offended? where was the feminism? I'm gonna need receipts that any of this fanfiction you're writing happened. "You step all over feminism like the way a cat steps on things.....slowly...one paw at a time." Even your similes are tragic, ever seen cat get the zoomies? "At least the young chicks can have a simple convo without going ape like you." How simple do you need it? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/25 08:43 PM |
| 2 | Lowering women's self-esteem won't make them choose better, but the inverseTHE LAST SENTENCE in that entire paragraph was commentary on your gross descriptions of teenager lol. It is not my fault you didn't read the rest. And if I didn't understand that go back, use your eyes and your brain the entire comment and explain where I misunderstood, I'll wait. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/25 08:40 PM |
| 1 | Lowering women's self-esteem won't make them choose better, but the inverseSo like, have you been diagnosed with anything yet cause.... that wasn't a lie, it was sarcasm.... clearly. Are you by any chance on the spectrum orrr....? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/25 08:39 PM |
| 3 | Lowering women's self-esteem won't make them choose better, but the inverseIs the "advocating" in the room with us? What do you advocate for women? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/25 08:35 PM |
| 0 | Lowering women's self-esteem won't make them choose better, but the inverseI don't agree with the idea that ALL MEN prefer young naive women and want that superficial type of relationship but I do agree with the logic that tone cannot say all men do something and then call it a red flag | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/25 08:34 PM |
| 2 | Lowering women's self-esteem won't make them choose better, but the inverseif you have zero interest in a person who can intellectually match you sure. But if men really enjoyed the company of younger people, they would have friends the same age as their partner. You ever see a 40 year old with 20 year old friends? If you want a partner that has any amount of equal life experience and can give you a mentally stimulating and deep connection, you're probably gunna choose someone closer to your own age. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/25 08:32 PM |
| 2 | Lowering women's self-esteem won't make them choose better, but the inverseyes, please illuminate us | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/25 08:31 PM |
| 10 | Lowering women's self-esteem won't make them choose better, but the inverse"the way you portray men is as if they can only see a problem if they are effected by it." - Because saying "choose better" is a fundamental misunderstanding how abusers manipulate and mask their worse qualities to lure in vulnerable people and then turn on them, which heavily suggests you truly don't know anything about the problem. It's not an issue of who they initially choose to spend time with, it's an issue of who they stay with because they haven't evaluated their worth. That's why most w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/25 08:29 PM |
| 2 | Lowering women's self-esteem won't make them choose better, but the inverseI like how you addressed zero of my arguments and went straight to comparing me to some woman I've never heard of and criticizing my personality as a stranger on the internet. It's a debate, not a Miss Congeniality contest, if you want me to play stupid and pretend to be nice to you, walk the Vegas strip, you'll find someone who will settle for the pennies in your pocket. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/25 08:26 PM |
| 3 | Lowering women's self-esteem won't make them choose better, but the inverseseriously, like this is silly, I hate when these mouth-breathers ask an obvious question we all know they know the answer to just so they can act pedantic about the definitions and avoid the actual morality and ethics of the post itself. It's childish and they really think they're doing something clever. Like we all know wtf abuse means! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/25 08:23 PM |
| 6 | Lowering women's self-esteem won't make them choose better, but the inverse" Why do women date and marry men to ruin their lives? " - Have you ever been lied to before? Tricked? Thought you knew someone and then you didn't? Think on that and come back to me when your neurons make a connection. "This could have been avoided if they didn't date or marry." - Because they still want love and have sexual and romantic desires.... you know like most allosexual / alloromantic humans?? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/25 08:16 PM |
| 1 | Lowering women's self-esteem won't make them choose better, but the inverse" Britney spears is a perfect example of no matter how high a woman goes, one bad man will bring her to rock bottom. " - The abuse that was done to her was tragic. The way abuse hurts people is deeply sad. Be grateful you've been lucky enough not to endure it, as this is not an issue that only impacts women, and I also want to point out that Britney wasn't just abused, she was under an immense amount of social pressure and control that affected every element of her life and well being. "no matte… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/25 08:14 PM |
| 1 | Lowering women's self-esteem won't make them choose better, but the inversein a mututally toxic dynamic I'm sure that's true. But there are definitely situations in which one person is a placater/ peace-keeper and the other is emotionally dysregulated and the aggressor. Even therapists and psychiatrists will tell you that there is typically one person who does more harm and has more malicious intent than the other. Not all abusive dynamics are mutually cruel. "she is home with a child will instigate but if he has money stress and she buys a purse he's the one instigati… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/25 08:06 PM |
| 10 | Lowering women's self-esteem won't make them choose better, but the inverseit can vary hugely, but anything from being controlling (you have to text me every hour or I'm going to call you and argue with you about it!) to chronic belittling (mean-spirited and negging comments all the time, just always judging and complaining with little empathy) to physical violence. Abuse is often reciprocal, true, where it goes back and forth, but there is often an instigator that keeps the cycle going and benefits more and another who feels they deserve to be treated this way or even… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/25 04:06 PM |
| 14 | Lowering women's self-esteem won't make them choose better, but the inverseFair point, it's very possible many people who argue this are at least somewhat aware of how unfair this is to suggest, but I still feel it's worth pointing out | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/25 04:01 PM |
| 20 | Lowering women's self-esteem won't make them choose better, but the inverse" They don't settle for abuse, they just don't date. " There are plenty of people of all genders who still date with extremely low self esteem and self worth. ask half the people on this sub of either gender. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/25 03:52 PM |
| -1 | Would you date a trans woman that passes well?I’m a lady but it’s a hard yes. I empathize with gender disphoria and would be happy for them. But I respect every persons right to choose who they want to be with, as long as they’re not trans phobic and hateful about it. The way these guys talk about trans woman is just so out of line and really shows that women get just much vitriol for not suiting their standards | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/25 02:14 PM |
| 1 | Dont say “Choose Better” and then get mad at picky women with high standards.Valid in some ways but men direct their anger towards women’s standards that specifically more based on financial power or status and shallow stuff. I will say not nearly as many women want those types of things as they think, but when they complain about high standards, that’s what they’re talking about. I do think choose better is shitty victim blaming nonetheless and an abusive POS can hide all their worst qualities for years just to entrap you but in some ways vetting can help reduce the odd… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/25 01:49 PM |
| 1 | Has anyone else found that Right Wing Man/Left Wing Woman pairings seem more common than the reverse?LMAO. and this connects to the discussion how? These are economic and governing styles, they have nothing to do with the overarching issues of how these different political movements treat human rights. And that's all ignoring the fact that a group can be indoctrinated into blindly supporting their own oppression without even knowing it. Christianity famously brainwashing individuals from infancy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/03/25 04:05 PM |
| 4 | Has anyone else found that Right Wing Man/Left Wing Woman pairings seem more common than the reverse?show me which part of my statement is historically wrong with evidence lmao. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/03/25 03:49 PM |
| -1 | Has anyone else found that Right Wing Man/Left Wing Woman pairings seem more common than the reverse?It isn't surprising at all to me that women more commonly lean liberal, and men more commonly conservative. It's common sense really, the only people who benefit from right wing bullshit are men so of course they're more likely to be the ones to support it, and left leaning politics are more likely to focus on protecting women's rights, shocker I know. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/03/25 03:46 PM |
| – | Toxic masculinity keeps getting reproduced via women's dating patternsI mean yeah. You should try it, having a life outside of rubbing your dingus I mean lmao | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/03/25 06:50 AM |
| – | Toxic masculinity keeps getting reproduced via women's dating patternsYou clearly haven't met my man :) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/03/25 05:25 AM |
| -1 | Toxic masculinity keeps getting reproduced via women's dating patternsHave you ever considered the idea that normal humans don't form their entire personalities around what gets them laid or not? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/03/25 05:58 PM |
| 6 | If being subservient and obedient is a woman’s nature, why do so many old myths, religious texts and historic allegories actively portray women as disobedient and mischievous?Couldn't have said it better myself. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/03/25 05:58 PM |
| -2 | Women truly do not care if you’re unattractive like you think we do. It’s truly about confidence and charm….Confidence or charm isn't it for me either. Warmth, Gentleness, compassion, creativity, a good sense of humor, and compatibility are what matters to me. He can be shy and awkward as fuck but if our interactions leave me admiring him as a funny, safe, comforting person with a great quality of character and morals after getting to know him, I'ma fall in love. I'm not attracted to a guy who's charismatic but has zero substance or compatibility with me. It's about how our thoughts and personalities … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/03/25 05:06 PM |
| 6 | Why are there never forums of people trying to decode men in the same way people try and decode womenAs others have pointed out, that’s actually super normal and common lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/03/25 03:36 AM |
| 2 | CMV: If done correctly, there's nothing wrong with cold approaching.well yeah but you have to pay attention to how they respond. If they're interested they'll tell you about their outfit or that movie they saw recently etc, you're just starting off the conversation. Then if you get good responses you can just ask if they want to hang out some time, catch a movie, play a card game, whatever and see where it goes. Women don't want to give their phone number out to a total stranger, they want to feel safe and like you're a normal human being that they can hang out … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/03/25 03:32 PM |
| 1 | CMV: If done correctly, there's nothing wrong with cold approaching.How about how are you? This place is pretty alright, is this your first time here? I like your outfit, it’s really cool! I like your sense of style! Have you seen this movie that just came out? Etc. it’s not that hard dude | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/03/25 02:16 PM |
| 3 | Women live life on easy mode.It’s not an exception. I was also abused for most of my life with domestic violence, sexual coercion and psychological abuse. I have severe mental health issues because of it. And while I’ve heard negative things about my appearances, I’ve also had men on this subreddit outright confirm I’m an attractive woman. I’ve never felt the so called privilege that men on here think we have. I’ve sought help after sexual coercion and been told I’m lying or there’s nothing that can be done. I’ve certainly … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/03/25 01:37 PM |
| 1 | Q4W: Would you hate a man if he divorced you for quitting your job?yes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/03/25 08:42 PM |
| 4 | Q4W&BP: If You Don’t Like The Manosphere, Can You Come Up With A Better Solution For Men?"offer an alternative that doesn’t start with “men need to…” " Is OP dense enough to think that others need to solve his problems for him or....? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/03/25 08:42 PM |
| 0 | Q4W&BP: If You Don’t Like The Manosphere, Can You Come Up With A Better Solution For Men?how is therapy a non answer? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/03/25 08:40 PM |
| – | Why do women adamantly refuse to admit that the way they talk about penis size affects how men view themselves?I really don't care bruh. Most of us truly do not care and it's not that deep | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/03/25 09:17 PM |
| 8 | If you’re going to hookup with a guy, or you get into a relationship, and you find out he’s got a larger dick, is this generally seen as a “plus”?Not really a plus or a minus, it all depends on how the sex feels to me. My partner is honestly the perfect size for me and he knows how to use it. I don’t make any assumptions as far as size, I just pay attention to how it feels. That being said my partner is about average for his body size but he’s the only man who’s ever had good technique and he really takes his time with foreplay which helps a lot especially if you have any sort of sexual traumas or anxieties, feeling safe and relaxed and h… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/03/25 05:42 AM |
| 1 | Women , are you ok being cold approached in public at all?but like others are saying it's important not to be sexually aggressive or too intense when asking someone out on a date. Pick a public space like an arcade or movie theatre when suggesting the date and don't use weird pick-up lines or sexual innuendos. For most men the only real question if they want to date someone is if they like them, but for women it's about liking them and feeling safe around them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/03/25 05:42 PM |
| 1 | Women , are you ok being cold approached in public at all?when I was single absolutely. if we were otherwise getting along well I'd say what the heck, might as well give it a shot | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/03/25 05:20 PM |
| 2 | Women , are you ok being cold approached in public at all?If they take no for an answer, absolutely. I'd actually prefer a guy just straight forward express interest and respectfully accept a no, than do what a lot of dudes now which is orbit or harbor a weird crush on their female "friends" keeping us guessing as to whether they see us as genuine friends or just potential sexual opportunities. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/03/25 04:13 PM |
| 1 | If feminism is targeted at true equality between men and women, why aren’t more western women targeting regressive societies?There's something called intersectional feminism and it is all about the idea that different people are impacted disproportionately by sexism depending on their other factors, such as the culture they've grown up in, the color of their skin, or having a disability or other stigmatized condition or identity. It's frequently talked about in online spaces dedicated to feminism and women's rights / history. Aside from that, many of us don't want to involve ourselves in something we may not fully kno… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/03/25 04:11 PM |
| 3 | Women on this sub, would you date someone who had a perineal urethrostomy?I don't think it's that big of a deal if I'm being honest, especially if we are otherwise a great match. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/03/25 05:17 PM |
| 4 | What should men who don't want to change do?" Well what should men that don't want to change do,what if they are content with being single not getting married nor dating not having kids. " Stay that way?? like what is even the question here?? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/03/25 03:30 PM |
| 1 | Most of someone's"personality" can't be changed.I'm of the mindset that personality is made up of a person's hobbies and interests and their personal values and beliefs. So when a person picks up more interesting hobbies and interests, and more likable values and beliefs, they as a person become more likable. A person has to be willing to change those fundamental things though, and most people aren't. They can be expanded upon with open mindedness and education though. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/03/25 03:56 PM |
| 2 | Majority of "misandrists" are men.Realest thing I’ve ever read on here. It’s worth mentioning that for pretty much all of history society has built unequal power structures to ensure men stay in power above women, stripping of them of the right to vote, removing their ability to own anything or hold a bank account, essentially reducing women to property- which ultimately means historically the society created today that hurts men in so many ways, can be solidly proven with anthropology to be enacted and built by men before women… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/03/25 03:23 AM |
| 1 | What do you think of actual bad boys?Why do you ask like having any self preservation or morals makes a person gay? Have some common sense | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/03/25 02:16 AM |
| 3 | Why do you view male sexuality as inherently objectifying and degrading?Exactly. Pickmes have been known to attempt to normalize everything from domestic violence, cheating, economically disparate divorce, blatant discrimination, the revocation of women's suffrage, and access to all kinds of birth control. You'd have to have your head in the sand to ignore the fact that that is extreme. I think OP doesn't know what a pickme is tbh lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/25 07:15 PM |
| 6 | Why do you view male sexuality as inherently objectifying and degrading?Because culturally for many men that is unfortunately the truth and we're afraid of being exposed to that and used that way. Side note I don't agree with slut shaming or calling people degenerate whores or whatever but pick-mes aren't just comfortable with men wanting them, they typically express views that are harmful to other women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/25 04:31 PM |
| 4 | What do you think of actual bad boys?Absolutely not, I wouldn’t want anything to do with an actual mobster, I value my life | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/25 01:22 PM |
| 2 | Q4W: Would it be a red flag for a man to remain single because he couldn’t find any woman who met his standards?I would have to know what those standards were to really judge but if it were specifically about looks… yeah | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/25 01:17 PM |
| 4 | Why do girls invest so much into their looks, but hate to be complimented about it?Have you ever tried it? Lmao they do not react well and some don’t take no for an answer | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/25 01:56 AM |
| 20 | Why do girls invest so much into their looks, but hate to be complimented about it?I like compliments, I just get anxious when certain compliments come of aggressive or threatening and like there are bad intentions behind them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/25 09:32 PM |
| 2 | What do women here think of the female dating strategy advice ?some of their guidelines just aren't realistic, so I don't fully support it. I think the idea of vetting way more is solid advice but I don't know that their tips on what to vet are all that smart | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/25 05:01 PM |
| 4 | FwB is a way better litmus test than Hookups for men to determine whether they are her true physical & sexual type or just seen as beta buxx / husband materialLmao no | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/25 01:06 AM |
| 2 | FwB is a way better litmus test than Hookups for men to determine whether they are her true physical & sexual type or just seen as beta buxx / husband materialThe moment someone wants to use me like a piece of meat I just lose interest tbh so if I found out a guy was trying to FWB with me in hopes of a future I'd just ghost. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/25 10:28 PM |
| 5 | What you date a man who has seen an escort under these circumstances?It's financial coercion where a person's need to afford basic life necessities like their home, their medical care, and enough food to eat, hang in the balance and the customer knows that and abuses it. If it weren't coercive and was in fact consensual, money would not be needed. I have never needed money as a motivator to have sex with someone I already wanted and consented to having sex. Plain and simple really. I find it hysterical that redditors are so quick to call the working class wage sl… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/25 04:26 PM |
| – | If a girl has a celebrity crush in a relationship would she leave her partner for them ?Probably not. I have character crushes, not celebrity crushes. But I’d hardly call them crushes tbh, it’s all in good fun. Honestly it’s not that serious. I would not be bothered if my boyfriend also thought a character was attractive or adored their best qualities etc. I don’t think it’s that deep. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/25 01:24 AM |
| – | How would you feel if your partner put himself in danger to defend another woman?I’d tell him he is a hero and dote on him while he recovers | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/25 01:22 AM |
| – | How do you feel about women who validate and justify the red pill mindset and behavior?That they are deeply sad lonely desperate people whose mom probably hates them and rather than unpack that in therapy they take it out on other women | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/25 01:21 AM |
| 9 | What you date a man who has seen an escort under these circumstances?No. I personally just don’t get involved with men who use escorts in general. I don’t think consent is a product that money can buy and I don’t want to be with someone who does think that way, regardless of what motivates it. It’s a hard no. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/25 01:20 AM |
| 1 | If Women Truly Want Good Men, Why Aren’t They Their First Choice?For me I never intended to choose the wrong guys but it had more to do with the way I raised and naïveté. I came from an abusive household with a single parent that loathed me and is deeply misogynistic and instilled in me the idea that I was a worthless burden, all guys are the same anyway, so I should essentially be grateful of any man that wants me or can put up with me. So the guys I dated early on just were the first guys to make me feel wanted, and I assumed I would never get chances like … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/25 01:11 AM |
| 0 | What issues that men experience should we focus on?Definitely could use some self reflection based on this paragraph alone. Hope you get help soon. Sorry you're lonely and blaming people's rights on that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/02/25 09:50 PM |
| 2 | The disconnect between the genders when women lament how common it is for men to be critical of themI honestly have not witnessed that so I wouldn’t know if it’s true or not but I can verifiably say I’ve been torn to shred for my appearance and struggle with it constantly. Like it is absolutely all consuming I probably think about what other people think of my face and body like 5 times a day and every time it crushes my soul tbh. Literally the degree of bullying strangers will do to you for not fitting their preferences is ruthless. I don’t know a single man who can say other men’s reaction t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/02/25 01:35 AM |
| 1 | What issues that men experience should we focus on?Self reflection and communication: knowing what you truly want and expressing it effectively. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/02/25 01:26 AM |
| – | Women have the option to not think about men. Men don’t have the option to not think about women.Ah yes the classic: I have the IQ of a potato so ALL MEN must be just as dense, I couldn't possibly just suck ass as a human being and individual. Get a hobby | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/02/25 10:18 PM |
| 1 | Why do women feel single childless men are obligated to date single-moms???I think a small vocal minority of immature women may be negative towards this but it is hardly proportional to the stigmatization of single mothers. I'm a childfree woman myself and I can assure you I took no offense in finding a childfree man. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/02/25 07:36 PM |
| 2 | Rarely have women meet men that are truly unlucky with women. Its usually something he’s doing wrong.I've met plenty of men that were the problem but I just want to point out as a woman how weird some of these gripes are: "Not Social" - oh so introverts are what? Undatable to you? I mean if he's a rude asshole or just hard to get to know on purpose than yeah that's a problem but like... not social? "20 Minutes late" - I can spend 20 minutes chilling on my phone! Shit happens! "Fast Food Dates" - Shit! In this economy? Sure it's not romantic but if this is our first time meeting, I just want to … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/02/25 07:34 PM |
| 1 | Do you oppose or support men being able to legally cut ties with children not biologically their’s in the case of late stage paternity misattribution?Okay, this is a good point, if it can be proven that no contact was made during the pregnancy and the pregnant person has access to abortion and the time and health factors allow for them to abort and they choose not to, I would also think that that could support the idea that the decision had been taken away from the other person and they can forfeit parental rights in that scenario as well. But it is crucial that evidence can be provided for these situations so that we are certain that this is… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/02/25 07:15 PM |
| 2 | Why do women feel single childless men are obligated to date single-moms???I personally do not feel this way tbh... I think it's crucial that everyone have the freedom of choice to only choose the relationship they want as long both parties consent and agree to the terms without any coercion or manipulation. I just think no one should go around throwing fits about how others don't suit their wants or standards. If he is chiildfree and does not want to date a single mother that's completely fine. I just don't care for the chronc vitreole and seething hatred some people … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/02/25 06:34 PM |
| 6 | Do you oppose or support men being able to legally cut ties with children not biologically their’s in the case of late stage paternity misattribution?I would not be bothered if a legal process was created so as to recognize specific cases in which a parent did not want to proceed with having a child with someone, and the person who carried the pregnancy to term went against their wishes and denied an opportunity to abort. Factors would need to be considered to verify that such a thing occurred entirely by choice. The person would need to prove they attempted to inform the pregnant party of their dissent to have a child with them in no uncerta… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/02/25 09:25 PM |
| 5 | What are some genuine physical requirements do you think women care about when it comes to het dating ?hell yeah! Are you kidding me? I love me a man with some chest hair and goofy ahh sense of humor. Also big fan of the "dad bod" and I love spooning a short king | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/02/25 05:39 PM |
| 7 | What are some genuine physical requirements do you think women care about when it comes to het dating ?Not sure if this question is for me but: Has most if not all of their teeth clean, hygenic / skin isn't unwashed and greasy / nails aren't full of dirt and untrimmed etc Hair is brushed / washed & well cared for / No matted hair ( Bald is also totally fine just take care of your hair if you have it ) and the same for facial hair, groomed and cared for if he has any and not a super long dirty amish-style neck beard. Clothes and shoes are not torn up, smelly and full of holes or heavily stained, a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/02/25 05:33 PM |
| 1 | Why do you all seem to take people’s word at face value instead of accepting that our subconscious wants to protect our self-image as good person, and therefore people tend to say what makes them seem like good people?at this point you're just agreeing with me and being pedantic about what constitutes the words believe and trust lol. I'm done I don't care anymore go off lol. Believe, don't believe, it sounds like you're mad and accusing woman of all being the same but secretly want someone to want you so you can see if their actions match, but no one will let you find out because you're annoying af. Have fun with that | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/02/25 09:19 PM |
| 1 | Why do you all seem to take people’s word at face value instead of accepting that our subconscious wants to protect our self-image as good person, and therefore people tend to say what makes them seem like good people?" To just believe them, instead of proving why I should believe them by actions. " - If you read literally any of what I've wrote you'd know that I strongly support looking at a person's actions to reaffirm that they are being truthful. But you're arguing that you don't want to look at their actions, you want to operate on bias before you even get to know them as an individual. How is them existing as a woman an action? If you simply assume the worst in others, you don't give them the chance to … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/02/25 09:04 PM |
| 1 | Why do you all seem to take people’s word at face value instead of accepting that our subconscious wants to protect our self-image as good person, and therefore people tend to say what makes them seem like good people?" It’s a discussion of what we’ve seen and experienced them as a group consistently lie or be deceptive about. " - that is called a gendered bias. I am not a "group" I'm an individual and I'm telling someone what I genuinely feel and think while they are choosing to operate with bias. That is genuinely terrible communication to believe a gendered bias over what someone is telling you to your face and it's a recipe for disaster and failed relationships for the rest of your days. If you assume eve… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/02/25 07:31 PM |
| 1 | Why do you all seem to take people’s word at face value instead of accepting that our subconscious wants to protect our self-image as good person, and therefore people tend to say what makes them seem like good people?There is a difference between refusing to read between the lines and being a doormat. I do initially believe others and accept what they say at face value to the best of my ability and refuse to read the lines as much as I can and when they do things that do not reflect what they say, I recognize that they're being dishonest and I simply acknowledge the lie and discontinue contact. You do not have to blindly act on your choice to believe what they say ("I'd never abandon you if you were pregnant… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/02/25 07:03 PM |
| 1 | Why do you all seem to take people’s word at face value instead of accepting that our subconscious wants to protect our self-image as good person, and therefore people tend to say what makes them seem like good people?Even neurodivergent people have a tendency to avoid certain difficult topics but yes, neurotypical people can be extremely passive aggressive because they're afraid of confrontation and rely on others to read between the lines. However even between other Neurotypical folks, a lot of what they're saying is misconstrued because whether people admit it or not, there is no universal passive aggressive language that humans speak. r/relationships and r/AITAH are clear cut examples of how people misrea… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/02/25 06:54 PM |
| 0 | Why do you all seem to take people’s word at face value instead of accepting that our subconscious wants to protect our self-image as good person, and therefore people tend to say what makes them seem like good people?believing them and assuming is the only version of events where good and open honest communication can actually be fostered. Assuming everyone is lying and engaging in mind games means that you cannot have good communication because you're both choosing to forgo it and be honest. If they lie it's on them and you can cut them out for lying. If you play along, you waste valuable time not knowing what each other really want. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/02/25 06:31 PM |
| 0 | Why do you all seem to take people’s word at face value instead of accepting that our subconscious wants to protect our self-image as good person, and therefore people tend to say what makes them seem like good people?No what I mean to say is that an important element of good communication IS the part of believing others and taking what they say at face value rather than playing any sort of mind games to encouragement passive aggressivism and bad communication. Good Communication is: 1. being openly and fully honest and expressing what your feelings, boundaries, and desires as appropriately as possible so that the people you love can genuinely understand what you need to be happy with them AND 2. fully listen… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/02/25 06:29 PM |
| 1 | Why do you all seem to take people’s word at face value instead of accepting that our subconscious wants to protect our self-image as good person, and therefore people tend to say what makes them seem like good people?Because it's how good communication works. Any healthy functioning relationship is built on honestly and open communication. Everyone knows that humans have a tendency to lie or at least sugar coat the truth. People pleasing and keeping the peace, or dishonesty for the sake of self image, are ingrained social behaviors to ensure that we function together as tribe, but learning how to adjust these somewhat manipulative or self-sacrificing behaviors to be more honest and effective so that we can b… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/02/25 05:47 PM |
| 2 | Introvert neurodivergent girls date introvert neurodivergent guys. There is a difference between introvert, neurodivergent, anti-social, and creepy.I'm a woman with pretty severe ADHD and it has definitely impacted my life and dating experiences. Neurodivergencies can mean not understanding so much of the subtext of social expectations, and it's turned me into a rather paranoid and untrusting person who really cannot pick up on if people sincerely like me with a lot of insecurities. From my experience it is not as simple as like attracts like, as when two neurodivergent people date they don't cancel each other's problems out, instead they b… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/02/25 06:49 PM |
| – | If TRP wasn’t accurate, blue pillers would not be trying to censor it so aggressivelygive me one recent study that supports this ridiculous claim | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/02/25 05:32 PM |
| – | If TRP wasn’t accurate, blue pillers would not be trying to censor it so aggressivelyHilarious. I met my partner long after college. Our relationship is anything but shallow | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/02/25 05:46 AM |
| 2 | Do women have a kind of "Madonna/whore" complex but toward men? A "bad boy/doting husband" complex?Okay this is a super interesting question. I suppose to a smaller degree yes, many women have more extreme concepts of romance in theory than they would enjoy in reality. A great example being the extreme power dynamics and stalking behavior of men in romance / smut novels. Thankfully we are quite self aware of this but I think you’re onto something | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/02/25 07:56 AM |
| 2 | Sexual fidelity to your partner and sexual satisfaction from your partner should be considered a zero sum system.Not every monogamous relationship ends up in a dead bedroom is the thing. It’s pretty normal for the sex to decrease a little after some time but not all couples just lose the spark forever and can only solve it by sleeping with others. I personally find it worth the time and energy to work on a relationship if that spark starts to dwindle. A lot of assumptions are being made in this post. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/02/25 07:47 AM |
| 1 | Are these flirting or “approaching” or just being nice?Thankfully I’ve actually gained weight from my lowest at 103 pounds! Though many say their ideal weight for a woman is 110 and under. So at 113 I still worry I could be thinner | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/02/25 12:28 AM |
| 1 | Are these flirting or “approaching” or just being nice?I never told guys not to approach me 🤷♀️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/02/25 11:32 PM |
| 2 | Are these flirting or “approaching” or just being nice?I’m flattered but I honestly think most people are fairly attractive and don’t believe in leagues anyhow. But I grew up the ugly kid in school and I’m also a bit dense and neurodivergent so I can never tell why people are acting the way they do and if it’s all in my head | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/02/25 04:23 PM |
| 2 | Are these flirting or “approaching” or just being nice?<image> Not trying to be vain just giving my best description for context of the fact that I’m aware I have some good features but I’m also “strange” and potentially ugly to a lot of people | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/02/25 04:18 PM |
| 2 | Are these flirting or “approaching” or just being nice?<image> As I explained to others I’m alternative looking so not everyone’s cup of tea. So I totally understand if you don’t think I’m pretty in the least as I honestly cannot tell what is the truth | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/02/25 04:13 PM |
| 1 | Are these flirting or “approaching” or just being nice?No like any of these things 3 times a week not all of them 3 times a week. Like one honk, one weird nod, and one random introduction a week lol. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/02/25 06:23 AM |
| 1 | Are these flirting or “approaching” or just being nice?See that worries me because if I’m unattractive and just being hit up because they’re shy or lonely then I fear I couldn’t keep them and make them want to be with me long term | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/02/25 01:13 AM |
| 1 | Are these flirting or “approaching” or just being nice?when I was single, yes I did ask people and I'd say it was like 75% yes's but I often found that they'd be really awkward and shy, sometimes we'd end up dating and actually almost all of my relationships have been from me asking someone out first, but sometimes I didn't like feeling like I was carrying the entire social connection on my back. I think its gotten to me that most of if not all romantic / sexual relationships have been initiated by me and I've done most of the communicating in them,… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/02/25 11:18 PM |
| 1 | Are these flirting or “approaching” or just being nice?IT IS yeah. It's pretty often. But I'm also not everyone's cup of tea. I was sharing with another commenter that I'm alternative looking and nerdy and considering how often this happens, you'd think it was odd no one ever just asks me out right? So it gets me thinking, maybe I'm ugly and people are just being nice to me? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/02/25 10:44 PM |
| 2 | Are these flirting or “approaching” or just being nice?Okay thanks for the clarification! I'm not everyone's cup of tea. I'm nerdy and alternative with pink hair and lip ring so it makes sense that I'd probably attract "quirky" people, I just worry that I'm unattractive in general. I am 5' 6", 113 lbs, with shoulder-length fluffy pastel pink hair, medium-sized almond shaped brown eyes, pale skin with freckles, medium sized lips that are naturally fairly reddish-pink, small eyebrows, and a small nose. I'm no 10/10 but I'm sometimes considered a "Beck… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/02/25 10:38 PM |
| 2 | Are these flirting or “approaching” or just being nice?Honestly, that's nice too. I'd like to think I'm a fun person to be around with a somewhat magnetic vibe. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/02/25 10:30 PM |
| 2 | Are these flirting or “approaching” or just being nice?I get some more "normal" interactions from men too but I just chalk them up to being nice. Men will just randomly say hello to me in social setting when I haven't interacted with them first, etc. I also wanna say in total this happens maybe 3 or 4 times a week, os like yeah, fairly often but not every day. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/02/25 10:14 PM |
| 1 | Are these flirting or “approaching” or just being nice?Okay so you would assume most women get this type of attention and it doesn't necessarily mean you're attractive or not? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/02/25 10:13 PM |
| 0 | Are these flirting or “approaching” or just being nice?all different men. sometimes on the street, sometimes in my office, just fairly regularly with various strangers. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/02/25 09:53 PM |
| 1 | Are these flirting or “approaching” or just being nice?I genuinely adore nerds, geeks, etc tbh. I'm in a relationship and don't respond to obvious come ons but am nice to people as much as I can be, so even though I get these things a lot I just assume they're being friendly. My boyfriend is an IT nerd, DnD playing, WoW enjoyed, ADHD diagnosed as well so like... yeah I probably do just attract that type of person. I suppose the question is if I'm attracting friends or interested people. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/02/25 09:45 PM |
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